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Q: ive been to salem, mass once before a few years ago, but i wasnt really into the witch trials then. now, we're sutdying the witch trials in school, and it has really peaked my interest, so im going to salem in a few weeks for my birthday. what are some REALLY cool places to go involving the witch trials? i dont want anything thats too comercialized. i love historical things. i need links to these places if there are, because i need prices so i can plan this all out. thanks!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salem,_Mass.#Points_of_interest

... is my simple answer=]

Q: this guy has a gf but he likes me 2. I lke him back and he wants to hookup and stuff and cheat on her with me. yah i no its wrong but i really lke him and were gonna go out anyway after they break up . BUt they might not breakup for a while. shes also a "friend of mine" but i dont rlly like her. idk what to do bc i like him alot and dont want to wait but if anyne finds out my life is ruined.thanks!

Yeah, no.
This guy sounds like a total jerk. If he really liked you, he'd break up with your "friend" already. Otherwise, you're really just "the girl on the side". I know it may sound harsh, but think about it. It's true. besides, even if you ignore YOUR role in this little mess, think about HIM: is this really the kinda guy you wanna be with?
If you don't care about that girl he's messing with, and you like him too much to see what a jerk he is, at least take a look at what you think about yourself. And if you STILL wanna get yourslef into this, go for it. But i think you already have an idea of how things would go, otherwise you'd've done it already=/

Q: i'm 16/female. my friend (also 16) wants to go trick-or-treating this year. she wants me to go with her but i'm not sure if i am. if i didn't go trick-or-treating i'm not sure how i would celebrate. i would host a party, but i just did friday for my birthday.

if i went trick-or-treating i also don't know what to wear. i was looking in the party city ad and all the outfits look so slutty. i was thinking something kind of masquerade. does anyone know where i can get a dress that's masquerade-ish that isn't expensive?

Well, some people wouldn't want to, but i suggest you buy something like at Goodwill, or borrow some sequin dress from an older relative (i'm just assuming no one younger would have one) like red, purple, or green, and buy a mask at Party City (mardi gras?), or make one yourself (with sequins and glitter, of course!). Otherwise, you could just wear all black (like a simple shirt or something and cute [not slutty] skirt) and buy some cats ears, then just paint on whiskers and cat eye type things. Those are just a couple simple ideas=]

Q: My boyfriend is getting me really mad, becauze me him and a couple of frendz are supposed to go to a teen club on saturday, and when i told him about it he sed " oh im gunna go wiht my ex girlfriend " now im not gonna hav a fun time and im gunna worry about them, he mite even ignore me that nite. what should i do, and i need advice quik because saturday is coming up and i need to know wuht to do ahead of time, thanx

Tell him you don't feel comfotrable with him being with his ex... AT ALL. If he doesn't care, then act mad at him. I know it sounds immature or whatever, but don't stress yourself out about him. Let him know how you feel, but if he doesn't care, act like you don't either. And if he ignores you... you SHOULDN'T be taking that from him. He acts like a jerk, you don't have to be mr. nice guy (girl, whatev).

Q: I betrayed my best friend in the world, Cali..:[

So I'm friends with this girl, Holly. Holly really liked this kid named Jared...I was supposed to try and hook them up. In the process of convincing Jared to go out with Holly, I found out that my best friend Cali liked Jared..A lot. But I didn't pay attention to that fact..So Jared and Holly are going out, and Cali wanted to know if I knew she liked him before I hooked him up with Holly. I lied and said I had no idea. I feel like an idiot for betraying my best friend, but I don't know what to do...I know that what she doesn't know won't hurt her, but still...What do I do?

Honestly don't think there's anything you can do... I mean, it's not like you're gonna break Holly and Jared up, then try to hook him up with cali, right? of course not. I don't think this should be stressing you out so much. i can't say it doesn't suck, but if you feel that bad about it, just tell cali the truth. Say, "I guess I might've heard SOMETHING about it, but Holly was counting on me to do her this favor so I just brushed it off without knowing that you really DID like him, much less that you liked him THAT much." Tell her you didn't want to get her so angry or hurt, but that you figured you had to tell her. i doubt you best friend in the whole world can get too mad at you for this. It's the best i can come up with, anyway. Let me know how this all works out=]

Q: well i liked my friend for like the longest time now. we dont go to the same school anymore but hopefully ill go to school with him next year. the thing is i saw him yesterday and its like i didnt like him anymore. that should be a good thing because we cant be more that friends but at the same time it kinda hurts me. its just that without my feelings for him i feel empty. he was the one that kept me going and taught me so much about myself and now i feel like i lost that. we're still friends and all but i cant control these feelings and i wish that there was someone i could trust but i cant...

