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You see that man in that picture? That is me. I'm metal as all holy heck and I will give you answers so metal, you'll grow a beard. Even if you're a teenage girl.

So throw a question my way? "I like this guy and this guy, what do I do?" PICK THE ONE WHO LIKES METAL! "I've been feeling depressed lately, what should I do?" LISTEN TO SOME METAL! "I need help with my pre-calc homework." THE ANSWER IS METAL!

I can handle it all, I will not shy away from any question. May the metal be with you!

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I'm the guy who asked for advice with kik and my crush.
So I was really anxious to message her since I've never really talked to her. So without thinking I messaged her. And this was all before I got an answer for my previous question.... I messaged her with a fake account... And to make it worse I sent her, "Hiya!" Again I wasn't thinking. So now I know she read it and didn't answer back. Now honestly if it were up to me I would actually talk to her but I'm way to shy. and at the moment I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone. And I also am kinda scared to talk to her with my real account. Cause Im pretty sure she knew me when I went to the same school as her and I don't know what she thought of me. I don't know what to do!

Well, if she can't trace you back to your fake account, try again with your real account. Just be like, "Hey, we never got a chance to chat before I switched schools, how's it going?" Be real, I know it's hard being awkward, (I was a teen with a crush before text messages and kiks so I would nerviously call over and over) but just go for it. Once again, the worst that can happen is she doesn't like you back. It's not the end of the world. You can move one. You're young, don't let it ruin your life.

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I am a 25 year old female and I had sex on Dec 21st of last ear and ever since then I have been severe cramps when I am not on my period but my mom says this could be due to my overian cists could she be right ? Before sex my periods were 7 days exactly and now after sex they are anywhere from 1 to 3 almost a year ago . I have also lost an extreme amount of weight 27 pounds since then what could be going on ?

My brilliant answer: Go see a doctor. You haven't had sex in almost a year, it obviously has nothing to do with that. If it's cysts, they can take care of those and make you feel better.

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So I've been having the same crush on this one girl for about 4 years. I've literally have only said one word to her. I won't go into much detail into it all. But we've both always turn up seeing each other. Anyways i left the school she was at, so I can't really talk to her face to face. I don't know her phone number. The only thing ls I know is her kik username and Pinterest account. Now I would've talked to her before but I'm extremely shy. And I can still go back to the school but I'd rather not for personal reasons. I mean I still go to school just a different one. So the thing is I don't really know what to do. I was gonna make a fake kik account and ask if she's dating anyone, and kinda go on from there. And don't say just forget her because I've tried and she just keeps coming up. What do you think I should do? I can still just talk with real kik account or through Pinterest? Though again very shy so..

Don't make a fake kik account and ask that. Just say hi. Ask her how she's doing. Build up a relationship (in the knowing people way). Get to know each other.

Making a fake account is just weird. If she finds out, it might turn her off of you. So just be you. What's the worst that can happen? She doesn't like you, and you move on.

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I was wondering if it is at all possible for a two year old german shepherd to have a freak accident and fall down the stairs and die with a blunt force wound to the back of the head. There were plenty of bricks and stones at the bottom of the steps for her to knock her head, we were told she slipped on her scarf walking up the stairs and fell backwards down, and just died instantly. Is this physically possible? I want to avoid giving the impression that it was foul play, I wasn't there to witness it -- I just want unbiased opinions from anyone.

It sounds plausible to me. I mean, I've seen my dog struggle on stairs before. Put something there to slip on, fall backwards, a blow to the head can be instant death.

I wouldn't worry about foul play.

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I am a 19yo female from Australia. I have been in a relationships or two years with a guy in the US. We have never met (only Skype video calls and messaging). I want to go and see him, but he fears the fact of me having to leave and come home again.He believes it will ruin things between us. I have tried everything to get his head around the whole idea, but he won't have a piece of it. What should I do? Do I just surprise show up for a month, or do I just stay away? I'm going insane not having him around. Any advice would be amazing. Thank you so much x

Well, you have a few choices.

1. Accept the fact that you two live far apart and may not see each other until you're financially stable and continue your Skyping. Can it work? Absolutely. Is it going to be hard? Absolutely. Talking isn't the same as seeing and holding. But if you love each other, you'll find a way eventually.

2. Convince him that seeing each other isn't going to ruin things. You've gone two years without the ability to hold, kiss, cuddle, ect. It's going to be hard to go home after that month, but it will only make you want to continue it more. There's nothing like the touch of the person you love.

