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i have the black chocolate.. the new one. and it's being really weird lately. like usually when you close it, the screen automatically locks. doens't do that anymore. in fact, the lock button doesn't even work now! it's like a little switch thingey, and yeah it just stopped working yesterday. also, it's like it doesn't care if it's open or closed.. usually if i'm on the phone like talking and i close it, it will hang up.. now i have to actually push the end button. and when i want to answer a call, i have to click answer instead of just sliding it open. and a few other things that have to do with the phone not noticing if it's open or closed. any suggestions? what should i do? thanks in advance :)

well i have a sliding phone too, if you recently reset it or something, or maybe it got reset on accident, thats why its doing that.

Becuase on my phone it gives you the option of having it locked, and having it if you want to end it by closing it, or hitting a button. Try looking under tools, or something to find how to change it!

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HELP ME!
currently am in Honduras(central America) but sice i have a green card, am obligated to live there at leats 5 YEARS!! okay so the thing is how do i handle not being bullied(not that ive been bullied before)? , or just give me all the tips you can give me!! plaese.. becouse when i lived there 1 year for 6TH grade, it whent pretty BAD! PLEASE, and THANKS! :P by the way am going to 9th grade.

Be nice, be polite, be kind, treat the other kids they way YOU would want to be treated. Don't give into their low hits if they are bullying you, be the bigger person. And if needed TELL an adult, because bullying is not tolerable.

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13/f

I'm imature. Let's say that first. Second, I laugh whenever I hear the words, balls or get in there and stuff liek that. I mean I kinda know what sex is, but not exactly. I'm NOT asking for you to tell me. I don't want to know its gross. The problem, my friends know what it means and they think it's cool. It's gross. My friend writes poems about sex. i want to know what to do! I hate it when they talk seriously about this stuff. What can I do?! HELP ASAP!!!!!!!

Well you're thirteen. YOU should/can be freaked out by it if you wan't to. You don't have to have it, not until you are good and ready, and obviously you are not ready. Just tell your friends, that it makes you uncomfortable when they write 'poems' about it, also, you could warn them that if a parent found it, they could be in big trouble. It may be inapropriate, since they are .. what 12-14 years old? Just explain to them, and if they continue to really bug you, tell someone, an adult maybe? a teacher?
Good luck!

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i just need a vote. which do you think is more popular, or do you like more?


straight or curly


thankss :D

I think it depends on the type of person.
I like both, I think straight is 'going out' though, and curly is coming in.

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During the course of my college dwelling, I took a few courses in psychology, there are two subjects that intrest me psychology and english.
Personally I can see my self fitting the same portrait of a schizoid, just by the characteristics and appearance they put down.
"A person with schizoid personality disorder:
Does not desire nor enjoy close relationships, even with family members
Avoids social activities that involve significant interpersonal contact
Appears aloof and detached People with schizoid personality disorder are loners and show little interest in developing close relationships.
"
I'm serious though its a hell of a thought go look at this site and read a little you will feel like one of this disorders describes you.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/mentalhealthandbehavior.html

My biology teacher told me, that when Doctors were learning about genetic diseases, that a lot of the doctors thought/convinced themselves, that they had it. He said it was because its easy for anyone to just say,,, "well I'm like that too.." but not as the extreme as what the real symptoms of problems. I dont know if that helped at all, but maybe thats what its like with personality disorders too?

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SO. My boyfriend's name is Doug. When we started dating his ex girlfriend was SO rude to me. She called me fatass, she started rumors, and she was just all around rude. They broke up two months ago, and now she wants back in his life. She added him on myspace & her message read; "I just want to try and get along."

Is it wrong for me to not want them to associate at all? I don't want her to be back in his life, I don't want them to be friends. Am I just being selfish?

I keep trying to put myself in Doug's shoes, but it's impossible.

In my opinion I woudlnt want them to associate at all either, because of the way she treated you. And if she wants him back in 'her life', what exactly does she mean by that? She wants him back huh? Tell your boyfriend everything you wrote on here, and that you are TRYING to see what its like in his shoes, except its really difficult, because you care for him, and dont want to lose him to her.

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ok so last night was the first time i drank w/ my friends and we did a few shots. But nothing happen and we didnt get drunk or n e thing but then my other friend found out and got really mad...what should i do?

... Well first think, why is your friend mad? If he/she doesn't have a good reason, tell he/she to get over it. Because you are your own person, you can do what you wan't to. As long as you didn't get drunk and do stupid things, its okay I think. Explain to your friend, that it was innocent. Enough said.

