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I need a way to kill myself that's quick, painless, cheap, and quiet. Everything in my life has gone downhill and I need a way to end it.
Also, if you have a good alternative that's better at fixing my life than suicide, please tell me. (link)
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Well on this site we're not allowed to tell people how to commit suicide. We're supposed to help people find ways to work through their problems.
You're not the only one who feels this way. Many people go through what you're going through and think suicide is the answer. But I know many who have made it out alive and happy.
Also, suicide isn't ever going to be painless. I mean you're taking away a life, it's going to hurt a lot. Unless you're elderly and you just pass in your sleep or something.
Anyways, my advice would be to seek professional help. There are people who specialize in helping people in your situation. It's their job to do that. They'll help you find a way to get through whatever you're going through and also learn how to deal with your problems in a better way.
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So long story short my boyfriend watches porn. It hurts my feelings an it makes me not feel wanted or not what he wants. I found a lot on blondes like hot an sexy blonde blonde this blonde that. But I'm not blonde. He said he didn't kno why the blonde but he has made a comment to me about he wants my blonde back an such. Also why having sex he was like saying stuff about squirting the whole time an he knows I don't squirt? He has done a few things like this an now I'm even more insecure. I also see him looking at other girls butts constantly while were out. I don't do any of this to him and I don't play with myself to other guys. He used to look at pictures which hurt me more then porn but he says now he just does porn? I just don't understand an I'm not the controlling type but I need advice. I don't do so why does he? (link)
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He watches porn because he likes it. He doesn't see anything wrong with it.
Your opinion and values are different from his. I know a lot of people who watch porn and I know couples who watch porn together so really, it's just a preference.
If you're not cool with him watching porn, don't expect him to change. You'll just end up unhappy and he'll end up doing it in secret.
So if this is causing you to become insecure you should probably talk to him about it. Don't accuse him of doing something wrong, because he doesn't see it that way and he won't listen to you. You pretty much just need reassurance. Tell him that you know he finds blonde hair attractive but you don't want to change your hair color. Not all girls can squirt. Tell him that he needs to educate himself on that subject more rather than just porn.
As for checking out girls, that will happen with every guy. But in my opinion, it's rude to do it while the girlfriend is there. You should tell him that it's just making you insecure and you'd like for him to stop and not check out other girls when you're with him.
If you don't have trust in your relationship, it won't last. So you need to have this conversation with him, work it out or break up.
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I wanna get hurt.i wanna be in the hospital, I can tolerate pain. I wanna get hurt and see how many people would actually care. I wanna sprain/fracture/break my wrist, anything. Any ideas on how I can make this happen? & don't say that it's a dumb idea because I know it is. Your wouldn't be understanding (link)
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Well the first advice was completely stupid because many other things can happen besides death and just injuring yourself.
On this site, we're not supposed to advise people on how to hurt themselves. We're supposed to help them manage their problems in a more positive way.
So you already know it's a dumb idea. So why do it?
I know this is a cry for help. You obviously feel unloved. I mean I've had my share of times where I wondered if I got hurt, how many people would care but it's a really dumb way to find out.
I think you need to find a better way to express your pain. You can't act like a child just to get people to notice you. Plus not to mention how much hospital bills can add up to. It's a pain.
Anyways, you should talk to a counselor. Express what you're feeling and how you want to hurt yourself to get the attention you want. Tell them exactly what's going on and they will help you.
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Look I have been on this earth long enough there is no hope in the world. No peace no Love no caring and I feel there will never be caring. Will some person who feels my pain please and I ask of you nicely please. Give me the answer to this question. First I tell you I live my life everyday in sadness. I know many things and don't care anymore that I know these things. I don't know if im a Christian because I cannot Love this world and cant seem to understand why the person who created this world is putting all of us through this. I just want to die... die....die die... fastest way to die please? Anyone? Suicidal people help me... ones in depression who feel my pain help me..... someone who is more exspericend in what im going through help me. (link)
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You're definitely not alone. There are so many people who have gone through what you are now going through. A lot of people I know have made it out alive and are doing so much better.