That's kind of a weird feeling but i think i get what you mean. The only thing i'm thinking might make you feel better is talking to him. Give him a call or something & you can catch up on what's been going on since the whole "school" thing separated you guys. To me, it just sounds like you miss him, whether you like him or not, so that's all i can think of right now=]
~MG

Q: if a boy says he likes you and wants to be with you does he usually mean it?

It depends on:
what your definition of "usually" is, it depends on the situation, and it depends on what kind of guy he is. So you need to give more details for a better answer.

BUT if he's NOT the kinda guy who goes around telling that to everyone (John Tucker...), and if he sounds sincere, AND you know him well enough to know he doesn't mess with your mind, then chances are he might mean it.

Q: i just got braces and they look really ugly..is there anything i can do to make them look less ugly or less noticeable and what band color should i get? just colors that i like or is there certain colors that look bad/good on diffent ppls teeth?

Ummm the best I can tell you is to pick silver bands. For me, that made them less noticeable, i guess becuse it matched the wire?? I don't know, but it seemed to work. I wouldn't try "tooth" colored, though. It looks kinda weird sometimes=/. Other than that, i don't know what else you can do because you're pretty much stuck with them for the next like 2 years and you can't change much about them, but TrusT me, you'll get used to them in a few weeks and they shouldn't look as bad by then. Hope i helped^_^

Q: i love surveys, polls & questionnaires, as well as quizzes that are meaningful or just plain questios i've never been asked before.

any sites? besides misterpoll.com

Oh i used to love those things too.... I remember going to a lot of websites but i can only remember 2 of them:

bzoink.com
allthetests.com

Sorry if i wasn't much help, but those 2 are pretty good. You might wanna try Googling "survey polls tests" too; I'm sure it'll give you LOADS of places to check out!

Q:

Hey you all! First off, I am 21/f and the other people I am mentioning in my question are 21 as well, if that matters. Here is the situation.

I have two really close friends. One is a guy and one is a girl. They are dating and have been for about a year. The girl, Erica, is my best friend and has been for over 10 years. The guy, Jarrod, just moved here from another city to be closer to my best friend and he and I are really close as well. He tells me things that he can't even tell her. Lol. Well, the problem is that they live together now and have for a few months and I go over there and stay the night with them sometimes.

Well, she really just does not treat him right. He treats her like a freakin GODDESS and she just takes advantage of him and dosen't appreciate him. She even makes jokes about how he is her "bitch" and things like that. It just... isnt right. He is in a wheelchair so, she needs to be helping him out, but she dosen't. She treats him like crap! And, I hate saying that because she is my best friend and I LOVE HER too death, but... he just dosen't deserve it.

Jarrod has even come to be and talked to me about it a few times. He knows that he is "whipped" and that she treats him like shit, but he dosen't know how to fix it.

My real problem here is that I like him a lot. I would love to date a guy like him, and yet... my friend has him and takes advantage of it. I COULD TREAT HIM SO MUCH BETTER and would appreciate him a lot more! Honestly. But, I could never go behind my friend's back and take him from her. He already admitted to liking me a few months ago... but he stayed with Erica and nothing came of it cause he loves her. He really does. He is head over heels for her and my friend loves him too, but just dosen't deserve him if she can't treat him right. *Sigh*. I dunno what to do. I am just confused and hate seeing her do this to him whenever I would NEVER treat him that way.

Help please?!?! Thanks!

~ Confused Girl ~

This sounds pretty bad.... caught between your best friend and the guy who like; HER guy. I wish I could tell you to get them to break up and be with him, but she's your best friend, AND you say he loves her. Well, at LEAST for now, since it sounds like you care more about his happiness than your own right now, talk to erica about it, as a friend. Tell her you don't mean to criticize her, but what she's doing REALLY isn't right. depending on how the conversation goes and how she handles it, you may have to end up telling her how you feel about him (gonna have to go with YOUR judgement on that), just DON't make it seem as though you just want her out of the picture. As for him... you should talk to him too. Tell him that sometimes, he just has to stand up for himself (you don't necessarily have to use the words "treating you like crap"... it'll make him feel bad about himself). He doesn't have to start snapping at her or anything, just to tell her when he feels she's being, well, a bitch=/ If in the end it doesn't work out between them, wait a while, then talk to her about how she would feel about you going out with him. For now it's just one big mess and it's hard to see what's coming next, but for now, just do what feels right. It's not fair to keep your mouth shut when you have something important to say, especially when it's for someone you care about.
Hope i helped^_^

Q: So theres this guy Im talking to.He says hes likes me but hes soooo shy. He puts his arms around me, we cuddle and he kisses my forehead. but hes so shy to kiss me...we talk like everyday, but he hasnt called or texted me in like three days, and i feel weird. dont know why. I know hes really shy, and i want HIM to make the move, but im guessing i have too. Im confused cause weve been friends for like a year, but he knows ive liked him for like 6 months and so has he...should i make the first move...but the problem is, is that hes really shy and might hold back his feelings.

