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should i choose love or family
my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and my boyfriend is 16 years old and i really really like him and i think i even may be in love the thing is even though we clearly love each other it's just that my family on my dad's side is really racist and they found out about the fact that iam dating roosevelt and the thing is he's black and iam white please don't give me any more lectures about only dating people in my own race i don't think i can take another lecture on interracial dating iam on a verge of a nervous breakdown right now so i really need your help.
I've already broken up with him 3 times and i don't think neither of us can take another breakup becouse yesterday i was actually crying on his shoulder at school so we started going back out again but i really don't know what to do please help me.
p.s racist people suck.
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i think that you guys hurt enough over not being accepted. i don't think you should have to suffer anymore. if you're parents really care about you they should love you no matter what. since they don't seem to, you are 18 anyway so you don't need their permission. if you truly love each other than that should be enough. there are always going to be people who will give you a hard time but i think you guys shouldn't break up again beacuse of it. nothing can break up true love unless you let it so don't! ride out the waves together. love can conquer anything. hang in there and having each other will make it better. please don't give up!
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There are always going to be biasts, homophobes, and racist no matter where you go. The best thing for you to do is this right now.
Your family is going to have to understand that racism is stupid and pointless. People are people and that is that. They need to let you go out with whoever you want and they shouldn't limit your choice with race. Tell them that if they can't accept the fact that you're dating with another guy from another race, they're going to have to deal with it. Tell them that you're not going to be talking about him or bringing him to your house often and that if they don't like it, they should ignore it because you're not shoving it in their face.
IF that doesn't work, keep going out with this guy. If people let racism break up their relationships, no relationship in the world will work. You don't have to inform your family that you're going out with him. Meanwhile, try to persuade them with the fact that racism needs to be gone. If all else fails, then..well, ask someone else for plan B
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i know what you mean about racist people. the best thing to do if ignor them. say something about how you dont live to please them ;you live to please yourself. give him a lecture on how racisim isnt right. i have a black sister ;shes my half ;and i know how she feels. kids in my grade are black and the white kids in my school use the word Nig. alot. thats when you say that color is color. like age is age etc. tell him how this makes you feel. tell him you dont wanna hear it anymore. and you know youve found the one. and your going to love him even if you dont have his blessing.
hope i helped.
xo britnee.
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