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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
chat it up yo.
ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)
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(16/m)
I know it may be too early to worry about my future, but I figure why not start worrying now? ;]
Anyway- here's my "dilemma". I'm planning on pursuing a career in the medical field, most likely something cardiac related. I'm worried about being able to pay off the cost of college and medical school. Is it true that you start making money during residency? If not, when do you start making money, and usually how much do you make starting off?
If you are a doctor or you know someone in your family who is a doctor, how long did it take them to start working in their specialized job, as in, how long was it before they became a brain surgeon, podiatrist, cardiologist, or any other profession? How does that work?
Is going into the medical field really rewarding or is it extremely stressful?
Thank you for any responses =].
First off, it's never to early to worry about your future. I think it's much better to be prepared than get to the end of high school and freak out, ya know?
Anywho, my mom is a nurse, so I'll tell you a bit about her and her journey, I guess:
My mom went back to school after taking a few years of or whatever to raise my brothers and I. School itself took a long time, but after that, it really didn't take her long to settle into the job she has now as an emergency room nurse. She worked first on a different floor; then switched to where she is now.
As for how stressful/rewarding it is, for my mom it seems like she finds it a lot more rewarding than stressful. She is always telling me stories or people she's helped and how much she enjoys her job. She's even got me planning on going into the medical field in a few years!
I hope this helps, and good luck! =]
-Laura (16-f)
i love the series called "summer boys" by hailey abbott along with her books that shes done.I was wondering if anyone could recommend books that are like or same style of writing as hailey abbott.
thanks!
I've never personally read the books, but I have an idea and a few suggestions.
If you go on Amazon.com and type in the author in the Search bar, her books will come up.
Click one of the books and then scroll down to where it says "buyers also bought" and it will have suggestions of what people bought after reading the Summer Boys series.
Some other suggestions I have:
- Gossip Girl series.
- The A List series.
- The IT Girl series.
- That Summer by Sarah Dessen.
- This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen. [this book is THE best book I've ever read and highly recommend it!]
-Laura (16-f)
I am a 14 year old male. I just started my first day of high school on September 2nd. Today is September 5th. Schools been relatively good until today. What went wrong is that a bunch of girls wanted to talk to me. Some approached me and I talked to them. The others said hi as I passed and I didn't talk to them. When I talk to or get talked to by girls I get shy & nervous and I stutter and am really slow figuring out what to say. Please help me figure out what to do. Be Yourself doesn't help me, sorry.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545439
From there:
It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.
Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]
Personality wise, here are my top 5:
1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".
2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.
3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.
4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.
5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.
Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311
And from there:
First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
And as a side note:
Just be yourself, and be confident. I know you said it doesn't help you, but it's true. Don't be somebody you're not, because you want girls to like you for WHO you REALLY are. Good luck =]
-Laura (16-f)
I'm looking fot a specific video. It was on My Space a while ago and its a 9/11 video where the little girl loses her father. Its a really cute video and I want to know where to find it again.
There's one I see a lot, and it sounds like the one that you are talking about.
Here's a link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVRVGwWsF5A
Let me know if that's it!
-Laura (16-f)
I am a female [any age!] and I need some beauty tips on getting rid of a pimple/shaving/anything.
Help me out?
I recently came across an article on bizarre beauty tips, and being the dedicated and amazing columnist I am, I decided to share them:
1. Powder Your Roots
If your hairline starts to look greasy, dig up a big, fluffy makeup brush, and dip it into a pot of loose powder. Tap it once on the back of your hand to remove the excess, then dust it over your roots. It mops up oil and blends into your strands, so no one will know you didn't shower.
2. Scent Strands with Perfume
Spray a light shot of fragrance into the bristles. Run it through strands from roots to ends and your hair will smell amazing throughout the day.
3. Cure Calluses with Vaseline
Slather on the petroleum jelly, and put on socks before bed to dissolve tough calluses overnight.
4. Spot-Treat Smudges
Dip a cotton swab in eye-makeup remover, and trace it along your lids to erase any slipups or goofs when there's no time to redo your whole look.
5. Fix a Flushed Face
If you turn red and stay that way after exercising (like seriously red for hours, even though you're healthy and hydrated), take an antihistamine like Benadryl when you leave the gym to reduce redness.
