ok so my stomachs been hurting a lot lately, & idk why. could i be pregnant if i never had sex? and i never got fingered either. i know its dumb but im soo worried.
Since you have never had sex I think it's safe to say you are not pregnant so don't worry about that. :]
Chances are that you may just have a stomach bug. If ithas been hurting a while or is painful I strongly suggest you speak to your mom about it so that you can see a doctor who might be able to help with it.
Try not to panic though, you are not pregnant if you've never had sex.
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Theres a boy i liked for a long time but he has a girlfriend...i cant stop thinkin about him, do i try to forget bout him and move on ...or what????????
If he has a girlfriend then that might be your only choice. You could always wait around incase he breaks up with her but then do you really want to sit around waiting on a guy who might break up and might go out with you after? I think it'll be best to move on. May not be easy especially if you have liked this guy for a very long time but your alternative choice is to sit around and wait on something that may or may not happen for a very long time (if ever).
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Heyy.
My names Hailey. I have a problem, I like this kid in my grade.. let's call him Joey. Well, Joey is in one of my classes and he talks to me alot but I don't know if he really likes me or just thinks of me as a friend. Like, i'll be sitting alone with no one around me and he just comes over to me.. sits down.. and talks to me. I get really happy when he does that, but I found out he likes my best friend. It sucks, I know. Everytime i like someone, he likes my best friend. This has happened about five times already (within the last year). So many guys like her, it just makes me so mad. I'll admitt, im jealous.. but who wouldn't be? The worst part about it is my friend acts like she doesn't even care. They are in one clas together and she's not a slut or anything but whenever guys are all over her, she's too nice to say go away so she'll be all over that guy too.. and i'm afraid thats what happens everyday in their class, I wouldn't know cause im not there but I know they talk alot because she sits behind him. My question is, what should I do to get him to like me? And should I be mad at my best friend for not even caring? This probably sounds harsh and unfair but I've been acting really weird around her lately because I just get so mad that she gets everything she wants.. I like him so much & I can't take it when he talks about her.. it makes me extremely jealous. Am I wrong by not talking to her as much? Help please.
Hello Hailey.
I think in a small way you are being unfair on your friend. It's not her fault that all the guys seem to like her really and it's even worse that she won't stand up for herself and tell guys to back off.
You could always try help her on that part so she can stand up for herself so if he has people all over her who she doesn't want all over her she can tellthem to back off of her. It's something everyone needs to be able to do or they will forever just get stepped all over.
Jealousy is a dangerous thing and your situation is a prime example of how it can come in between two friends. I don't think any guy is worth loosing a friend over no matter how amazing that guy might seem. I know everyone says there's plenty fish in the sea but the truth is there really is a lot out there and just when you start to think you won't find anyone better, you do.
As for getting this Joey to like you - you can't force anyone to like you. I'm afraid it doesn't work that way. If it did work that way then everyone out there would be happy and with someone they really want to be with. It's just not how the heart works. If he doesn't like you in that way then it will have to be something you may just have to accept.
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There is this guy, he's older than me by maybe 10 years or more, And I really like him. We get along great and he's kind of flirty with me... Sometimes I catch him looking at me and when I look at him he smiles at me and then winks, When he talks to me he always puts his arm around me.. Or when i'm alone, he comes to me and starts up conversations. When he wants me to do something simple, he grabs my hands and talks smoothly.. I really have fallen for him and with him acting this way, I've gotten comfortable enough to act the same way around him and it's great... He's great... But the other day I overheard a conversation he was having with someone and found out that he's married... SO why is he treating me like this?? Does he like me? Or is it all in my head? I've talked to him a lot and i've gotten to know him a lot and he's never mentioned that he was married....
Oh and i'm 19, he's about 29 or 30... I've always gotten along with older people better... so it's nothing sick or weird! Don't judge me! haha jk
You're an adult so I don't think anyone has any right to judge you or who you choose to like anyway.
As for does he like you and why is he treating you this way, it might be that he is flirting with you without actually realising and is just being friendly or he might just be one of those guys who is playing the field, as they say, and seeing how far he can get with you.
I guess a good way to find out his intentions is to ask him sometime during a conversation if he has a girlfriend or anything and see what he has to say for himself. If he says no and doesn't mention his wife then it seems he is trying to hide her from you and I would conclude that the guy has ill intentions. Although it does seem strange that you have spoken to him and gotten to know him really well and he failed to mention his wife.
