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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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hey everybody. My friend was dating her bf for a year and a few months and they had already decided their wedding date, childrens names, where they would live, ect. They just recently "went on a break" and then broke up completely, but they are still going to get married, as planned, the summer after she graduates high school. I told them that if they can't be together in a dating relationship then how where they going to do in a marriage but to them this makes sense. What do you think about this?
If it makes sense to them, then oh well.
Personally though I think 18, or just out of highschool is too young of an age to be married. So maybe it's just all talk and maybe she is the only one thinking they are getting married because she doesn't want him to see anyone else.
i like my bf's best friend! hes available but he doesnt really want a gf rite now he flirts with a lotta girls but i reallly reallly like him but i still like my bf too i dont know what to do really i no this is probably a common question but ill rate high thanks in advance
You certainly wouldn't want this guy to continue his flirting if you hooked up with him, and most likely he would. He sounds like a player, but doesn't want to settle down with one girl. It seems we always want what we can't have! Stick with your b/f and just be friends with the other guy.
If a white person called a black person a "nigga" on the computer, is this some sort of discrimination, could that person get in any kind of trouble or anything like that?
Thank you.
If it is on AOL or another service with Terms of Service that prohibits this type of thing you could lose your account. Racist comments can be considered hate crimes and if the person really wanted to, they could find a way to trace an IP address and figure out where it came from.
Yes I've always had a problem with her cuz I think she's really weird and I don't like all her Repulican policies. But now it's like everytime I see her or think of her I just wanna scream. When I heard that thing about her getting up at 4.30am to exercise I got so mad I ended up punching a wall!!! Arg, it really sucks. Does anyone know a way to get over this a lil bit because if I go to my friends house I don't wanna see her!!!
I rate high xxx
We all have probably disliked people that hold high positions at one time in our lives. However punching the wall is a bit extreme! Since you can't do anything to change her, or change her status, the best thing is to just accept that fact and ignore anything to do with her. Block the negative energy by focusing on good thoughts of people you do like.
ok, well im not trying to sound conceited(sp?), but i have very beautiful eyes. They are a bluish, greenish, greyish color. i often have random strangers come up to me and say I have beautiful eyes, and it makes me feel weird. I can't really describe the feeling, but sort of an awkwardness. I was sitting on the bleachers in gym the other day, and a girl walked up to me and said "wow you have nice eyes" i was a little shy...see the thing is, i like the feeling, but i dont at the same time. I don't want to sound conceited when I say thank you, but I dont want to sound embarrassed either, which is what I sound like. Can someone give me advice on how to feel more comfortable with strangers complimenting me on my eyes all the time? sorry its so long...ill rate high for good answers. ♥ Danielle
Hi,
Some people do have a hard time accepting compliments because of self esteem issues..shyness or whatever, but really the best thing to say is "Thank You". and leave it at that. The more you say it, the easier it will be.
Okay so I've got these horrible cramps. (hello -time of the month-) Is there any way to make them go away? I don't have any medicine to take. I can't go to the store. I tried putting a pillow on my stomach but the pain got worse. It feels like I'm going to puke. Is there anything I can do?
For now take a hot bath or use a heating pad. In the future you may wish to follow the advice on this web site.
http://www.mothernature.com/Library/Bookshelf/Books/47/93.cfm
Oh by the way--if you are a teenager don't use products that contain aspirin.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We're really close and I trust him with my life. I think we're ready to take our relationship farther, on a physical scale. But whenever we talk about sex we're just kidding I guess. And he seems really timid to talk to me about it. He's not a virgin, so he's been in the "wanting to have sex" position before. But I'm wondering, am I doing the right thing by talking to him about it, or should I just leave it up to him or go for it in the heat of the moment?
You should talk about it, yes. While you are at it you need to discuss birth control, STDs (since he has had sex before) and what would happen if you became pregnant. It's often too late after the fact. If he's not mature enough to discuss these things, then obviously he's not mature enough for sex.
i tried going to sleep then, but i cant always do that..im normally wide awake around then. and when i fall asleep around then..i tend to wake up around 11 and not be able to go back to sleep.
it's really stupid how my district works. we have school at 7:10 in the morning. so we have to be up at 5-5:30 everyday for school. erhhh
-thanks a bunch.
Wow! That's early. Perhaps you are just a night owl. At one time I worked at 5am in the morning and it just about killed me! Good Luck!
i'm trying that.. well last night i went to bed at 11:30 and got up @ 8:45. which is somewhat normal. and i was still really tired from the night before when i got the 6PM-9AM sleep.
i cant get the 9-7:30 sleep like you said. only because i get up for school at 5-5:30 everyday. then on the weekends i'll sometimes be up between 12-2AM. and sleep till like 9-10AM.
my mom says its because i have the heat in my room up too high and that makes me tired..but wouldnt have this been going on winter then??
