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hey, well my boyfreind sorta gets into alot of trouble in school and such. so his parents just kicked him out of his own home. so now hes living with his grandma. but before he left to go to his grandmas his parents took his cell phone. his grandma also doesnt have a computer .. so that means no AIM. so basically now the only time i see him is in school. he metioned to me that his grandma doesnt like him using her phone so theres really no way of communicating. this makes me quite upset and i dont know what to do. please help. cait♥ (link)
hun i Had the same problem and if you love him that much , if you are truley in love stay with him, but if it was me i would get out of the realationship if he wanted to talk to you he wouldnt have been doing all that stuff to get kicked out!
im sorry if i offended you but just advice! =]
Good luck!


I'm having a hard time talking my G/F into letting me GO DOWN on her. She always tells me that she is feeling weird every time I get close to actually start to try oral on her. I don't push her in any way and I just end up using my finger instead. She doesn't mind giving me HEAD and I really want to do the same for her. She finally said that she is willing to atleast try to see what it feels like and the next time we are alone it would be ok for me to use my mouth on her.

My question is ......... since I never actually WENT DOWN on a girl yet and don't want to do anything that she won't enjoy could you offer any advice on what I should be doing to make her feel good ...... also should I use my fingers at all .....If you feel uncomfortable answering this , do you know any sites where I could find info on what to do.

Thank ,
Male 15 years old (link)
well i dont know because ive never gave oral to a girl, that would be wierd. if i were you i would watch porn. sorry if thats a bad answer, but i guess if your watching um, that, then you can see what the people are doin


What are foods that make your boobs grow?
Do you know any?!
i know this sounds weird but...ive heard twinkies go straight to your boobs
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i'm sorry to say this but if you are the type that has to be skinny thats gonna have to change if you want boobs cause boobs are mostly fat. all you have to do is just food FAT FOOD will work really well GOODLUCK !!


i hope this helps


Does anyone know if there's such a thing as a bra that makes your boobs look smaller? If so, do you know if it's possible for me to buy it in the NYC area, and also the price range that they cost? Thanks in advance..xox (link)
Sports bras make your boobs look smaller.

Just go to a place that sells them and find your size, & your boobs will deffinitely look smaller.

Good luck, take care.

If you have any further questions, just ask.


When I erturn from away on AIM, sometimes I get this message that says that my screename has been signed on in 2 different locations. I am worried that someone has my password and is going on to my s/n. When I go to change my password I have to answer this question that says: Who is your favorite singer. And I totally forget what I put down! Anyone know how else I can change my password? (link)
When you get that IM if you respond to it by typing the number "1" it will sign the other person off who is on your screen name.

But that is kind of scary you know. Because they could go on your screen name when you're not home and then they could start IMing your friends & that will start a whole bunch of drama.

I would guess that you should make a new screen name. In your new one, make the password really hard to uncode. If you have an easy password like "fishsticks" someone could un-code that. So try a good password like "got823m83i12lK" If you wrote it down, you wouldn't forget it.

Best of luck, take care.

If you have any further questions or concerns, my inbox is free.


do i have to worry if my teen is emo--he quit swim team --does not like coach --"different"--don't "know him anymore"---artistic --freshman in large public high school--decent student --oldest child in family of 3 children, mom and dad (link)
no don't be worried all teens go through a phase just support him and let him know it's ok if he's emo unless he cuts if he cuts then just talk to him but anyways he will really be happy if you let him be emo and don't make fun of the whole emo thing cause if you tell him you have a prob and dom't want him to be then he will hate you GOODLUCK !!


i hope this helps


i've been really moody about the past month or 2. does that make me bi-polar? what is bi-polar?
what is a sign of my moodyness?
help
thx in advance (link)
your not bi polor my sister is it's ok if your moody teenagers and sometimes adults get stresed out so it causes us to be moody bi polar is when you get from super happy then all the sudden you get really mad and you could be super happy then get sad it's like your feelings change instantly my sister has bi polar she takes pillz for if you think you could have it tell your doctor he/she could help and being moody could be that your depressed i don't know but i think that you should ask your doctor about this he/she could really help GOODLUCK !!