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Ok so this might be just a lil bit confusing and long/ sorry...Lets name my friends Jessica, Lucy, & Jeremy. Ok well, we've all been freinds for a couple of months now. But i've known Lucy for about 8 years. But Jeremy started fighting with Jessica and calling her slut & stuff like that. & then Lucy & Jessica started fighting about something & i kinda stopped talking to Jessica. But then Lucy & Jessica made up & so did Jeremy & Jessica. But then Jeremy got mad at Lucy & me for something but started talking to me again. && then i got into a fight with Jessica but am now kinda talking to her. & now Jereny started talking to Lucy again. So yea if you didnt catch up with all of that, basically we're all talking again. But how can I try to avoid all this drama without stopping being friends with any of them???
Hmm, the best answer to this that I can think of (and is what I generally do when this kind of thing happens in my circle of friends) is to not get involved. :] I usually make it clear to all the ones involved (especially when they come to me independantly saying he/she did this and that) that this is their disagreement to sort out and fix and I will not be taking sides because they you (they) are all my friends. This usually works really well but there is usually the odd one or two who say you either take their side or they won't talk to you either. :| I find this a very childish thing and generallyjust tell them fine, up to them, I'll be here when they decide they want to start talking again. Hope that helps a little. :]
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the other day when i first told him we were goin out he said he didnt care nd that he cant control what we do nd stuff like that but he still seems realli wierd
He may have just lied but then it' as he said , he can't control what you do. That may have been his way of saying he doesn't like it but there isn't anything he can do about it.
I think you may just need to give him some time to get over the whole thing. If he continues to be all over her though and it bothers you you may have to talk to her about it and see how she feels about it. If it bothers her as well then at least when you confront him about it and ask him to stop you can say you don't like it and she doesn't like it either so you both want him to stop doing that.
Hopefully it will defuse the whole thing but overall just giving him some time to get over the whole thing would be the best thing.
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if you let someone do that remote assistance thing, once you ex out of it, they cant see anything on your computer anymore right? like theres no way at all? like ive had people go on it before, but i didnt care, because it was people i trusted. but other people who go to my new school, want to.. & i just wanna make sure, that once i ex out they can never ever see whats on my computer, without me clicking & stuff & seeing them do it.
so can they or cant they?
I've only used remote assistance a few times to help a few friends out but itseems relatively safe. Provided you exit the program properly it should cut them off from your computer. The only thing I advise is you stay at your computer whilst they are in your computer so that you can keep an eye on what they are doing and what areas of your system they are accessing. This way if you think they are accesing something they shouldn't be (or doing something they shouldn't be) you can quickly cut them off.
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Okay, so I like this guy. He's really cute, but I don't know if he likes me back. I'm deciding whether or not to ask him out myself or not. But that's not the problem. The problem is that I might like my best friend's boyfriend. They just started going out not too long ago, and I really don't want to ruin anything, but I might start to have a little something for her man. I'm trying really hard not to like him, but I always did like him a tad. Well, I did when I first met him. She's the first out of our group to get herself a man so it's sort of weird. I really don't want to like him, but I do want to be as happy and my friend and her man are, which is quite an understatement if you see them. I'm really jealous of her.
Jealousy can be a very dangerous thing. Are you sure you actually like her boyfriend or is it just a matter of you wanting what she has with her guy which you, at the moment, dont? At least you are not self deluded and you do realise you are jealous and admit you want what they have, that makes things easier (especially for me, hehe).
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be happy and having that special someone by your side who makes you feel really, really special like your friend has. I envy a lot of my friends who have the perfect relationship and hope that one day I can have the same too. However, you liking this guy will probably lead to nowhere if they are both very much into each other. All you will be doing is torturing yourself with something you can't have.
But, just because you can't have him it doesn't mean you can't be happy. There's a guy out there for you as well who can make you feel happy, it's just a matter of finding that guy. This other guy who you like for example may even be that guy - you never know. :]
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Ok so for my school speech/debate class, half my grade relies on this.
since i was in basket ball, i missed debate/speech, 7th period for TWO WEEKS, and now, i have this thematic interpretation due TOMORROW. i cant believe he gave me that little time and hes very stubborn so please dontsay talk to him and tell him or anything.
my theme is greed
does anyone have ANY SCENES FROM ANY MOVIE, BOOK, SONG ETC. THAT HAS TO DO WITH GREED?
OR ANY OTHER THEME?
JUST ANYTHING!
