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so me and this guy have been best friends for about 7 years. and hes liked me before, but i didnt like him then. and now i like him...a lot, but he has a girlfriend and shes one of my good friends. i'm happy for them, and i wouldnt do ANYTHING to ruin their relationship, and i dont want to tell him because i dont want to make things awkward between us or anything. so, how can i put aside my feelings for him, and just be his best friend, without liking him, until hes available? any advice would be helpful. thanks

That's a pretty tough situation. The best thing you can do is ignore your feelings for now & just think of him as a friend. Here's an easier way to think of it. Put yourself in his girlfriends position. You probably wouldn't be too comfortable that he's friends with a girl that really likes him, so if you backed off a bit & were only friends, she'd probably be a lot more comfortable about it. It might be a good idea to tell him eventually, probably when he doesn't have a girlfriend. You should try dating other people too to keep your mind off of it.

-hope that helped!♥

15/f. the guy i like has a girlfriend and i'm so jealous of her. how can i stop being jealous and just be happy for him? because we are good friends and whenever he talks about her i get all sad.

thanks!

That's completely normal. It will probably take awhile for you to feel okay with him going out with her & even longer for you to feel happy for him. If he brings her up, just listen and change the subject. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to date around a bit. It will be easier for you when you hear about her then. Why? because you'll have someone to talk about too. It's good that you're giving effort in it & aren't trying to destroy what they have, which surprisingly a lot of people try to do. Try your best. If it really isn't improving, it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to let him know.

-hope that helped!♥

I'm 18 and a male. I have an Aadvicenators account that I've been using for years, but sometimes I just need to reach out to my fellow advicenators for help.

Well, theres this girl that I like named Katrina. We've been friends for a long time, and lately we've been getting really flirtatious, and I've found that she likes me also. The only problem is that we live in two different counties. Even though shes only about a 45 minute drive away we've yet to stay in physical contact with each other over a long period of time. My question is, what should I do? I'd like to leave, 'cause I don't like to wait around for things that aren't going to happen, but her friends all tell me that if I leave she'll be devastated. Not that I wouldn't be hurt too, it's just that I'd like to spare myself some unneeded pain ya know? So, what should I do? Stay or go? I really need some help here...

First off, do not make any final decisions until you think absolutely everything through. 45 minutes is definately not a huge distance & is actually pretty close. So take that into account. If you desperately needed to see one another, you could. Talk to her about it. If you think it would be too much of a hassle & painful, explain that to her. Obviously, you both will be upset if you guys break it off, but it could help long term pain. It's basically your decision, but talk it through with her. There's both pros and cons in this situation. There's also nothing wrong with being friends for now while you figure things out. She might be feeling the same way as you. Obviously none of us can tell you what to do, but we can lead you into the right direction. So my advice is talk to her about all of your feelings. Once she knows everything, she'll be able to help you out too.

-hope that helped!♥

So my boyfriend is almost positive he got genital herpes from an ex-girlfriend. However, he hasn't been tested and he hasn't had an outbreak. We've been having sex, intercourse and oral, protected and occasionally unprotected. I'm wondering what my possible chances of catching or having caught herpes are. Thanks in advance.

He has to be tested ASAP! If he does have herpes, you're chance of getting it is very high. Here is a whole website on it-

http://www.ihmf.org/general/resources02.asp

That should give you most of the information you need. He does not need to have outbreaks to have herpes. There's about 100 commercials about how most of the time, someone's partner can get herpes with no signs of an outbreak. You can't do much about it until he's tested & you both know whats going on. After that, the website shows you the steps you should take and the doctor will give you plenty of details.

-hope that helped!♥

This might be long but please read it. Thanks.
Sometimes I think there is something wrong with me. Im 13/F. For a long period of time I liked this guy named Liam. I couldn't think of anyone else, I talked about him, I loved everything about him. We were really close and he was like a best friend to me. I trusted him with everything and he kept everything. He helped me through alot. We also flirted alot.