6. Soften Your Bod with Avocado
Take a ripe avocado, remove the pit and skin, and mash it up in a bowl. Slather it all over your body, let it sit for 20 minutes, then rinse off. Your skin will be so soft � avocado is a natural moisturizer.
7. Super-Glue a Nail
Instead of tearing off your nail when it breaks, put a tiny dab of Super Glue over the split, and paint a generous layer of your favorite nailpolish shade over it. Go for an opaque option (like red, purple, or coral) to camouflage and seal the crack.
8. Use Makeup Remover on Stubborn Lipstick
Don't try to rub off red lipstick (which makes it smear across your mouth � not so sexy). Instead, take a cotton ball or tissue, dip it in makeup remover, and just dab to erase the dark stain fast.
9. Tame Brows with Eye Cream
Pat any kind of rich eye cream over brows to help keep them hydrated and banish those icky white specks that look like dandruff.
10. Buff with Baking Soda
If you find yourself streaking (not glowing) after applying self-tanner, put some baking soda on a loofah, and scrub away the stripes.
11. Brush on Hair Spray
For the final step of your blow-dry, spray hair spray onto your brush, and run it through strands from roots to tips. This way, your do isn't so plastered and stiff but still holds volume and shine.
12. Boost Body Lotion with Baby Oil
If you're craving shiny legs that aren't greasy, blend a drop of baby oil into your normal body lotion for extra luster.
13. Dab Essential Oil on a Hangnail
Put on apricot oil, the kind found in health-food stores, to protect cuticles from turning rough and raggedy.
14. Quell a Cold Sore with Cream
When a cold sore is coming on, dab a bit of thick moisturizer, like Aquaphor, over it to prevent it from getting worse.
15. Freeze Your Eyeliner
If the tip of your eyeliner pencil crumbles and smears on your lids, store the liner in the freezer for 15 minutes before use so the tip is firm and goes across your skin smoothly.
16. Use Toothpaste on a Zit
Use just a pea-size amount. Let sit for 15 minutes to absorb the oil so the pimple won't get more clogged, then wash off.
17. Heat Up Your Curler
If you have stick-straight lashes, try blasting your metal eyelash curler with a hair dryer for a couple seconds to heat it up so your lashes bend more easily. And use a waterproof mascara. The formula dries faster than other mascaras, so it sets the curl more effectively.
18. Use Soap Without Water
You know those fancy bars that are actually too pretty to use? Toss them in your underwear or tee-shirt drawers to make your skin smell delicious.
19. Groom Brows with a Toothbrush
Mist an (unused!) toothbrush or eyebrow comb with hair spray to help flatten and tame unruly brows.
20. Put Diaper-Rash Cream on Dry Spots
Slather on a thick layer of diaper-rash cream to heal cracked elbows and feet.
21. Lubricate Your Lashes
An easy way to draw attention to your eyes without putting on a pile of makeup is to comb petroleum jelly lightly through the tips of eyelashes to get a sexy, subtle sparkle.
22. Spike Lotion with Bronzer
If you don't have time to book a self-tanning session, mix a few pumps of body bronzer with regular hand lotion and pat it on your legs for a gradual dose of sexy, beachy color.
23. Air-Dry Your Curls
Let your hair dry indoors before going out in the cold. The curls will be really bouncy and piecey-perfect.
24. Press a Tea Bag on Splotches
If your skin is sensitive or just looking irritated and puffy for some reason, steep a bag of green tea for a minute or two, let it cool down, and dab it over your face. The antioxidants in the tea take down inflammation.
25. Shave with Conditioner
Ran out of shaving cream? Do double duty by coating your stems with a thick hair conditioner. It softens the hair so it's easier to shave off and makes legs feel amazingly silky.
26. Amp Shine with Vinegar
Mix one part vinegar with four parts carbonated water, and soak dry hair. Leave on for 15 minutes before you shampoo to lock in shine and combat dullness.
27. Exfoliate Your Pits
If your underarms start to look dry and flaky, an easy trick is to exfoliate them with a gentle face scrub to keep that skin pretty when going sleeveless.
28. Customize Your Body Lotion
Instead of shelling out for an expensive perfumed body product, you can make your own by pouring a few drops of fragrance into any scent-free lotion. Rub it on-the scent will last for hours.
29. "Brush" with Mouthwash
If you're too wiped out after a late night of partying to clean your teeth, rinse with water and mouthwash, then use a dry toothbrush on the area where your teeth hit your gums.
