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I cheated
18/m
I got advice on here a few months ago about how to get my girlfriend back after i cheated on her. We let things cool over for awhile and now i know that there is no other girl i want in my life and i love her more than anything. She has finally started hanging out with some of our same friends and the same places and stuff. She isn't really showing me any signs that she wants to get back together but i know deep down she really wants it because she has told other people that she does. How do i approac her about this?
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You hurt her.
Duh, you probably realize that but I couldn't think of a better way to start this then by pointing out the main reason behind your problem.
When a girl gets hurt, she typically puts her guard up. Knock it down? Well to do that you have to fight. Flirt, easy at first, work your way into it. Be a gentleman, chivalry is never dead. Open doors for her, offer to pay, check in on her sometimes, flowers etc. Stuff like that easily wins over most girls.
I wouldn't tell her how you feel JUST yet, I think it might intimidate her. Unless you have a feeling that it won't and that it'll be okay, just hold off for a few weeks. Flirt a little harder.
If you start to see her opening up a little more, then try talking to her. Let her know what goes on in both your heart and mind but keep it real. Tell her what you're willing to do to be with her again.
I can't guarantee you she'll be into you again because I don't know the full story and what not, but it never hurts to try.
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Be totally honest with her. Tell her what you want. Grovel. Beg. Do anything she asks.
But above all, let her know that YOU know what a horrible thing you did. Never make any excuse and never try to explain or justify. Just tell her you did wrong. Completely and utterly wrong.
Then all you can do is pray she can forgive you. If she can't let it go, nothing you say or do will get her back. She might 'want you back' on the surface, but deep down, actually not want anything to do with you at all. Whatever she wants, you have to wait for her to figure it out and respect it.
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