No one on this site is allowed to tell you how to commit suicide. We're supposed to help you live and find ways to work through your problems.
My advice would be to seek professional help. That's truly what you need right now. They will help you find a way to get through your depression and learn how to deal with your problems in a better way.
Also, one of the previous advisers gave you the number to the suicide hotline. Give them a call.
As for being a Christian and not understanding why someone would put people through this, lots of people have that question. It's simply because we have free will. Some things happen to us so that we can help others. Just look it at it that way.
The people on here who have gone through what you're going through really want to help you get through it. Someday you're going to feel the same because you know exactly what it feels like and you know it's going to end up alright.
So go seek professional help.
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I want to know which is the best contraceptive with no bad side effects (link)
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I agree with Razhie. Everything you put into your body has side effects. Some might be worse than others for you so that's why it's best to talk to your doctor. We don't know your body and how bad it will react to those side effects. So definitely go talk to your doctor about what contraceptive with work best with your body.
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Okay help me out guys. I would say I have a lot of friends not being cocky. I know a lot of people from my town, the town next to mine and then some people from 2 others towns that everyone knows as well. Popularity I'd say im in the middle,but lemme say im fat so honestly it's obvious that's why not as many people like me. I feel like I have no friends though. This is only out of school, no one texts me calls me and honestly I think I could die and no one would notice or call. I have a few close friends (im a girl) who even rarely text me. I never get texts to the point where I don't even need a phone. In school i fel so much better because there's one guy I look forward to seeing everyday who actually likes me i think only as a friend but ivealways liked him. My lockers 2 away from his so i talk to him whenever I can and he's in all my classes. Hes not too popular either even though he could be so it makes me feel so much better. If it weren't for him and my bestest friend who ill call Sally who understands me inside and out I really think Id be very depressed. Sally doesn't text me often tho either which ugh bothers me because no one texts me and I feel worthless because whenever im with my friends they always have someone texting them and im just like playing games or doing nothing or trying to see who or what they're texting about. Not even just girls no guys EVERtext me or look for me which is really upsetting and no one has liked me in a long time ive only had my first kiss im not telling exact but im gonna tell u im under15.someof my friends have hooked up (madeout)with guys and then there's me who no guy ever looks to hu with. I have a great psonality im funny too but basically what everyone sees is fat fat fat. I like guys but no one ever likes me back. I've thought about suicide but don't think I'd ever actually be able to do it. I couldn't do that to my family. I think about myself having no friends and no one ever liking me,being unpopular,being fat and more all the time and i cry at least every other night in bed. No one acknowledges my existence and idk what to do about it please give me advice and don't say anything mean please try and understand me I feel so alone (link)
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You're not the only one who feels this way. So you're not alone. I have felt this way more than once in my life.
You said you have a lot of friends, but then you said you feel like no one likes you.
It doesn't matter how many friends you have. I'm quite content with just a couple good true friends. You don't need a lot of friends, you just need real friends.
If people are making fun of you because of your weight, you should talk to a school counselor and get some help. Your self esteem is very low. I know lots of bigger girls who just hate their bodies and hate themselves just because of their weight and that's ridiculous. Society screws with teenage girls.
Kids are mean. You need to learn how to ignore people who make fun of you. Everybody does get made fun of. It sucks, and shouldn't be tolerated but you also shouldn't take it to heart. I'm sure you know that your weight does not matter. You already said you have a great personality so embrace that. You can't say that you've never seen a bigger girl who was beautiful. There are so many.
You're thinking too much into having friends, being popular, kissing boys, ect. None of that matters. You're young, so obviously you want all that because you think that will make you happy. What will make you happy is having real friends and learning to love yourself. When you love yourself, more people will want to be around you anyways.
