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Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out almost a month. During that time I have became really good friends with 2 of his best friends and I'm starting to like them. I liked the one before I started going out with my current boyfriend though. What should I do?

I think you should stop hanging out with the best friends a lot. Just to save the relationship you have now, and save a fight between best friends! Dont get drama started, it would suck!

Q: I really need advice rite now. I have been going out with This guy for about 8 months (on and off) and I really love him. But all that I end up getting out pf this relationship is MORE drama and Hurt. I really like him but sometimes it seems like it wasnt meant to be. Ever since I met him and His buddies ITs all been He** and drama and HatE. I haven't cried sooo much in the last 5 years than I have these several months with him. He already cheated on me twice...and there is also this girl that likes him and He has Liked her Forever and I'm scared that he will go out wit her....she is such a bit** too...is it because I'm jelous of her...of what she can have or do?? i really dont know..MY LIFE IS jUST ALL Drama and I want it all to go away. please help me..

Get out of the relationship. He has cheated on you twice before, there might be a girl in the way, and you need to get out of the relationship before your hurt anymore. You need to move on and even though it might take a while to get over him..its better than being in a relationship and crying 24-7. If you want the drama to go away then leave him alone. Dont even be friends, that will cause more hurt. Just break all ties with him and start over. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that would love to go out with you and they wont make you cry! Even though it might suck getting over him, it will be worth it. Good luck!

Q: My cousin wants to tryout for cheerleading in highschool. She's done it before when she was younger, and can do flips and cartwheels. However, she feels that she "MUST HAVE A BACKHAND SPRING" to make the H.S. squad.

♥ Does anyone know if you definitely need a backhand spring to make an average hs squad
♥ Does anyone have any confidence or any other tips for her, she won't listen to just me..thanks alot! I'll rate well to appropriate answers!

All schools are different. Different teams have different requirements. Most high schools let the girls without a backhand spring or cheerleading experience.. join a Freshmen or Junior Varisty team. If she wants to make Varsity, they might require a backhand spring. So it all depends on the team, so she should ask the coach! Tips: She needs to start stretching and exercising. Cheerleading is an extreme sport that requires flexibility and stamina. If she needs any tryout tips you can ask me. I love cheerleading and would love to help you out!

Q: One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help.

Well, no dont bring a gift but you wear dark clothes (purple, black(which is a common color) or something. You just have to listen to people talk about him, and hear the priest..stuff like that. Hold your friend, cry with her, etc. I'm sorry about your friends loss! My prayers are with her & her family.

Q: Grr, I hate this! My family hates who I am and what I am. They want me to be just like a prep and shit! I so totally don't want that. I'm a full on metal head and I usually never go to church since I made my communion. They listen to Ja Rule and all this pop bitches like Britney Spears and Hilary Duck...and freaking spanish songs. I hate that shit and like I don't know how to tell them to fuck off and let me be who I want to be. Some one help and no fucking lables please, no freaks or else I'll laugh in your face!

That sucks. Do what you want, they cant make you become a prep or whatever. You need to have a serious talk with them and tell them that your you, and you dont need a label...and that they need to learn to respect who you are. Respect them and they'll repsect you back, hopefully. I'm sorry about your family!

Q: Hey, sorry if this is confusing. But yeah, since it's lent, I have to go to confession today. And I know I've sinned, everyone does, but I just can't think of anything to say. Can someone help me? Is there anything I should tell him? I just can't think of anything. Thanks!

Okay well pray to God right now to let him show anything you have done. It works all the time because you ask God to show you stuff you've done and then you realize you do have sins to confess.

Q: i have a whole spring break to make 300$! i need it at the end of the week! i borrowed my sisters ipod for a day and then someone stole it out of my purse! i have filed a police report but the chances fo finding it are very slim. PLEASE give me ideas besides just babysitting to come up with 300$ in a week! i dont have a job because im 15 but i dont have enough time to apply and make 300 in a week.

PLEASE give me any idea you have! i'll take it! I RATE! I"LL DO ANYTHING!

TIMES GOING FAST!

Okay, go to neighbors house (people you know) and ask them if there is any house sitting, lawn-mowing, cleaning whatever, chores you can do for money! Say why you need the money and they will feel sorry for you, and will love to help you out. You could ask some of your friends to volunteer doing a car wash at the local wal mart or where-ever and have a $3 car wash. And all the money goes to raising up the 300. I think your friends would be willing to do it, because they know your situation!