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
OH AND ILL LOVE U FORVER!
THANK YOU SOOO MCUH!
HELP!
There are TONS of quotes on the internet regarding greed, just do a search in a search engine (yahoo, google etc) for 'Greed Quotes' and that should give you a fair amount to work with.
As for movies the only one that really comes to mind is Seven (a movie about a serial killer) which you should be able to find details about at www.imdb.com (just do a search for seven).
Sorry it's not much but was all I could think of.
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one of my friends may be on the verge of killing herself
She won't tell me what's wrong with her ... she's ignoring my calls and when she answers, she hangs up.
On myspace, she reads my messages but wont reply
she was happy at school and is all depressed now...
anything I could do to squeeze the truth outta her?
If she is ignoring you and not returning calls etc then there may not really be anything you can do.
This could just be a cry for attention but if you feel she is very serious and may do something to harm herself then I would suggest calling her house and maybe talking to her parents. Being subtle and asking them to check on her for you because she was upset and wouldn't return your calls might be all you need to say for them to check up on her for you and make sure she is ok.
Other than this all you really can do is tell her you don't want anything to happen to her because you care about her and that you will stop harassing her now but want her to know you are there for her when she decides to talk to you again. If it is just a phase she is going through she will get back to you in her own time. As I said though, if you truly fear that she may be self destructive then you should contact someone who can intervene and physically be there to make sure she is ok.
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this is the link to my dream prom dress
http://www.jovaniprom.com/detail.php?col=prom&seq=28
I want it bad but i live in the middle of nowhere so there is no place i can go to a jovani store. how do i find the price on this dress? how do i get hold of somebody to talk to them about it?
Wow, a very nice dress. :]
I had a look at the web site and I was unable to find any kind of contact number or address for customer services (very poor service there).
You may have already tried this but I'll post anyway... Pop over to the following URL:
http://www.jovaniprom.com/wheretobuy.php?s1=10473220&s2=
From there under the 'Search by ZIP Code' box enter in your ZIP code (or use the 'Search by State' box and find the state you're in and select it) then click on the GO button to the right. This should bring up a list of stores near you. Best bet is to call them and let them know what you are after and if they are able to quote you a price and possibly deliver and such. Make a note of the details of the dress as you may need them when calling (such as the style code which is 10473220) and good luck, I hope you manage to get hold of that dress. :]
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does it usually maek a guy horny. if i move my hips around on him over and over. i did that and i was just wondering. thankss
also what makes guys horny> this is just wondering.like clothe wise, acting wise
Making a guy horny depending on what you are wearing or how you are acting is different for each guy so that's not really something I can give you an answer for, especially since what some guys find very hot (clothes wise) others can find it makes horny. It really does very much depend on the guy.
Grinding can make a guy horny, yes. But as I said above it really does depend on the guy in question becuase it doesn't have the same effect with all guys. Also, for some guys it may only really make them horny if they actually like the girl.
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Hey im 13 and a boy i really want to have sex
so much and alot of kids at school have hade sex already and i want to.wut do i do?
also with this how can i make sure nobody sees us if we do have sex?
where can i have sex?
helm plz im a beginer plz help
You want to have sex because everyone in your school already has? :/ If everyone in your school were to jump off the side of a cliff would you also want to, just because they did it?
If you are coming on here to learn about sex then I'm afraid you just are not ready (as well as your school not doing their job in teaching you). Either way I won't encourage underage sex or you hooking up with some girl just so you can experience sex at her expense.
Sorry.
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15/f
I'm sexually active, so I think it would be a good idea for me to start going to the gynecologist. The thing is, my mom won't let me go on birth control because of the possibilities of blood clots when I get older, and it would be a huge mistake if I told her I'm sexually active. How could I get her to let me go to the gyno? I really think it would be in my best interest, and good for my health. Also, I have a regular period, so I can't use that as an excuse, and she knows I do. However, I do have a very long period, (8-10 days) but she does too so it's just hereditary to her. I also tend to get horrible cramps, that make me not able/not want to move. I really don't know how to get her to let me go. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.
I can't really tell you how to lie (cause that would just be immoral) but if you do have really bad cramps that might be reason enough if you explain that to your mom.
I will point out that although being on the pill makes it easier when sexually active (you don't have to worry about getting pregnant) the pill won't protect you from STD's. So being on the pill or not, it's still a good idea to use proper protection. Everyone thinks it won't happen to them, or their safe until further down the line find out because of one little mistake they won't live to a ripe old age. It's not really worth it.