As for kissing, just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean you have to and it doesn't make you any less of an awesome person. It's good that you haven't hooked up with any guys. It can lead to trouble. Plus, you're really young and you should just be looking for what you like in guys and what qualities you'd like your future boyfriend and husband to have.
In the end, I really think you should talk to a counselor. Let them teach you how to love yourself and ignore the people who hurt you. Find real friends and if you're considering suicide, you need to talk to someone.
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I have a friend, we'll call her S. S and I go to the same high school. I can't remember at all how we became friends, but we did and it's amazing. Y'know how you have those friends that you talk to in school who never want to speak to you outside of school and make plans in front of your face? S is exactly the opposite and it make me feel special because most of my "friends" are like what I have just described. Usually, she herself is actually trying to convince me to be more social. We've been able to talk to one another for hours and never get bored. Once she kept mentioning a conversation that had us up until two in the morning on a Saturday night/Sunday morn. S convinced me to get a tumblr, which I did and I'd been wondering about my feelings for her for a while. One day I noticed a post of her's where she mentioned that she was bisexual. I've been wondering how to handle the situation for weeks. It's gotten to the point where I see her in my dreams and I'd generally identify as either straight or bisexual myself. Should I be open to thinking out any feelings for her, or should I just push them aside for the sake of our friendship? Thank you in advance. (link)
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Good relationships start off as friendships first.
If you're thinking you might be bisexual, then take your time to figure it out.
It's good to figure yourself out. If you realize you have feelings for her, that's when you decide where you'd like to go with that.
If you can see yourself with her, or would like to pursue a relationship with her, then do that. If you like her but you don't see yourself dating her, then you know you need to move on.
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My cousin has a notebook with information about everyone in her class and she told me who she likes,
I filled in who she likes on her notebook and told
one of her friends to check it out. I also told that friend who she likes and I feel really guilty and I
don't know what to do..(I was feeling Evil that day)
Ps. I cant call her or anything because I have a week off school and her school starts at 1 and ends at 7 (link)
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Why can't you call her after 7?
You should just come clean about what happened. It's better for her to hear it from you rather than someone else. Plus, something embarrassing can happen if she's not prepared for it.
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I'm 12 (yes I've gotten permission) and my grandma gave me this poofy dress. It's all black with a pink band around it. Im kinda at the age where I want to have more of a teenaged look. And it isn't bad and i honestly don't mind the poofyness. It's just tht it's really plain and idk what to do:(. Please help!!! (link)
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Accessorize!
Belts, jewelry, ect. Those can help make something plain into something more exciting.
Just spice it up a little and make it more of your style.
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There is a tutor I worked with for math at my university. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. I definitely developed a crush on her but now way would I pursue it or anything because she is already engaged. I guess I must show signs of liking her because she flat out asked me if I like her. I decided to be honest and say yes, and I said it in like a jokey type way making it clear I know she is engaged and nothing can happen, but despite that she now seems to be avoiding me and is somewhat cold to me. Why? Does she think I have no self control? I am not going to try anything. For fricks sake she is the one that asked me in the first place
also she is like 28 and I am 22
I never really made any flirty type of statements. If she could tell I liked her it was through anything I wasn't noticing
I would never try to get with an engaged woman. I am not that type of person. Even if she was single I wouldn't ask her because I would be too nervous
alos this like a walk in tutoring thing. It is her jobs to tutor students that come in
wanted to add more details to this that I didn't have in the first time (link)
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I don't think she thinks you don't have self control or anything. I just think that she's trying to keep her distance.
She's engaged, it would be weird if she tried to be around you even though she knows you like her.
There could be many reasons why she's avoiding you. Obviously, she knows you like her. So if I was engaged and a guy told me they liked me, I'd keep my distance even if I thought they wouldn't make a move. It's just the right thing to do.
Maybe she got advice from someone else.
Maybe she thinks she lead you on.