30. Make an Egg-White Mask
To revive tired, dull skin without hitting the spa table, try this: Crack open an egg in a bowl, separate the yolk, and use the egg whites to make a face mask. The proteins help to heal and restore skin's moisture. Leave it on for five minutes, and rinse off.
Here are a few great websites with even MORE tips and hints:
http://www.realsimple.com/realsimple/package/0,21861,1218593,00.html
http://www.girltalks.org/beauty/Beauty-Tips/Beauty-tips.htm
http://www.tips4me.com/tips/beauty/
-Laura (16-f)
i'm emily, 16 and a junior. and there is this guy, i've known for quite a while. his locker has always been right by mine and we've had a couple of classes together. i can be shy when i first meet people but after a while i open up, he's the same way to. ever since i met him which was about 2-3 years ago he's always tried to strike a conversation but it never lasts that long, i've always had this little school girl crush on him and i feel since he's always trying to talk to me that maybe he likes me to, but how could i know for sure? i also want to get to know him more so maybe something oculd happen but what can i do to maybe start making more conversation? any conversation starters? thanks :)
I answered a question similar to yours:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311
From there:
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
For more help:
Good luck =]
-Laura (16-f)
i have this guy friend and i've known him all my life since i was a kid. i just was wondering could we be soulmates because i watch dawsons creek and i watched the series finale the other day and dawson and joey said that their soulmates.
but what does that mean?????? their in love or they know everything about each other inside out.
i know that sounds wierd but he seriously is always there. and he was there through my breakups. and everything, we always say i love you and hes like my brother but not by blood.
just want to know what a soulmate really is or am i just fooling myself.
The term "soulmate" has so many different definitions, and everybody has different opinions when it comes to the idea of even having a "soulmate". Some people think it's the person you marry and spend your life with; others think it's the friend you've known all your life. And there are others who think it's all a joke.
Personally? I think everybody in the world has a soulmate, and it isn't always the person you end up falling in love with. Though, I'd assume that's what happens a majority of the time. I think that a soulmate is just the one person in the world that you honestly, couldn't imagine your life without.
Have you ever heard the saying: "It's not about who you've known the longest, it's about who never left your side"? I think that's what a soulmate is, somebody who never left your side. It's that person you turn to when you need a shoulder to cry on, or somebody to laugh with. I think it's the person who you have the most in common with, and who you know the most about [and who also, know the most about you as well]. The person you just "click" with, and get along with so well it's scary. But that's just my opinion on the matter.
As for your situation, I think you and your friend could definitely be soulmates, but I don't think you'll know for sure until you're older. If he's the person you think of when reading the answer to this question, though, then it's definitely possible.
I hope this makes sense and/or helps =]
-Laura (16-f)
Lately, I have been SO stressed! There's so much going on: work, school, friend drama, boy drama, family issues, etc. How can I relax a little?
Dealing with stress is never easy, but I'll try to help you, even if only in the least.
Whenever I'm feeling stressed, like when I'm working on really tough homework or feel like I have too much going on with my friends, boys, my family, etc, I have a few ways of trying to calm myself down.
Here are a few tips that help me:
1. Listening to music.
- Now, I'm not talking heavy metal, screaming until your throat bleeds music. I mean, calm, mellow music. As far as what's on my "stressed" playlist, it includes, The Rocket Summer, Maroon 5, Daphne Loves Derby, Coldplay, and Jason Mraz to name a few. But, obviously, everyone's taste in music varies and you may hate those artists, or maybe not. Either way, I suggest finding some calm, slow songs that makes you happy listening to them, putting them into one playlist/cd and listening to it whenever you're feeling stressed or like there's just too much going on in your life.
2. Laying down.
- I literally lay down in the middle of my room, and watch my ceiling fan. I know this might sound weird or stupid or whatever, but it really helps. Just laying there watching, thinking, and breathing is really soothing in times of stress. Plus, it gives you time away from everything, in a sense, and time to just sort out all of your thoughts. You don't have to lay down in the middle of your bedroom floor, just laying down [alone] in your bed or someplace you think is comfortable should do the trick.