-thanks.
If you get up at 5-5:30 you should be going to bed every night at about 7:00PM. Teenagers typically need more sleep than adults, and it should equal about 10 hours a night. There have been studies that show if school started after 10:00 AM most students, especially high schoolers would perform better. It might be because you are getting up so early on a daily basis. It interupts the natural deep sleep cycle that typically happens between 3-6 AM. If the heat was the problem, yes I think that it would happen every time the room was very warm. However it is true that to acheieve a more comfortable sleep the room temperature should be slightly cooler at night than it is during the day.
I still think it would be a good idea to get checked for a medical problem because there are a lot of illnesses that can cause fatigue. If thats not the case then work on a regular sleep schedule and try to keep that schedule even on the days you are not in school.
how can i make myself seem shorter?
It's all about the way one dresses and sometimes the hair style too. Check this site out for some ideas.
http://www.k12.nf.ca/swiftcurrent/hcraft/cldesign.html
okay..is it normal to fall asleep @ 6PM. wake up for 5 minutes around 10PM. then go back to sleep. wake up @ 1 then fall back to sleep. then again at 5AM. then 7:30. Then getting up @ 9AM. still really tired. is that normal at all??
You are getting enough sleep, but not the right kind of sleep. This is especially evident because you say you are still tired. No this is not normal. Check with your Dr to rule out any serious health problems. Then--try to get into a regular sleep routine (go to bed at 9, get up at 7:30) every single day. Cut out all caffine, eat three balanced meals per day. Exercise well before 6 PM. IF after doing these things you are still not sleeping right ask your Dr about attending a sleep clinic for further evaluation.
i have , i dont know if its a gas disorder, its really embarssing , and i end up just accidently farting in class, but when im at home i accident shart myself, its wicked embarrasing..people call me the fart machine , i dont know what to do ..please help ASAP...ill rate high
The first thing to do would be to cut out all foods that are likely to cause this problem. Dairy products, broccoli, cabbage, onions, sea food--and carbonated beverages. When you eat, eat slowly and chew your food well. Don't drink from a straw. After doing this for at least a week, you may find that the problem is better. If so, then add the foods back in your diet one at a time--several days apart. If one of the foods that you cut out trigger a "gas attack" then you may wish to eliminate that food all together.
If it is dairy products it is probably caused by "lactose" the natural sugar in the milk. You can buy lactose free products, or an over the counter medicine that helps with this. Because obviously dairy products are important for the calcium.
If you have a change in bowel habits, diarrhea, abdominal pain, constipation etc. You should see a Dr to rule out a more serious problem.
i can't describe these annoyances that i experience daily so i'm just going to give examples of what happen
*yesterday my mom came out of the bathroom and the door closed behind her but i could only here that it hit the door frame and didn't like lock all the way so i'm sitting there holding myself against the couch until i couldn't stand it any more i had to go and pull it shut
* my brother asked for some gum (it was orbit) so they have rows of gum right? well i was having the hardest time deciding which piece to give him.. i just closed my eyes and grabbed one and it happened to be on the back row... well after i handed it to him i had to take the last one from the front row and fill in the missing space in the back ?????????????
* other weird stuff is like i'll be sittin gher and just HAVE to say a certain word or pronounce a certain letter.. just with my tongue like L or the R sound, not out loud just with my tongue and in my head
how strange is this? i've noticed stupid stuff like this before but now its like everyyy day!! it's so annoying! are these signs of ocd? i feel like some freak. : / please help, and if you do think its ocd.. where do i go from there? how do i like break this habit? even while i was writing this i had to delete certain letters and retype them just cuz i had to i didn't make a mistake i just wouldn't feel right if i didn't do it. : / ugh this is so stupid and frustrating but i don't want it to get worse please help!!
Here's some information that you might find interesting.
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx25.htm
ok so i went to the doctors today and they had to take my blood to see if my hormone levels were like screwed up and like thyroid and all that was normal. WELL on saturday night I got high (marijuana lol) but see i ran a lot that night.. because the police was chasing us but whatever.. so yeah and i've been like drinking a lot of fluids but i can honestly say i'm not like guzzling gallons.. is it possible that my THC level could be normal or whatever.. please help i'm like stressin out
Is there a reason that the Dr would order a drug screen?
It's not something they just automatically do you know.
In addition, they don't just share that information with law enforcement for no reason at all.
THC levels depend on a lot of things. The concentration in the pot, the amount, your body fat and the frequency of use. I wouldn't count on anything decreasing the level in your blood except time.