Then this month he seemed to avoid me, make fun of me and just be a different person. I was somewhat the same after a while. We are still friends but were not like always together like we used to. When im at home if I accidently see a picture of me and him I just say "idiot" or something like that while before I used to always smile. Same with if he comes online. BUT when I see Liam at school I get butterflys and want to talk to him. I love when he's near me but I hate whenever he flirts with others infront of me. But whenever hes not around I cant think I like him my mind wont accept it.

Lately I sometimes act as if I like other guys to. When im with them I feel good but never as much as Liam. I trust another guy alot but I dont know if I like him.

Whats wrong with me? Why am I like this?

It seems like you have mixed feelings about him. That's completely normal, especially when he's been acting differently around you. Your true feelings are probably when you're around him, but you might be upset about the way he's been treating you. Maybe you should talk to him about it & tell him how you feel. Just sort your feelings out & go from there. Either talk to him about it & see what happens or stay away from him for a bit. If you spend more time with the other guy, you might be able to tell who it is that you like more.

-hope that helped!♥

im 13 and im about 98 to like 100 pounds, and im 5'2.. everyone is saying that im really skinny, almost too skinny, but i look great, and guys always compliment me on how great i look, and they all say im not too skinny or too fat. I need to know if im too skinny, because i like the way i look. its mostly muscle, becasue im on an intense track team, and i think its a problem. My whole family seems to be like it, but i hate being the girl who is just about average height, but compared to other girls, not so average weight? what should i do, is there anything i CAN do???

98 to 100 lbs does not seem like a lot, but you are only 5'2. If you are happy with your weight & feel that you eat enough & are healthy, then that's fine. You shouldn't lose any weight though. Gaining might be helpful for your athletic performances. Gaining more muscle might be a plus. As long as you eat right, it should be fine. Definately do not go lower than 98 lbs though. You can't do much if its in your family's background. Most people would consider you lucky. Just eat 3 healthy meals a day with 2 snacks inbetween & exercise a few times a week, which you probably do more of since you're on the track team.

-hope that helped!♥

i hate gym when we go outside. i start sweating & my
heart rate goes up & i feel so tired & gross. well i want
to make my heart rate not shoot up when i start to run.
& the only way to do that is to work out often. well i
have an elliptical. if i go on that for 30 minutes a day
everyday except saturday & sunday, will my heart
rate not shoot up as much? what else can i do to pre-
vent my heart rate from rapidly going up when i go from
walking to sprinting as fast as i can? thanks in advance

No one can predict that. It really depends on your body. If you exercise more, your heart rate will change depending on what type of exercise you do & of course, how long you do it. If you use your elliptical for 30 minutes a day, you will probably see slight changes in your heart rate, but since you aren't using it in gym, it could be a bit different. Try doing the same exercises you use in gym so you get a bigger change. For example, if you run outside, start jogging 20-30 minutes a day on your own so that when you do go to gym, it won't be such a vigorous exercise because you're used to it. This is probably something that will change over time.

-hope that helped!♥

Well listen, I had this great bf, but I broke with him because I was being stupid. Now when I'm basically on my knees, he won't take me back. I practically told him I love him, but that doesn't count. He really is hurting me. Should I leave him for good, or just keep hoping for him to take me back?

Try talking to him about it. He's probably bitter that you broke up with him. Just tell him you made a mistake & you were confused, but now you know what you really feel. If he doesn't listen, then let him go. He's made his choice then. If you explain your feelings & tell him how much you love him & care, he might give you another chance. Good luck!

-hope that helped!♥

Im a 15/f and my breasts are always hurting from the nipples area the most it jus hurts i dont know why do you think there is something wrong with me?

There could be a few reasons for this-

1. You're getting your period
This is actually quite common, especially when you get a bit older.
2. You're pregnant
Don't freak out with this one. You know whether you've had sex or not.
3. They're growing
This one might sound a bit weird, but they could hurt from growing.
4. Bra
They could get irritated from your bra. If you've changed the type you get recently, this could be why. If not, then you can most likely rule this option out.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. If it keeps up, you should probably schedule a doctor's appointment.

