So, like, I'm this guy. And like, I do stuff...
Chemist, musician, artist, programmer, coach, husband, dad, uncle, etc.
So yeah.
Advice-wise? There are no stupid questions, just stupid people.
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Heres my opinion on sending your questions to be "checked" first before people can answer them.
Its annoying because it takes FOREVER for your question to appear on the page. What if you need a question answered right away??
Theres got to be an easier way to have our questions looked over before sent to the site. Or maybe the people looking at them need to work a little bit FASTER. Is there anyway that can happen? (link)
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In all honesty, if you need an answer that quickly, you should probably go talk to someone, not seek help on-line. This site is NOT an instant messenger service - it is a web site, run by volunteers, paid for by someone who does not have to pay for it, but does.
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I'm 15 years old + a virgin. My best friend has had sex with her bf. My boyfriend isn't a virgin, either. I feel so left out since I've never done anything really 'sexual' with a guy. I'm so curious about it, but I don't wanna do it unless I'm totally in love and I'm ready. I really wanna know what it feels like. What should I do? I dont wanna be known as a little virgin girl for not doing it, but I've never been some1 to give in to peer pressure! (link)
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Don't let people with no respect cause you to cave in to doing something that you don't want to do. Stand up for yourself, and ignore the peer pressure. If they are so immature as to not respect your stance on sex, then that's their loss.
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Hi. I wanted to know. If my boobs are too small and I wanted to get boob pills! How could I get them if im not 18 and I dont have a credit card?
Sigened.
Flat Chested! (link)
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there is no magic pill to make your breasts larger - typically such things are falsely advertised and they can get away with it because they are "herbal" which makes them legally a food supplement, not a drug. Don't get duped by con-artists pawning crap off on the unsuspecting.
I've worked in pharmaceuticals and biotechnology long enough to spot a really bad, fake product, and the thing you mention would be one of those.
As I've stated many times, a woman's breasts contiue to grow long after the rest of her has... they'll grow well into your 20s. And having kids also gives them a boost.
And why do you think that large boobs are somehow inherenly better than small ones?
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acutally im not to young to be taking birth control of ne of that im 17 but i dont want my mom knowing because she will flip out and i want her to be able to trust me! (link)
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I won't deny you that. I just took it all in the context of what you presented in your original question. From it, there was also no way to know how old you were, what your motives are, etc... so all I can do is try to answer as generically as possible, given the rather young age of the audience of this site (wow, that's a crapload of words...)
So, yeah, I can understand that your mom might freak, and as you've already stated, you want her to trust you - the thing is to get her to trust you without having to go behind her back for such things. Yeah, not exactly an easy thing to do, but I would hope that would be your "ideal" goal.
No matter what, though, you'll likely have to talk to a doctor - maybe look for clinics in your area that can assist you?
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my mom has been really mean to me and my brothers lately and i think it is because her and my dad who are divorced are having arguements because she wants to move to a different state, what do i do!
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If you are unable to talk to your mom about this, and don't want to talk to your dad about it (which I would understand), is there another relative you could talk to, even if only to be a shoulder to lean on? If not, some other adults that are friends of the family? It might be worth trying to convince your mom to look into family councelling so she can separate the stress of divorce & arguments from it from affecting you and your brothers.
Either way, I wish you luck.
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ok well me and this girl briana are like best friends we go sumwhere together everyday and hang out...but lately she is getting annoying and i dont really wanna hang out with her anymore...do u think we hang out to much and im just gettin sick of her or what!? plez help me! (link)
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It is possible for people to get tired of one another. Take a break for a bit, hang with other people, or if the two of you hang together, add a few people to the mix - change things up, add interactions. In time, this feeling of annoyance will pass, anyway. It happens to all of us.
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Hey umm im 15 and im preg. i need to know will i get my period? (link)
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Indeed, you do not get your period while pregnant. However, your body makes up for it after the baby is born, by having a period that lasts a month or two (or three, even).
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ya guys hey its me samantha again well yep im pregnant and um ya i way to scared to tell my travis and i defently way to scared to tell anybody else cause my parents said that if i got pregnant id get kicked out of the house and id have no where to go! so what should i do...
Also one more thing is my moms getting married the 23 and i relly dont like her going to be husbad he doesnt like me doesnt listen to me and i dont know what to do...
*x*samantha*X* (link)
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Well, the most obvious thing would be to ask why you got pregnant in the first place if you already knew the consequences?
Sadly, unless there is someone you can turn to for help, you're going to have to suck it up and tell people, because they will figure it out eventually. I assume that the father of your unborn child is Travis - if you are more than a month or two along, you owe it to him to inform him of his responsility - because he is half of the reason your pregnant.
Regarding your mom's marriage, that is always a difficult situation to have. I don't know what to offer other than to hope that you and he can work our your differences over time. I wish there was some magic way to make it all easy.
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what are the side affects of birth control? and can i get it w/o telling my mom? if so how...and what is the day after pill and all that? and how can i get it? (link)
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First off - talk to a doctor...
Side effects of birth control varies form person to person - no two women will have the exact same side effects due to differences in individual body chemistry / hormone levels. Some common side effects are migraine headaches and mood swings. There are likely many more.
The "day after" pill, or RU-486, is a controvorsial matter. If you need it, you probably shouldn't be having sex in the first place. It inhibits a fertilized embryo from implanting itself on the uterine wall (or at least this is what I recall without bothering to look it up). It has other uses in treating forms of cancer.