I am thirteen years old and I have two dogs and two cats. As much as I love my dogs right now, they are very old and they cant run or play or anything. Ive always wanted a small dog of my own but my parents say I cant have one. Should I keep on trying to get them to let me have a dog or should I lay off?
A responsible pet owner should make a commitment to love and care for their pet for it's entire lifetime. Dogs like people--grow up and cannot do all the things they did when they were young, but we don't replace them. Imagine getting a new young grandma so she can play basketball in your driveway with you, while the old grandma sits in her rocker looking out the window. Sounds silly doesn't it? But really it's kind of sad.
A new dog would take time away from the older dogs, and if you have four pets already, consider yourself lucky and stop asking your parents for another.
Every time I go on a date with a guy I like they give me a peck on the cheek and say goodnight. I've tried kissing them and hugging them and inviting them inside but they never come in! I've barely made out with a guy and I can't figure out why. I can get plenty of guy-friends but none of them want to be anything more! I'm not fat or ugly, I'm just getting horny and frustrated - and I've even told one of them so. He tried to give me advice and I was like no I want to be intimate with you and he just kissed me and left.
Stop trying so hard. Don't try kissing or hugging until after several dates. Guys like girls that play hard to get. So just pretend that you don't care until the guy makes the first move.
me and my boyfriend have had sex and he cummed inside of me on accident...and i have missed my period it has been couple days later and still dont have it im scared i might be pregant but I CANNOT tell my parents so i have no clue if i am or not but since i have missed my period im scared i have...is it true you can have late periods just by having sex...because we are not forsure he really did cum but to me it felt like it but not for sure..so i dont kno what to do or how to tell i have no symptons except missed period and we are trying to get a pregnancy test but w are trying to get money so what can i do to tell if i am pregant...or can u juss get late periods by having sex?
Having sex does not cause your period to be late.
If you can't afford a pregnancy test, you can't afford a pregnancy that's for sure. Find a way to go to the nearest planned parenthood and if you don't have money for the test they will do one for free. If you are scared to tell your parents at least tell a trusted adult so they can provide some help.
You can get pregnant from the pre-ejaculatory fluid so that part is irrelevent. You had sex that included penetration and that means yes, it is likely you are pregnant. Sometimes the only symptom is a late period. In that case you would need early medical intervention, so don't wait.
okay i need really good advice for this. my friend, he has some problems from the past dealing with family and friends. that's understandable, but he's really controlling. he used to cut and now threatens to kill himself. would he go through with it? probably not, but there's always that chance one day he might just break, ya know? well he doesn't like people i hang around with like my bf, friends, etc etc. he's very very controlling and today he asked me to choose my friends or him. well i obviously want to be with my friends, but i'm afraid he's going to do something stupid like he says. i really need help. everyone says "you shouldn't be friends with him if he treats you this way" but if you were in my situation (maybe some of you are) you definately know what i mean and how i feel about this subject. any ideas??
thanks!!
http://www.suicidehotlines.com/
Call one of the numbers on this site and ask for advice or...
Tell your friend that if he doesn't get help for his suicidal thoughts, you will call 911, and then do it. If he is being honest about wanting to die you did the right thing. If he is manipulating you, you will show him that you can't be manipulated and he may still get the help he needs for his past problems and controlling nature.
I cant stand my dad any more. He drives me insane! i have this problem with people making noises when they eat, talking when im doing homework/reading/watching tv and then blowing their noses like in the living room. All of which he is WELL aware of and he keeps doing it. I cant even stand to be in the same room as him anymore. Is this a sign of OCD or something like that? How can i learn how to chill about these things?
Thank you! I'll rate high
Things that people do or noises that they make bother me too. I read that sound sensitivity can be a symptom of ADD, but it just doesn't match the symptoms of OCD. I know that when I don't get enough sleep I am even more bothered by little things such as you describe. When I start to get irritable I take a 30 minute power nap or a bubble bath and I find I can tolerate everything much better.
Am I justified in being angry when my mom calls me an ignorant slut because she wasn't understanding something I was trying to explain to her? I don't mean to sound whiney, but I'm really sick of these degrading comments she directs at me when she messes something up, makes a mistake, or doesn't understand something. I don't know what to do about this. Any advice?
Thanks
You are justified in feeling hurt that's for sure! Sounds like you should pity or feel sorry for your Mother because she is the one that needs help! You probably won't be able to change your Mother, but you can change how you react. When your Mom does this, speak slowly and with confidence "I am a good person and I deserve to be treated better than that". If you have another adult that is willing to speak to your Mom about this (a grandparent--aunt--etc) Please ask them to do so. Perhaps they can convince your Mom to get some help before she ruins any chance of a relationship with you...her daughter.