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Dating advice needed!
So I'm going on a second date with this guy.
At the end, what it the correct way to say goodbye? I'm asking because I've not got much experience-and I've always just given a quick hug.
Do I kiss him on the cheek (seeing as he's paying for me) Do I go for the lips (or is this to full on) or just leave with a simple hug?
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It depends on how comfortable you are. If you're not one to kiss on the first date, then don't.
There really is no rule to how to say goodbye.
If after you give him a hug and you do actually like him and you think the moment is right, then go ahead and kiss him. If you don't feel comfortable with that, then a kiss on the cheek is fine.
If you're not interested in him like that, then obviously don't kiss him.
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I suppose it really depends on why you are dating, what is your purpose for dating. If you are dating to have company, an activity partner...someone to go to a movie or dinner with, or a dance partner, etc... and its more of a just "friends" thing for you, then just give a hug and thank him for the great time. Make sure the guy understands he is just an activity partner and nothing romantic for you.
If you're feeling something with him, some excitement and attraction to him, then definitely, take the time in saying goodbyes to loop your arms around his waist and kiss him on the lips and see if you still feel that spark, do you like his kiss in return?
Apparently you liked him well enough to go on a 2nd date. By the end of the 2nd or 3rd date, if a guy is not someone you'd like to be seeing long term, tell him so, tell him you've given it some tries but in 2 or 3 dates you just don't feel enough chemistry, then give the hug, thank him for the dinner or date and let him go. Don't date him again. What would be best for the first date and maybe the next is to go out dutch...each pays their own way. Or if he pays for dinner, then i would insist on paying the tip which will be less than the dinner and that way i have contributed.
I personally don't feel that it is right to have a guy paying fully for a date that is still in the exploratory stage of determining whether you like each other enough to want to become a dating couple and lovers. But thats just my opinion. To have him pay everything feels awkward, especially if at the end I have to tell him, thanks for the free meal but you're not my type. It makes me feel like I look like a person stringing a guy along to get a free meal. If you both decided you had an attraction on the first date, then if you really like him, then kiss him and let him know how much you enjoyed his company and can't wait to spend some time with him again.
If I were a guy and a girl wanted a 2nd date with me, I'd take that as a possibility that she really likes me. But if all the following dates got me just a kiss on the cheek, I would begin to feel that I only fit in the friends catagory with her. If as a guy I wanted a romantic interest, she wouldn't sound promising to me.
So there needs to be some discussion on these dates as to what you are looking for. Every guy I ever met on a date knew full well what I was looking for and we were meeting to see if there was any chemistry between us.
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