Who knows, just don't let it get to you.
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So I am a freshman in college, and my boyfriend, Matt, is also a freshman at the same college. We started "talking" at the beginning of our senior year. He wanted to make it official pretty early on but I was still hung up on the last guy, Parker, I was with.
The last guy I was with I had been best friends with for four years. The last two years of our friendship we started hooking up (never sex) and it just made everything more complicated. He basically saw me as just an easy hook up. At least thats what I feel like. He told me once that he cared about me as more than a friend but that he didn't want to do anything about it. For my entire junior year, his senior year, we hooked up secretly. I told myself I could handle it, and not get hurt, but I ended up getting hurt when I found out we were truly never ever going to be anything more. I don't want you to think it was all about the hooking up. This guy was my BEST friend, my rock, the one person I could trust to tell anything to. But when we started hooking up that year he started treating me differently. He would be extremely degrading and mean and I didn't do anything about it for the longest time. He's the grade above me so when he first went to college (the college I am now going to which is 5 minutes from my house) we would hook up in his dorm. I told myself that I could do this friends with benefits thing and not get hurt. Truth be told, I just wanted to be around him. But when I told him I was talking to Parker, and didn't want to hang out, he wouldn't let the matter drop and would keep texting me. I would always cave and come see him or let him come over. I never told Matt because we weren't exclusive and I told him I wasn't ready for a boyfriend but I still had feelings for him and we were starting to get closer. When I finally decided to stop hooking up with Parker and focus on Matt, Parker didn't take it seriously. He kept asking almost every weekend to see me. After awhile he stopped asking and stopped texting me at all. THis was in the middle of my senior year and we haven't really been close since then, so its been about a year. It was hard because I was basically in love with Parker. For years. And we had never made anything official or public and I think that still bothers me to this day. Parker and I have a magnetic connection. We can not talk for months and as soon as you put us in the same room we are just drawn to each other. For example, last weekend we hung out in a small group for the first time in almost six months and I could just feel myself needing to be near him. And he texted me that night saying the same thing.
But I forgot to mention how serious I had gotten with Matt over this time. I had the worst year of my life last year and went through things that I thought would break me. Matt was there for me through all of it, holding my hand, making me feel better. He is truly one of the best people on this earth. He treats me better than I ever imagined a guy could. So why do I feel drawn to Parker? When Parker has done nothing but hurt me? There's a fire when I think about Parker, and with Matt its a slow burn. I know Parker is wrong for me because both of us are worse people when we're together. He found out I lost my virginity to Matt and when he asked me about it, it looked like it killed him. (We had always talked about how we would lose it to each other, even though I think he already has too). It's these little things, and the way he looks at me that makes me think he cares. He is insanely protective of me whenever hes around me, at parties etc, but he's still a degrading asshole. Matt thinks I can do anything I set my mind to, and Parker laughs in my face when I tell him things like that. I know Matt is good for me so why do I want Parker... Can anyone please help me sort out all of these feelings??? Anything will help. (link)
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I know where you're coming from.
I used to hook up with a guy who I was crazy about but decided to only keep it at friends with benefits because he didn't want anything serious. Then I ended up dating an awesome guy and the guy I was hooking up with hated it and felt the same way your hook up man felt. He was protective of me, he wanted me to not hook up with anyone else except for him but couldn't commit.
Anyways, you already know he's no good for you. Lots of people have those types of people in their life. You just need to cut him out of your life. You need to move on because he won't be coming around to be more serious with you.
As for Matt, I'm not sure where to guide you. If you have feelings for him and really want to be with him, then do it. If the feelings for Parker are getting in the way of your feelings for Matt, then don't stay with Matt. Give yourself some time to move on. Matt deserves at least that.
But don't continue talking to Parker. You're just gonna end up messing around with him again. You might want to just be around him and feel wanted by him, but it's not worth it.
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So I'm going on a second date with this guy.
