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Sex Talk
My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We're really close and I trust him with my life. I think we're ready to take our relationship farther, on a physical scale. But whenever we talk about sex we're just kidding I guess. And he seems really timid to talk to me about it. He's not a virgin, so he's been in the "wanting to have sex" position before. But I'm wondering, am I doing the right thing by talking to him about it, or should I just leave it up to him or go for it in the heat of the moment?
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you should talk to him about, if your ready to take your relationship to the next level let him know about it and once he knows then he will know when to make a move
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well me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years and we just started having sex. its not about what he wants. you should wait until your comfortable. sex will either make or break a relationship and should be treated with a lot of thought. so talking to him about it and telling him you feel is for sure the way to go! <3
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You should talk about it, yes. While you are at it you need to discuss birth control, STDs (since he has had sex before) and what would happen if you became pregnant. It's often too late after the fact. If he's not mature enough to discuss these things, then obviously he's not mature enough for sex.
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I think talking about it is a good thing..
you don`t want him to make a move && then you not want to do it..Gettin the move unexpected can freak a girl out especially if she hasn`t had sex before..
♥Dez
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Communication is always a good idea. Know where he stands, and make sure he knows where you stand.
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It's deffinitly a good thing to talk about it. Figure out how your going to stay safe, and discuss the feelings you have for each other. If your sure your ready to have sex with your boyfriend, then let him know, and discuss what will happen if your protection doesnt work..etc. Good Luck. Oh, just wondering, how old are you?
-Brina
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i think you are doing the right thing by talking about it. you shouldnt leave it up to him. your the one in control and always rember that. if hes already had sex befor and he has wated for 9 months for sure then id try the heat of the moment deal, not all the way and just see how it goes. but make sure your ready because after youve lost your virgenity you cant get it back. (and use protection)
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Hell yea you`re doing the right thing. Talking about it makes everything way better. It`ll get to know a chance what he thinks about it & what you think about it. Don`t just let it happen when your guys are all heated up. It just won`t feel right. Just talk to him about it. And say that your not kidding. He might get the hint that your being "serious" about this topic. ♥
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by talking about it, it shows that you are ready to take on that commitment. before you have sex, you need to clarify things. what would you two do if you do get pregnant? would you go on birth control? if you were on birth control, would you still use a condom? there's also the fact that he's not a virgin, and it's always a good thing to be tested before a new partner. he shouldn't be offended if you want him to be tested for an STD, he should be glad that you want to be safe. you shouldn't just let it happen in the heat of the moment, no matter how long you've been dating! :) if you want anymore help, or have sex questions check out my column.
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I think before you actually do it I think that you should talk about if you are both ready for it or not.
Because then you will truely know that you both want it.
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I think its wonderful you are comfortable enough with each other to discuss it.
It is also great he is waiting for you to be ready. Don't rush it. It will happen when you are ready. Just be prepared for when it does! :)
Here is a good site if you have not been there before...lots of useful info.
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I forgot to add that I give that website addy to all who are thinking about sex. It really does have a lot of useful info on birth control, and many other things concerning sex.
Thanks for upping the rating, I try to come back if I feel like it will help. I am prone to ramble...;) YG
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Actually I did read the question. Maybe I elaborated to long on the answer.
Its great you talk about it...means yes, talking about it with him is good.so you're doing the right thing.
It will happen when you're ready was meant to mean do it when your ready...usually in the moment.
Hope that clarifies things for you.
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