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There is this guy, he's older than me by maybe 10 years or more, And I really like him. We get along great and he's kind of flirty with me... Sometimes I catch him looking at me and when I look at him he smiles at me and then winks, When he talks to me he always puts his arm around me.. Or when i'm alone, he comes to me and starts up conversations. When he wants me to do something simple, he grabs my hands and talks smoothly.. I really have fallen for him and with him acting this way, I've gotten comfortable enough to act the same way around him and it's great... He's great... But the other day I overheard a conversation he was having with someone and found out that he's married... SO why is he treating me like this?? Does he like me? Or is it all in my head? I've talked to him a lot and i've gotten to know him a lot and he's never mentioned that he was married....
Oh and i'm 19, he's about 29 or 30... I've always gotten along with older people better... so it's nothing sick or weird! Don't judge me! haha jk
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a lot of people are married and have affiars, its not completely out of the ordinary but i dont think thats the case. i think that he sees you as a younger sister or cousin, and he was being affectionate, but not flirtatious propously. i think that he loves to have you around, but just as a friend or a little sister. i dont think that he sees you in a romantic way.
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i know you might not want to hear it but its because you are still young,younger than him...he knows that he has that advantage over you because you are nieve.he whispers sweet nothings in your ear,trys to pull you in closer and closer until he gets what he wants.do not fall for it.dont tell him you know,turn his own game against him.do not physically do anything with him,as much as you may think you like him,you need to show him that he cant always get what he wants.do it for yourself,its only mind over matter.jokes on him...
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There are a lot of people that are just plain friendly, touchy, and nice. I'm a guy, and I have a neighbor who does the same thing (he is married also). But he's just doing it in a really friendly way, not a gay way or whatever. I guess he doesn't flash me smiles, but he's always putting his arm around me, I just see him as a friend. If he only really acts like this around you, it could mean he likes you, but it could be kind of embarrassing if you confront him about it. But he could like you and want to have an affair or something too. That would be a moral decision for you to make. Maybe try dropping hints sometime, like asking him if he would like to go out to eat sometime with his wife and you. Or see if he's wearing a ring. Try and find him in a place that he wouldn't normally see you and see if he's wearing his wedding ring. If he takes it off to see you, that probably means he wants something more.
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You're an adult so I don't think anyone has any right to judge you or who you choose to like anyway.
As for does he like you and why is he treating you this way, it might be that he is flirting with you without actually realising and is just being friendly or he might just be one of those guys who is playing the field, as they say, and seeing how far he can get with you.
I guess a good way to find out his intentions is to ask him sometime during a conversation if he has a girlfriend or anything and see what he has to say for himself. If he says no and doesn't mention his wife then it seems he is trying to hide her from you and I would conclude that the guy has ill intentions. Although it does seem strange that you have spoken to him and gotten to know him really well and he failed to mention his wife.
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