You'd be surprised how many guys say they'd actually prefer for the girl to ask them out, so if you're confident enough, go for it (it sounds pretty necessary). But, if you're like me (and I wouldn't ask a guy out... i just wouldn't) then just use your friends. Childish, i know, but it could work... just an idea. Anyway, good luck with that. either way, i have a feeling you two will be going out pretty soon;)

Q: i was wondering what are some summer-y songs. like stuff that's laid back and upbeat and would remind you of the beach/california/surfers, etc.

"Summer Nights"
"California" (OC theme song)
& I can't think of any more right now. You might wanna head to the nearest Hollister store & listen to music there ^_^ lol

Check these out, though (not sure if they'll help; just quick searches for now):

http://www.dummocrats.com/archives/000986.php

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_songs_about_California

Q: I am labelled as a bitch. Only when im mad though. When people piss me off, i snap at them but thats all. Now im labelled at a bitch but im really not. I am always nice to everyone but people like to run their mouth and say shit to me so obviously im going to say shit back. I never get into fights just little arguements sometimes. I dont know how to solve this problem..how can i let people know im really not a bitch?

Should it really matter? if being a bitch means that you speak your mind and don't hold back when you have to do/say something, then so be it. Besides, hardly anyone's the type of person they seem to be before you get to know them, so anyone whose opinion even matters will eventually not have bad opinions of you anyway. Still, not letting things get to you that badly wouldn't hurt, though=) I've always had a problem with getting mad easily, but once i saw my friend get in an argument with a shit-talker she didn't even know (and who would blame my friend? that girl was asking for it, and my friend's not the person to just take it), and really, it was just ridiculous. I'm not saying you should JUST turn the other cheek, but it would make the other person look WAY stupider when you show that you couldn't care less what they're saying, so try not to go crazy, that's all.

Q: i have recently read the book " forever.. " by judy blume i thought i was really good concidering i usally don't read books. dose anyone know any simmilar books or any good books for a 15 year old girl ?
please help me :)
thank you !

Well i'm kind of like you (i don't really like reading but every one in a while i find good books i REALLY like), & I can tell you stuff I LIKED & just hope u do too (i dont' know your tastes but i'll give it a shot).

-Harry Potter's pretty cool (i didn't think i'd like the books; that they were for nerd or something, but now i love them)

-the Twilight series. Kind of addictive. Perfect if you're a sucker for romance and stuff. Even friends of mine who don't read much are obsessed.

-Tithe: A Mordern Faerie Tale is a really fantasy romance/adventure/"horror" (not really scary but pretty edgy) type thing, which I love, followed by Ironside: A Modern Faery Tale

-The DaVinci code is also good (pretty deep stuff but i read it when i was thirteen and still thought it was REALLy good; way intriguing, so for the mystery-lover)

-If you wanna go more into nonfiction you might wanna try the Chicken Soup books (good & they're about stuff people our age can relate to)

Of course, you can try more Judy Blume books (I never really got into them myself, but from what I've heard, you like one, you'll probably like them all)... that's all i got for now. But also, i know that when teachers tell you to read something, you might automatically dismiss it; don't. Believe it or not, SOMEtimes they give you some good stuff (To Kill a Mockingbird is kinda boring at first, but gets better).

Q: hey haha i have side bangs & they curl out at the ends
& people say it looks really cute & all but i kinda want
them to be flat. i've tried straightening them, but they
don't have volume at ALL & aren't swept to the side.
they look really flat. & blend in with my other hair.
they look horrible. can someone suggest anything,
anything at all? thanks so much in advance! happy
easterr.

Well, if others say it looks good and you're SURE they're not lying to you, I think you should just keep it that way. But, if you REALLY can't stand it, you might wanna blowdry your bangs instead of just straightening them for more volume. Otherwise, just straighten them upwards. Sorry if that didn't help much, but it's all i got^_^
~MG

Q: my bestfriend is crazy. so i like her alot and she likes me, she also likes her ex boyfriend. and he likes her, the only thing i really care about is to make her happy and well even if it means hurting my self, she si happy im trying t odo this but she is excusing me off likeing him and saying im getting jealous of them help?

