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I want to get a cellphone but my parents wont let me!..Um..What kind of cellphone do you have? And how many minutes do you have each month? And if someone calls u how long do you talk? (link)
My cell phone is dead:( but I normally get the prepaid ones. I chose how many minutes I get (Related to the price) a month, and how often I talked. They're pretty cheap now. Try to convince them to get you a cheap one.


well everyday or so i go to my bestfriends house an theres always her guy neighbors over therre an there is this one that i really like! his name is jay an hes just a year older than me an he is always grabbin on my ass an saying funny stuff to me... like to day he wuz like "miss do u know were anyone can gimmi a lap dance?? do u by any chance?" i think he was kidding but like ive only known him for like a month or so an i REALLY REALLY like him an all my other friends ask like "do you like michelle" an he "smiles" den my friends ask like "would u go out with michelle?" an jay goes "only if she would go out with me" I DUNNO IF I LIKE HIM OR IF I SHOULD MAKE A MOVE OR WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN I REALLY NEED HELP IM REALLY CONFUSED!! plz answer asap i gota go soon an im going to my friends (yes that friend) house tommorrow!!! xoo michelle
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If your wondering if he likes you, he does. Guys don't do what he does unless they really like a girl. Make sure you like him before you make a move though, the guys who flirt in the style that he flirts normally only have a 1 track mind.


Do guys prefer girls who shave "down-there" , and to what extent ? (link)
Well, I'm a guy, and I dont' really care to what extent. It's entirely up to them. But at least the bikini line.


hello, i am a 23 year old female. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six and a half years. we have had our share of problems, but nothing really bad. i think that our biggest problem is communication. whenever we are involved in a heated discussion, i start crying and he gets mad. i'm a very emotional person and i can't help it. i tell him this all the time. however, sometimes he yells at me and says mean things to me. i have told him that he can't talk to me any kind of way. he never says disrespectful things, but i still feel disrespected by the way he says things. i think that this is something that we can work out if we could communicate better with each other. if i start to cry he gets angry and doesn't want to talk anymore. we recently had an argument, i got really upset and told him that i didn't want to be with him anymore. i didn't mean it and i would like to talk to him about it, but i'm afraid that if i call him, he might make me feel like he doesn't care or doesn't want to talk about it. he has been a major part of my life. he has been there for me through so much. i love him and i know that he love me. what should i do? a part of me feels like if i give it too much time he might not want to be with me. another part of me feels that he needs time to see what he is missing. i'm so confused about what to do. (link)
What he probably does after arguing is dwell on the argument. How do the arguments usually get resolved? Who usually apologizes, etc? I know how you feel, sort of. I haven't been in a relationship that long, but I too can get emotional. It devastates me when I get into a fight with someone I care about. I also know what it's like to have problems in communication. I think his getting angry when you cry can be one of two things:
1: He thinks you cry to make him feel bad.
2: He already feels bad, and just lashes out at you for it.
If I were you, I'd get a hold of him. If you wait too long, he'll be convinced that you hate him, and try to move on. It might be a good idea to make him dangle if you were earlier in your relationship, but I think it would be too risky now. Trust me, if any guy is in his situation, it doesn't take long for him to see what he's missing. Talk to him about it. Ask him why he gets so angry, explain how much it hurts you, and tell him that you love him.


ok i met this girl named jessie last summer and like over the school eyar and stuff we got really tight i mean people would swear we were lieing when we told them we wern't going out well since like jan she has been like hangin around this this other really stupid chick who does alot of bad stuff and she kinda gets around well i am afriad that jessie is startin to act like her well not really act like her but pick up her bad habbits and like when ever she is in a jam she calls me when ever she needs money ASAP she calls me needs a place to stay she picks up the phone i go and get her my self but like i think i am kinda startin to like her i mean we flirt a whole lot as is but i dunno how to tell her i like her cause one i think she is way outta my league and two with her past i dunno if i wanna get involved but i like her more then i have ever liked people i was goin out with and well it would just be kinda odd if i just came out and told her so i am wondering what i should do
do i ? take my chances with her past and just come out and tell her i like her or should i just let things be so as to not get mixed up in all that or should i attempt to like beat around the bush that i like her even more then she knows?

i really like her and i would like to go out with her and just maybe it would also help her keep clear of some of her other problems?
WHAT DO I DO!
15/M (link)
Tell her as soon as possible. Waiting is the worst thing you can do in this situation. If your worried about damaging your friendship, then don't be. You guys sound too close to let something like this damage it. Flirting probably wouldn't work. I flirted my ass off with this one girl, and she still had no clue in the end. Just telling her is the best way to do it. Tell her you like her more than a friend.


