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fighting friends
ok im 14/f and im not exactly sure what to do because my two best friends hate eachother.
ok well they used to be friends last year but something happened along the way. (Mel) has been really upset at (Bob) for a long time. since the begining of 8th grade something happened between them that she refuses to tell me about. she says she is not ready to tell me. and the problem is whenever im around one of them and the other comes they argue or cuss eachother out. i mean he doesnt even know why mel is mad at him but he is still mean because of it. and well i really like bob. i mean really. last nite i was on A-I-M and he signed on. mel was at my house and she and him started arguing online!! i told him i had to go. and mel said it was because id rather spend time with her than with him which isnt at all true. so then i told him it wasnt true and i left. of course mel got mad. i dont want to chose between them. i want them to get along like they used to. it would be great. because i really like him and think i have a chance with him but mel isnt supportive. i think this has gotton blown out of proportion and i really want for them to get along. i mean he really hurts her with his nasty comments and only stops because i tell him to. what can i do to make them be cool with eachother. i hate drama and especially when im caught in the middle of it. thanx in advance.
SAM
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Well what you should do is get them together in a room then talk to them for about 5 minutes. Then leave them alone so they can discuss their issues. If that doesn't work then good luck. :)
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well im gonna be honest theirs really nothing you can do to make them like eachother, but what you need to tell them is, if they are both your friends then they will do this for you, tell mel that if she was your friend, she may not be supportive of you guys goin out, but she should be happy because your her friend and thats what friends do for eachother. tell bob that even if she says something to him dosnt mean he has to say something back because he looks just as immature as she does and if he hates her the last thing hes gonna want is to look like her:) so comment me back and tell me whats up.
hope this helped
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If either of them is your true friend, they will be supportive of you and at least be civil with your other friends no matter what. I think you should sit down & talk to each seperately. Explain to Mel that just because she isn't friends with him, doesn't mean you can't be. She should try being civil with him & at least be friendly even if she's faking it. With him, you should explain how Mel won't tell you why she doesn't like him, but that you still want to remain friends & ask him to try his best to get along with Mel, at least when you are around. You should probably plan hanging out with them seperately since they can't get along very well. It won't always be a negative thing. You'll just have to explain that you can't spend so much time with one of them, because you're going to be splitting time with the other.
-hope that helped!♥
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