3. Writing.
- This usually helps me when I'm stressed or upset by my friends, a boy, or some sort of social aspect, ya know? Even if you're not good at writing, it's a good therapy or stress reliever. Poems, songs, stories, whatever you're into. It doesn't matter if it isn't "good", all that matters is that you're letting your feelings out and saying what you need to say. You could even just keep a journal, and just write down what's bothering you, why, and how you're feeling. And the best part, you can write whatever you want and you NEVER have to show ANYBODY! ;]
4. Some form of exercise or physical activity.
- For me, sometimes it's running. It helps me forget about whatever's going on, and the stressful things in my life. It also makes me feel productive, which is one of my favorite feelings. But it can be anything for you: walking, swimming, biking, heck, even playing Nintendo Wii is fine if it helps you calm down. PLUS, it's proven that exercise makes you feel better than you did before AND that people who exercise are proven to be happier and healthier than those who don't. Talk about an added bonus =]
Now that I've given you some tips to minimize the stress something else that can really help make it go away, is organization. Keep yourself on a schedule, and push yourself to get your schoolwork done or to get to work on time. Don't slack off or procrastinate, it really only adds to the stress and makes you feel worse =/
After all your hard work, reward yourself. So, say you ace a really hard final that you were totally unsure about, go buy yourself something you really want! You deserve it =]
I hope this helps!
-Laura (16-f)
my friend is going on a 40 hour DRIVING hours. ROAD TRIP! and im really excited for him but i need help thinking of music i can get to make him some mixed CDs. jazzy, popy, rock, instralemntal, dance, oldies, 80s, 70s, anything i just need as much help thinking of artists or songs. so ANYYYYHELP. thaaaanks so much
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532581
Since there are a ton on my list, I'll suggest some bands/artists and my favorite of their songs that I think would be good for a road trip soundtrack ;]
- Cobra Starship.
(Guilty Pleasure, Pop Punk is soooooo 05)
- Every Avenue.
(Days of the Old, Freak Out!, Think of You Later)
- The Rocket Summer.
(So Much Love, Around the Clock, High Life Scenery)
- Relient k.
(High of 75, Up and Up, Jefferson Aeroplane)
- Maroon 5.
(Can't Stop, Little of Your Time, Goodnight Goodnight)
- We the Kings.
(Check Yes Juliet, Skyway Avenue)
- The Hush Sound.
(Wine Red, Don't Wake Me Up, As You Cry)
- Jason Mraz.
(I'm Yours, Wordplay, The Remedy)
- Forever The Sickest Kids.
(She's a Lady, Hey Brittany, Whoa!)
- Halifax.
(Hey Italy, I Told You So)
- Young Love.
(Find a New Way, Close Your Eyes)
And some other songs:
Shake It: Metro Station.
Jamie all Over: Mayday Parade.
Out Of Control: Capital Lights.
You Have What I Need: Hawk Nelson.
Icky Thump: The White Stripes.
Forever: Chris Brown.
Just Dance: Lady Gaga.
Rested Eyes Tell No Lies: 2*Sweet.
Chariot: Gavin Degraw.
-Laura (16-f)
why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not??
Why do we say it? Because we MEAN it. You might not think so, but we honestly DO care here, and when we say suicide is not the answer, we really do mean it.
As Camille said below "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." Suicide doesn't solve problems; it just creates more for all of the people in your life. Everybody has problems, and everybody goes through tough times. But problems have solutions, and tough times always end and guide you to the good times that lie ahead.
Nobody's life is SO bad that they need to end it. Especially when you've got so much time left, so many things to do, so many people to meet, so many friends to make, and so many good things left to experience. Think of all the things you've yet to experience- perhaps you haven't yet experienced things like: getting your license, going to prom and graduating high school, falling in love and getting married, buying your first house, having a family of your own. There are SO many things we go through and experience in our lifetime, and hardly enough time to cram it all in even when we live to be almsot 100! Life's short and there is NO reason to make it shorter.
I personally believe that everything happens for a reason, and that problems are thrown at you, and/or you're put into tough situations to make you stronger and to see that you really CAN make it through the times when it feels like the end of the world. There are ALWAYS people who care, even when you might be not think so. There is ALWAYS a reason to live, even when you can't seem to find one, there IS one. Suicide is NEVER the solution to life's problems.
Life is a gift; cherish it while you can.
I hope this helps you understand why suicide should never be an option. If you ever need to talk, my inbox is always open.
-Laura (16-f)
ok im really close with this girl and I really like her I've told her how I felt but she just wants to be friends shes afraid that if we were to take a step further it would affect our friendship so what do I do?