Just wondering...how old is everyone that is on here? (link)
The range of ages is enormous. I got some advice from teachers and psychologists in their 30's, and read some problems from people as young as 11 I think. I, myself, am 19. Though there have been an enormous amount of people whose ages range from 13 to 15 join in the past month.



"Run Away"
Run, run, run away.
Run away for it’s just begun.
Nothing is left to learn; nothing can be done.
Run away and never return.
Don't let it burn just,
Run, run, run away.
Don't confront the fears.
Run away and leave the tears.
Don't retreat.
It'll show defeat, so just,
Run, run, run away

"Life"

So much anger; so much sadness.
How'd I get myself wound up in all this madness?
To much stress; to much drama.
How do I clear up this mess?
So many tears; so little fears.
It's been like this for years.
Just young; trying to have fun.
Not many smiles; not many dreams.
All I hear are distant screams.
Lot's of fights; including sleepless night.
I'm trying...
But there's so much lying; so much crying...

"I am"

People say I'm a sinner.
But I'm just a beginner.
Yea, I've done some things wrong.
But that's what makes me strong,
I take life for how it is.
I live my life around the people I adore.
I am who I am; why do they care?
Why do they always sit and stare?
I know I'm not the worst,
But I am the first to stand up and say,
I am who I am.

I'm 15~ these were on here earlier I posted them on a different account though... but can you please critisize(sp???) them (link)
It's better than the crap I was writing at your age. You have potential. It's clear that your showing a lot of emotion through your writing. I like the shortness of these 3. The internal rhymes in "Life" are good. Have you ever tried to write a sonnet? These are almost sonnets already. Great stuff for your age.

A few things to work on though: 1.I'm not sure if the ";" is used in the correct sense. You should probably use a "," for separating fragmented thoughts. ; are generally used for separating complete thoughts. However, rules of punctuation and grammar don't apply to poetry if it's intentional. If any teacher tells you different, they're wrong.2. Occasionally there is a line that's not quite as strong as the others. It seems you occasionally struggle with the rhyme scheme. You shouldn't try to rhyme as much, I mean sure it sounds great, but the overall message is weakened. Concentrate more on the message, never the rhyme 3. there may be a little too much emotion shown through these. Unless of course that's all your going for is emotion. But in this setting, they almost sound like song lyrics rather than poems. Of course, a lot of people consider songs to be poems, so just ignore what I just said.


Tips(You don't have to follow them. They're merely suggestions): Try to incorporate similes, metaphors, analogies, etc. These usually make a poem more interesting (His eyes were like..., The pain was...). Symbolism also catches my eye.
You could also try to use your other senses to become more descriptive. Painting a visual picture helps readers gain interest. Use senses like the sense of smell, taste, hearing, etc. My teachers told me to rarely write poems with the main theme being an emotion, but I disagree with them.


Okay I put poems on here....and you guys said be careful putting them on here or someone will steal them...how do I make it so no one can steal them?? (link)
You could put a copyright sign on the bottom or your name if you think it would help. The only way I can think of to completely protect your work from being copied is to have it published. I really don't think you have to worry about it though. If you really think someone would copy your work, just send your poems to individual columns. I'd be glad to criticize your work if you sent me some. If you do, please include your age so I can criticize it more accurately. I've taken poetry in college, so I might make a good critic.


ok... i like this boy and i think e likes me. sometimes we make like 1 second eye contact or like when we pass by eachother, i can feel a vibe. i gave my friend this note 2 give 2 him and he looked freaked out. so he asked me 2 days later if i wrote it, and i told him no because i guess he didn't like me. ever since said no, he started to bother me again like teasing me and stuff. school ends the 25 and i want 2 know if he likes me or not! plz help!!!!! (link)
Him asking you if you wrote the note is a good sign. If he didn't at least care, he would have just crumpled it and forgot about it. Confess to him that you wrote the note, before school's out so it doesn't drive you crazy. That way, you have the summer to have fun with him, or get over him.


My and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 15 months and we have come close to have sex sooo many times... the only thing stopping us is that he doesnt have condoms. We both know that if he did, that we would probably end up doing something if we had the chance, but we are also both worried about pregnancy! Thats why we are hesitant about buying condoms.
I am 16 and he is 17.
What should i do? (link)
If it's just pregnancy holding you back, then I would go for it. Go on the pill, condoms are good, but they're not 100%. You should already know when not to do it. If it's something else holding you back subconciously, then I wouldn't rush into anything.


Hi im Shelly and Im 14. I have had pets before but they have died. I did at one point have 6 rabbits but 2 we gave to my dads friends daughters and the rest have died. I don't know why thought. We look after them well and dont treat them bad we give them plenty of exercise too but still they died. I have 1 rabbit now and she is 2. I have wanted a dog for ages but my mum won't let me have one. She said its because she doesn't want a dog in the house, but she loves my uncles dog loads. I am starting to think the reason is because she doesn't trust me to have anymore pets. plz help me to change my mums mind.

