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"Luckily, there's a very simple and easy way to unblock all of the people who were blocked: Once you are logged into your Myspace account, click on "Account Settings." You should see and click on "Blocked Users." On the right of each blocked user there is an "Unblock User" option, click it. And there you go. :)"

I tried to do that and there's no Blocked Users thing under Account Settings. Is there any other way? I use MySpace Australia, is that any different?

*Go to Account Settings
*Look for "Block users (view list)"

http://profileedit.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=accountSettings.blockedUsers

There is an option to delete blocked users. It's the same for every version of MySpace. You can't not have an unblock option!

okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do

If you're asking what you should do, then basically, you aren't 100% ready. You might think you are, but I bet there are so many factors you haven't even thought about. Yes, you probably know about pregnancy and hopefully about STI's and STD's etc, but there are the emotional sides to it too. Not to mention you aren't even of legal age to be doing it.
You're only 13, almost 14. So tell me - what on Earth is the rush to get yourself into something so big? If you love your boyfriend and you think he's "the one", then why can't you just wait?
So many people lose their virginity because they THINK it's right at the time. Only to find later on, they regret it so much for different reasons. Don't fall in to that trap.
It's not all fun and games. Remember that.

So you think its fine to shave your pubic hair off? Because Im a little freaked out that guys will get weirded out by it...Do they?

If you want to shave it, then shave it. Guys won't be weirded out by it because it's your choice what you do with it. In fact, most probably like it trimmed/hairless because it's tidier and.. doesn't get in the way.
but yeah.. your choice all the way.

if i had a foundation brush and washed it .. are the bristles gonna fall out? I DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN

another is: how do i apply foundation using the foundation brush, do i put the foundation ON the brush first, or put soe foundation on my hand then just pat the brush on it then apply?

thanks

1. No. You are meant to wash them anyway. You can buy cleaner if you look around for it and have the money. If not, gently soak it in warm water. You can even apply a little bit of shampoo. Just don't forget to rinse.
Don't wash it in hot water, because it can weaken the bristles... and then yes, they could fall out :P

2. The best way is to apply it is to put it on your hand and gently dab it with the brush. Don't put the brush straight into the foundation container because you will use way too much and waste a lot. Then blend good. :)
Do a Google search on how to apply foundation properly if you don't know how to.

13 yr old
female

like i think guyz are intimadated by me cause im pretty and nice and fun. Like, i know tons of guyz who like me (or show signs that they do) and then neva ask me out. I like this guy and me and him became really close as friends and i heard him talkin about taking me to the dance and then he neva asked me to the dance and he didnt ask me to dance at the dance! But, when i saw him at the dance he was all depressed and stared out the window the WHOLE time! So, idk what to do and yah. SO how do i get guyz not to be imtimadated by me and how do i get this guy to ask me out cause i am SOO not asking him out! But one more question: Should the guy or the girl always make the first move? and should the guy always ask out the girl?
PLEASE ANSWER ALL OF MY QUESTIONS!!! THANKS!

Why should the guy always make the first move? He might be really shy and scared to ask you. It is a scary experience, after all - especially for people of a younger age.
You know what he would think is cool? If YOU made the effort to ask him to go somewhere or hang out. I think girls should do it more and stop waiting for guys to make the first move. If you wait for him, it might never happen.
At least if you ask, you know where you stand and you'll get a clear answer, instead of being confused, like you are now.
As for the part about guys being intimidated by you, how about you tone it down a little. Don't be ignorant around them. Be friendly, smile at them and make the effort.
Not all guys are down with doing all the chasing.
P.S. Don't forget you are only 13 years old. Youhave your whole life ahead of you.
It really shouldn't be top on your list of worries.

Out of all my friends I'm the ONLY ONE who hasn't kissed a boy. (13/f) It's so annoying hearing about everyones first kiss. I know it's suppose to be special and what ever. But honestly, I'm done caring. I just wanna get it over with. You know? I've tried truth or dare, Spin the bottle.. But not once have I been dare or chosen. It's like God doesn't want me kissin a dude. But it makes me feel SO stupid. Ha. I sound so pathetic.
But help?

Any help will work...

You are only 13!! A lot of people HAVEN'T had their first kiss at that age. and you know what? How do you even know all your friends are telling the truth about having their first kiss?
Either way, you are still very young and you have so much more time to experience your first kiss. It will be worth the wait when you find someone you actually want to do it with. Make it one you will never forget, because you only get one first time.
Your time will come. For now, just patiently wait and stop worrying over it.

ok so i want a new screen name.
and i want it with the word:
brokenn

..yes,with two n's.

please help x)

The first thing that springs to mind is "Brokenn Wings", from a song by The Rocket Summer. :)

Ok so its really starting to bug me..X & O..Which is Hug..and which is Kiss??