I completely know where this girl is coming from, as I've been in her position a few times in the past year. I don't really care to talk about it, but I'll try to give some insight as to why the girl is doing this, and why I think you should stop making such a huge deal out of it.
Like my friend Jack said, just because she doesn't want to date you does NOT, be any means, mean she thinks you're scum or not worthy of dating her or anything remotely close to that. It probably doesn't even mean anything bad! Have you ever contemplated that fact that maybe she cares enough about you to WANT to AVOID hurting your feelings?
If she told you she doesn't want it to effect your friendship, then that's what it is: she doesn't want your friendship to be ruined if you break up/somebody cheats/something goes wrong. Would you rather be friends and not date, or date and have something go wrong and ruin your friendship forever?
Bottom Line:
You can't MAKE somebody have feelings for you, and you can't force her into a relationship when she doesn't want to be in it. Just respect her decision, and live with the choice she's made.
There are other fish in the sea, and I'm guessing you're still pretty young. So, you have plenty of time ahead of you for dating and relationships ;]
-Laura (16-f)
I want to buy a new digital camera. So far I have only really had cheap, low quality models and now I am looking for something of semi-professional standards. I need something around at least 10mpx and preferably with rechargable batteries. I'm more concerned with quality than price but obviously the cheaper the better.
If anyone has any suggestions for good cameras fitting my requirements then they would be much appreciated.
I had this camera for a while:
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5715928
From the website:
"Make a statement with this sleek digital camera from Kodak, which boasts a striking 10 megapixel resolution, 3x optical zoom and a large 2.5" LCD screen. Customize your photos with on-camera settings, including sound themes and scene modes, and use the on-camera Favorites feature to keep special pictures close. Print better, brighter pictures using Kodak Perfect Touch technology. Plus, you can get great shots time after time with 22 scene modes, including panorama stitch mode."
My personal review:
I liked the picture quality a lot. It took good pictures, and if you get a big memory card, you'll put it to good use.
The only problem I had was when I made videos. I go to a lot of concerts and shows, and I like to make videos, but this camera had really crappy sound quality. That being said, if you DON'T make a lot of videos, I'd totally recommend this camera.
Now, I know you want 10 Mpx, but I currently have this camera and LOVE it:
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=9914683
It takes amazing pictures AND videos. I also like photography, and I've taken got pretty good shots using this camera. I really highly suggest checking this camera out, because even though it doesn't seem like professional material, it's an amazing buy! ;]
-Laura (16-f)
im a senior in highschool. in one of my classes we get half the class to read a book of our choice, and any words we dont know, we write down on notecards as vocab. we have to get 20 a week. i've been reading the perks of being a wallflower, because i heard it was really good, but theres been like 5 words i dont know and im on page 100. its soo easy. does anyone have suggestions for a good book? it doenst necessarily have to be difficult or on a 12th grade reading level, but i just need to be able to find words every so often.
i love books that deal with teenage life. all the drama with school, boys, friends, sex, partying, you know. like the movie thirteen.. if that were a book, i would love it.
any suggestions? something you've PERSONALLY read and loved. preferably not one thats HUGE either.
I think I have a few good suggestions [I'll give you a link to Amazon so you can read reviews, etc]
1. Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson.
"Since the beginning of the school year, high school freshman Melinda has found that it's been getting harder and harder for her to speak out loud: "My throat is always sore, my lips raw.... Every time I try to talk to my parents or a teacher, I sputter or freeze.... It's like I have some kind of spastic laryngitis." What could have caused Melinda to suddenly fall mute? Could it be due to the fact that no one at school is speaking to her because she called the cops and got everyone busted at the seniors' big end-of-summer party? Or maybe it's because her parents' only form of communication is Post-It notes written on their way out the door to their nine-to-whenever jobs. While Melinda is bothered by these things, deep down she knows the real reason why she's been struck mute..."
- I would personally give it a 6.5 out of 10.