i hope this helps



how do you burn cds? i have the blank cds and my comp. can do it. i need it step by step please

when you put the songs on the cd is it free?

can you go online and type a song in you like and put it on the cd?

im soo confused. ill rate PLEASE helpp (link)
if you have itunes, this is how you do it. for itunes its free. make a PLAYLIST, and put all the songs you want. then in the upper corner, there is a circle that says burn disc. it takes like 6-7 minutes. it you DONT have itunes, i would recomeend it because its amazing


what should i do for my 16th birthday this friday?!! :]
i dont want to have a party but i want to go out..but where! i have to go out to dinner with my family..and i cant drive yet but any ideas?
thanks!! (link)
i think bowling would be nice. if your not into that, go to like an amusement park.



Ok so I have this splash party thing at the end of the year its on june 5th. But I get my period on the 2nd day of every month and lasts about a week. What should I do? I dont use tampons yet so how could I ever swim? What will I tell people if they don't see me swimming? Please help!
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you should just use tampons. theyre realllly easy. if you want help with them, leave me your im in my inbox and i'll give you first time help :)


how do you burn cds? i have the blank cds and my comp. can do it. i need it step by step please

when you put the songs on the cd is it free?

can you go online and type a song in you like and put it on the cd?

im soo confused. ill rate PLEASE helpp (link)
You have to have a program to download songs with.. I use Limewire. http://www.limewire.com/english/content/download.shtml Click "Get Basic". They are free songs, but it's illegal to download without paying (yes, a lot of people do it). When you have the songs you want, you go to Windows Media Player. Click Library. On the right side of the screen, there is a box that says "Now Playing List" with an arrow beside it. Click the arrow. Then click "Burn list". Drag the songs you want (located in the middle) into that box underneath where it says burn list. Then near the top of the screen where it says Now Playing, Library, etc. Click Burn. Insert the disc. Then click start burn. :)


my bestfriends parents are mean to her..they dont hit her but they call her names and stuff..she called me crying hard and i know she cant take it! and i need to know how to help her..any ideas??


5S FOR ANYTHING SINCE THIS IS URGENT!! (link)
Tell her to talk to a guidance councelor. They will keep everything private, unless it's a big enough issue that they have to tell someone. No one will find out that she had to talk to the councelor, so has no need to be embarresed whatsoever.

You could always tell your parents about the situation or another responsible adult, and see what their opinion is.

Make sure you tell someone, because even though it's not physical abuse, it's still verbal abuse, and sometimes words hurt more then anything else.

Just be aware that her parents might have to have some counceling to stop themselves from verbally abusing their child.

It's nice to know you care about your friend. That shows your a true friend.

Any other further questions, just send to my inbox.

Best of luck to you and your friend, take care.

Just comfort your friend and hopefully everything will turn out good.

~ Denise ~


ok wat it ddr and can you tell me a website to do it or watever because i look at all the fitness questions and peole are like oh my god do ddr and i have no clue wat that is

i rate 5s (link)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dance_Dance_Revolution

I researched a little for you! I'm having trouble explaining it so just read that article and it will have everything you need!

If you want to purchase it, you need to either have Play Station or X-box, or Gamecube if you want the Mario version of it. If you have any of these game systems & you're still confused on what DDR is then just go to a video game store & ask someone who works there. It's really good if you want to lose weight. "It's easy to learn but almost impossible to master." I got that line off a website.

Hope I helped..

Any further questions, just ask.

~ Denise ~


well i want to lose weight on my legs thighs especially and i want to do it quickly any ideas please help. my self esteem is lowering as we speak because people say im fat and i know i am but its killing me inside and i need help with losing the weight exercizing or i might just not eat. ill rate 5's. (link)
Stay active!
Here's a list of things I do in order to keep in shape and burn calories!