Q: i just wanted to know how i can ask a girl if she likes me without looking stupid

Well you wont even look stupid! Your just asking a question! She'll say yes (hopefully) or no and that would be the end of it. Trust me, there is nothing stupid about it! Good luck!:)

Q: (16/f) I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him. Its just that he doesnt trust me at all. Just because of things people tell him. People dont like the fact that we're going out because we're in an inter-racial relationship. So they make things up to try to get us to break up. I know that they're lying but he doesnt. He just doesnt trust me and I'm constantly telling him not to believe them and " No I didnt flirt with so-and-so today." Im so sick of trying to get him to believe me. He also makes me feel guilty for things I did before we started going out. Im tired of it and I try telling him this but he just doesnt stop. It's getting to the point where we're fighting most of the time instead of getting along. I love him so much and I dont want to have to break up but I want to be happy instead of being sad all the time now. I just dont know if its at the point where I should end it or not. Please help me out I dont know what to do... thanks in advance.

Tough situation. I dont think you should end it though. Have a serious conversation with him. Tell him that people are cruel, and just because your relationship is an interracial one, they want to break it up. Basically tell him what you told us, and tell him that you like him a lot and would be hurt if your relationship ended. Just talk to him, and I'm sorry about what people are doing to break you guys up.

Q: My bf and i are going to 2 proms this year and we're not sure if he should buy or rent a tux for them. What do you think would be cheaper. All he wants is a basic Black Tux with nothing fancy and also besides Mr. Tux and Steping out Formal where can he rent them and where can he buy one. thanks and sry if that is confusing

I think he should rent his tux. See, for a girl..their prom dress is very important because you buy it and save it for years and years. Or something. But for a guy its different, they could care less about saving their tux from prom. So yeah rent it! I would say look around the yellow pagees for people that rent/sell tux's. Dont do it through the internet, to be on the safe side! Have fun at prom!

Q: Who do you think is better, Hawk Nelson or Relient K. I recently had the opprotunity to go to a Relient K concert. That was Awesome. Is Hawk Nelson an "independant" band?

I would have to say Relient K. I've met Hawk Nelson, we talked for a while..and all. Their cool and stuff. Their music is great too, but I'd go with Relient k. Hawk Nelson is signed I just dont know who signed them, probably tooth and nail records.

Q: I just don't understand how I can easily give advice to others and yet I am horrible at taking my own advice. For instance I always tell my friends and anyone else for that matter people at my age (17 and under) can not understand love. Yet I sit here thinking I love someone. I care about this guy a lot and we used to date. I know he is a jerk but that doesn't mean I want to not date him. I know I will be fine without him but I know how much fun I had with him (in a perfectly christian way). All he does now is avoid me and surrounds himself with girls. Then when we actually talk he is tells me he loves me just doesn't want to date right now. I don't understand his thought concept or his reasoning. How can you tell a girl you 'love' them and then ignore them for a long time? I just don't understand it. I am tired of waiting for answers he is not willing to tell me. Can any one help me understand why he is doing this?

He's a guy, and hes young. He doesnt know what he wants in his life and since hes young, its all about having fun right now. I think he is saying he loves you, and then ignoring you..because he thinks he can come back to you whenever he wants and be welcomed with open arms. Just because he left off with a nice thing to say. I understand how you feel about the advice thing, everyone is like that! They can give advice to others but when it comes to you, you cant give yourself advice. I hope I helped a little:)

Q: This is probably the dumbest question I've asked so far and shockingly enough I don't have an answer considering I've been at this site for so long. Anyway- I have had my column settings the same way for the longest time and I decided it's time for a change. I wanted to know if it's possible to use Thomas's myspace editor's codes to work on my column. I'm pretty bad when it comes to URL codes and whatnot so I don't know if the codes would work on the advice column. I wanted to change the link hover colors. Does anyone know if that's possible? If you can't use Thomas's myspace editor.. Is there a site you could refer me to so I could change the link hover colors? Thanks!

Aww I love HTML! And I dont think you can use Thomas Myspace editors because that is strictly for myspace..but you can try. I'd love to help you with the column, and yeah i have codes I can get for hovers or whatever. so im me on aim at ilinerobsession (ands i'll tell you step by step how to change background colors, text color, link color, etc.) or leave one in my inbox! :)

Q: well my friends suck, theyre always rude to me and get on my nerves. i try to help with their problems but they just act like im an idiot. anyway, i try to meet new people and talk and get together but no one wants to..and they already have best friends. what do i do?

Well, just keep trying to make new friends! Join a club, sport, whatever...Just because some people already have best friends does not mean their NOT looking for more friends. People always love to get new friends! If people dont want to get together with you because their busy or something, ask them when they have time! And about your sucky friends, well...tell them how you feel and if it seems like they dont care, blow them off! You'll make friends, just be patient. Sorry if I didnt help much...leave something in my inbox if you need any more help. And if you can, keep me updated!