3. You're not going to like this one, but this is where you ask yourself: Is it worth it? I mean, if I had a long distance girlfriend in separated by an ocean, I would do everything in my power to make sure I got to see her. I would work a second part-time job to afford a yearly trip. This guy seems to think that seeing each other is going to hurt you? That doesn't seem right. You might have to consider cutting your losses.

Believe me, I've been in love. You feel like this is the person and you'll never find anyone else. It's wrong. You will. Don't hold yourself back. Be happy. Have someone who is willing to hold you. Want to hold you.

Anyways, I'm a straight male and I find Australian men attractive. I'd totally go gay for that accent.

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21/f, 28/m

I have been dating this guy for about 7 months. Last night, I asked him where he saw himself in 5 years and what about 10 years. I never really asked him that question because I was afraid of the answer but I knew that I would have to figure out what he wanted anyway.

He said in five years, he'd hopefully be married--not ready for kids yet, retired (go big or go home thought), having his own business, maybe living in another place such as Denver or Austin. He asked me the same question (where I see myself in five years), I didn't answer his question. I changed the subject because in five years, I would be around 26-27 years old.

I didn't tell him, but where I see myself in five years? I want to get married at the age of 26. Not married BY the age of 26, I want to be married at the age of 26. Hopefully, I'd get my career started since I would graduate with my Master's around the age of 23-24.

I knew that he was going to move out of the house he was living in (he had house mates), and was thinking about buying or renting out a house. He was cleaning some stuff out of his room so it'd be easier to move, and I asked him if he figured out what he was going to do. He said that he didn't think it was a smart idea to buy a house right now, he's probably going to stay until the company he works for either fails or becomes more stable.

I'm going to be in the same city for the next four years--going to graduate school and then trying to earn my LPC. I was a bit concerned because he didn't want to break-up, but it seems like he may be aware that we're bound to go our separate ways at some point.

What should I do? Is it better to end it now than later?

It's tough. Do you see a future with him?

My impression is that he's fucking delusional. Retired by 33? He better find the cure for cancer or win the lottery by then if he's planning that. It seems like he has ideas, not goals.

Hopefully married, but not ready for kids? Dude, 33 is old. That would make him 51 - 53 when the kid is graduating high school. I'm 30 and my mom is around that age.

Having his own business is a nice idea, but guess what, you don't make money the first couple years of owning a business. You don't start a business and suddenly you're Apple or Microsoft.

It's clear that you have goals. You have your life planned out. He's acting like a teenager in a band thinking he's going to become a rockstar. You need to figure out if he's actually serious about these things he's talking about.

If not, I'd say go your separate ways. You seem like you have your head on straight, you'll meet someone who's a little more down to earth with their future.

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I'm young, 18 to be exact, and I got pregnant with a guy who's in the oil field. We only new each other for a week or so which isn't like me at all.. But now I'm pregnant and it's been three months now and he treats me horrible. I moved with him because I felt that was the best to do because we're having a child. I can't afford to raise a child by myself. He has horrible anger issues too. He's said horrible things to me like "kill urself bitch", and has even put his hands around my throat once.. He wants this child and is really excited about the kid. But he's mean to me. He talks down to me. I clean his house, do his laundry, I moved three hours away from my home to be with him. I don't know what to do... I've never felt so alone and mentally abused. Not only am I super emotional due to being pregnant but I have a guy who makes me feel worthless.. If anyone can give me any good advice.. Please

Get away from him.

There are lots of programs to help out single moms. You nor your child deserve to be treated in that way. If he's hurting your physical and emotionally, he doesn't deserve the child in his life, he doesn't deserve you in his life, he only deserves to be lonely and miserable because he's a massive douche.

Find family.

Find Friends.

Find anything that isn't him. That is going to be the best thing for and your child.

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Ok so I'm sorry of this sounds confusing but bare with me because this is the first time in actually getting this out in some way

Ok so I'm 14 and I just started high school everyone knows that your clique when you were in middle school never stays together and I'm not the type of person to be in denial about that stuff I know it happens

So 2 of my friends I've known since the 4th grade and my other friend I've knowed since 7th grade I'm very quiet but I observe alot of things so it's kinda hard to make new friends for me but lately I've been depressed because I feel that I'm the most unliked in the group and since I'm so quiet and shy that it's really hard to make new friends the reason why I feel the most unliked is because little things like my friends not telling me that my other friend was in a wheel chair we have a group message thing and no one ever reply to me sometime they will read it and not reply they say that they love me and there is no one like me but it really hard for me to believe them and I know this well enough that most of you guys are gunna say just sit down and talk to your friends but I can't it's really hard for me to tell people how I feel

My questions am I being overly sensitive and should I just leave it alone or should I suck it up and try and make new friends either way it's gunna be hard for me

You're all young kids. You're still getting into your personalities, your cliques, and stuff like that. You shouldn't try and make new friends, you should just try to talk with your friends more. I know it's hard cause you're shy, you just gotta tell yourself you're gonna do it.

