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I'm a shy person but sometimes I'm not. If that makes sense. Well I never really showed affection with friends, no hugs or whatever. But in a relationship, I felt like it was okay.
So i have a boyfriend.
I hang out with my friend and my ex. I hug them, poke them, blah blah get into their face to annoy them. And it feels wrong because I usually don't get that close to someone.
Sometimes people say I'm cheating on my boyfriend when I'm hugging other guys.
Does it really seem like.. I am ? Because my boyfriend goes home early, so I stay to hang out with my other friends too... But if he were to stay, does hugging and messing around [not sexually] with other guys.. bad?
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I don't think you should listen to other people. Let them say what they want to say. Don't worry about it, unless it gets really bad, like they're saying you're sleeping with your guyfriends or something. It shouldn't be bad. And if he's a little touchy that you're messing around with other guys, that's natural. It's instinctive for boyfriends to be a bit protective. But if he thinks your cheating on him, then maybe he doesn't trust you enough and you should have a talk with that boy.
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I personally don’t think just hugging someone or having a laugh with someone by messing about (poking etc) is a bad thing.
To me cheating is making out or sleeping with someone else - something you'd only do with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't even consider a kiss on the cheek to be cheating. It's just what some people do. All people are all different when it comes to what counts as cheating. Even when you are single there's nothing wrong in my opinion to showing the kind of affection you've mentioned. They are your friends, after all. I think the only thing that could be a problem is if one of them misinterprets your intentions and thinks you are flirting with them (which is probably what people who say it's cheating may think) but as long as your friends know it means nothing it shouldn't be a problem at all.
I meet a lot of my friends when I go out and the close friends I have I always hug, I always have done when I was single and when I was with a girlfriend and she knew this and understood this. It's the same when I meet friends who gave me a quick kiss on the cheek to say goodbye. I knew it was nothing but a kiss goodbye from a friend and their boyfriends knew this as well and they didn't mind it. It really is all down to how people around you interpret things.
Overall though (sorry for such a long response) I don't think hugging or just generally having fun when you’re out with friends can ever be cheating. As I said, to me cheating is sleeping with or making out (or anything else sexual) with someone who isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend.
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No, there only your friends. And hugging is a friendly gesture. I hug my friends all the time and they're guys and girls, so your not cheating on your boyfriend. Your only playing around with them. It probably feels wrong because you feel as if you may be cheating on your boyfriend, but your not. So you have nothing to worry about.
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