Q: Ok now well i have been with this kid whom we'll call john and my ex we'll call jack.Ok me and john have been together for about 3-4 weeks and i was with my ex for 5 months then we broke up in january but lately i have begun to get old feelings back for jack but we are BOTH in a relationship so i wrote him a letter after john left for florida basically asking him out and i am waiting for right now but the prob is if it doesn't work out should i tell john when he comes back about what i was secretley doing?? plz help i only have a couple of days left!!!
~~ME~~

Well if it doesnt turn out good, like he doesnt go back out with you...then yes, keep it a secret. But hopefully Jack wont tell your new bf about what you did. Now, if you dont like John anymore dont stay with him..if your unhappy, leave him!

Q: What is the best kind of eye liner to use and won't smudge in the corner of your eyes or run...liquid or pencil? Also how can I get the Olivia Wilde look (Alex from the OC) I like the eye liner on the top lid but I'm not sure how to do it.

Liquid eyeliner goes on darker, and stays on longer but its really hard to get it perfect-looking (takes lots of practice). But long lasting eyeliner pencils would be MAC(expensive) Wet N' Wild(Not expensive but works great). Good luck! Oh and remember no eyeliner is perfect, so you might have to re-apply or whatever through out the day!

Q: Hey. I'm in the 7th grade, and for my grade in math for the 3rd quarter, I know I got a 87.45% B+. Can that be rounded to an A?

No. The only way it could be rounded would be if it was a 89%. But you did good anyway! I almost failed math!

Q: Tomorrow, i have a Persuasive essay to turn in, which I will later have to read to my English class.

My topic is on book-banning, and i've typed up my essay, and it's all set.

My problem is, is that my last reason for why book-banning from schools and libraries isn't right, is because books are sometimes banned because of homosexual characters.

At first, i felt strongly about stating my opinion through an essay on my opinion on homosexuallity (I'm for gay marriage), but now, I'm having second doubts. Can someone please tell me how they think this will go over in my class, and is it appropriate? (This is Advanced 8th grade Eglish by the way)

I think you should have asked your teacher about writing this first, but I wouldent really worry too much. As long as your mature in your essay and dont use slang terms, and are not bashing a group of people and/or their beliefs. [Like the people that are against gay marraige]. You should be fine!

Q: me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into an argument yesterday. although we worked it out there was still a little bit of hostility between us when we hung up on each other (it was really late and we needed to go to sleep).

he wanted me to come over today but advised me not to because his dad wanted him to come to the shop today to help him fix cars. so i took his word and didn't come over. but still i checked my email at school to see if he changed his mind, but nothing.

not until 7:00 this evening i got on yahoo and got offline messages telling me he wanted me to come over this morning at 11. and he got back online at 5 saying "i guess you're not coming". he sounded bummed and it made me sad but angry too cuz i wanted to come over, but he knew i was at school...

right now i've been trying to get a hold of him for the past two hours with no luck. he won't pick up his cell (unless he left it at home) and i texted him a million times. the thing is he can't really go anywhere cuz his car is still in the shop. i'm beginning to worry that something's happened to him, and i want to drive over to his house to see what's up, but he lives 30 minutes away.

i'm freaking out that he's not coming online, or picking up his phone. i don't know what to do! i also have homework on my hands but i'm really worried that something's happened to my boyfriend.

please anyone give me some advice, i'm really stressing out here and i don't know what to do. i really love this guy but i don't know where he is! i don't have any of his family members numbers or his friends so i'm limited in my choices.

please reply asap! time is running out

Do your homework, dont worry about it. Yeah, he is not returning your calls and/or text's but you need to not worry so much. Maybe he is busy doing something else? Stop calling and texting, he'll call you back when he gets the chance. Just calm down and everything will be okay! Maybe he needs alone time right now? Who knows, whatever the reason..I'm sure hes fine!

Q: Okay, so I eat good, I have gym class every day so I exercise5 times a week for and hour and a half, yet i'm still pretty fat. I mean I'm not obese. I'm about 150, but I'm 5'8. Al my friends are really skinny though so in comparison to them i'm huge. I don't want to hurt myself with an eating disorder or anything and I don't have time to exercise anymore, but what can I do?

I say talk to your doctor. Tell him your concerned with your weight and want to know if its okay to go on a diet. People here wont really know what to say to you, they'll give you diet tips but thats all. But what if you dont even need a diet? Contact your doctor or just watch what you eat. You seem fine to me but if you really want to lose a few lbs, cut out some of the sugary foods(candys, cakes, chips, cookies, etc.) and drinks (juices and sodas). And have water or crystal light(a great subsitute) instead!