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me 15/f
him 16/m

i have to go to summer school for an hour for math. through one of my friends i met this kid who we'll call joe. joe goes to another school but in my area all the schools come to my school for summer school. ok so everyday when i come into school joe comes up to me and gives me a hug and says hello. we've only known each other for maybe 2 weeks and we've only really talked over myspace. when i leave school he gives me a hug too. normally he just says "hey (my name here) how ya doin?" and then i say good an go to class. today when i walked in i gave him a hug as usual and then he said "you look really nice today" and i said thanks and walked to class. normally i would flirt back or something but here's the catch...he has a girlfriend. his girlfriend goes to my school, i think she's 14. she's my best friend's neighbor. she's not a friend of mine but i have nothing against her. on "joe's" myspace is says "i love(girlfriend's name here)" and its all over his myspace. so what is this kid doing? he seems like a nice kid. i can't tell if this is his way of talking to girls normally or if he's flirting. im so confused what's going on?!

It sounds like he does like you.
Or maybe just being flirty,
honestly you can never really tell with guys.
But if you know he has a girlfriend, don't flirt with him. Innocent friendship is all right, but if he 'loves' his girlfriend, he shouldn't be trying to make anything else on you besides just friendly hugging. As for the compliment, that was an attempt at flirting, so let your best friend know maybe what he's doing. See what she has to say about it?

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Im fucking tired of this. Everythime I try and ask her why she wants to come over she doesnt say and ask if jasons gunn abe home and if i say no shes like oh my mom wont let me or something dumbb like that. And when he is home thats all she doesnt is hangg out with him.
WTF

Just ask her right out,
if she likes your brother.
Obviously it sounds like it,
so tell her off. Tell her it makes you really angry that you call 'pretending' to want to hang out with you, when she's only interested in your brother. Tell her you dont like being used, and if she wants to hang out with your brother, tell her to call him and make plans, because you arent going to help her with him. And also let her know.. when you want to be friends again, you knwo my number.

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So I've used G2P and torrenting after Ares and Limewire fail to work for me. Limewire's searches are invisible and all the ads are in place of the good stuff. Ares takes eons to connect.

http://g2p.org

G2P isn't good for specific songs. Torrenting is harder and instead of being able to pick a handful of artists you have to pick through entire albums.

So does anyone know a good P2P program I can use that they haven't had virus/spyware trouble with? I'm at my wit's end not being able to download music. Thanks!

http://www.projectplaylist.com/musicsearch?

just search whatever,
and it will usually find lots of songs specificly/

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i'm 15/female

i'm scared incase my friends think i'm a lesbian,..i'm not u am straight,..but i just have a funny feeling they all think i am and because of this when i talk to them i always make sure i look at their eyes incase like i look them up and down,...but i can't remember why i started thinking this cos before i never bothered at all but now its like when ever i'm near them i'm scared to look at anywhere other than their eyes incase they think i'm a lesbian

why am i like this
i no i'm not a lesbian i love boys wayy to much

i'm just confused

Well you said yourself that you like boys right? So you're straight. Or you could be bi. But I dont think thats what you are trying to get at.
If your friends think that, confront them about it, tell them exactly what you said on here. Its good to look them in the eyes, I look my friends in the eyes too, and I'm not lesbian either, its just good conversation when you do that, and it means they have your full attention. Don't worry about it, its very good conversation skills!

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okay i only have a week and a half left to get this guy to admit that he likes me and ask me on a date or something. he is in my class and i really like him and he may like e...idk though. how can i get him to notice me or something!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Just do it yourself.

The worst thing he could say is no.

So ask him if he wants to hang out,
don't make it more difficult than it is.

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does anyone know what bumps growing on skull and cause headaches might be? They grow slowly and are becoming more painful. they are round pea and dime size. When I press on them they hurt and put pressure on my head, sometimes on other side of head. Hair is thining too.

Possibly a tumor?
Something serious.
And NOT normal,
go see a doctor asap.

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My old friends are so incredibly lame. I used to go to a private school, but then my mom switched me to public school, to get ready for highschool, [since i'm going to a public highschool this year.] anyways, i guess i was considered popular, even though i never really noticed. but then like the last day i was there, they were all like.. "now whos going to be the leader and the most popular in our group?" and so ya anyways, then when i switched my one old friend, who i guess got that stupid little lame title, these girls who were just followers who I THOUGHT were actually my friends, but they were really just using me, now were all sucking up to my old best friend. well, shes been hanging out with them alot, so all these other girls are like sucking up to them too, because yeah you get why. so, this one girl, who was like average in school, thinks shes soo popular now, and how shes soo great. and like in highschool next year, if she even comes near me im going to explode. i hate her like so much, shes so fake. what should i do?

Why waste your energy on that. Life is TOO short to be fiddling around with dumb meaningless stuff like this. I'll have you know, when you start highschool you will be puney little FRESHMAN, the scum. Let her have confidence and think shes 'popular' because it doesnt matter how she thinks of herself. YOU cant change her. If you hate her 'like so much' don't talk to her, dont be friends with her, whatever. Its so imature, are you sure she's the fake one? If you are so obsessed with popularity, are you sure you arent the one being fake. Because they say, what people hate in others, they hate in theirself as well. But really,
get OVER IT, you cannot change other people, they can act how they want to, its their life, focus on yours.

