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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.

guys your advice would help me..

13/f

I must respectfully disagree with the columnist below me.

Not all guys/men are like this. I'm certainly not. In fact, this is the exact reason I won't tell a girlfriend I love her for MANY months into a relationship [at least 12, though I've never reached that point]. I strive to be unlike most guys.

Sure, some will tell a girl they love her to get in her pants or to play her, but there are plenty of guys out there who won't do that.

Just wait, and you'll find the right guy; one who won't do this to you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What can I do to have more energy

Carbohydrates are your body's main source of energy, so obviously those will help.

That doesn't mean go carb crazy and just consume a lot of carbs- do it in moderation.

And yes, like the first two people said, working out does increase how much energy you have. You know how great you feel during and after a workout? That's because you get energy and you've been working your muscles.

Try taking a nap.. but only a 15-20 minute one, because if you sleep too long, you get even more tired when you wake up. A 15-20 minute "power" nap really helps you feel refreshed.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My friend is a guy and I am worried about what he may think. I acctualy like the guy but i know we can only be friends i just want to tell him I am bi. Maybe ask how he feels about gays and bis and go from there? M 15

I like the idea of breaking it to him gradually.

That's a good idea. So, do that, and, just because you tell him doesn't mean you have to like.. date him or something. If he's your friend, it shouldn't matter what your orientation is. Friends should be friends despite gender, race, religion, or sexuality.

If he hates you because of it, that's his problem. He's losing out on the good friend.

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f

So lately, I've been getting small pimples on my shoulders, back and chest. It's not a lot, but it's a little bit noticeable. The rest of my body, including my face, is completely clear. (not trying to be cocky) I've always had smooth, clear shoulders, chest and back. It's really bothering me! I put Neutrogena face acne wash on my chest and it clears it up. But on my back it's harder and my shoulders are acting up. Any thing to help make it go away? Because I know it can on my chest. But yeah. HELP..summer is practically here.

My sister has this Neutrogena body acne wash or something.

I think she said it worked.

It was pomegranate.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm 16 years old and when I went to go to the doctor's (the gynecologist) office for birth control, she asked me if I was sexually active.

Why did she ask me if I was having sex? Is it really necessary?

I'm not a doctor, but.. it seems as if this is part of standard procedure.

It's most likely for your own "safety".

Next time they ask- ask why they ask- but not in a rude way.

--Jack
(17/m)

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what is the purpose of underwear for guys and girls?

Because it would feel very awkward without it. XD


--Jack
(17/m)

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I've hung out with this guy a couple times. There's been soo many PERFECT places and times to kiss him. How many times should two people hang out alone before something happens?

If he keeps looking directly at you and just looks into your eyes, he might want to kiss you.

Just a helpful hint ;]

But- just go for it. You're only a teenager once, and you only live once. =]


I think a good amount of time is about three weeks to a month.

--Jack
(17/m)

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im fat. advice? i mean like i know i should exercise and eat healthy and all that jazz but any like fun ideas for exercise or something idk im like 5'3 and i weigh like 140 pds or something like that.. not exactly healthy..

Try to eat a healthy and balanced diet. Cut down on fats, but don't cut them out completely.

Don't go carb crazy, because you need carbs for energy.

Maybe just walk to places instead of driving. Bike, maybe?

Go jogging and increase how long/far you run each time. Take off at least two days a week. =]

I'm not an expert. Maybe ask your doctor for what they recommend.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm 25/Female and stuck! I'm in a serious relationship, but still haven't completely gotten over my first relationship back in high school. That guy and I don't talk anymore, but he constantly visits my website, so I know he's at least thinking of me too. My question is, is it a bad idea to make contact with him, or am I setting myself for more trouble by just being silent? I guess it depends if you're practical or whimsical, and I'm a little of both.

High school was 7 or 8 years ago, depending on your age as a senior.

Just because he visits your website doesn't mean he's interested in you- maybe he just wants to keep in touch. Maybe you were important to him, and he just likes talking to someone from his past. It's refreshing.

Don't give up your relationship for your past one, unless of course you have complete reason to believe this guy still likes you, and you're ready to give up what you have for what you had.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Where is your favorite place to put your hands, and body, while you're making out?

Hmm- I'll get back to you...

But- I imagine the hair would be the most fun.

XD

--Jack
(17/m)

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I always wear skinny jeans now. I have no idea what guys think of them. What do you guys think?