You're 14, it's not worth being depressed over friends. It's not worth being depressed over anything. I'm not saying you're weak, I'm saying you can get the strength to be more open and talkative.

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My bf wants to finger me? I'm ready but idk what to do while he is? And where should we? And how do I keep my vagina from smelling? Help!

Lay back and enjoy it. You should dk it somewhere safe and secluded. And, if you keep your vagina cleaned, it'll be fine.

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What is your opinion with online dating ? Do you think you can start talking to someone online and just feel inside you that this is it. You have so many of the same interest feelings and views especially with family and parenting life. You have been threw a lot of the same things and know those are things you don't want to go threw again.

I have done it before. You get to know a person before judging their looks. You get to see their true beauty.

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Gender:f age:15

I really like this boy. We used to talk like ALOT. But he's made other girl friends and talks to me less. We have been friends for a year. I want to ask him out but I dont know how. He's asked for my number, and he likes to make dirty jokes with me too. But I'm the only one he makes dirty jokes. I really don't know what he wants either. Once my friend was like" aw you guys dating? . You cute" he got really red and it was awkward cause I really like him. He got jealous when I was talking to this boy (the boy was my cousin and he didn't know) I caught him staring at me he really red and had snapped a pencil. But why would he distance himself if he likes me you know? But anyways, I just want to know how to ask him out,if I should, and for. What reason would he distance himself? Tysm.

Fun fact: you can ask him out too. He seems shy, so go for it. What's the worst that can happen? He says no? You're 15, the average lifespan of a female in the US is 82, you have a long time to find a boyfriend. Don't stress out over this. If he likes you, then you'll get together, if not, then you'll find someone else.

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I stole my grandmothers iPad about two months ago and my parents found out about it today. I was locked outside all day and I feel like there is nothing I can do to repair our relationship now. They are thinking about calling the police or kicking me out of the house. Im a girl and only 14...

Well, they're scaring you with the police thing, but you deserve it. You fucked up, royally. I mean I used to sneak off and read my Grandpa's Playboys, but I never stole from them.

First of all, you need to apologize to grandmother. NOW. You hurt her, but, she's family. If you make a sincere attempt to apologize, and make her understand that you know what you did was wrong, she will forgive you. It wont be overnight, but it will happen.

Then, you need to apologize to your parents. That's the mother of them. So not only did you steal from someone who has probably spoiled you the last 14 years, you stole from someone who raised either your mom or dad. Once again, you have to make it sincere. You have to make them understand that YOU fucked up.

You're young. Things will get better. It's an iPad, it's not going to tear your family apart, but you have some serious thinking to do over the next few days.

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Greetings!

I have a challenge for you. A challenge for the minds of detectives.

I am now under home arrest for 10 months without trial because I went for a cup of coffee and police invented a false report. My trial is near and I have a challenge, a plea for help an innocent person.

If you just want to take the challenge without knowing the details then jump to the paragraph HENCEFORTH



WHAT HAPPENED

On December last year, I went for a cup of coffee to the coffee nearest to my parents house, 50 meters away, 11 AM. I arrived there, there was only one person present at the entrance of the coffee, a guy I had never seen before in my life, the inside was totally empty.

Henceforth, I was in good mood and made small talk with the guy who was standing on the door of the coffee. We made small talk for 20 minutes.

Then, 8 SAWTs arrive, park, get out of the van, insult and menace us both. I very politely said they had not right to treat citizens like that, except for a good reason, which I demanded. We identified ourselves, and emptied our pockets.

In my pockets there was nothing against the law. Just tobacco, some coins, my cellphone, a lighter and a keyring with 2 (two) keys.

Both keys were the keys to my parents house, where I lived at the time.

In front of the coffee, there was an ancient remains of a market. There were several doors at the back of the market, near the coffee.

Then, after a while of searches in the place, one cop decides to grab my keys, test it on several of the doors in the back of the coffee's front, and the key to my parents house opens one door. 3 seconds after (before the cops had to time to even see what was behind the small chamber to where the door led) I am cuffed behind my back and dragged to the floor of the police van.

During the process, I begged several times for the cops to walk 50 m, go to my parents house and see that that key was the key to my parents house.

One cop meets me there, and asks "Who was above me?", I believe he was asking for whom I worked for. I explained I hadn't a clue about what he was talking about. He got angry, and said he would be right next to the judge and that my fate was doomed.