At the end, what it the correct way to say goodbye? I'm asking because I've not got much experience-and I've always just given a quick hug.
Do I kiss him on the cheek (seeing as he's paying for me) Do I go for the lips (or is this to full on) or just leave with a simple hug?
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It depends on how comfortable you are. If you're not one to kiss on the first date, then don't.
There really is no rule to how to say goodbye.
If after you give him a hug and you do actually like him and you think the moment is right, then go ahead and kiss him. If you don't feel comfortable with that, then a kiss on the cheek is fine.
If you're not interested in him like that, then obviously don't kiss him.
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I am a really big christian and I want to know if oral sex is considered to be fornication a sin and will you go to hell if you comment the act if you don't repent (link)
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You're just going to get different opinions on this question.
If you believe the Bible, it's considered a sin.
But I don't believe that you'll go to hell for it. I'm a Christian and I believe the only way to go to hell is if you haven't accepted Jesus as your savior.
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Hi everyone, so I have really bad anxiety. I get anxiety right before I leave to go to school. I have anxiety right before I have to drive somewhere. I have anxiety in situations. And I do not want to go on medication. Not interested at all. But is there a way I could cure it myself and just relax and be calmer? Thank you so much for answering (link)
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There is no way to cure it. That's why there is medication, so that it will help you get past this. Why is medication not an option? I mean this doesn't sound like a small case, but you're literally getting anxiety when you have to just go somewhere. Sounds like you need the medication.
If you're dead set on not getting on medication, I'll just suggest some things that might help a little.
-Meditation.
-Writing in a journal.
-Get a hobby, keep yourself mentally active. Make sure you have creative thoughts instead.
-Listen to soft music.
-Don't drink coffee or soda or eat chocolate. You don't need the caffeine in your state.
-Eat healthy and exercise.
This stuff might help a little but I really do think the medication should help. You should at least try it for a little before you say no completely.
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okay im 13/f and now i am in a current relationship wiith this boy that have been asking me for a long time. So before then he would do a little flriting with girls. But now were together he was fliriting with my best friend. While, i was right in front of him. So i avoided him the whole week and he wondering why i am. But i want to tell him to stop but, i cant tell him in person cause we be around alot of people in school. So please help me.
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Ok it's wrong of him to flirt with your best friend. But it's also wrong of you to avoid and ignore him the whole week. That's not what people in real relationships do.
So don't ignore him. Communication is such an important thing in relationships. If you don't have that, the relationship just won't work.
You need to find a time where just the two of you can talk. If you're around a lot of people, tell him you need to talk to him privately and you guys can stand away from other people and talk.
Explain that you're sorry for ignoring him and that you handled it wrong but the reason was that you were upset that he was flirting with your friend and you don't think that's ok.
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Hi, I am a 14 year old girl. I haven't really had any boyfriends and I'm not so crazy about them because in my opinion, all they do is stress me out and cause drama but I'm getting tired of my friends ALWAYS ditching me for their "crushes" and their boyfriends. I have my eyes on these two guys and one of them is soo sweet and really cute but the other..he's really popular but I'm not, so I don't see that happening between me and him anytime soon. Honestly, I like being an independent individual because I have more freedom and I don't have to worry about making my partner happy everyday or how I act and look. I mean..I'm the person EVERYONE ends up replacing anyways plus, I hate the way my friends treat me sometimes..they'll always laugh and make fun of me. I'm sick of their crap. Please help...boyfriend or new friends? (link)
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You definitely need some new friends. There is absolutely no reason for you to have a boyfriend when you don't want to. Why make someone date someone just because that's just what everyone does?
There is nothing wrong with dating. If you don't feel like dating, then don't. You're still young and have a lot of time to date. Right now, you should just be looking for what you like in guys anyways. Like the qualities you should look for in a guy. Besides the usual, cute, sweet, funny, ect. Although those are awesome to have in a guy, it's also good to see other better qualities. Like how they treat their friends, how they treat their parents and siblings, and even how they treat strangers. How hard they work in school, things like that.
