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I really need to start taking my own advice.
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well i just got braces and my boyfriend dosent mind kissing but should i??
lucy
For the first couple of weeks, its going to feel weird to you (kissing and even just having them in your mouth!)
You'll soon get used to it and when that happens and your gums/lips are used to having all that metal there then you can keep on kissing.
Don't let a little orthodontia get in the way of a good time ;)
You might have to learn to not kiss as hard or lean in too hard, then you might risk hurting him. But other then that you should be perfectly fine.
i get weird when a guy wants to make out when people are around like at a house,park,or with friends around.I feel like their watching and judging me like i'm a bad person or something.When i see people make out around me it's awkward.Small pecks are fine,but making out around people is awkward for me.I feel like making out should be a private thing.So when a guy tries to kiss me,i like tense up and dont want to kiss,when i really do just not when people are around,am i weird in thinking that?? because i feel like the only one lol
thanks in advance!
Nah, you're totally 100% normal. :)
Lol some people just like to be a little more private about their own lives. That's perfectly fine.
Next time a guy leans in to make out with you at a time when you're not comfortable, kiss him gently once. Pull away and say, "Later" with a smile on your face. He'll get the point and be totally looking forward to 'later'.
:)
let me start off by saying i belive that God has a greater purpose in my life, than what i have in mind right now. im not sure what it is but i belive that. and the reason why i belive that, alot of friends i have are in to drugs, having sex outta maraige, smoking, drinking all that stupid stuff. and i try telling them that if they don't stop they will loose control of thier life, and get in alot of trouble. every time i tell them this, it happens. and what im having trouble to understand here, is WHY does this always happen. every single time i tell a friend or a person this, it happens that way. and i also don't get if God has put in the position to basicly minister to people, and try to lead them straight, or does this just happen for no reason. some any advise to ease my mind and help me with this would be really nice.
I agree, I'm not sure what you mean by 'it happens' I assume you mean they actually do lose control of their life. If so, here's what I have to say:
When people are told not to do something, it makes them want to do it more.
Plain and simple, teenagers are the worst at this actually. Obviously, these friends of yours don't see life the same way as you do. They may not even believe in God, therefore saying something along the lines of "This isn't what God has planned for you" wouldn't do much to effect them.
People will do what they want to do. If you're going to try to stop them, the most you can do is give them information and opinions, ultimately, they make the final call on how they steer their life. My recommendation is that you let them know, "Hey, look I hate to see you putting yourself in this kind of danger. You know it wrong, I get that it may be fun, but there are reasons why its wrong. I'm not telling you what to do or how to live your life, I'm just saying that as your friend I want whats best for you and I don't think having sex, drinking, and smoking falls into that category."
That way, you haven't judged them by calling them a sinner, you haven't judged their relationship with God and you haven't told them what to do. You merely told them your opinion and gave them advice, exactly what friends are supposed to do.
16 f
How do you know when a guy is trying to get inside your pants? Like what are the signs that lead to this conclusion?
Him telling you exactly what you want to hear.
Bringing up sex on a regular basis.
Frequently asking your beliefs on sex and/or talking to you about his friend's sex lives.
Physically trying to put his hands in your shirt and/or pants.
Telling you he loves you, you're his first true love, he wants to spend his life with you very soon in the relationship.
Him talking to your friends or anyone in general about your sex life.
Good luck
i discharge A LOT! is that normal?
Yes, the advicer's answer before me is true. Also it gets worse if you shave your pubes. The hair is meant to keep your vagina free of germs, so if that's gone the discharge takes over.
Okay, is it more or whenever i shave my pubes they start appearing the next day.. is that normal? Because whenever i shave, the next day they start sticking out again, i mean, i like having it nice and smooth down there, im wondering if it is just me?
also, if i try to shave the appearing hairs away i get a terrible rash!! so i have to wait about 5 or 6 days.. or a week, to shave again, and thats really uncomfortable.
so if its not just me, whats going on? and how can i stop them from growing back so fast!
That's pretty normal, everyone's hair grows at different rates. I'd totally recommend using shaving cream when you do shave your pubes and even a lotion after wards. Just be sure to keep the skin soft and moisturized, it will make it so much easier to handle. If its really bad, you could even use a hair conditioner on the skin to help out.
You can't really control how quickly your hair grows back. You can always try just trimming your pubes, but that can be more work.
Good luck
My boyfriend and I just recently started messing around. And by messing, I don't mean sex. He's been fingering me, and going down on me very frequently.