Meanwhile, the other guy who was in the front of the coffee, also enters the van, cuffed, because he too had a key to the said door.

At the police station my father calls me, I ask him to come to the station ASAP and bring his and mommy's keys (exactly the copy of the my key which had opened the door). He goes to the station, the same cop that met at the van met him, my father showed him his and my mother's keys, and assured that the key I had was a copy from those keys, they had given me. The cop said he was rather busy and left, without comparing my keys with the others. Furthermore, in his report, he fails to mention at all the fact that my father had been there at all.

Later I discovered that behind that door, on a small compartment was 0,5kg of Hashish and that the owner was the other guy, who obviously understood I had nothing to do with it.

On the next day, I am presented to the judge. When the judge read the report, I was terrified, the cops had written that they had made a surveillance, saw two persons approach to buy drugs, that they made the order to the other guy, and that they had saw me entering and coming out two times from the said door, to pick up the drugs, give them to the client. The client would then give the money to the other guy.

Yes, because the other guy had €100 in notes on his pocket and in the past was under arrest several times because of drug dealing.

Funny thing is, if my role was to go to the small chamber to pick up the drugs, then why on Earth the other guy would also have a key with him? Any cognitive capable person would obviously hide the key. He was busted with me because he had the key with him. So, why on Earth would he (we) be that stupid?

Of course, what the cops said is an utter and absolute lie. They did saw me during 20 (twenty) minutes at the front of the coffee...but that was all. Two guys did approach the other guy, but I step aside to the entrance of the coffee, as to distance myself of what the other guy was doing.

I am, since that day, for 10 months now, under home arrest, waiting for trial.

I had and have a good paying job (Internet based), taught at Universities, have 30 published books by one of Portugal's top publishers, have no criminal record, etc?

I had arrived at my home-town 2 (two) months ago. I lived outside my home town for some years and so I was catching up with my parents.

And working on my paid job and scientific, artistic and philanthropic work.

In my opinion, the only rational explanation for cops having lied that way was seeing me there with the other person for 20 minutes, then they open a door with my key... I believe they were convinced that I had to be involved. They knew I had no criminal record, I always told it was the key to my house, and justice in Portugal is very soft. Cops get frustrated all the time when they catch real dealers and they walk away in court. So, given the circumstances, the cop, convinced of my involvement, decided it would do better justice "for all" if he gave that helping hand.




HENCEFORTH

The big day was scheduled. My Trial will be on the 3rd of Nov.

So, the reason to this story is to ask you all for help. All things play in my favour, everything. If they find a drug dealer in any prison in the world with my CV, then put in jail for life.

Except, of course, two lying cops that will repeat on trial as witnesses what they wrote in the report. AND THAT'S QUITE SERIOUS.

I have a crucial, necessary, and vital request which is the following:

In court, when my lawyers interrogate one cop at a time, in separate, what type of questions could make them contradict themselves because, they DID NOT see me going from the coffee's entrance to the small chamber. Furthermore, while I was there, nobody went to the chamber.

The lie starts when they say I moved from the coffee's entrance, went to the small chamber, entered, went inside, came out, and then delivered something to people who had approached the other guy.

This is a lie. Being a lie, it's always possible to think of some detail that will make them tell two different things and, henceforth, show in court they are: a) liars; b) don't have a clue about what they saw or not

So, what question would you make each different cop to achieve the means of making them contradict themselves?

What would you ask. What details do you think it could be a good source of potential interrogation points.

I have prepared screen-shots from Google Maps of the place, so you can see where was what. Also, an aerial view to thing about where the observation was done.

Here they are:

http://postimg.org/gallery/cakdw4my/

aerialviewofthezone1; aerialviewofthezone2; coffee map; coffeentrance; frontal view of the coffee from the street; small chamber view close; view to the left of the coffee; view to the right of the coffee

Thank you very very much in advance.

I feel like I'm going to get a subpoena for even opening this question.

You're a fucking mormon. Do you have a lawyer? Did he advice you not to get advice from other people? You may have just jeopardized your entire case by posting this. If you feel wronged and are innocent, your lawyer will do what he's studied for and get you out, but I hope you get put away for making such a stupid decision like this.

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hi.i used to go to the gym 4/7 and do two hour workouts and was really dedicated but with summer i travelled and missed a lot and then i started school and had a lot of things on my mind and i got lazy and i havent been to the gym since August :/ i feel awful,like the biggest loser and i am really embarassed to go back there and show my face to my trainor,but i want to go back there,i know its stupid but im scared,i feel embarassed,what should i do? please give me an advice..thank you.