X = hug
O = kiss

Just think of the X as arms crossing (hugging) and the O as an open mouth (kissing) :)

ok 17/f my boyfriend nd i were making out nd he started going for my neck.. nd he kept kissing me.. well now i think i have a hickey but im not sure. because whenever i look in the mirror u can't really see anything but everytime i touch the side of my neck it hurts alot! so is it a hickey or not?

If you can't see it, then I wouldn't really call it a hickey - because they leave marks straight away afterwards.
You may have a bruise forming, though.. or he may have bit you..?

How do I know whether I have been blocked on myspace?

Easy way to tell if you've been blocked is to send a message. If the message isn't in your sent box, then yes, you have been blocked. If the message IS there, then you're not.

I am a Christian and last night it occured to me that God may not hear me, as I pray 'in my head' rather than out loud. Is my theory correct?

No. A lot of people pray in their head. He still knows what you're thinking.

well i just got braces and my boyfriend dosent mind kissing but should i??
lucy

Braces shouldn't stop you from kissing. It might feel a little different at first, but you'll get used to it. Just be aware there's metal on your teeth and it could scratch him if you're not careful. but I doubt that will happen anyway.

What should I do if the kid I'm babysitting has a heart attack and the parents left no phone numbers??

It's really unusual for a child to have a heart attack, but if it did happen, you'd call for an ambulance without delaying.
I don't understand why the parents wouldn't leave any contact numbers.. If you're babysitting, you MUST remind them to leave you some. but again, let's just say they didn't leave any.. you could go with the child in the ambulance and leave them a note.

Okay wow
major wake up call
I had never even though about this
until I read the lyrics to
Girls Just Want To Have Fun

Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest of the world
I want to be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls they want to have fun

My boyfriend NEVER takes me out anywhere
We just go to his house, my house
And occasionally the park which is
right by his house
I was starting to think I was a freak
And he didnt want to be seen with me

But hmm why else could he be hiding me?
Is he ashamed of me? :/

I highly doubt he'd "hiding" you, y'know.
Maybe he isn't sure if you want to go anywhere.
You just need to talk about it.. or why don't you make a few suggestions about places you can both go. I'm sure he won't say no :)!

Hey,

I just wanted to know, some people have gold stars,
I wanted to know what they mean , and how you can get them!

Thanks! :)

They are users with a paid account.

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13/f Okay, so ever since 6th grade started my friend, lets call her Theresa, has been having some kind of rivalery with another person in our click. In 6th grade it was my friend "Lily" and the two were always at each other's necks with the dumbest arguments you can think of. Then, in 7th grade Theresa stopped arguing with Lily and started to get into fights with another girl in our click "Traci." Again, the two fight like 5 year olds. Now that we're going into 8th grade, we think Theresa is going to do the same thing with another person in our click. What do you think we should do?

Why is she picking fights with her own friends? There must be reasons for it.
You all need to talk to her about this and calmly explain to her you don't want it to keep happening because none of you want to lose her as a friend.
If you have a good chat about it, she may realize how bitchy she's being and stop.
If she doesn't stop and quite frankly, you've all had enough, noone is making you be her friend. If she doesn't put a stop to it, then you're all better off without her constant petty arguments.
Make this known to her. and I'm sure she will be nicer.

what kind of areas/sizes do guys like beauty marks? or do they even like them at all?

You will never get a straight answer, for each guy is different.
It's all about personal preference. Some guys will love them, whereas others won't be too into them. The placement and size is also the same.
At the end of the day, beauty marks aren't that important and any boyfriends should look beyond a few marks on your skin.

me and my boyfriend have had sex like 5 times and i havent told my mom but she wants to take me to the gyno just to get on birth controll. if ur under the age of 18 do the gynos tell your parents if ur not a virgin?

No. It's confidential.

Sometimes when my boyfriend and i are just sitting around he will go up my shirt some like around my back. How do i get him to go where i want him to?

If you're both ready to do that, then just move his hands where you want them to go. Sometimes, people need a little guidance.
You can also hint at it, or say something like "next time, why don't you _______"
He'll soon catch on either way and do it more.

okay so I've had sex 3 times with 2 different guys. both times with both guys his penis kept coming out. is that something that I'm doing wrong or does it just happen?

It can just happen. There are different reasons:
*Awkward angle
*The penis isn't hard enough
... to name a few.

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