Link: http://www.amazon.com/Speak-Laurie-Halse-Anderson/dp/0844672920/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220135212&sr=8-2
2. Skinny by Ibi Kaslik.
"In her first year of med school, 22-year-old Giselle Vasco seems to have it all together. But a lifetime of bitter relations with her deceased father is slowly catching up, and she falls into a downward spiral that her mother and her younger sister, Holly, are powerless to stop. Skinny, though, is much more than a study of one young woman's battle with anorexia. What starts as Giselle's story quickly develops into a rich and powerful tapestry of a whole family. When Thomas and Vesla Vasco emigrated from Hungary in the 1970s to escape communism's rigid caste system, Vesla was already pregnant, and Thomas had always questioned whether the baby was his. His doubts color his whole relationship with his older daughter, and when Holly is born eight years later, the divide becomes more apparent. Holly, a natural athlete, struggles to understand and avert her sister's self-loathing. The chapters alternate between the sisters' voices, and the ability to see the events unfolding through their eyes adds a depth and a poignancy that would not have been possible with a single narrator. Kaslik's first novel hits the mark with characters with whom teens will empathize, and tackles a relevant and painful subject with grace."
- I give this book an 8.5 out of 10. It was very powerful, and I really enjoyed reading it.
Link: http://www.amazon.com/Skinny-Ibi-Kaslik/dp/0802797385/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220135284&sr=1-2
3. Wild Roses by Deb Caletti.
"Seventeen-year-old amateur astronomer Cassie Morgan wants a normal life, but that possibility flew out the window three years earlier when her musician mother, divorced five days, married famous violinist Dino Cavalli. Living with arrogant Dino is like walking on eggshells, and the usually competent, clearheaded teen believes he has the unique ability to make her feel incapable to the point of needing to be institutionalized. Any little thing sets him off, and the problem only gets worse when he stops taking his depression medication while he prepares for his huge comeback concert. When Ian Waters, a promising–and poverty-stricken–young violinist, shows up for lessons with the maestro, Cassie falls in love at first sight despite her belief that passion only brings about pain. Dino demands that the two stay away from one another to avoid compromising the young man's focus, but that is impossible. And as Dino's concert and Ian's scholarship audition draw closer, even Cassie's loving mother can't protect her from Cavalli's escalating bizarre and paranoid behavior. With its profound observations and vivid, if occasionally profane, language, this multifaceted and emotionally devastating novel will stick with readers."
- I give this book a 7 out of 10.
Link: http://www.amazon.com/Wild-Roses-Deb-Caletti/dp/1416957820/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220135455&sr=1-1
4. This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen.
"This modern-day romance narrated by a cynical heroine offers a balance of wickedly funny moments and universal teen traumas. High school graduate Remy has some biting commentary about love, including her romance-writer mother's betrothal to a car dealer ("He put one hand on my shoulder, Dad-style, and I tried not to remember all the stepfathers before him that had done the same thing.... They all thought they were permanent, too") and her brother's infatuation with self-improvement guru Jennifer Anne. But when rocker Dexter "crashes" into her life, her resolve to remain unattached starts to crack. Readers will need to hold on to their hats as they accompany Remy on her whirlwind ride, avoiding, circling and finally surrendering to Cupid's arrows. Almost as memorable as her summer romance with a heartwarmingly flawed suitor is the cast of idiosyncratic characters who watch from the sidelines. There's the trio of Remy's faithful girlfriends, all addicted to "Xtra Large Zip" Diet Cokes practical-minded Jess, weepy Lissa, and Chloe, who shares Remy's dark sense of humor as well as Dexter's entourage of fellow band members, as incompetent at managing money as they are at keeping their rental house clean. Those expecting a Cinderella finale for Remy will find a twist consistent with the plot's development. Contrary to any such implication in the title, this one will keep teens up reading."
- I give this book a 980237895 out of 10. I've read it at least 10 times and it never gets old. I can pretty much say, confidently, that it is my favorite book ;]
Link: http://www.amazon.com/This-Lullaby-Sarah-Dessen/dp/0142501557/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220135570&sr=1-1
Hope this helps!
-Laura (16-f)
what are some things that i can expect in high school?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544383
From there:
Ahhh the joys of entering high school. I think I can help you, and I'll even share a few stories! ;]
I don't know why everybody is so scared, because it really isn't that scary!
Here are my tips;
1. Be yourself.
- Cheesy and cliche, I know, but it's true. You have to be yourself in order to make new friends. You want people to like you for YOU, and not a certain way you're acting or talking.
2. Wear what you want.
- This goes with the above. Don't dress a certain way to impress people, it isn't worth it. Just wear what you want, and you'll be fine. DON'T DRESS SLUTTY. It will only make people assume that you are, in fact, a slutty girl, and people usually don't like that. I'm also sure YOU wouldn't like having mean things said about you, right?