My concern is that I've been feeling very itchy and irritated down there, on my inner lips and near the hole.
Is it possible that 3rd base can give me and STD? I've looked for this on websites and I'm just not getting the answer I need.
I have no trouble peeing, and I'm not feeling bumps or having foul odor. It's simply itchy, irritated and a small bit of discharge.
Has anyone ever experienced this? If so, what can I do to prevent whatever it may be?
Thank you in advance.
Just a health concern, make sure your boyfriend has washed his hands recently and make sure he doesn't have long nails when he fingers you. That can lead to some pretty gross problems.
It could just be that your vagina isn't used to being rubbed and touched in that way. The quick hand movements could just be irritating the skin. I'd recommend a lotion and changing your underwear frequently to keep things clean. Be sure to pee after any sexual activity and wash your vagina thoroughly in the shower. Also, the way you keep your pubic hair could cause the problem, if you shave it completely and then he fingers you that can lead to irritation. If that's the problem I'd either recommend just kidding the vagina lips just trimmed or using a lotion especially made for your bikini area to soothe the skin. I believe Sally Hansen might make a lotion like that.
If the problem gets worse I'd recommend taking a break from fingering or seeing a doctor. I don't think you have an STD, the only things you get is like herpes.
Good Luck :)
ok so dont mean to sound stupid and all but when you making out where do you move your tongue and in what direction? haha like circular or wherever haha just wondering, thanks!
You don't have to keep it moving like its a vibrating tongue or anything, haha some people seem to think you need to move it very quickly all the time.
Not to sound braggy or cocky, but I have been told I'm good at making out a few times because I have practiced with a serious boyfriend I used to have. Here's what I picked up: sometimes licking his lips just a TINY bit is totally sexy, just very lightly before putting your tongue in his mouth. You can lick his tongue, gently play with it while you run your tongue in small circles, you can lick his teeth, or just slowly slip it in and out.
As long as you don't slobber or bite him you should be good :)
ok my periods are so weird. For about 9 or 10 months I didn't have my period. Then i did and it was a big one. now I havn't had it forabout 3 months. I use to have it almost every month but now it is like every 10 months.I am just wondering if this is normal and ok or should I go to the doctor? I love not having periods but I just hope that it is ok.
It depends how long you've had your period. I actually have this problem and when I mentioned it to my doctor and my mom they both totally blew it off before I had the chance to mention that I've had my period for four years. After a couple of years thats not okay, usually you become regular after that.
I'd talk to your mom or doctor. See if there is a family history of this. I'm pretty sure you'll be fine though, it seems to be a common thing.
Whats the best way to ask a girl out?
Im really shy when it comes to asking.
Should i ask her to the movies, just me and her?
We both do mixed martial arts and wrestle.
Should i hang out with her a few times before i ask her to the movies on a date?
Any advice is welcome, thanks
To be honest, I hate movie dates! Thats not entirely true, but I certainly hate them for first dates. Theres too much pressure to make out with someone just because well .. its a movie theater.
Try asking her out to eat, bowling, an amusement park, or something a little more interesting. Its easier to really get to know someone other then sitting next to them in the dark.
Now for asking her out, just be like "Hey, do you want to ______ this weekend?" it can be very casual. Unless you wanna say something along the lines of "Would you like to go on a date with me this weekend" to make it a little more clear that you are interested in her as a date.
Good luck :)
f/14
okay so basically, i used to have a perfect life, then my parents got divorced and my dad went and got his new girlfriend pregnant so now i have a baby brother. none of that is my problem though, that's just backround info. so one day i decided to just experiment and cut myself. from then on, im a completley different person. i am addicted to cutting and im never happy everyone in my life found out my problems and ive been to therapy so much its discusting. the only person i tell anyone anything is my best friend. her parents are alcoholics and she has the worst anxiety and bi-polar ever but her parents don't care. every day i pray and pray that i will die because i hate everything and i'm never happy. i've tried multiple times to commit suicide but have not been succesful. my best friend doesn't do anything bad, then the other night she told me she cut herself. if it wasnt for me she would never have done it, and im bulimic and she made herself throw up. i feel like im ruining everything. everyone is so stressed about me they dont have time for anything and i dont even want it. i want to die so badly its sickening. i know how to kill myself for real but i know i cant do it because theres still a part of me that's scared, scared of leaving and what people will do and what will happen. idk what to do i hate being here but i dont know where to turn anymore. every day i get worse and worse and no one even knows or cares. the world would be so much better without me so why should i even stay?
