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I'm Marcia. Somehow, even though I'm only 15, I've changed enough over the past year for my entire lifetime. I've been through a lot, and I've seen a lot. I've dyed my hair horrible colors, I've gained & lost best friends. I've had idiot boyfriends and amazing boyfriends. I've fallen for friends, I've had my heart broken, and I've done the stupidest things. Almost anything you can think of, I've been through it. I never seem to do the right thing on the first try myself, but I learn from that- that's probably why I'm good at giving advice. I want to be a psychitrist when I'm older, and I think this is as close as I can get for now (:
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My friend lies and gossips about me all the time and steals guys and everything so i got fed up and told her we weren't friends anymore. I also got the vibe she was a lesbian because she always like would touch my leg and id be like "what the hell are you doing?" and all this other stuff. & she was like "alex i miss you please please forgive me!" and she even told her MOM i hate her for no reason which isnt true because i hate her because she'sa lying two faced mean girl who also purposely is ditzy. I've never said anything bad about her my life but then she goes telling lies. Also she said im a goody-goody which im not trust me, and she shouldn't talk because she is, she's like afraid of everything and now she's acting like such a slut. she talks about getting high and she poses like a slut even on myspace pictures and talks like she wants to have sex with you & she even said shes not a virgin but SHE IS. and it so bugs me, and shes like "alex please come back to me!" and im like "NO!" i don't know what to do! should i befriend her but not talk to her? or ignore her? im not the gossiping type but she's like everywhere and she flirts with my boyfriend non-stop HELP! if your gonna say this is stupid or diss me or something like other girls did, then don't bother answering, i need advice, ill send feedbackk too. ANYTHING will help. thanksss :]]]]



So this girl sounds like she has some serious problems. If you really don't want to have anything to with her at all, then the best way to do that would probably just be to ignore her. She'd probably get tired of chasing something that isn't going to happen, and just give up.

By the way, I think it's a good idea that you're not wanting to chill with her anymore. She sounds like she has some serious problems, and you probably don't need that.


Good luck :]

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How can i get thousands of people to listen to this...

http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=15060904

and comment me on how i sing?



Find someone with a lot of friends on Myspace to post it in a bulletin. Lotsa people will listen to it.


By the way, I just listened to it, and I thought it was was seriously really good. Better than Cassie herself :]

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uhhh well i have this friend and i think that i might have fallen in love with her but im not sure. She likes me as a friend, but i think i like her more then that. I really do not know if i should tell her, or how to tell her.



This is kind of a tough situation, because it could go either way. You could tell her, and she could either tell you she feels the same, or it could just make things feel weird in your friendship. Or, you could not tell her and never know how she feels. Sometimes, you just have to take a risk for something that you really want. So I think that if you really, really like this girl, you should go for it & tell her. It may make things weird for a while if she doesn't feel the same, but I'm sure it would blow over. You'll never know until you try.

Good luck :]

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Okay, so to understand me i am going to have to go back in time and get some background and it might be long but please, i need the help. I am going to use some fake names otherwise it could get confusing.
SOO;; towards the end of the school year my bestfriend, Jason, told me that this kid Steve said i was hott so Jason said he would talk to me about him and see what i thought about him. I told Jason that i thought steve was realllly cute. So me and steve started to talk and then school was about a week till over for summer. Steve ended up telling me that he liked me and i told him i liked him too. THen STeve said "Wouldnt it be weird though since summer is coming and we will barely see eachother" but i had figured we woulda hung out. ((which we didnt)) everytime i would try he couldnt. So the entire summer has gone by and i still havent seen him and i havent talked to him in about 2 weeks or so. something like that. THen, whenever i will try and talk he doesnt talk back, like texting. So i have no clue if he doesnt like me or what. i think he may like this other girl...but i have no idea. i really need some help.
**sorry its longg =[ **



Well, I think if Steve is avoiding you and everything, he probably isn't interested in dating you. But I'm sure it's just because he's a boy, and doesn't know how to deal with things other than to ignore them. It probably has nothing to do with you at all, so I wouldn't worry about it much. I think Steve was right though, to break things off before summer. Because things probably would've gotten a lot worse than they are already. But like I said, I wouldn't worry about it. Summer's almost over! I would go out and find some new cute boys :]

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my so called good friend called up my other friend and was just talking crap about me. but thats not what really bothers me because she says stuff about EVERYONE she ever meets and im used to it. but then she also told my friend she read my journal/diary whatever u want to call it and thats just like a big violation of personal space. and she called my friend up when i was on vacation and then today she called me and acted like she did nothing since she doesnt know that i know what she did. so shes being two faced. what should i do??


Well I think you definately have to talk to this girl, because she sounds like she has a big problem. Two-faced people are the hardest to deal with, because you never know what they're going to do. I've had to deal with something similar to this, and it wasn't fun. But talking to the girl is the best thing you can do. You should let her know that if she doesn't quit soon, everyone will realize how she is, and she'll end up by herself. I'm not saying you should stop being friends with this girl, maybe just look at things differently & talk to her.

Also, you should NEVER have to get used to someone talking about you behind your back. Nobody deserves that.

Good luck :]

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i really really love this guy. but i told him that i thought i was in love with him and he acts like hes in love with me and he says stuff that makes me think he is but then he says hes not IN love with me he says he just loves me.. and so im confused... like he always tells me that i mean more to him than anyone and that he loves me so much and that he cares about me more than anyone else and stuff like that so what do u think??



Woah, I've had to deal with basically that exact same situation. The guy is my best friend, and I couldn't be happier with everything. Sometimes things are just better as friends, and nothing more. It was pretty hard for me to accept that, but he's definately the best friend I've ever had & everything's good.

