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Should I end it ?
(16/f) I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him. Its just that he doesnt trust me at all. Just because of things people tell him. People dont like the fact that we're going out because we're in an inter-racial relationship. So they make things up to try to get us to break up. I know that they're lying but he doesnt. He just doesnt trust me and I'm constantly telling him not to believe them and " No I didnt flirt with so-and-so today." Im so sick of trying to get him to believe me. He also makes me feel guilty for things I did before we started going out. Im tired of it and I try telling him this but he just doesnt stop. It's getting to the point where we're fighting most of the time instead of getting along. I love him so much and I dont want to have to break up but I want to be happy instead of being sad all the time now. I just dont know if its at the point where I should end it or not. Please help me out I dont know what to do... thanks in advance.
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I completely understand how your feeling you see i was in a relationship and all of his friendz hated the fact that he waz going out with me so they started making up rumors about me flirting with all these other guys at skewl (he was home skewled at the time so he got his friends to tell him wat i did) and hr didnt believe anything i ever said i mean he told me he trusted me but he doubted everything i had to say ... but bak to you soooo... that relationship didnt work out and your relationship kinda sounds lyke mine and you have to face the fact that your only confusing yourself even more by not dumping him if you dont do it eventually he will.
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If you have to work this hard..... It's not working.
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Don't let him ever control you or make you seem like your a sneak. If he loves you he will respect you.
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Hey listen stop getting upset you know your not doing anyhing behind his back. And if he really love you then he would belive you and he would stop listening to hes freinds. I think you guys need to sit down and talk about it with ou fighting cause fighting gets us NOWHERE!!! and if he still doesnt belive you , you need to find some one better.Hope it all works out
bbgirl15
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Well before you do anything rash, have a serious talk with him alone. Talk to him about how he (not his Friends) feels about the relationship. Tell him how you feel about him not trusting you. Trust is very important in a successful relationship. And give him a chance to explain why he don’t trust you, commutation is very important and needs to be two way.
After listening to each other and expressing each of your opinions and view. You may find the answer then, other than that, I can give you very little more. I can say this though, inter-racial relationships are tough but it is possible to have them. If you and he are both willing to accept the fact that you and he will be facing problem like decimation and pay the price, then go for it.
But be warned, that if you two chose to face it, remember you must also pay he consequences for that action in other words, everything comes with a price, it all comes down to are you willing to pay it?
Best of luck to I hope it works out for you –Teen Guru
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My signs point to, "let him go." Here are your reasons:
1. He is aware that people are making up excuses for two people of a different race being together, and doesn't seem to believe you over them.
2. He likes to make you feel bad by making you feel guilty of things.
3. He won't trust you on your first word of saying that you did not flirt with so and so.
I'm sorry, but this guy sounds like a overly jealous guy, but he hardly respects you, you definetly deserve better.
-TheTeenGirl
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As much as I want to help you... this is completely up to you. Balance out the pros and the cons, the love with the fighting. It sounds to me that you're in a pretty hard-headed relationship, and a lot of things are being jeopardized. Maybe he doesn't see how much this is getting to you.
I suggest you have a long talk with your boyfriend, tell him that the fact that he doesn't trust you hurts your relationship more than your love can take. See if he's willing to give up his dignity and admit he's wrong. If he doesn't... maybe you're much much better off without him there to sadden your life.
. Tracy
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Try this before breaking up with him:
Bring him out on a date show him how much you love him. Reassure him that you love him and him only. he may be uneasy because he is frightened of loosing you. If that is the case talk with him and let him know that if anything were to happen you would tell him and that you can trust him. Then prove it. think of a way to show him that he can trust you. Even if it is romantic or cheezy or anything. if that doesn't work then there is not point in trying. If he doesn't trust you enough, he needs to fix his issue. Take a break and then try again. Sometimes the second time is better than the first. Hope it works out in the end!!
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relasionships are really tougfh especially with trust because it is the most important thing in a relasionship. my bffl had a inter-racial relasionship and she didnt trust him and they just tried to avoid it and they broke up but they still act like they r going out and they fight so if you want things to go good have a 1 on 1 time with him and just put it all down.
tell me how it ends out! {and if u need anything just ask!}
luv britt
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I would just tell him that he can listen to your truth or he can listen to the others' lies.But, if he doesn't choose you,you are going to have to break up. Even though you don't want to.
If he doesn't trust you and you have to explain every little thing you say and do, well it just isn't worth the trouble.Why make yourself sick about it.If he can't trust you break up with him.
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I agree with Sherry. You should give it a little more time. Sit down with him, and tell him exactly how you feel. Honest relationships are the best ones.
If your relationship doesn't get any better pretty soon, I would consider breaking up with him. You shouldn't go out with him if you're not happy, and you feel your relationship isn't very good, you don't want to be fake. And you want to be happy, happiness is something we all need.
I hope everything works out, I really do!
Hope I helped!
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Tough situation. I dont think you should end it though. Have a serious conversation with him. Tell him that people are cruel, and just because your relationship is an interracial one, they want to break it up. Basically tell him what you told us, and tell him that you like him a lot and would be hurt if your relationship ended. Just talk to him, and I'm sorry about what people are doing to break you guys up.
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