Why should you stay?
-Because you have a little brother now, someone that could easily become an inspiration for you to be a better you. One day he might look up to his older sister, he might want you to take him to the movies, or to the gas station for a slurpee, or he might come to you for girl advice. You have another purpose in your life now thanks to that little guy. :)
-More then likely your parents still love you. I'm sure you've heard it before 'we still love you, we just don't love each other' Thats probably true. You give them a reason to wake up every morning, they should give you a reason to wake up every morning.
-Your best friend. You clearly see how you effect her, why not turn that around and effect her in a more positive way. You two can talk out your problems instead of carving them into your skin. Everything is easier when you're doing it with someone you care about. When you both get angry or you have something built up inside you can exercise to get it out, write it in a song together, paint it in a picture, or just wither it away by having a good time in the sun.
-Summer, try getting some sun. Its proven that sun enhances the mood and increases some vitamin in you that makes you happier. Why don't you and your friend go to the pool? Go on a walk, see the beauty in the world. Listen to the birds, the waves, the wind. You are on this earth for a purpose, there is something about you that someone loves.
-You, you should stay for you. You don't want your story to just end do you? YOU can be your inspiration. There are plenty of people on this earth who have become famous, billionaires, fallen in love, had children, changed the world, even though they had jerks for parents. Be who YOU want to be, do what makes YOU happy. Find a passion that you love, whether its a sport, writing, poetry, art, music etc.
For everything else, the cutting, the eating disorders; only you can change that. Talking them out to people can help and make it easier. You and your best friend can do that! Or you can ask to see a counseler at school. But all in all, if YOU want to change you can change.
Let me know if you need to talk about anything else.
The best of luck
If a girl is recieving oral sex, what would be considerd bad smelling for a vagina? Should it smell like soap, or like nothing? Is it okay for it to smell like discharge? Can it smell like sweat? Should you use personal wipes before sex to freshen up or should can it be like natural, when you wake up in the morning? Is it okay to be hairy too? I know its a lot, but thanks!
You can never please everyone when it comes to your vagina and sex life, so just please yourself.
Yes, smelling like natural discharge is perfectly fine. In fact, scented soaps have been proven in studies to enhance the change of getting an infection or irritation. I recommend showering and cleaning like normal.
Its okay to have as much hair as you like, however I will say a lot of guys prefer a shaven or trimmed vagina. Whatever works for you is fine. Shaving leads to itchiness and irritation but a clean look. For the most part trimming works better, you can use a fresh razor and lightly run over the vagina or use scissors to trim down the length.
hi, this may be a weird question but is it still possible for two people to make out, even if one of them has braces? and is it any different from making out when neither of the people have braces? thanks for the help!
Yes, its possible :)
You may not want to apply as much force and pressure as you would without braces, especially when you really start getting into it.
Also, when you add your toungue I wouldn't recommend licking his teeth. You can probably guess why it'd get pretty dangerous.
Lastly, you'll probably have to brush and floss more frequently. No one wants to make out with a person with bad breath and braces can totally getcha down on that.
Why is it that everyboy in school tells you that they don't like you but they do?
Some people may be easily embarrassed by the thought of their crush knowing that they like them, so they opt not to tell.
Some people may be worried that other people will tease them about their crush if anyone finds out.
People would be afraid of being rejected by their crush.
And others are just crazy and don't know what they want :)
me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex yesterday
it was my first time and my cherry didnt pop
and he didnt cum.
put after this all happened my vagina feels weird
and it always feels like i have to pee and its like not comfortable and its really annoying
i know this is signs of a uti
but if i get tested for it will the doctor know i have been having sex or that i could be possibly pregnant?
Even if he didn't come there is still a chance of you getting pregnant, just throwing that out there.
For future refrence, ALWAYS pee after sexual activity, it will help protect you against infections and such.
Its sounds like you may have an infection so I'd recommend seeing a doctor. You can always ask to see the doctor privately to discuss this without your parent's knowledge.
I had a UTI this past summer and I am not sexually active. I did get some weird looks from my doctors and parents when everyone found out but I'm just letting you know that it IS possible to get a UTI without having sex.
I'd recommend heading to the doctor asap, UTIs can get serious fast as well as any other infection.
Next time, try a condom.
It might save you a trip to the hospital.