Luv Shelly
xxxxxx (link)
That's depressing. They all died. It's probably not because she doesn't trust you. Dogs are fun to play with, but they're also extremely messy, and difficult to clean up after. You have to train them to go outside, they shed, theystink up the entire house, they're a huge mess. She probably just doesn't want to deal with the mess. Try to convince her to let you have a small dog.


there is this boy that loves me but I don't love him and he keeps begging me to go out with him
what should I do?

Love
summer (link)
Tell him in the harshest way, that will make him go away. Damn it, I rhymed. Ignore him until he takes the hint. Or get someone to beat him up. He sounds obsessed.


So, yeah. I don't think I have ever felt so strongly for someone in my life...ever. I think I am experiencing love as much as I can at such a young age or, at least, something very close.

Various people (not me) have discussed this (he knows I am at least somewhat attracted) with him and appears to have no interest back.

What should I do? (link)
You can never trust the answers of various people. He might not tell the truth to them. You need to find out for yourself. How well do you know him? It seems like you don't know each other, or interact very often. Try to tell him yourself, but be prepared for the worse. It's not the end of the world if he isn't interested. At least then you can get over him.


i really want to go to canada. i want to just drop everything and go there. live my life in a cabin in the middle of the wilderness on a small lake and use a busch plane to get to town when i need to. i could drop eveything in my life and go and not have any regrets. except one. i have a girlfriend and i LOVE her a lot. i really do. im 16 and i could leave both my parents and everything else with out regrets except her. i feel like i have found true love. but on the other hand i feel like im 16 and dont know shit about love and live. i dont care how old you are, i just want to know what you think of my situation. (link)
The truth is, I don't know your situation very well. Is there something in your life that's driving you to leave it? One things for certain, I don't think you fully understand the pain of solitude. You're doomed to go crazy living away from civilization at such a young age. To test yourself, go 2 weeks without seeing anyone, talking to anyone, or anything. No computer, stay away from civilization completely. Don't let your parents talk to you, or you to them. The same goes with your girlfriend. If you can't handle this, you can't handle your plan. I think you should finish school, then decide what to do.


Do you smoke or Drink? (link)
No, I don't do either. But almost everyone I know does.


Are you a virgin??? (link)
Wasn't this question already asked?


does anyone know anything i can do?..14/m!AAHHHHH i'm going crazy (link)
Make a low-budget movie, draw/paint, play an instrument and start a band, go on a road trip with someone, or play stupid bored games with your equally bored friends.


all my friends say im not fat but when we fight they say im fat an ulgy meanwile when we are friends dey say i look good an mad thin.. im 14 an 130 pounds an i think im really fatt! i tryed everything to lose weight but its not working! i was even thinking about throwing up my food :-/ all my other friends are really thing an are like only 65-95 pounds! it really sux! i really dont know what to do any more! iive even tryed to wear diffrent clothes!

-help! (link)
95 lbs is very skinny, 65 lbs is dangerously skinny. Don't worry about it, I don't think 139 is too much. Though height is a factor, so how tall are you? Your friends make fun of your weight when they're mad because they know how concerned you are with it. They probably don't think your fat. I wouldn't change you at all. Just ignore the people who have unreasonably high standards in this area.


okay well i have no problem with having guys as friends but i want them to notice me more in a "girlfriend" way i guess you could say do you have any ideas on how to get them to notice me thanks alot (link)
(From a guys view.) I think if they were ever to notice you they already do. I've had a few friends that I've grown attracted to. Don't try to change yourself to get them to notice you, since they're friends, they should already like you for who you are. If you have strong feelings for someone in particular, just talk to them and tell them how you feel.


Help please the last time I wrote to you people was in about March in Oregon... I had run away and was heading for Canada and asked what I should do and most of you said go back but I didn't listen... I'm from California and ive ridden my bike all the way to washington... i'm badly fucked up... I feel really sick... what should I do... I don't want to go back... but I want to feel good again... i've had to steal food, steal things to survive.... anyways i'm on a computer in an internet cafe... please help... what should I do? (link)
Try your best to get a crap job for now. Work at a small company, so you don't have to worry about them mailing you anything. How old are you? If I were you, I'd go back, but it's your decision. How bad were things at home? What are your symptoms if your sick? Even if you get to Canada, are you sure you can stay there? You might get sent back anyway. It would be too risky for me to continue, so I'd go back. If home life was terrible, I'd get athorities involved, but that's just me. I hope you do better, I'm truly worried about you.




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