I say you back off, even if you end up "hurting yourself" by not being with her, at least until her feelings are totally clear, because if you get into this mess the way it is right now, you'll probably end up getting hurt anyway, only worse.
~MG

Q: 15/f

my boyfriend (17/m)has been fighting with me a lot lately and much of it is harsh. today was killer. it got to the point where he called me a dumbass and the most immature person that he knows, and that he's been going out with me for the past 10 months, because i have "the potential to be a good girlfriend." he tells me that i act like a spoiled little kid and need to grow up and stop being so immature.

this kind of fight happens too often. it has lead me to vodka. i can mix it with cranberry juice to cover the smell and my parents never notice that its gone so i can get away with it. i drink it because its the only thing that can get rid of my saddness. i dont want to be an alcoholic. i realize that i need help.

what can i do? what should i do?
please help me.
i need it.

and also,
i need a friend.

I think it's pretty obvious you gotta break up with him...
I really don't know what else to say, because you know what the problem is and i think you know what to do about it. He's hurting you, and you don't deserve that. Imagine someone you really care about (friend, cousin, sister, even mom if that gets the point across) in your situation, what would you tell them?
You shouldn't be sad or be hurting yourself more than you're already hurt for a jerk like that, trust me; he's not worth it.
It sounds like HE doesn't even HAVE the "potential to be a good BOYFRIEND". Guys like that don't deserve good girls, much less to have them ruining themselves because of them.
DUMP HIS ASS, ASAP [[!!]]
~MG

Q: do any of you have rubber bands for your braces? if so do they hurt! please let me know i get them wednesday!

Yeah your teeth get sore for a little while, but really, they're actually more annoying than painful^V^
Anyway, i advise you to wear them either way, to get used to them. Sure, you can take them off, but what happened with me was that i wore them for like a month the way i was supposed to, then i took them off because i didn't like them (even though i was already used to them) and then whenever i would put them back on, my teeth would hurt again, and since my orthodontist said they weren't working out for me, she put some crazy metal thing that worked just like the bands, only those bother a LOT and you can't take them off...
So, um, yeah...wear them... all that wasn't part of your question, but because my stupidity led to an extra year and a half of braces, i thought i'd warn you, just in case you didn't take it seroiusly^_^
~MG

Q: ok my school is holding cheerleading tryouts and we have 3 days before you practice. well i am pretty good at the cheer and i can do most of the jumps but im really nervous that im going to mess up in cheerleading....tryouts are friday and i dont want to mess up at tryouts...

cheerleaders don't get nervous!!!
okay, nervousness is something you just can't get rid of sometimes, so the most i can tell you and hope it helps is to just remember that everybody is going to do the same thing; nobody's going to do everything PERFECTLY, so just take a deep breath and do what you do bes (or at least it's something you do well!). so remember...
1: you'll get through this... what's the worst that can happen? not much right? everyone's going through the same thing, and messing up a teeny bit won't do much.
2: it might help if you think of anything stupid the other girls have done (it actually might!)
3: if you're nervous, you'll stay nervous. forget about it, you're just doing what you've practiced, except don't think you're being judged; think you're showing off what you can do.
hope i helped^_^
~Mari

Q: I've licked this guy 4 a LONG time and he i don't even know if he likes me but I really I don't care any way were in 7 th grade and he got yelled at and he cried and I'm into manlyer guys and everyones makeing fun of him I don't know what to do some peps. r jokeing at me 4 likeing him they keep asking me if I like manly men (as a joke) but I don't know what 2 do?

please help,

you don't know what to do? umm...about WHAT? liking him? there's nothing you CAN do, really. you can't control who you like. but if this makes you feel better, get ANY guy at that age yelled at the right way for the right reasons, and you can get them crying like a baby. trust me. anyone who makes fun of that will look so stupid the day THEY get yelled at and cry in front of people, which almost everyone does. anyway, i think it's stupid when a guy acts all "tough guy"-ish and pretends he doesn't care about getting in trouble or whatever when he soo does.
besides, how "manly" can 13-year-olds BE?? lol
anyway, like i said, there's nothing for you to do. you hardly even have anything to do with it, even though ou may feel like defending your crush or something. don't. it'll blow over eventually=P

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If you think my username's dumb, you should see the one I made when I was 13...

Hi, I'm Marisol :) I'm 24 years old. I try to look at all different sides of a situation before forming an opinion. I may not always know what to say, but I always have something TO say. So as far as giving advice goes, I just give my best input and hope I can help. Let me know how I do with some feedback. :)