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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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OK. So I had a dentist appointment this morning and my mom, dad, and brother were all working. So, my dad called my neighbor 'Don' to ask if he could take me to the dentist. He said it was fine and he was happy to do the favor. I could have rode my brothers bike there if I absolutely HAD to...but I wasn't thrilled when my mom suggested the idea. My mom just called and said she was embaressed when she found out that 'Don' had driven me there and back. I don't like it when people are mad at me and now I feel guilty and my happy mood just went to bad. Am I being selfish or is my mom over reacting?

Your mother has no reason to be upset with you. Your father was the one that called your neigbor. If she has a problem with it, she should bring it up with your dad. Don't let it worry you, I am sure by tommarow it will have been forgoten.

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how do u change ur password>?

Go to edit settings. It is one of the first options.

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Some moron sent this piece of poorly written tripe to me and everyone else who didn't completely agree with their narrow-minded opinion. Don't make a habit of this - it would be a shame to have to ban you from the site for harassment.

"Let me tell you somethin.
1)youre telling me that u think women should have the right to KILL their unborn child? thats wrong. under any circumstances. and dont tell me they arent alive in there yet. ive done SEVERAL research projects on it.

2)If we didnt go to war, the terrorists would just REPEAT what theyve already done to us thinking we wouldnt fight back. PLus, its not like those people are being forced to go to war. Its their choice to join the forces you dumbsh*t.

3)Youre right about not being able to choose who you love. And you shouldnt have to stop loving them just because you cant get married. ive also done research on this. theyre are many other factors on letting gays/lesbians marry than just letting them go to a chapel and confess their vows. in this country, along with getting married, theyre tax benefits and many things of that sort that SOME people..it would be possibe for them to be getting married just for those reasons. You might think that thats the same for male/female marriages but its not. its a long story and very confusing.


4)kerry is 'pro-choice'. bush..is pro-LIFRE...youre voting for somebody who says its okay to kill an unborn child when if you just put it up for adoption, you would be making another family very happy as well as be getting paid for the hospital bills. abortions are expencive. plus, kerry looks like his face is melting off but thats beside the point.

and your a comple dumbass cuz u have NO IDEA the things that sadaam did to the us and his country. he was killing thousands of people in gas chambers and torture cells just like in the hollocaust. and he was leading his country to make more attacks on the us. get your facts straight. also, gays and lesbians have been getting along FINE for MANY MANY MANY years so why change things now and make a bunch of controversy?? and kerry is against the death penalty. you know what that means? more people in prision. you know what THAT means? INNOCENT AMERICANS HAVE TO PAY MORE TAX DOLLARS TO PAY FOR THE PEOPLE IN PRISION TO BE COMFORTABLE AND NOT HUNGRY!! So, you wanna pay for murders to be 'comfortable'? i dont think so.

so u vote kerry?? u might wanna rethink that."

I recived the same "attack" question as well as many others. I didn't even bother to respond. If it hadn't been a private question I would have banned the user. This is an advice column, not an opinion poll, or debate!

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ok so i liked this guy but i never really met him but i heard through some people that he liked me back...that was last year and now i dont want to like him n e more and i dont but i cant stop thinking about him...what is causing this? and how can i make it stop?

Since you have never really met him, then how do you know you even like him? You just like the idea of him. When you think of him remind yourself that this crush you have is all an allusion.

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muh dad manages the money around the house... my mom used to... my dad i think hez saving ^ 4 sumthin he wantz cuz he does stuff like that. ive told my mom already she thinks the same thing. shez not gunna do anything soon cuz i dont think she wants to handle the money n pay the bills cuz itz to tiring for her. im not getting the stuff i need like new clothes, shoes etc. n even food were like ruffing it on food. this week we went over like a dollar for our money cuz we only have a certain amount according to my dad. wut do i do to solve this? itz oviously a big problem. he acts like the money my mom n he makes is all his n he desides if he wants to give her money to go shopping or sumthing. hope u guys understand n u can help me.

Money matters in your family should be handled between your parents. It is not up to you how it is used. Money may be tight for them right now, and they may have to budget. Try to be supportive of that. Remember there is a big difference between wants and needs. So unless you are starving and wearing rags, try giving your parents a break. If you want some extra cash for new clothes, get a babysiting job or a paper route.

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okay, well me and my husband got married like almost a year ago. the problem is im ready to have kids, but he says he doesn't want to have kids..ever! i really love him, and we have so much in common and we always have fun together, but this is like the first thing we have disagreed on and i really don't no what to do. please help.

I am surprized this was not discussed before the wedding. It's a pretty big part of a marrige, to have a family or not.

Will you be satisfied with just your husband the rest of your life? Can you live without having children? You can't force your husband to have children with you. If you don't have kids, you will resent him for it later in life, and if you do have kids, he will resent you.

As much as you both love eachother, I think you both have different ideas for your future together. I think you should disscuss what you both want out of life. Hopeful kids isn't the only thing you dissagree on.

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HeY ! well im 14 and i weigh 86pOunDz or sumfin liek that .. buh i know its around 80 is that good enuff? im scared that if its not .. then something mite happen . buh u know i eat ALOT !! i just dont gain weight .. and im reeely skinny ;) hehe .. soo yehhh heLp?

xOxox maya xOXx

Unless you are under 5 feet tall, yes that is unhealthy. I would think about seeing a doctor or a nutritionist if that is so.

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Hi. I wanted to know. If my boobs are too small and I wanted to get boob pills! How could I get them if im not 18 and I dont have a credit card?
Sigened.
Flat Chested!

A pill like that would be a type of hormone pill. And for some young and still developing pills like that can be unhealthy. Remember, you still could be developing even into your 20's. And really they are unhealthy at any age. They can make you grow uneven. Give yourself some more time.