-hope that helped!♥

ok im 14/f and im not exactly sure what to do because my two best friends hate eachother.

ok well they used to be friends last year but something happened along the way. (Mel) has been really upset at (Bob) for a long time. since the begining of 8th grade something happened between them that she refuses to tell me about. she says she is not ready to tell me. and the problem is whenever im around one of them and the other comes they argue or cuss eachother out. i mean he doesnt even know why mel is mad at him but he is still mean because of it. and well i really like bob. i mean really. last nite i was on A-I-M and he signed on. mel was at my house and she and him started arguing online!! i told him i had to go. and mel said it was because id rather spend time with her than with him which isnt at all true. so then i told him it wasnt true and i left. of course mel got mad. i dont want to chose between them. i want them to get along like they used to. it would be great. because i really like him and think i have a chance with him but mel isnt supportive. i think this has gotton blown out of proportion and i really want for them to get along. i mean he really hurts her with his nasty comments and only stops because i tell him to. what can i do to make them be cool with eachother. i hate drama and especially when im caught in the middle of it. thanx in advance.

SAM

If either of them is your true friend, they will be supportive of you and at least be civil with your other friends no matter what. I think you should sit down & talk to each seperately. Explain to Mel that just because she isn't friends with him, doesn't mean you can't be. She should try being civil with him & at least be friendly even if she's faking it. With him, you should explain how Mel won't tell you why she doesn't like him, but that you still want to remain friends & ask him to try his best to get along with Mel, at least when you are around. You should probably plan hanging out with them seperately since they can't get along very well. It won't always be a negative thing. You'll just have to explain that you can't spend so much time with one of them, because you're going to be splitting time with the other.

-hope that helped!♥

I'm looking for some new books to read. I go through like a book a week, and I'm running out of books. I'm 15/F. I like fantasy/romance type books. Does anybody have any suggestion for any books/authors that are good?

There are a lot of really good books out. Here are a few ideas-

Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld
Shadow of the Dragon by Sherry Garland
Dreamland by Sarah Dessen
Boyfriend List by E. Lockhart
If We Kiss by Rachael Vail
Stargirl by Jerry Spinelli
Fifteen by Beverly Cleary
Iron Ring by Alexander Lloyd
Black Unicorn by Tanith Lee

Here's a site that could be useful-
http://www.teenreads.com/

-hope that helped!♥

Well i dated this guy for about a month we were friends before this so it was all good and then he broke up with me and well we say we are still friends but we arent the same as before, He has been really distant lately and I have not been the only one to notice this all of his other friends have too. But he has changed alot, and all his "friends" are talking behinde his back and telling me all of this stuff about him like he only used me to see how far he could get, or that he is saying we did stuff that we never did. but then when I ask him about this he denys it and I dont know who to believe. should I believe him beucause there is no reason for him to lie to me about it anymore, or do i believe everyone eles?

This is a difficult situation. You can't ask us who you should trust because we do not know either of them. The best thing you can do is go with your gut feeling & decide by who you trust more & who is more loyal to you. He was your boyfriend, but would there be a reason for his friends to make those things up? Plus, you did say you aren't friends like he said you would be. I think you should just let it go. It may be difficult, but you do not want to get caught up in it. Tell him that all you want is for him to be honest with you. If he gets mad or keeps denying it, just try dropping it. You aren't dating anymore & you can't change the past so even if all of the things his friends were saying are true, you can't do anything about it. You may want to reconsider being friends with him also, because a dishonest friend isn't a true friend.

-hope that helped!♥

okay well on www.aimfight.com, some screen names come up as "NaN" ... what does that mean?? why doesn't a number show up?

Some are not able to use AIMFIGHT because the information is not available. "If you dont see your rank, it means youre not in the top 5%." That is from the AIM Fight website-

http://www.aimfight.com/whatisaimfight.html

Basically that means that you do not have enough buddies on your list or buddies that have you on their list to come up with an accurate score. If you have any other questions, go to AIM.com & check in the FAQ section.

-hope that helped!♥

On Aim 6.0, what are those i's in circles to the right of someone's sn? Like what does this mean? I thought it meant that they changed their profile, but it doesnt because there was one next to my sn and i didnt even change it. Your help would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks!

The I's show up when you roll your mouse over it. You just click it to see the person's info.