Or nine months of your life.
so i got my hair cut and the lady cut probably 2-3 inches shorter then what i wanted(its now a little below my shoulders). and the lady cut my bangs so wrong. i wanted them at an angle and she didn't do that.
so here are my questions:
1. whats a good way to style my hair to make it look better then it does?
2. is there anything i can buy that will make my hair grow faster then usual?
Ah the bad hair cut, been there, dealt with that.
Pony tails will become your best friend. As the previous answer said its summer so its perfectly okay!
Try getting creative and pinning your bangs back with pretty clips, headbands, or classic bobby pins. I know a lot of people that can pull of some cute, summery looks by just opening up their face and pulling their bangs back. This will totally help you if you're not into your bangs in the first place.
If going to a salon to fix it isn't an option, heres what I did:
I didn't flat iron or curl my hair for the entire summer. My hair grew a good three inches by the end of summer and was so much nicer looking. Not damaging it so much helped it get it back to its proper length sooner then I had hoped and planned for.
Condition, condition, condition. Leave it in, rinse it out, repeat if you want. :)
You can always go for the half-up do also. Thats a very classic, pretty hair style. The length may take some time to get used too, but you can neatly pin the bangs back and have a clean, nice look. :)
i have it on my back & my chest. they hurt so bad to pop them. what can i use to get rid of them ASAP.
I agree with the previous answer about the products in which to use and also possibly consulting a dermatologist.
I just wanted to add that you should try to sleep in as little clothing as possible around your chest/back area (tank tops, sports bras, very loose tshirts, no shirt at all) because you do sweat somewhat when you're asleep and if you wear tight clothing it can easily clog your pores over that 8-hour time span.
Also, after working out try changing into a clean bra and t-shirt for the ride home. Sitting in sweaty clothes clogs pores very, very quickly.
Just thought I'd add a few tips.
18/m
I got advice on here a few months ago about how to get my girlfriend back after i cheated on her. We let things cool over for awhile and now i know that there is no other girl i want in my life and i love her more than anything. She has finally started hanging out with some of our same friends and the same places and stuff. She isn't really showing me any signs that she wants to get back together but i know deep down she really wants it because she has told other people that she does. How do i approac her about this?
You hurt her.
Duh, you probably realize that but I couldn't think of a better way to start this then by pointing out the main reason behind your problem.
When a girl gets hurt, she typically puts her guard up. Knock it down? Well to do that you have to fight. Flirt, easy at first, work your way into it. Be a gentleman, chivalry is never dead. Open doors for her, offer to pay, check in on her sometimes, flowers etc. Stuff like that easily wins over most girls.
I wouldn't tell her how you feel JUST yet, I think it might intimidate her. Unless you have a feeling that it won't and that it'll be okay, just hold off for a few weeks. Flirt a little harder.
If you start to see her opening up a little more, then try talking to her. Let her know what goes on in both your heart and mind but keep it real. Tell her what you're willing to do to be with her again.
I can't guarantee you she'll be into you again because I don't know the full story and what not, but it never hurts to try.
hookups.
any advice?
ive hookd up but the boi suked at it.
it was a yr ago.
so im basicly starting new.
I'm not quite sure what you're asking so I'll just kind of give you a general idea.
Boys mind: Hook ups means there are NO emotional attachments, so don't become clingy after it and start to act like you two are a couple.
(I've had several of my guy friends give up hook ups because the girl-drama afterwards was so annoying because of things like that)
Now typically hooking up isn't just making out, but for some people it is. Start with the making out without toungue for a while, then work your way to adding it in by gently licking his lips or easing it in.
From there, you can start to run your hands up his legs, through his hair, up under his shirt etc. This will give him the idea you want to go further.
This will probably lead to feeling up (2nd base) and possibly the removal of clothing. Proceed with caution :) hahaha.
Next comes fingering/hand jobs. If he's bad at his, try moving his hand for him or placing it in the spot where you want it best. No reason to let him think he's doing good if he's not. When he gets it right let out small moans or words of encouragement like 'oh yeah' to give him the hint.
The rest basically leads to oral and/or sex depending how into the hook up you feel.
Let me know what else you need help with.
how do girls masterbate? its easier for guys, but i dont understand how girls can
Its very difficult to explain because as the previous advicer said a lot of it is not acceptable on this website.
I advise you to visit Solotouch.com
other advicers on this site have recommended it to others having trouble with masturbation.