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This Is Disgusting!!!!!!!!
13/f
I'm imature. Let's say that first. Second, I laugh whenever I hear the words, balls or get in there and stuff liek that. I mean I kinda know what sex is, but not exactly. I'm NOT asking for you to tell me. I don't want to know its gross. The problem, my friends know what it means and they think it's cool. It's gross. My friend writes poems about sex. i want to know what to do! I hate it when they talk seriously about this stuff. What can I do?! HELP ASAP!!!!!!!
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1) Expect it. If there's one thing that kids love doing, its imitating adult behavior without any consideration of the consequences or intelligence in general. It will only get worse as you get older and idiots think theyre are ready for things.
2) You are right to think that sex isnt something you should really be worried about at this point in your life. Though, that doesnt mean that knowing about it isnt somewhat important.
If nothing else, purely for the sake of protecting yourself it would be a good idea to learn more.
www.coolnurse.com is an excellent resource website with a wealth of medical sex related facts. STDs, birth control, common slang, general advice, its all there and presented with a much more mature outlook than any of your friends will have.
3) You are not immature in the least. You are normal.
Immaturity, would be more like getting involved with something like sex way before you're ready and know everything you should know about it. Which, if im not mistaken, is what your friends do.
When you hit a point where you want to learn more about sex, do so. Realize that your friends arent going to know a whole lot more than you do. They take the knowledge they have, and pretend like its some awesome cool club to have that information, when in fact you could probably learn more than the sum total of everything they know in about half an hour of reading a decent medical website, and could probably tell them a number of things they are wrong about.
They are going to talk about it. They think that its "cool". They want to try to be grown up by talking about and possibly by doing things that they have no idea what theyre doing. Thats not maturity.
You have the exact right idea in not following them and imitating them.
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first of all the person below me gave HORRIBLE advice and i hate it when people do that, its like if they're going to say that and not give you NICE advice then like don't bother answering the question at all, jeesh. Anyway, I totally know what you mean, im good with knowing how people feel about different things, hard to explain but, since your really grossed out (and i totally dont blame you because thats really common trust me) then yeah, dont chill with them much anymore, get to know different people who aren't at the "writing poems about sex" stage. But if they are your good friends and looking past what they talk about you love them, then tell them like "hey guys, um, can we talk about something else?" then if they defend themselves you could say "well, theres more to life then talking about sex is all im saying.." and when they grow up they'll feel really dumb and wish they could go back in time & agree with youu. But either way im sure they won't get mad or defend themselves but even if they do, your totally right either way.
hope something helped! good luck :]
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Ummmm grow up
in a few years thats all kids are going to be thinking about. serisously are you that immature? Yeah its a boy and a girl humping eachother, its normal. It's not gross, not at all.
you serisously need to grow up, your 13...your acting like a friggen 9 year old, as if boys have cooties.
get used to it
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let them know that you don't want to hear that kind of talk around you because your not ready for that yet
but only say it when they come to you and want to talk about it
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Just ask your friends to not talk about sex around you. It's very simple, actually.. They should be able to respect your space and they can just talk about it when they're alone. I'm surprised there's still a 13 year old who finds sex gross. :) It's kind of relieving actually, there are tons of middle school sluts now. And you should chill out too.. No one's telling you that you should have sex yet, no one should unless they're good and ready. You won't always think sex is disgusting though. Tis just all a part of "growing up" Bahaha =]
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okay you could do what the person before me said(in my oinion people who have said this just get made fun of.) wild by your use of 'get in there im guessing yure brirish(well i havnt heard any americans use it like that) well to the point,i had a friend like u the simple anwser is, give it a little time and you wont think sex is gross at all trust me:) seriosus hang tight.
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ok. first of all you are 13. you and your friends shouldnt even be talking seriously about sex. especially having it. your too young. i think your friends are at the stage when "sex is cool" maybe you could just say next time they bring it up that you shouldnt be having sex yet and not be so serious about it. they might not take that seriously but later on will come to realize your right. also, if u think sex is gross, that is a little immature for your age. but thats how some people are. sex is a wonderfull thing when its read and not just some 13 year old joke. take it seriously, but not too seriously yet. and if NONE of that works, you could always try and change the way the convo is going or the subject descretely.
also, i think you think sex is gross because you dont know much about it, if you need to know anything, inbox me xxx
rly hope i helped xxx
good luck
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Well you're thirteen. YOU should/can be freaked out by it if you wan't to. You don't have to have it, not until you are good and ready, and obviously you are not ready. Just tell your friends, that it makes you uncomfortable when they write 'poems' about it, also, you could warn them that if a parent found it, they could be in big trouble. It may be inapropriate, since they are .. what 12-14 years old? Just explain to them, and if they continue to really bug you, tell someone, an adult maybe? a teacher?
Good luck!
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Sex freaks you out? Then don't have sex. If it bothers you that much, don't hang out with people that make it a big deal. Either that, or tell your friends that you don't dig what they're saying.
They'll relax.
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