I apologise if I sound like I am giving you a lecture, that's not my intention. I say everything I have said from experience and what I have seen happen to close friends.
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well me nd my gf hav ben goin out for 4 days at around 5 today, but her x is my best friend nd he seems realli quiet when im with my gf which is not like him, but i dont know how to act around her with him around coz hes all over her,
they were only goin out for 4 days but,
a while ago way after they broke up nd b4 we were goin out 1 of mi mates told mi best mate that he asked mi on msn if i liked her nd i didnt answer
so when they got back to the park mi best mate had the sh*ts becoz of the question....
i dunno wat to do can u plz help?
13/m
Hmm, a tense situation indeed. The first mistake might have been going out with a best friends ex girlfriend as it can always cause problems.
You mentioned that when you are with her and your best friend is there he is always all over her. This would just be unacceptable behaviour from your best friend regardless how much he may think you are in the wrong for going out with his ex.
You will have to talk this out with your best friend and try and resolve the situation and find out what is going on in his head. If he doesn't mind you going out with her then tell him that you don't like him all over her - that's just behaviour that I find unacceptable.
As for your girlfriend, if she had her ex all over her (while she is supposed to be your girlfriend) why didn't she tell him to back off. I know how some can be afraid to say something but it's something every girl needs to be able to do especially with the amount of weirdos out there nowadays. On the other hand if she let it happen because she liked it then you may want to ask yourself is this really the kind of girl you want to be going out with (who goes out with you and likes having other guys all over her).
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This particular guy in in a band and very good friends of my sibling. We have been getting close. People say he is really crazy and I have seen it to. He asked me one day if I was in the army. because I had a tank booty. What is a tank booty? And should I be getting involved with someone he is suppose to psychotic when it comes to women. By the way I can't help it if I like this kid.
I can't say I understand the tank booty statement, I use slang but I'm guessing there's a difference with slang where you are and where I am but I think by a tank booty he was probably referring to how well toned your back side is. Not sure on this though but it hardly seems the kind of thing to say to charm a woman. :/
As for getting involved with someone who might be a psychotic with women, I think the best thing to do would be to get to know him first as well as you can before taking the plunge. You did say you have seen him crazy and although I have no idea what you refer to here I'll say that if you have any doubts about this guy and in getting involved with him then go with your gut instincts.
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I'm a shy person but sometimes I'm not. If that makes sense. Well I never really showed affection with friends, no hugs or whatever. But in a relationship, I felt like it was okay.
So i have a boyfriend.
I hang out with my friend and my ex. I hug them, poke them, blah blah get into their face to annoy them. And it feels wrong because I usually don't get that close to someone.
Sometimes people say I'm cheating on my boyfriend when I'm hugging other guys.
Does it really seem like.. I am ? Because my boyfriend goes home early, so I stay to hang out with my other friends too... But if he were to stay, does hugging and messing around [not sexually] with other guys.. bad?
I personally don’t think just hugging someone or having a laugh with someone by messing about (poking etc) is a bad thing.
To me cheating is making out or sleeping with someone else - something you'd only do with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't even consider a kiss on the cheek to be cheating. It's just what some people do. All people are all different when it comes to what counts as cheating. Even when you are single there's nothing wrong in my opinion to showing the kind of affection you've mentioned. They are your friends, after all. I think the only thing that could be a problem is if one of them misinterprets your intentions and thinks you are flirting with them (which is probably what people who say it's cheating may think) but as long as your friends know it means nothing it shouldn't be a problem at all.
I meet a lot of my friends when I go out and the close friends I have I always hug, I always have done when I was single and when I was with a girlfriend and she knew this and understood this. It's the same when I meet friends who gave me a quick kiss on the cheek to say goodbye. I knew it was nothing but a kiss goodbye from a friend and their boyfriends knew this as well and they didn't mind it. It really is all down to how people around you interpret things.
Overall though (sorry for such a long response) I don't think hugging or just generally having fun when you’re out with friends can ever be cheating. As I said, to me cheating is sleeping with or making out (or anything else sexual) with someone who isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend.
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My partner and I would like to be safe before having sex in the near future, so we both agreed to get tested for STDs. If I go to planned parenthood, how much will it cost? How do they do the testing (by blood, salavia, etc)? Do they test for all STDs out there or do you have to ask to get tested for a specific STD?
Hello.