I'm pretty sure your friends are just dating for the fun of it, not because it's anything serious. I mean the people you date now, there is such a small chance you'll end up together with them in the long run.
So get new friends who actually act like friends. You don't need friends who make you feel like crap.
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Is it possible for a virgin to have sex twice and she was not disvirgin until her third time of sex experience
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Virgin means that someone has never had sex. That's what the term is used for.
So in societies sense, she's not a virgin.
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Hi everyone,
I'm a young teen, and I have been a Christian for most of my life. But I don't always feel like I'm meant to be a Christian.
I would like to mention that I'm lesbian, and I have known this for a long time. My church teaches that this is a sin and that being gay is a choice. But I certainly didn't choose to be this way.
They often say that people need to do what Jesus tells them to do, and they say that if you believe in Jesus, you will like the opposite sex. But I do believe in Jesus. . . .
People from my church sometimes talk about that verse from the Bible that condemns homosexuality. Yeah, I know. I read that several times when I was trying to become straight.
They also say that God hates gays. But I love God deeply and don't want to think that He hates me.
I don't think God hates anyone, not even people like me. He is all-forgiving and merciful. It doesn't make sense that he would hate.
I know it seems like I'm just saying my opinion. But I really want to find the truth. Does God really hate me? And is being gay really a sin?
Thank you for any advice! Please don't judge me. (link)
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No, God doesn't hate you. He loves you.
I don't want to say whether being gay is a sin or not. It really depends on how you look at it or what you read in the Bible.
Either way, even if homosexuality is a sin, so is lying. Everybody lies but God still loves them. You're not a bad person if you do something wrong.
I'm not saying that being gay is a sin or not, that's up to you to decide. It's just, sin is sin and God won't hate you for it.
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I'm 14 and my boyfriend is to we've been dating for a year and he's seen my breast and I've seen his you know. So I want to see him with a boner. Like actually see it. So how do I give him a boner . Please don't say anything about my age please and thanks!! (link)
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Your boyfriend is young. Pretty much anything can make him hard. Guys can actually get hard just by kissing.
If you're seriously ready for this step in the relationship, be careful. Because what you're doing, he's going to assume you want to have sex. He's going to start thinking about it more and more.
So make sure you know where your boundaries are and what you're ready for.
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I am 13 years old and my sister just turned 16. A few months ago randomly she got a MacBook, new iphone, and a iPad Mini randomly for no reason. I on the other hand have be asking for a new laptop only for the past two years and still haven't recieved one. My parents get mad everytime I ask if I'm going to get a laptop. Also, my sister will say "I have no clothes to wear tomorrow! Please can I go to the mall?" They'll give her $100 and send her off. Though if I ask and haven't bought anything for the past 3 months, it's a "You're always asking for stuff!" It's really not fair because I always have to go without while my sister gets everything. What am I suppose to do when I can't get anything and she does? Also my phone has been cracked and the sound doesn't work for 5 months..but as soon as my sister cracked hers, she got a new one the next day. I'm a good student. I do my work in the house. I listen to my parents and even have better grades than her! She had two f's! I just don't get it.. (link)
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I wouldn't know exactly why your sister gets more. I'm just guessing it's because she's 16 and you're 13.
I can understand part of it, but not all of it. Like with randomly sending her off for new clothes but you can't, that's what I would consider unfair.
I can understand her getting a new phone and ipad and such since she is older but the clothes I don't understand.
I can somewhat understand the phone situation, but I don't see it as fair. I can see that they'd fix her phone faster because she's older and probably needs the phone more than you do.
I don't know your parents, I don't know why it's like this but you should probably sit down and talk to them. Don't argue with them and don't make yourself sound like a jealous sister. If anything, at least write them a calm letter.
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