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WHY is this girl avoiding me now because I said I liked her, even though sh
There is a tutor I worked with for math at my university. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. I definitely developed a crush on her but now way would I pursue it or anything because she is already engaged. I guess I must show signs of liking her because she flat out asked me if I like her. I decided to be honest and say yes, and I said it in like a jokey type way making it clear I know she is engaged and nothing can happen, but despite that she now seems to be avoiding me and is somewhat cold to me. Why? Does she think I have no self control? I am not going to try anything. For fricks sake she is the one that asked me in the first place
also she is like 28 and I am 22
I never really made any flirty type of statements. If she could tell I liked her it was through anything I wasn't noticing
I would never try to get with an engaged woman. I am not that type of person. Even if she was single I wouldn't ask her because I would be too nervous
alos this like a walk in tutoring thing. It is her jobs to tutor students that come in
wanted to add more details to this that I didn't have in the first time
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I don't think she thinks you don't have self control or anything. I just think that she's trying to keep her distance.
She's engaged, it would be weird if she tried to be around you even though she knows you like her.
There could be many reasons why she's avoiding you. Obviously, she knows you like her. So if I was engaged and a guy told me they liked me, I'd keep my distance even if I thought they wouldn't make a move. It's just the right thing to do.
Maybe she got advice from someone else.
Maybe she thinks she lead you on.
Who knows, just don't let it get to you.
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I don't think she thinks you have no self control. If she brought up the question to you it was probably because she also felt some type of flirtatious energy happening between you. Because it is her job to tutor students she wants to keep the relationship as professional as possible.
Maybe she thought she was being too "friendly," and leading you on. Before she could pull back to bring the relationship to a more professional place she had to verify that you do in fact have a crush on her. Once she got that verification she decided she needed to be less friendly in order to keep the relationship professional. She could loose her job if a student actually thinks she is "flirting," with them so she has to be careful and keep herself protected.
Don't take offense to it she is just trying to be a good tutor. It's hard being young and teaching young people. As a woman I can tell you it's very hard especially because many men confuse being friendly and polite with being into them. Your not that guy so you have nothing to be ashamed about. So you got a crush on a college tutor, I was hopelessly involve with one of my professors. Thats what happens in college, she is just being overly careful.
If anything take this as a compliment. I think it's a sign of good communication and chemistry with women.
When she avoids you or is cold, just be the normal fun loving, great guy that you are and brush it off.
Good luck honey
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