To be honest the best thing to do is call the place where you want to get yourself tested and ask them how much it will cost - as it may vary place to place. As for what is involved, what they do the testing for and such - this is also best discussed with them on the phone.
The reason I say to do this over the telephone is because that way you can find out all the details you want before having to go there although I can say if you have only ever done oral you may not have all that much to be afraid of.
If I can I will try and find out more information for you from a few friends who have been to these facilities before but as I said - they may vary from area to area so it may just be a matter of you contacting where you will be going to talk to them about all the details.
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16/f Sorry about this being super long!
Ok..so...I want a vibrator really bad. I've been masturbating with my fingers for the past 2 years. I could easily order one on the internet because I have my own debited credit card, but because of my mom, me owning one would be very risky.
I actually got a mini-massager online(which is just a regular everyday massager) a few months ago and had it for about 2 short days...but my mom is so sneaky she came into my room, found the box and order form in my trash which said "massager" and she jokingly confronted me about it. I made up a lame excuse that i was giving it to my friend for her birthday as a gag gift. Then, she said "Oh haha I thought you were using it to masturbate or something HAHA!" and then, to make it seem more convinving, I told her "EW! i would never do that! now i'm not going to give it to my friend because thats gross and she'll think i'm weird". So, my mom decided she wanted it. And, well, I had to give it to her, just to backup my whole lie. (Actually, she's smart, and she might have had a hunch i was lying and was testing me...) It's not that i think my mom would care (she's a OBGYN and I think she's used to this kind of stuff)...it's just SO embarrassing and I don't want her knowing I masturbate. It would just be too weird if she knew. And the way she acted about it, like how she laughed, made me feel like a fool.
Anyway, she's VERY nosy and comes into my room a lot and looks through my stuff like drawers, so it would be hard for me to hide a vibrator anywhere.
So, basically, I was wondering what I could do about this issue. I'm not going to have a mother/daughter talk with her about it and I never want to, so please don't suggest that. Where are good places to hide things? What are other objects that vibrate that won't seem too obvious? I have one of those big back massage things, but it's too loud. I also run the risk of my brothers hearing me or something.
Just plain advice about this would be nice too. Thanks!
Hmm, I would firstly have to agree with your assessment that she may have been trying to test you. Moms can be very smart even when they make it out that their not.
Since talking to your mom is out of the question I can say this - you are 16 and chances are your mom may already know that you masturbate. Truth of the matter is almost all teens do it be it guys or girls. Some are just more afraid to admit it than others. Saying that I can understand you not wanting your mom to know - I'd feel exactly the same way - it would seem weird, to say the least.
I did a little research for you and there are a lot of vibrators you can get hold of that are very discreet as well as very easy to conceal. I didn't post links to any of these products as you can be anywhere in the world and these were UK based companies. A number of vibrators are designed to fit neatly and easily into anything the size of a small handbag and look extremely discreet so anyone looking or glancing at it may not even realise what it actually is. Something like this may be the ideal choice and with it being so discreet as well as small it may be a lot easier for you to hide on your person or even somewhere in your room where there is no chance your mom would think to look.
A really good hiding place I used to have (and still have) is a book. Explaining the method to make it would be very long but it's basicly a hardback book which has been hollowed out about quarter of the way into the book where you are able to hide small items (depending on the size of the book).
One of my friends had the same problem as yourself and had requested to send the item she ordered to me and I forward it to her afterwards from where I live as it would be less suspicious that way and the package wouldn't be marked all on the outside by a sex aid suppliers name. Maybe you can do the same if you have a very close friend who you can talk about this stuff unless ordering the items to your own home is not a problem.
Sorry I can't be much more help than this.
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14/m
Ok, the other day my friend(15/f)told me that she likes me. But she has a boyfried, and she doesn't know what to do...Do you have any ideas on what I should do, 'cause I like her to and I don't want to feel like I'm caught in some sort of love triangle...
But she really likes me and her boyfried and doesn't know what to do...thanks in advance
Generally if I like someone who has a boyfriend I just keep it to myself and eventually it becomes nothing - just a passing phase (like a crush).
Technically the ball is in her court so the next move is hers in deciding what (or who in this case) she wants to be with. So there really isn't anything you can do other than tell her to decide what she wants and to let you know when she's decided becuase it isn't fair on you for her to tell you something like this while she is already dating someone.
Just bare in mind that if she is doing this now and eventually decides she wants to be with you - what's there to stop her from doing the exact same thing with you with the next friend that comes along.
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