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13/f and my friend is 13/f

My friend, alex, lost her virginity last week. I got really mad at her. I don't know what to do. She moved to Indiana too. I don't feel like being her friend anymore because she lost her virigity at 13. First, she started smoking, then she gave bjs, now she's lost her virginity. I feel so weird. All my other friends are virgins. I really don't like my friend anymore. She used to be nice, happy, and cool, but now shes... gross, rude and... Virginityless... Not a word, but ok. I wish my friend could've been smarter. What do I do?! Plz help!

Okay first of all.
I do think its wrong that she had sex so young, and did the things she did.
But thats life, there are WORSE things she could have done, or that could have happened. Believe me. Just because she did that, doenst mean you shouldnt be friends with her. I hate to break it to you sweetheart but as you get older more and more of your friends are going to do that, they are going to try drugs, have sex, do slutty sleezy things and someday they might regret it. But its their life, not yours, and you have to realize what your friend did was her choice, definitly NOT the best judgement but its what she did. And she may not feel bad about it now, but I know since shes this young and she did that, in time she will regret it.

You need to just get over it.
Dont be imature and get mad at me for saying this, a true friend is there through thick and thin, and maybe if you were there for her when she was considering doing this stuff you could have stopped her. And peer pressure, maybe she was peer pressured into this stuff. Who knows, but its happened, and you need to be a good friend. Because you not liking her just because she did that, is just as bad as her doing what she did. You both are equally imature.

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help! im m/13 and ive only ever made out with a girl who wasnt my girlfriend and wasnt hot! whenever girls meet me they seem to be interested and curious and first then just get bored of me easily and dont really talk to me..... i have a little bit of difficulty talking to them but i get on well enough when there is a good topic.

Wow, you're really young to even be making out. Well maybe not, but thirteen sounds just so young. Don't worry about girls right now, you are only 13!! And its not that they get bored with you, its that they are probably not looking for a 'serious' relationship, I cant say I've seem a 'serious' relationship for 13 year olds though in my life. You both are too young to know what your looking for, and it seems what you want is only 'kissing', but there is so much more to a relationship than that, and in time you will learn. And as for the problem with talking to them, just talk about the things you know, or hobbies, it gets easier with time.

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My parents will not let me go one day without them getting on my case about anything. When I've done my chores, they're getting me on my case about my driving. When thats done, they resort to just saying I need to shape up.

I've got a busy schedule, and I just want one day to relax when I dont have anything planned. I tell them I want a day off to myself, but they get angry.

How can I get them to just give me some space when I need it?

Well it would have helped if you put an age on here. But I'm guessing you're not eighteen yet, because wouldnt you move out? be at college?
I don't know. Anyways if you were old enough, you would stand up for yourself and just tell your parents thats it.

Tell them how busy you are,
give them a list of everything you've done, tell them you really NEED a break, and tell them you are going ot take one, because you are exhausted, and that you hope they understand.

Be mature about what you do, and how you do it.
Make good choices.
There really isnt a whole lot anyone can say to you on here about it, because we cant change how your parents will respond, and who they are.

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Hey, can you guys listen to my song and tell me what you think.. And some adive also, if you have any

I'm kinda shy, so i'm not ready to share this with people I already know.

http://www.purevolume.com/songsfortheweek

thanks

Hey, the lyrics are nice,
and the guitar or whatever, the 'music' is good. But honestly, the vocals aren't that great. Its not like your singing, it kinda sounds like you're just talking.
But its really a great start :)

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I am startign to Jog a mile each day, i can do it, but i have had some lower back provleams and my back tends to get sore well doing it and i just have a hard time unless i can get my mind off it. so any tips to make it go by quicker or stretches to make it easier.

Take an ipod with you, and listen to music. Or jog with someone else, its a lot safer actually, than jogging with just music, because you never know these days. Try using one of those heating pads on your lower back, the ones that stick to it you know, while you run, it should help a lot.
Make sure you stretch your legs (obviously) before you run, and drink a lot of water. If the back pain continues, see a doctor.

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You know how people say "if you want to know who your real friends are, when something bad happens, see who's there to comfort you"? Well I kind of want to see who my real friends are. The thing is, nothing really bad ever happens to me. Haha, I'm lucky. But what should I do? I kinda want something bad to happen to me, just something that makes me a little upset, just to see who will be there for me. Any suggestions or advice would be great. Thanks.

15/f by the way.

Don't say that, I just had a friend die. Never wish for things that are bad to happen, even just a 'little' bad thing. Because you'll regret it. Time will tell, and it shouldnt be that hard to tell who your real friends are. If you have to have something traumatic at all to tell, they arent your real friends. Real friends are the ones that listen to you, not the ones that just come when something bad happens, they are there when something good happens too.

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