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Q: ok i need help me n' my x broke up brutal and he likes my best friend but my best friend doesnt like him at all but the problem is i still like him the way we met is he liked another one of my best friend bout 2 months ago and my best friend didnt like him so me and him became alott closer and we went to go see white noise as instinct i grabbed his hand and things went from there...we liked eachother alot but things got rocky with my friends and his friends and he broke up with me once then we got back together and he broke up with me again everything i hear or see reminds me of him some of my friends say its my first love but i dont know i had to tell him i didnt like him anymore cuz i didnt want it to be akward between us he said he wasnt gonna give up on my best friend what should i do

Forget about him. It hasint been working out what will be different next time your going out. You need to move on, whether you love him or not. Its not going to be easy, but you'll find yourself over him in a month or two. Trust me I know. Just try to find new guys to like and build relationships with those guys..so you can forget about you ex. I hope I helped, sorry if I didnt. Update me if you can! :) Good luck!

Q: OMG I soo totally Love hard rock!..my favorite band in the whole world is Dirturbed and I love every one of their songs and i know the words to all of them and i listen to them 24/7...but i am a christian i like other music too but hard rocks my favorite....is listening to it a sin?? and do they worship the devil??? thnx for any help

As christians we are not allowed to listen to anything other than christian music because their may be some material in their to cause you to think about something and sin. But, I do listen to non-christian music and so do a lot of other christians...so were not all perfect. If you feel listening to the music wont affect your relationship with Christ..then go ahead and listen to it.

Q: Hey, I believe in God and pray to him a ot when I need help. I don't go to church though, but I still believe. Is it bad I don't go to church?? Am I gonna go to Hell????

No, you wont go to hell if you dont go to church. It says in the bible that we should fellowship with other believers but you dont have to. But I think it would be a good idea to go ot a church so they can help you/teach you on how to become a stronger believer in God and how to start a relationship with him.

Q: Hi, originally I had about 77+ ratings on my advice column but not until recently I'm seeing the numbers decrease. Now it's gone down to 64 ratings and I'm baffled cuz I haven't deleted any advice I've given, nor has anyone withdrawn their questions. Can anyone tell me what's up? Thanks

Every 30 days your ratings erase to start out fresh and have another shot to get your ratings high and stuff. So dont worry! :)

Q: im petrified of dying,evry time i think about it i have butterflys in my stomach and i feel sick. i usally think about it wen im about to go to bed then i carnt sleep.how can i stop feeling so scared of dying?i dont wana see a therepyst.is this normal?
16/f

Yeah a lot of people are scared of dying. I used to always worry about getting in a car accident when i was in the car. You need to stop focusing on dying so much..but on living. If you worry about dying all the time, yu wont have a chance to live and do fun things...so put it behind you and live to the fullest.

Q: 1. I was wondering if it was normal for a 15 year old(3 months away form being 16) not to have her period?

2. Is it possible for someone not to get their period at all in a a lifetime?

No it is not possible for a girl to not get her period. Periods start different for a lot of people. Some people start as young as 9 and some about 18 or 19. Our bodys develop at different times and theres no set age where you have to have your period. So you dont have to worry, just be happy because having your period isint the greatest thing in the world. lol.

Q: I really need to make a website and ASAP, due to the fact gay texas is going to make a new law and i need to get a petition and letter on here QUICK, so do you know a good website thats free, easy, "pretty", and I can keep up at least until AUG, SEPT?

thanks

www.freewebs.com with up to 7 free pages and a guestbook, photo album, the works.

Q: What kind of dog would you reccomend that is small and you don't have to worry much about its hair?

A maltese, they are the cutest adorable things ever. Google "maltese puppy" or "maltese" and prepare to "awwww" lol. Maltese's dont even grow big. Or you can get a tea-cup chiwawa(spell?) those never ever get big...they look like puppys until they die

Q: I've looked but cant fund the site counters.. where you put a counter on a site to say how many people have visited..
i know of coolcounters.com ..but does anyone know of anything else?

www.lissaexplains.com/counters.shtml www.statcounter.com/ www.my-free-web-counter.com/ . I hope that works sorry if you dont like them.

Q: Does anyone know how to tell if you're bipolar?

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bipolar.cfm . That site will tell you a lot of info on telling if your bi polar ! Good luck.

Q: f/13 im going out with this guy....lets call him bill. ok well i met bill at a convention thingy away from both of our hometowns. we got each others numbers and talked on the phone after we got back to our houses blah blah blah and now were going out. he lives about 2.5 hours away. now i was talking t this other guy who i recently went out with and ever since we broke up weve been pretty much best friends and talked on the phone all the time. he lives about 5 minutes away but he is moving about 30 minutes away(no biggie) lets call him fred. so im currently going out with bill right...and im was talking to fred on the phone and we still both love eachother more than anyone would believe and we got to talking about our relationship (i was thinking about dumping bill to go out with fred anyways) blah blah blah and i ended up asking fred out. of course he said yes and the problem now is that i have 2 boyfriends and ive never been the person that cheats. so what i want to know is how do i dump bill with out hurting his feelings and still be really good friends with him???? HeLp Me pLeAsE!!! ThAnX!

Just talk to Bill and say you feel that your relationship wont work because of the distance and you feel lonely. Say that there is someone else you want to be with, and tell him that even though the relationship is over, you should still be friends. If he cares about you, he'll want to still be friends. good luck. update me if you can.