- DDR (Dance Dance Revolution)
- 300 sit ups or crunches a day.
- Run/jog around your block 2 times a day.
- Run on a tredmill for 1-2 hours.
- Play sports such as soccer, track etc.
- Play basketball outside.
- Jump rope.

That's what I do in a normal day. I know that's a lot of excersizing, so start off by doing a little bit each day & work your way up to being VERY active.

You won't see any results unless you change your diet. DON'T start an eating disorder, because it will mess your life up, and you'll feel even worse then you do right now. Trust me! You will regret it. Just eat smaller portions of food. Cut out the candy, fats, oils, sweets and soda! It's going to be hard but trust me, if you don't eat the bad stuff, you'll see yourself losing weight way faster. Eat lots of fruits and veggies. And eat salads alot because they are soo good for you!

A good meal plan is to have for breakfast, a piece of fruit and a granola bar. For lunch, a salad with pieces of chicken or steak in it. And for dinner to have a different kind of salad and maybe but steak in it this time, and A TINY portion of some LOW FAT pasta with NO butter. Be creative. For example, celery sticks are really good for you and have no calories at all! But if you didn't like celery sticks, you could put a little bit of low fat peanut butter so they would taste better. So find healthy foods, and mix them together so you can enjoy them!! It's not hard at all. Don't forget to have snacks between each meal!

Just remember, get a lot of protein and carbohydrates (but not too much) and eat smaller portions then you did before. But remember, if you eat too much, it will be harder to burn the calories off. So eat as much as you can burn off.

Drink TONS of water! Water gets your metabolism going and you will lose weight faster. Water is also filling so you won't eat as much. So instead of the Coke and Sprite etc, drink 8-10 glasses of water instead.

It's healthy to lose 1-2 pounds a week so if you're losing 4 pounds a week, then it's not a healthy diet. You have to be patient. You may not see results for awhile. But if you're doing everything right, you are going to eventually see results. It may take a little bit, but don't quit because after 2 days of excersizing and eating right you don't see yourself getting any skinnier.

If you have any more questions or concerns, be sure to contact me.

- Denise -


i'm sooo bored can anyone give me ideas what to do instead of watching TV cause mine is broken =( so what should i do i'm soooo bored... (link)
There's a ton of things you could do.

- Draw pictures.
- Do homework.
- Get ahead & start studying for tests.
- Play games on addictinggames.com
- Shop online.
- Paint your nails.
- Give yourself a makeover.
- Write a poem.
- Make a short story.
- Play video games.
- Invite a friend over.
- Invite a cousin over.
- Go outside.
- Listen to music.
- Burn a cd.
- Read.
- Paint a picture.
- Play games online.
- Make a new profile online.
- Talk to your friends on AIM.

Those are just a few that I came up with. If you need more just ask. :)


When i go out and ive got cool clothes on, ive taken time on my hair and a bit extra makeup on, i usually get tons of attention from guys and i feel so happy, but then the next day i go to school - school uniform on, messy hair and a little less makeup and i get called a munter!
It confuses me, but also i get so annoyed cos i feel that i cant prove to the guys at school that boys do like me and i can look hot.
Is there any way of looking cool and sexy in my school uniform?
And being able to make my hair and makeup glam in 10 minutes?
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Well, you can't do anything that glamourous to your hair/make-up in 10 minutes, but there's still lots of things you can do.

I would suggest wearing your hair up. When your hair is up & not hanging over your face, it just looks alot better. I think you should put your hair up in a messy bun, with strands of hair hanging out. It comes out really cute!

Here's a picture of it.. http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://i.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/style/org/articles/hair_you/0905bun.jpg&imgrefurl=http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/style/features/articles/0,,284410_675759-4,00.html&h=215&w=180&sz=12&tbnid=KjhYov5bhoQJRM:&tbnh=101&tbnw=84&hl=en&start=3&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dmessy%2Bbun%26svnum%3D10%26hl%3Den%26lr%3D%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official_s%26sa%3DG

Low pig tails are really cute too. But if you make them too high, you'll look like a little kid so make sure they are low.