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me n my bf were layin on eachother w/ no pants or underwear on but we didnt have sex bc i wasnt on the pill n we didnt have a condom but he was like rubbing his dick on me and after we were done i was like wet from his cum and someone on the hellz angelz board told me theres a big chance i could be pregnant is it true? bc i dont understand how i could be pregnat if im still a virgin? plz help im rilly nervous now im only 14:-/

Well what you did was sex. There may not have been penatration, but I would call it sex. And yes, by doing what you did, you could potentially become pregnat. His seman could easily get inside you. It only takes one sperm.

You and your partner should both educate yourself a little more before continuting your sexual escapdes.

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Me and my boyfriend are so close. He comes over almost everyday but the problem is we cant make out because it seems like my mom is always right there. what should i do before he dumps me for someone else?

If your boyfriend dumps you because you can't find a palace to make out, well then he is not they guy for you. That is what people called being used.

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In the beginning of the year one of my ex-boyfriends got put into jail and whenever he came back he asked me. Well I told him I would go out with him if he swore he wouldnt do drugs anymore and he wouldnt cheat on me. Last week he went to his friends house and got high and drunk and told a girl he would go out with her well he call me that same night and was crying and told me all about it and then I called his older brother and his brother told me that he had made out with another girl at the movies that sunday. Well i got really upset with him and we broke up. That friday he was at the skatin ring with the girl and he was cryin because he missed me and I was cryin because I missed him. He told me that he would try to stop doin drugs and that he really loved me and that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me, but I dont know if I should give him another chance. Should I give him another chance? I am a girl and im 15 years old.

Even though he promises he will never hurt you intentianally, he is still going to continute to hurt you until he deals with his problems. Let him know that you do want to be with him, but not like this. And you can't be together until he gets things sorted out.

Give him some time (at least a month). Either he will see that he needs to really change to be with you, or he won't change, and you will have saved yourself from being hurt again.

Remember, you can't change him, and you know this is not the kind of relationship you want, or deserve.

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One of my best friends is about to throw her life away by dating the schools pimp, im not joking, he has cheated on everygf he has had including me, but every time i tried to explain that to her she just doesnt listen.. Please hel me help her

You have done what you can by telling her that this guy is only going to hurt her. But she has the right to make her own decisions, and needs to learn from her own mistakes.

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I would like all Days of Our lives fans opinions on this-
they changed the person who plays Belle Black yesterday without warning.
I think that they should have left Kirstin Storms playing her and they could have at least given some notice.

I know this isnt an important question to many but it is to me so give me your opinion!

You must not watch soaps much. They change characters all the time! I use to watch days when I was in highschool, lol. They have been through 3 or more Belles since then. I remember when Bell and Brady were 5 & 6. And then the next week they were teenagers. That was much more upsetting. It was hard to accept these new characters, but you'll get over it!

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if you ask a ?... can ppl tell its you? if your signed in?

No, all questions are anonymous.

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i have 100 questions answered....um how do i no im a level 2 thinggy now? explain a lot please..:o)

You can find all your questions about moderators here:
http://advicenators.com/mod.php?mode=faq

There is no goal for becoming a level 2 moderator. It is decided by the site administator as she needs them. There are less then 10 total.

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months and are going to celebrate our half year anniversary on August 28. The problem is I have no idea what to get him! I think he's getting me a promise ring, which is sweet beyond believe but I don't have anything to match it! When I bring it up though he just says "the only thing I want is you". Adorable, but not very helpful. I would be greatful for any suggestions, and I don't have a lot of money. Thanks a bunch! Em'lee

btw: he's a big music fan, is learning how to play guitar, and loves wild, death-defying stuff; if that helps any.

Plan a special outhing for the two of you that is out of the ordianry. Dinner and a concert in the city. If money is tight, a picnic at the park or a trip to the zoo. Take him to the races or a monster truck raily. Those are a hoot!
Massage oils are also a great gift too. Not only will he love the back rub, but you will most likely get one as well. Or get him a cool watch, maybe with an engraving on the back.
Be creative!

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What does Imao mean? I know what idk means but what does this mean? I try to answer questions but these abrevations get in the way of me understanding sometimes. Could someone tell me? Thanks in advance!
advice~gurl

You will find all your answers about chat abriviations here...

http://www.computeruser.com/resources/dictionary/chat.html

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i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...

Bush?
or
Kerry?

moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!

Kerry

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my brother just hit me so bad and it was for like no reason my whole face started bleeading he took a shoe and started hiting me with it and started pulling my hair i hate him so much..i was so close 2 calling the cops but i just couldnt wat should i do i really started hating him!

Where are your parents? Talk to them about the seriousness of the situation. Then they can decide what to do about it, and if police should be involved.

Next time he attacks you it could be worse. He is abusing you, don't just take it and then do nothing!

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does a guy kno when he pops ur cherry or no? iight cuz I wanna have sex wit this guy an he thinks im not a virgin an i am... an i was woundering if he would be able to tell like would it bleed that bad that he would notice or is there some way he would kno cuz i dont wanna make it sound like im lieing i just dont want him to find out someone plzz write back asap..Or e-mail me at Lilfarmerchick75@yahoo.com

*Jess*

You shouldn't be lying to the person you are sleeping with. You should be able to trust eachother. I don't understand the purpose of lying to him.

To your question, no he won't be able to tell that your a virgin physical. You may spot slightly, but nothing heavy like your period, you most likely will not even notice. If you use tampons, you might have already "popped your cherry." Your lack of experiance may make him wonder though.

Your first time should be a wonderful experiance, not something you have to hide.
Tell him the truth!

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