3. Talk to people, and let them talk to you.
- Making new friends is so not hard! Funny [and true!] story: I met my current best friend freshman year. We were put together as partners in our AP tech [just a fancy class with a lot of technology stations] class. The station we were assigned to had a wind tunnel, and of course being the klutz I am, I broke it. Well, I really didn't know my best friend too well yet, but he still stepped in to save me. The moral of the story: Don't be afraid to talk to new people, or let them help you when you need it. You might even end up being best friends with them like me and my friend!
4. Give people a chance, and don't judge them.
- Don't think that just because a guy is on the football team he is unapproachable and you have no shot at being friends. You never know until you try! This also goes the other way, too. Just because somebody is really smart and in band doesn't mean they aren't a totally awesome person. Also, just because you don't like somebody at first, does NOT mean you won't end up being friends later. Another true story: Sophomore year, I met another one of my good friends. We had health class together and always competed for the highest grade in the class. Well, long story short, it kind of made me mad and then one girl got a higher grade then both of us. But, the boy I competed with and I are now really good friends, and I laugh at the fact I didn't like him at first.
5. Don't make friends with the wrong people.
- If you start talking to somebody, but they DO end up being a total loser [pothead, gossip, etc.] then don't be afraid to stop hanging out with them. Do what's right for you, not what's "cool" or anything else. You are your own person.
6. Go to school functions.
- Football games, dances, and pep rallies are not only a ton of fun, but a great place to hang out with friends or make some new ones. So get out your school colors and go have fun! ;]
7. Do your work, don't be a slacker.
- Look at it this way, if you do good in high school, you will get into a good college. If you get into a good college, you will get a good job. If you get a good job, you will have a better chance at being happy. Isn't it worth doing your work for 4 years to achieve a lifetime of success and happiness? I think so!
8. ENJOY your experience!
- This is probably most important. ENJOY YOUR TIME IN HIGH SCHOOL. People call the high school years the "best years of your life", why not make that saying true? Get good grades, make new friends, and enjoy the ride B]
Good Luck, and don't worry, you'll be fine!
-Laura (16-f-Junior)
17/F (Soprano) I'm looking for a really upbeat song to sing for an upcoming talent show...some examples of my favorite songs:
We Belong by Pat Benatar
Cry by Faith Hill
& Taking Chances-Celine Dion
I'd prefer it didn't be about love with some dude...I've never been in love and wouldn't relate much to the song...remember: I want something really cheery! thanks.
Have you ever heard [of] Ingrid Michaelson? If not, look her up. Her songs are so simple and amazing. She's one of my favorites and I think you might like her. Some songs I recommend:
- The Way I Am.
- Giving Up.
- Breakable.
- The Hat.
- Die Alone.
Other than that, here are some other suggestions:
- Bottle it Up: Sara Bareilles.
- Mercy: Duffy.
- Umbrella: [listen to Marie Digby's version]
- Wine Red: The Hush Sound.
- Music Box: Regina Spektor.
- Fences: Paramore.
- Smile: Lily Allen.
- LDN: Lily Allen.
- I Am Me: Ashlee Simpson.
- The Sweet Escape: Gwen Stefani.
- All I Have: The Rocket Summer.
I hope this helps!
-Laura (16-f)
I have a lot of stress in my life. I know the effects of stress are pretty bad, especially with me.
I am looking to do some sort of stress management with myself. Things are getting out of control and it's hard for me to focus on my daily routine now. I don't sleep well so I'm always tired, my memory is sketchy, constantly nervous, mood-swings, and am having lost of headaches. I know it's from the crazy amount of stress in my life but I don't know how to RELAX!
How can I get some effective stress relief? What should I do to get rid of all of this stress? Some stress management techniques would be wonderful. I also heard about "stress nutrition" before too if anyone could give me information on that.
Overall, advice please on lessening my stress?
I answered a question like yours a while ago: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=541624
From there:
Dealing with stress is never easy, but I'll try to help you, even if only in the least.
Whenever I'm feeling stressed, like when I'm working on really tough homework or feel like I have too much going on with my friends, boys, my family, etc, I have a few ways of trying to calm myself down.