If you are trying to get these things without your parents knowing, no offense, but that seems to indicate that you are probably too young to be on taking them in a responsible manner. Afterall, birth control is a matter of responsibility, not an excuse to not be responsible.
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tHis iS fOr tHe gUyS oUt tHeRe....iS iT oK fOr a GirL tO aSk a gUy oUt? (link)
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Yes, it is perfectly fine - at least to me it is... now, I also know some guys who would be totlaly freaked out by a girl asking them out. There is no universal "yes" or "no" to this. It really depends on the guy.
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how do you get a scholarship? Like does the college just give it to you or wut?
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typicaly, you have to apply for them, but there are some that are awarded without application. This depends on the scholarship. But it comes down to this - if you need scholarships, talk to the school's financial aid office and see what's available. There are also scholarships available outside the school from various organizations.
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what are those faces in the corner suppose 2 signify???? (link)
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Those are the ratings for the questions... a frown means the question is bad, a flat-line face is "ok", and a smile is a good question. If enough people hit a question with frowns, the question is hidden. Only ones with a smile can be featured on the main page. You can find all this and more in the help section: http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php
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My b/f wants to make out but i don't think im ready.. plus i don't know how... what if i screw up. plus he has a HUGE nose what happens if it gets in the way.. im sooo confused. plus i think i'll feel dirty after. like how could i even look at any of my cousins the same knowing i made out. they look up to me and i have always had the good girl image! AHHH! plus im only turnin 14 and my friends pressure me cuz in highschool everyones made out!and i will be made fun of if i don't know how! (link)
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Making out should not make you feel dirty. However, people seem to have "making out" turn into something more and more all the time. If you love someone, and it seems right, kiss them. There's nothing wrong with kissing, even deep kisses that last for hours... all that said, don't bow to peer pressure, all because some people like to take something personal and meaningful like intimacy, and turn it into a circus act or status symbol. Those people have no clue what love is, and won't for a very long time.
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does anybody kno how much hair grows in a week?like how many millimeters?or how much in a month?and i mean hair on your head. (link)
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hair growth is not a constant thing. Not all your hair grows at once, and stress can cause hair to grow faster. Everyone has different hair growth rates.
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hey i am a 13 year old female and i have been going out with this guy for about 6 months and we have made out and basically had dry sex, but ive always asked him if i could see his penis and he would always be too shy to show it. i was over at his house yesturday and i asked him if i could see it and he un-zippered his pants and almost brought it out. i wasnt sure that he would do that and now im worried that he might catch me by surprise again. im thinking that he would try to make me have sex with him, but i dont know what to expect, b/c he talks about it all the time, but im not sure what to do if he tried it. i mean i havent done and i think its too young...what should i do about it? (link)
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gee... maybe you shouldn't be asking to see his penis, then... In all honesty, it sounds like you've at least in part brought this upon yourself. If you aren't ready for such things, you should not play with such things.
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Ok, Well, my hamster Cocoa is acting very sick latley. I love him so much and would do and thing for him. He seems to be shaking almost and sneezing/sqeaking and i think he might even be trying to cough! He is now forming this crust around his nose and just a lil around his nose. I'm so worried about him, does any one know what sickness this could be or how i should handle this? (link)
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most rodents end up getting pneumonia - I have mice, and already lost one of them to it, and another now has it. Rodents are genetically prone to getting lung infections, which are almost always lethal. If you talk to a vet, you might be able to get treatment, as hamsters are larger than mice, so there might be more that can be done for it.
Good luck.
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well my frend.. she likes my boii frend.. but she got uss toghether.. and now she wants to breakuss up!! and even tho my boiifrend sed that hell love me 4 ever and that he wont cut me cuz of her.. im still afraid what shood i do/?? 4give my frend.. or hate her for ever
*i rate*
Xoo.HEL:P ME!! (link)
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I've never understood people who would intentionally try to break up other couples...
Stay defiant, and make sure your boyfriend knows what she's up to. Refuse to play her game - do NOT stoop to her level.
Inform your friend that you are vastly disappointed in her - don't hate her, just make sure she knows that she is making it clear that she doesn't value your friendship as much as you do, and that her acting this way is both painful and immature.
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I've been playing the drums for about 4 months, and I want to learn a song. Does anyone know a good/easy rock song I can learn? Thanks (link)
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there are some decent books on learning drum patterns... many of them are examples taken from songs. You are better off trying to play along with a CD while listening on headphones - just try to match the pieces being played - learn to listen to the bass drum patterns, the high-hat and ride cymbals, and the snare. Toms are usually used in fills, not the main pattern. Thus, once you teach yourself to dissect drum parts, you take what you've heard and translate it into what you want to play. It takes a bit of time and practice, but it does work.
I'd also recommend starting with some older rock songs - simple songs by the Kinks work really well.
"Four on the Floor" is your friend.
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Alright, I'm a Christian and last night me and my friend were talking about her dad bieng in the hospital and I told her that I would pray for him, and she said "whats the use in praying since God allready has your life planned out for you"...that totally made sence to me, I mean what is praying going to change. I believe in praying for your sins...but now I'm stuck on this one. What do you guys think?
-Zero (link)
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God gave us freewill. We have choices in our lives. Our lives are NOT planned out for us. We are given the chance to screw up, to make mistakes, to sin. This is how we learn. This is why we are also able to ask for forgiveness. God does not dictate the paths our lives take.
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I was wondering if anyone knew of a place I could get golf lessons. I live in Grapevine, TX.
Thankz! (link)
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http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&safe=off&q=golf+grapevine+texas
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