-hope that helped!♥

okay well i like this guy & i really want to get his sn. but i can't just ask my friends because they'll KNOW i like him. cause last time i liked a guy i just casually asked my friend & she and my other friend would act SO obvious around him! i dont want to tell ANYONE that i like him, but i just want to ask my friends what his sn is without sounding so completely obvious. can someone give me some tips, please?

The best way to go about doing that is saying you need it for a specific reason. An example would be "hey can i have so&so's screenname because he's in my chem class & i need the homework assignment" or something along the lines of that. That won't make anything obvious at all, only that you're catching up on school work. If he doesn't go to your school, another example would be "hey can i have his screenname, he wanted me to help him with something and i lost it" or anything like that. It won't make things obvious. If none of those work, it looks like you would have to ask him yourself if you want to avoid the whole friends thing.

-hope that helped!♥

for easter, i want a new purse. not too big, but not small. but i dont know what kind. what are some purses for around $100 like that?

There are probably thousands of places you can buy purses for $100 or less. First I would suggest Coach. Their purses are so cute. There are medium sized Coach purses for around $80. You can also go to JC Penney or Macy's for other cute designer purses. I like American Eagle's purses too. Here are a few sites-

www.ae.com
[under women, accessories, & then bags]

http://www.boscovs.com/StoreFrontWeb/Department.bos?type=
Department&pdn=1500000&departmentNumber=1504085
[xoxo handbags, really cute!]

http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/
servlet/category1_
10251_10201_12624_-1_12552
[abercrombie & fitch totes]

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/index.ognc?CategoryID=
208&PageID=208*1*24*-1*-1&kw=Handbags&LinkType=EverGreen
[variety of different purses]

Fix the links so that there are no spaces!

Since your style can be a lot different than mine, I would suggest looking around on google & seeing what you might like. Also, you might want to try different stores around the mall.

-hope that helped!♥

ok my x bf broke up with me like 2 months ago and i started talking to this other guy and i like him but like a week ago i met this really kool and nice HOT guy and i really like him AND I HAVE Been like talking to all off them and telling them that i like them in stuff and i dont kno who to choose im such a whore plaese dont leave rude comments that stupid

How does that make you a whore?? You arent. Your feelings are probably just confused and plus you aren't in a relationship with any of them right now so relax a bit. You need to choose who you like. Obviously it would be a low thing to actually date all three & lead them on, so try spending time with them [as friends] & see what you think. You need to sort your feelings out. This may seem a bit weird, but my friend did a pros/cons list of each of them when she was deciding on who she liked more & it helped her quite a bit. Just don't show anyone the list because they could take it offensively. It is not suppose to be mean, its just to help you see who it is that you really like more. If you can't decide, it would probably be a good idea to stay away from them & sort your feelings out.

-hope that helped!♥

i have a mop head, and when i try to spike it up, my hair just sinks(using gel) is there any product out there thatll help me spike my hair

I have a lot of guy friends and they all use FX Special Effects Spiking Gel. here's a site-

http://www.hairproducts.com/view_product_STY-SPE114.htm

My friend's dresser has about 5 bottles on it so I'm guessing it's pretty good.

-hope that helped!♥

Does anyone know the song and who's it by? I think the song is called pray since it has that word so many times. it goes something like

"pray for peace and pray for love, pray for good and pray tonight"

I found lyrics that are pretty close to what you have. The song is called Pray by Tina Cousins. Here are the lyrics-

http://www.lyricsdir.com/tina-cousins-pray-lyrics.html

I'm not sure if that's what you're looking for, because they are a bit different, but check it out. If it isn't, try googleing it.

-hope that helped!♥

15/f. ok so when i straighten my hair i would like their to still be a little volume to in, maybe by the scalp. how can i do this?

You can buy volume hair products that you can put on your hair before/after your straighten it, depending on the product you use. I would suggest Aussie Aussome Volume. You can google it if you like, but it's basically at any store that sells hair stuff. I'd probably try Walmart or CVS. Since everyone's hair type is a bit different, go to the store & look around. Each product as a brief description either on the front or the back for what it does & what hair type would be the best. If you want it by your scalp, I would suggest looking for Volumizing shampoos.

-hope that helped!♥

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