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Just want an opinion on something
hey everybody. My friend was dating her bf for a year and a few months and they had already decided their wedding date, childrens names, where they would live, ect. They just recently "went on a break" and then broke up completely, but they are still going to get married, as planned, the summer after she graduates high school. I told them that if they can't be together in a dating relationship then how where they going to do in a marriage but to them this makes sense. What do you think about this?
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If it makes sense to them, then oh well.
Personally though I think 18, or just out of highschool is too young of an age to be married. So maybe it's just all talk and maybe she is the only one thinking they are getting married because she doesn't want him to see anyone else.
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While it does seem like an awkward thing. You didn't mentions their ages but based on what they are planning I would guess they are young.
If so, then actually it's a good thing that they are separating for the time being. It will give them time to get to know them selves and probably date other people. I wouldn't worry about them. If its not meant to be they will drift apart by the end of High School. I'm sure at that time they won't just get married because they said they would when they were younger.
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her name wouldnt be SALLY by any chance, would it????
him: JAD ??
anyway, if it is then the person asking this question should go talk to her sister...
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Wow. Just wow. I think that's a bit more than weird. You are completely right. Your friend will be making a mistake. Unfortunatley, it isn't your place to decide. She needs to come to this realixation herself. You can voice your opinon but you can't bager her about it. Hopefully, she'll figure it out that if she can't even date him she's not gonna do well be married to him. But until then all you can do is support her.
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Well I think that you're right, they won't be able to hold up a healthy marriage if they can't hold up as a couple.
The best you can really do is be her shoulder to cry on instead of trying to tell her that her marriage won't work. If she doesn't understand right now that it won't work, then she will later. But, you are a very good friend for trying to warn her, and if she starts talking about their relationship, then maybe you can ask her to help you make sense of this whole mess because you are confused.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, this sounds like an awkward situation. I completely agree with what you said..because you are right how can they possibly have a good marriage if they can't even date?
I am sure they will eventually come to realize that this is not right.
I think that you should tell your friend to start dating other people, and realize that she stil has many options on who she is going to marry, and maybe if she does that she will date other people and know that he isn't the right guy.
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i agree with you totally if they cant commit now how will they for the rest of their lives. But it might be one of those teen love things where you talk about how everything is going to be when your grown and it never turns out that way. But i agree with what you said 100%
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