Here are a few tips that help me:
1. Listening to music.
- Now, I'm not talking heavy metal, screaming until your throat bleeds music. I mean, calm, mellow music. As far as what's on my "stressed" playlist, it includes, The Rocket Summer, Maroon 5, Daphne Loves Derby, Coldplay, and Jason Mraz to name a few. But, obviously, everyone's taste in music varies and you may hate those artists, or maybe not. Either way, I suggest finding some calm songs that makes you happy listening to them, putting them into one playlist/cd and listening to it whenever you're feeling stressed.
2. Laying down.
- I literally lay down in the middle of my room, and watch my ceiling fan. I know this might sound weird, or stupid, or whatever, but it really helps. Just laying there, watching, thinking, and breathing is really soothing in times of stress. Plus, it gives you time away from everything, in a sense, and time to just sort out all of your thoughts.
3. Writing.
- This usually helps me when I'm stressed or upset by my friends, a boy, or some sort of social aspect, ya know? Even if you're not good at writing, it's a good therapy or stress reliever. Poems, songs, stories, whatever you're into. And the best part, you can write whatever you want and you NEVER have to show ANYBODY! ;]
4. Some form of exercise or physical activity.
- For me it's running. It helps me forget about whatever's going on, and all my stress. It also makes me feel productive, which is one of my favorite feelings. PLUS, it's proven that exercise makes you feel better, and not as bad as before or people who don't exercise!
An added bonus =]
Now that I've given you some tips to minimize the stress, what can really help make it go away, is organization.
Keep yourself on a schedule, and push yourself to get your schoolwork done. It's the end of the year! You've only got a few days or weeks left, why NOT give your all now?
After all your hard work, reward yourself. So, say you ace a really hard final that you were totally unsure about, go buy yourself something you really want! You deserve it =]
I hope this helps!
-Laura (16-f)
Hi, I am transferring to a new school this year and I don't know too many people that will be in my classes. Any tips on how to make friends/good impression on the first few days of school? Also any tips on how to overcome being shy if new people come and talk to me?
Thank You
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548311
From there:
First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
Good luck!
-Laura (16-f)
i got all of my classes moved to the next level so they are harder and more work. im pretty smart i guess but im just not motivated to do homework, i pick and choose what to do and i afraid its gonna hurt me this year. after school i relax, i come home and sit in my bed and read for a little while and then its dinner and before i know it its time to go to bed and thats when i do my homework...
how can i get myself to do it, i need to have a time to get it done but im to tired and then the night is goneee
You just have to motivate yourself, and really get yourself to do it. When you get home, try having a snack and relaxing for a few minutes. Then start your homework. And once you start your homework, do NOT let yourself get up and stop. Just get it all done, and then go and do something else.
For example, if you want to go out with friends or something, tell them you can't go until you finish your homework. Tell yourself you can't read until you finish your homework.
Also, do you have a study hall/lunch period? If so, try starting your homework then, that is what study hall is for anyways!
Try these links:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545470
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=548564
For more help:
-Laura (16-f)
Hi, I'm 16/m I just started at a new school. There is a girl in my Hist. Class that is insanely gorgeous. Like, you don't even know. Crazy gorgeous. Anyway, I don't really know her yet. I'd like to get to know her though. How can I break the ice? And don't tell me to just go up to her and tell her I like her. I know girls like confidence, but you have to at least know them A LITTLE before you start telling them that. So... help?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545439
From there:
It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.
Personally? I'd go for the theater guy over the basketball player, and the bookworm over the socialite. But that's just me ;]
Personality wise, here are my top 5:
1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".
2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.
3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.
4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.
5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.
Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.
Bottom line:
Just be yourself. If you want this girl to like you, don't be somebody you're not or act a certain way to TRY to impress her. Just let it happen naturally. Start talking to her, and get to know her. Then, start flirting a little and ask her to hang out sometime. Let things go from there. Good luck =]
-Laura (16-f)
What are good myspace comments to leave my best friends? I want them to be cute and maybe funny but telling them how much they mean to me as friends. I love my best friends a lot. Some of my best friends are guys so what are the best myspace comments for them? I know I shouldn't leave them girly myspace comments. I want to leave all of my best friends myspace comments every 3 days or so for a month so all of them feel special.
So, are there any really neat ideas for unique myspace comments that people haven't been overused to death?
You can do a "Remember when..." type thing, and talk about a funny memory between you and your friend.
Or you can post song lyrics? Maybe songs about being best friends like "You'll Always Be My best Friend" by Relient k ;]
-Laura (16-f)