If you're comfortable, wear them.
If not, then don't.

I would rather see a girl feel comfortable in her clothes than try to impress me.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Smell is important in my book. But what scent do you guys love a girl to wear.. vanilla? fruity? perfumy? anything else? Lots of different responses would be great.

Vanilla is good, so is fruit. =]

I don't like perfume that much- because sometimes girls put on too much. If you're going to use it, ONE SPRAY only.

I hate walking into a room and being like "Alright, who has all the perfume on?"

=]

--Jack
(17/m)

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when a girl gets wet, do you think its gross or does it turn you on?

I wouldn't know, but I would assume that most like it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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my mother is constantly talking about my father and me because now she knows we talked after he malested me ....my dad says that i can runaway and come live with him but i am scared but on the other hand i want to get away from my motyher although i love her ahe is a pain in the a@! so im not sure if i should goim torn i have not seen my dad in almost three years and since i have not seen him i have not seen my brothers or sisters tell me what i should do please
Before i lose my mind!!!!!!

Stay with your mother. She may be a pain in the ass, but she's your mother.

Your father molested you and who knows if it's safe to go and live with him. Of course he's going to tell you everything is fine, but that doesn't mean you should believe him.

Stay with your mom. Talk out your problems with her. But honestly, from what you said, your problems don't sound too bad with her.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hello!
My bfs birthday isn't for another month but I really want to have something fun planned. He will be turning 19. Does anyone have any ideas of things to do for his birthday? How about gift ideas I know you don't know him... But he is a pretty chill guy. He'll be happy with anything. Thanks for the help in advance! :)

Get him a baseball cap, a sports jersey from his favorite team, get him some cologne, or just make him something that will mean something to him.

Really- you don't have to go all out.

I like the bon fire idea. It sounds like fun! =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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Ok, so I went you with this guy lets call him Steve. And before we started going out, we were best friends. So Steve and I went out for almost 3 months. Everything was great, until we broke up. But before we went out he decided he didn't want to be friends with me anymore because he liked me in the past, and I hurt him. Despite that we were happy together, until we broke up. It's been almost 7 months and we don't really talk anymore. He has a new girlfriend now, who doesn't like me at all. (She thinks I still like him.) I just want to be friends again, without his girlfriend thinking I'm still into him.

It's probably best to just give him some space for a few weeks or a month or so.

Then, maybe try talking to him. If his girlfriend thinks you still like him- that's her problem. You can't change what she thinks.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm looking to start a new series or trilogy similar to Eragon. I want something adventurous and exciting, but not too much like Tolkien. I love Harry Potter, but I'd like something a bit more mature. Are there any websites or online book clubs that recommend new books weekly maybe? Could someone recommend a new book series similar to Eragon?

I've never read it, but there's this series called Pendragon.

I've had a few friends read it, and they loved it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm in a play that opens next Tuesday and I think I'm losing my voice. I need a quick fix that works before my director finds out (and freaks out). She's been under a lot of stress lately and I dont want to add to her stress so I need help fast.

What is the best (and quickest) way to get my voice back?

Drink a lot of water.

Eat a tablespoon of honey every few hours- it coats your throat and it feels amazing.

That's really all the advice I have.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 ½ months. If we didn’t break up sometime last year, we’d be dating for over a year. Lately, I’ve felt that he’s been kind of distant. We used to be so passionate about each other, but now we’re acting more like friends. We rarely ever kiss and we haven’t had sex in two months. I miss the old spark that used to be there, and I love my boyfriend to death. I think he still loves me, too, but I just think he’s getting bored or something. Lately, I have been a little depressed, because of all this. And we got into a fight the other day because whenever I see him, I down his vibe with my vibe. Ive been trying to make it better, but I still sense a little distance in his voice, and the way he looks at me. He’s also been getting on the computer more and drawing a lot more when I come over, leaving me with nothing to do. What can I do to take us back to the way things were?

Have you tried talking to him? I don't know if you have, but it might seriously help.

Take turns talking and try not to fight.

Maybe you can fix your problems.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I just started hanging out with this guy. I like him a lot and I think he likes me. I was wondering what guys notice about a girl.. I know everyone's different. But what do guys like and not like?

Guys like confidence, but not arrogance.

Honestly, I like when a girl can be herself around me, and not feel the need to change herself to impress me.

So, just be yourself.

Here's ways you can find out if a guy might like you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.



--Jack
(17/m)

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