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So confused with friends
Okay help me out guys. I would say I have a lot of friends not being cocky. I know a lot of people from my town, the town next to mine and then some people from 2 others towns that everyone knows as well. Popularity I'd say im in the middle,but lemme say im fat so honestly it's obvious that's why not as many people like me. I feel like I have no friends though. This is only out of school, no one texts me calls me and honestly I think I could die and no one would notice or call. I have a few close friends (im a girl) who even rarely text me. I never get texts to the point where I don't even need a phone. In school i fel so much better because there's one guy I look forward to seeing everyday who actually likes me i think only as a friend but ivealways liked him. My lockers 2 away from his so i talk to him whenever I can and he's in all my classes. Hes not too popular either even though he could be so it makes me feel so much better. If it weren't for him and my bestest friend who ill call Sally who understands me inside and out I really think Id be very depressed. Sally doesn't text me often tho either which ugh bothers me because no one texts me and I feel worthless because whenever im with my friends they always have someone texting them and im just like playing games or doing nothing or trying to see who or what they're texting about. Not even just girls no guys EVERtext me or look for me which is really upsetting and no one has liked me in a long time ive only had my first kiss im not telling exact but im gonna tell u im under15.someof my friends have hooked up (madeout)with guys and then there's me who no guy ever looks to hu with. I have a great psonality im funny too but basically what everyone sees is fat fat fat. I like guys but no one ever likes me back. I've thought about suicide but don't think I'd ever actually be able to do it. I couldn't do that to my family. I think about myself having no friends and no one ever liking me,being unpopular,being fat and more all the time and i cry at least every other night in bed. No one acknowledges my existence and idk what to do about it please give me advice and don't say anything mean please try and understand me I feel so alone
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Your mind is making some very negative assumptions.
First, when I was your age, we did not have texting let alone cell phones or other apps. We had to talk to the person face to face or make an honest to god real voice to voice phone call.
You have come to the conclusion that because everyone is recieving lots of texts, that you are somehow missing out. I've seen the samples of some of those texts or girls who write out the entire text of a guy she likes to ask what he is really saying. There is very little information or any conversation that is worthwhile. Most of it is filled with non informational stuff like lots of idk's and asking what the other is up to and the answer is always nuthin. You are not missing out on anything. How many texts a person receives is not a good measure of their value as a human being. In highschool, I had only a handful of friends over the years...5 and not a one of them were a guy, and I was never kissed until a year out of high school. I chose my friends not on appearance but the quality of their friendship. And not a single one of them were ever part of the popular crowd, neither was i. And they made the best friends. As I see it, you're doing better than I, you've got a nice guy and you've already experienced your first kiss. I'd say your doing great!
As for being over weight, sometimes no matter what you eat or how much excercise, it's genetics, or someething medically like thyroid or whatever that adds to the weight, or also what the world offers us, lots of toxins and food grown today that is not as nutrious for us as it was when my parents were kids. That also will affect our bodies and cause us to be more unhealthy and carry around more weight.
You have to love yourself inside and out. I looked back at my diaries of my teen years recently. The person I was at 14 or 15 was a lovely person...I am that same person again after taking a detour and trying to become someone different to make a man happy, the guy i was married to and had 3 kids with. Long story short, I woke up later in life and realized I needed to love myself first, once I loved my self enough to leave the ex who verbally abused me, my life changed. I was happy with myself, and that put out positive vibes and attracted new friends and of course my wonderful 2nd husband.
It is better to have fewer friends who are real genuine like yours than too have many who dont give a crap about you. All my daughters have had close friends in highschool who were the overweight or obese gals. They were the quality friends my daughters loved and were not ashamed of. When my oldest married, her two sisters were bridesmaids and she had 3 friends from highschoool also, 1 thin, two overweight. It did not matter what the two gals looked like to my daughter, not even in her wedding, its their friendship that mattered.
Good luck dear.
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Hey don't be so harsh on yourself. You have to start thinking that you're a beautiful girl, basically you have to accept yourself for who you are. Then others will accept you. Trust me I've been in a similar situation and how much you weigh doesn't matter at all-it's your personality that counts.
About those people who you're jealous over as they get a lot of text messages, don't be. Be yourself and remember having a few good friends (like that Sally and that guy that you talk to) are much better than having a lot of friends that you can't rely on. Those two friends of yours like you for who you are and that is really important as you don't have to pretend who you are. If I was you I would just stick around with them and completely block out others, they're not worth your time.
Text messaging. Is it really that important? Not really. If you feel alone go out somewhere, meet some new people or just meet up with Sally or that guy.
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You're not the only one who feels this way. So you're not alone. I have felt this way more than once in my life.
You said you have a lot of friends, but then you said you feel like no one likes you.
It doesn't matter how many friends you have. I'm quite content with just a couple good true friends. You don't need a lot of friends, you just need real friends.
If people are making fun of you because of your weight, you should talk to a school counselor and get some help. Your self esteem is very low. I know lots of bigger girls who just hate their bodies and hate themselves just because of their weight and that's ridiculous. Society screws with teenage girls.
Kids are mean. You need to learn how to ignore people who make fun of you. Everybody does get made fun of. It sucks, and shouldn't be tolerated but you also shouldn't take it to heart. I'm sure you know that your weight does not matter. You already said you have a great personality so embrace that. You can't say that you've never seen a bigger girl who was beautiful. There are so many.
You're thinking too much into having friends, being popular, kissing boys, ect. None of that matters. You're young, so obviously you want all that because you think that will make you happy. What will make you happy is having real friends and learning to love yourself. When you love yourself, more people will want to be around you anyways.
As for kissing, just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean you have to and it doesn't make you any less of an awesome person. It's good that you haven't hooked up with any guys. It can lead to trouble. Plus, you're really young and you should just be looking for what you like in guys and what qualities you'd like your future boyfriend and husband to have.
In the end, I really think you should talk to a counselor. Let them teach you how to love yourself and ignore the people who hurt you. Find real friends and if you're considering suicide, you need to talk to someone.
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