Just go. You can't better yourself if you feel scared or embarrassed. Your trainer will be happy that you're working toward you again, not be upset that you didn't go.

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Hi, I'm 19 f.

I've been away from the US for 10 years. All my relatives are in the USA so now that I'm back to go to college here, I suddenly have a family to see during vacations. Last year, we had Thanksgiving with my aunt's family.

My problem is that I'm generally shy and I don't know how to have fun. I have three cousins who are aged 8, 14 and 16. Last Thanksgiving it was really awkward- I know I'm meant to be older so be in charge but I just don't know how to have fun with my cousins or kids/teenagers in general. We ended up playing monopoly with the adults and then eating.

How should I behave during family Thanksgivings and what activities can I do with my cousins that would be fun?

Thanks, any advice would be appreciated.

Also, Happy Halloween.

Ask them what they like to do! They'll be excited that you're taking interest in their interests, and it'll give you all something to do together. While you're doing that, it's the perfect time to start talking to them and getting to know them.

It can be a bitch when you're shy, but honestly, that is the best way to break the ice.

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I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for years, until his family moved to Alabama. I chose to stay behind to take care of my grandparents. They raised me, I feel I owe them. Now Nick's back and pushing me to choose him over family again.

How do I tell him that while I do love him, I would be unhappy living far away from my family?

Are they old and feeble, or do you just like their company?

That's the question you have to answer. If you're sticking around to take care of old, unhealthy grandparents who need assistance, your boyfriend can go get fucked. Boyfriends come and go, those who raise you are there forever. My grandpa was basically my dad until I was 10, I'll never forget how much he helped me, or stop feeling bad that there was nothing I could do in his later years.

Now, if you just like their company, and their fine health-wise, I'm not saying you're selfish for wanting to stay behind, it just puts you in a different spot. If you truly love this guy, and see a future with him, then you should probably move to Alabama. There's no reason you can't go visit, and your grandparents wont resent you, I promise. Now, if you don't see a future with this guy, stick around with the grandparents and let him make a decision. If he loves you he'll honor your decision, if he doesn't, once again, he can get fucked.

Anyways, grandparents are notorious for spoiling grandkids, I wouldn't blame you for staying with them.

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I dont understand whats going on, i'm 15 years old and i'm a girl this looks pretty bad on me.Everytime i sit or i dont even have to do anything but i feel as something humidity is coming from my butt.I need help please i dont know what do and i dont like the way i'm living i just want to be me.Everyone gives me looks and my friend said i dont stink but i dont understand. I wasn't always like this.

I dunno, sometimes it just happens. I give my girlfriend shit all the time because she'll take a shower and her armpits stink like 2 hours later.

In more serious matters, does the top of your butt ever get painful or have liquid coming out? I'm not telling you to freak out and rush to a doctor, but find a trusting person to check the top part of your butt crack. If they see what appears to be a little hold, you could have a cyst, which would actually explain your problems.

I'm not saying it is, I'm saying it's a possibility.

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I have loved this guy for 6 years now. I dated him for the first 3 of those.
So things ended a long time ago. They ended on a good note, but with good reasons.
We said we'd be friends, but we very seldom communicate.
We have moved on since then, but we aren't over each other. We recently talked about it, why are we not together?
And its true that we aren't compatible, we drive each other crazy.

I know being apart is for the best, but it still hurts.
How do I stop missing him?

Time.

Go out and date. Meet new guys. It's been long enough, you need to get yourself out of the rut of him. You're only hurting yourself by holding on. Believe me, I've done it, and it was over a girl I never even dated. Two years of anxiety and stress over nothing.

So do yourself a favor.


It'll be the best thing you ever do.

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I used to date this guy but we broke up after 5 months and I still really like him and we are kind of talking again and all of my friends including us want us to get back together but im really afraid because when we broke up the first time I was depressed for about a month and I don't want to get hurt again. What should I do?

Well, ask yourself this: Why did you break up? Was he abusive? Did the magic just leave? Did someone cheat on the other?

If the breakup WASN'T bad, I'd say go for it. Sometimes a few months apart is needed. You don't want to risk losing someone do you?

However, if he ever laid a hand on you or laid someone else, forget that bastard. You'll find someone else.

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Hello, 20 year old female. I am going out Friday night and Saturday night at school to hang out with my friends for Halloween and I had an idea to go out Friday as nice Sandy and Saturday as Sandy after the make over. My question is, would a poodle skirt and blouse be a cute costume for a college party? I can't seem to decide if it is or not. I'm not asking if it's "sexy" so I pick up guys, I just think a poodle skirt could potentially be too jr high. Please help!

Poodle skirts are cute as hell, go for it.

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