Also, mix up your hair color. If you're allowed to, get highlights in your hair. If you have brown hair get blondish highlights, and if you have blonde hair get some light brown highlights. It will bring attention to you because your hair is different.

Also if you have straight hair, scrunch it at night after you come out of the shower, or use a curling iron. If you have curly hair, straighten it before you go to bed. Curl it or straighten it the night before because you only have 10 minutes!

For makeup..
If you're just starting out to use make up you don't want to put to much on. Especially since you're only going to school and not to some party, you don't want to over do it. Get some good lip gloss. But be aware that lip gloss comes off a lot so bring it to school if you need to re-apply it. I think some eyeliner would be cute, if you have dark hair use black eyeliner, and if you have blonde hair use brown eyeliner or something light. I use covergirl for the brand, and in my opinon it comes on great! You should also try a little mascara. You could find some good brands at CVS, but if you don't wear mascara a lot, you could always ask someone what some good brands are. I would give you some good brands, but it depends on your preference and how much you want to spend. If you want your eyes wider or more open, you could always curl your eyelashes and it makes them look bigger. You could occasionally try some eye shadow, but try to pick a light color like a really light pink, so it isn't so noticeable. Just make sure you don't over do it. Don't cake on all the make up. Guys don't care if a little make up is on, but it looks really gross when it's all piled on.

If you don't know how to apply something just type it in on google and there will be good websites.

Hope I helped, take care.

Sorry for the long response but I get soo into this kinda stuff and I start getting carried away. Haha. =)

If you need to ask any more questions, my inbox is free.

- Denise -


Is making out with another guy cheating????????? (link)
Yeah, of course it is. Any type of kissing/sexual contact with another guy is totally cheating!!

A way to know if you're cheating or not is to ask yourself "if he _____ with another girl, would I be angry?" If you said yes then it would be classified as cheating.


i know this is random but ill rate .. how come in "RESPECT" by aretha franklin, she goes " r - e - s - p - e c - t, take out the t - c - p." why does she say take out the tcp? what does it mean? lol thanks1 (link)
No, hunny you have the line wrong.

The line is NOT "take out the TPC"..

The real line goes.. "Take care, TCB"

Look up the lyrics if you don't believe me..
http://www.lyricsdepot.com/aretha-franklin/respect.html

Haha, well I hope that answered your question.

Take care,
And if you need further help, my inbox is open.


i have about just-past-shoulder-length hair and a side bang. i am really tired of wearing it down all the time. i need some good hair styles. can u help?? i dont mind trying new things so just tell me some cute, possible, and kind easy things to do with my hair, please =]
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Here's some cute styles if you don't want your hair down..

1. Ponytail.
2. Low pig-tails.
3. Corn rows.
4. French braids.
5. One braid.
6. Bun.
7. Messy bun with strands hanging out.
8. A half-ponytail.

And if you want to wear your hair down sometimes but want a different style, then if you have curly hair, straighten it, and if you have straight hair, then scrunch it or use a curling iron to curl it.

If you don't know what something is or don't know how to do 1 of the styles, my inbox is free. =)

- Denise -


i have just started using tampons and at work i felt something (im 15) i went to the loo and i was leaking but i had only had it in for 3 hours im using normal type do i need to have a higher absorbancy or is it that i didnt put in in high enough?? (link)
Well, it could be either one.

You could have inserted the tampon in wrong and that could be the reason why you leaked. Read the back of the tampon box again and CAREFULLY follow the directions.

Or maybe it's because you have a really heavy flow, and you need more absorbancy than normal.

I would try getting a higher absorbancy if you think you're flow is heavy enough, and see if you have the same leakage problem.




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