Q: I am 20 and I am 300 lbs, I am also female which raises the cruelity level up a few notches. I desparetly need new deit tips so I can lose the extra flab.

I think low carb would be the best way to go. You know atkins/south beach? Its worked for millions and it will work for you. I think you should look it up on google or buy the book(Have to buy the book!). If you want atkins, its pretty strict..but south beach is strict also but lets you add back carbs after a while. You could also consult your doctor and ask what you should do. Definatley start walking and stuff to raise your metabolism. If you looked up low carb and have any questions you can ask me. I'm doing low carb and I know all the basics and stuff. Good luck!

Q: i'm super confused. I think i may be a lesbian but i'm not sure. see, i find myself flirting with guys like any normal 14 year old. but i find myself checking girls out too. i'm not afraid to be a lesbian but this has been going on for quite sometime now so can somebody just help me decide? am i a lesbian or not?

Believe it or not a lot of people go through that. They question their sexuality and such. I dont know if your a lesbian. It could be your just wondering about it, and looking girls "that way" just to see if your attracted. if you like guys too, you could be bi-sexual. For now, just do whatever but if your not thinking about girls like that in a few months..it was just a stage. You know?

Q: hi, im 16/f i have this friend who has a bf and everything is different now that she has one, we have been fighting so much, we went 2 months with out talking, i was fine with it b/c i didnt have to put up with all of her bull shit, all she ever talked about was her bf, and if not that then just everything about her, and if i tryed to talk about like a guy i liked she'd get mad at me bc "im selfish" and we hardley ever talked about me or my problems, it was always about her. at first it didnt bug me, but then it got to be too mch so i called her on it and she got so mad at me and called me selfish, so thats why we stoped talking those couple months, now were talkign again, and it's worse then ever i can hardly stand her. sould i call her on it again, or just leave things the way they are? plz some one help me!! thanks

I think you should tell her. Why are you going to hide all your feelings inside and take crap from her you know? I know it might ruin your friendship, but it shouldent. If she was a good enough friend she would understand and try to make things better. Not get all mad and stop talking to you. So yeah definatley call her on it again. Good luck, keep me updated if you can!

Q: hey, im the girl that asked you about the friend that i used to have that wen i moved we stopped talking and were not that close anymore, and how now she has a new best friend and all.....well, i need more help....now, my boyfriend of 3 years(we love eachother to death dont get it twisted, and weve both done some pretty messed up things to eachother in the past...but now were gainin back trust and loyalty...) ..and well, i found out that he asked my "lost" best friend's NEW best friend to get wit him..he asked my "lost" best friend to ask her NEW best friend if she wuld get with him!!!!!!!....and i cant believe she would do that!!!!!...i cursed her out on the phone and all she said wuz," ash, i dont kno what he said to me earlier..im really drunk rite now.." ....!!! so...what do you think?? thanks so much in advance.

Well your boyfriend is a total jerk for one thing. Hes trying to get with your ex-friends best friend! Just break it off with him, you deserve much much better. I know it would be hard to just break up, but who knows what he could do...if you stay with him, what if he goes out with other girls behind your back. That would be totally messed up, dont give him another chance.

Q: im in student gov and we have to plan the spring dance. does anyone have any ideas for a theme? plz no under the sea or hawiian. thnx!

How about a time-thing like the 1980's or 50's that would be pretty cool!

Q: anyone know the usual cost for professional highlights??

Yeah for highlights/blow dry around $30-$50 just depends on how professional. Like if it was a local salon it would be pretty cheap but if it was somewhere popular and known...it would be a lot more!

Q: I'm on a diet right now, and obviously, Easter is coming up. I have younger siblings who still get candy from the "Easter Bunny" and they're probably not going to buy "The Easter Bunny didn't bring your sister anything because she's on a diet." What can I have my mom give me so that I can have fun on Easter and still stick to my diet?

Sugar free candy/cookies. Omgosh dont say ew because its so good. LOL. I'm on a low carb diet and I bought these sugar free/low carb peanut butter chocolate cookies and they dont even taste sugar-free! Just go to your local gorcery store and go to all the baked goods, and look for the sugar free stuff. And definatley buy something that says like "Sweetened with Splenda" Just because its easter doesnt mean you cant indulge in some sugar free chocolates and cookies! And trust me you'll love them because you havent had that good stuff in a while, so even if its sugar free...its beauitful!

Q: So im talking to this person from another country.. I ask him what his country thinks about 9/11. The attack we had. So He said i dont want to tell you im really sorry for that but i should better not tell u prob u must have already understood but still wont teel u. What is it that they possibly think? They think what we are doing is wrong?

It depends on what country hes from. My parents are from iraq and yes, they believed that 9/11 was terrible and unfortunate but they told me some people in middle east dont even care because they dont like America. So yeah we wont know for sure, just ask him! Or dont even ask if he doesnt wanna share his views then let it go.

Q: i went on a cruise this summer and met a lot of new friends and still keep in touch with a few. but heres the thing, my friends at home get really mad if i even mention them. i dont think its because they are jealous because they are always exclusive to me and never have me over, ect. they also get mad if talk about a boy a like. its not really them getting mad, they just role they're eyes or sigh or look like really annoyed. i constantly feel like i have to watch what i say or they'll get mad at me. what shoudl i do?!

Just talk to them and be like look its not nice to roll your eyes at me when I have something to say. Say that you listen to them and their probs and whatever, and they should do the same! Just talk to them and if they dont seem to care, then their not that good of friends!