Yeah, my best friend told me the same things this guy tells you, and he meant it. I'm sure this guy means it too. I think if he wanted to be more than friends, he'd let you know. Also, you just have to give it time :]

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What are some good happy love songs? Like, not breakup songs.
Something like:
Hey There Delilah by plain white t's
stolen by dashboard confessional.
you know?



One of my favorites is Must Have Done Something by Relient K, or Thunder by Boys Like Girls :]

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15/m. well whenever i go on a date with this girl, i find it really hard to like talk. we both do. theres nothing really to say. weve talked about everything. ive asked about her, what she likes, what she doesnt etc and vice versa. there really is nothing to talk about. there will be odd moments of silence for like 1 minute or two when no one says anything.



If the problem is there's just nothing to talk about, then I would take the girl on a date somewhere that gives you something to talk about. Like to a baseball game, or bowling. Something like that. Things would most likely loosen up, and you'd find a ton more to talk about. Or you could always go to a movie, where no talking is needed. :]


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I share a room. Every time my sister's boyfriend comes over and I happen to be sleeping.. he walks in.

Is it right for me, to feel the need of privacy? Because he comes in loudly, without a warning and talks loudly.
I could be naked one time and have him walk by me!
UGH!

what can i do?
it's like 2pm and I had a rough night, I just wanted some more sleep and he woke me up.

what could i say to my mom to make him wait out?



First, I would try just telling your sister's boyfriend that it bothers you that he barges into your room without warning. Let him know it's yours, not his, and that there wouldn't be a problem if he'd just knock. & Be nice about it, of course :]

If that doesn't work, then I would just tell your mom that you tried talking to him, and it didn't work, and I would ask for her to talk to him. Knowing boys, they'll usually listen to their girlfriend's parents.


Good Luck :]

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okay so I'm 14 and my cousin is like 17 but two years ago she was 15 ,right? So yeah back then her life sucked and all this just like mine. Why does life change like that? like one min. you are a loser and nobody likes you at all and then everyone loves you and you are happy. I don't understand. When i was happy she was sad and now she's happy and im sad again. I dont have friends that i can call my own and people on myspace keep deleting me because they hate me and i have never had a real boyfriend. what is going on? so since shes all cool now does that mean I'm gonna be all cool and everything? or is that just what happened to her? I dont want people to hate me forever at all. I want guys to like me and girls to be my friend and yeah! i'm not a mean person so why is everyone treating me like im not worthy of their relationships??? please explain all this to me.



I know exactly how you feel. I'm fourteen too, and a few months back, I was in a total rut. My best friends quit talking to me, I broke up with 3 boyfriends in a row, and it was just really bad. The thing you have to know is that things will always get better no matter how terrible they may seem. Now, 3 months later everything with me is great. It just takes some talking to the people that have hurt you, and some time to think by yourself.


Also, as for the boyfriends and myspace friends-
Most girls our age don't have boyfriends. I've had a few serious boyfriends before, and I kind of wish I wouldnt've. It just makes everything more complicated. The friends- If you want to make more friends, try getting involved in things at your school this year, or going to a youth group. Remember, friends who aren't willing to talk to you about things, or just delete you on Myspace probably aren't worth your time anyway.

Basically, being a teenager is just really crazy, but things DO change.

I hope things get better for you :]


and, if you wanna talk to me or add me on myspace my AIM is marciamarcia oh & my myspace is myspace.com/omgitsmarcia :]

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You know how in the movies, the really studious girl falls for sport's hero? Well, I never thought that would be me. I was student body president, in debate, band, honours classes, ballet, tap, orchestra, drama- well, almost everything, and I was part of the "in crowd"! A few months ago (when I was still in 8th grade), I moved to a new house. The house was like only 5 minutes away from my old one, so I still went to the same school. The 1st day I came home on the bus, all the kids on there we're really surprised I was there, and they we're all like- that's so cool the prez is on our bus. That's when I met him, and he asked me where exactly in the neighbourhood I lived, and it turned out we lived 3 houses away from eachother. I thought of him only as a friend then. Months passed, and we saw eachother at the bus stop, or I saw him skateboarding outside. Now, I am also that type of girl who doesn't like any guy, and who has never gone with one (I have been asked, but I always said "no!") The 8th pool party came, (I don't swim- so I was hanging with a few others who weren't) He came over, and started talking to a friend of mine. I passed him my yearbook. All he wrote was (U were a great prez) Grad came, and I did my speech. Then, the Grad dance came. All my friends we're trying to make me dance (because I never danced to anything cept ballet & tap) Soon, a slow song came up- my friends started dancing with the guys. I was just about to escape to a table when we bumped into eachother. He asked me if I was going to dance, and I explained to him that I couldn't. He said "I'll dance with you", before I could answer he had his hand around my waist, and we we're dancing. All of sudden, I don't know what came over me. I felt as if it was only me & him. Then, a friend of mine came over and said Aww!, and he said "Hey, you were busy." I "woke" up, and said "you 2 should dance before running away. I've seen him since then at the movies, but we didn't talk or even say hi. And when I saw him the next time, before he could say more than hi, I ran away again. I really like him, and now I'm going to see him again once school starts. I don't know if he likes me or not.



I think that this guy probably does like you, he's just scared to say anything, just like you.
Obviously, if he asked you to dance with him he was probably at least beginning to like you. Also, next time you see him make sure you talk to him, to let him know you haven't forgotten about him and everything. I think this whole thing is probably just that the two of you are embarassed to talk to each other about it, because you're scared of what the other will think. Sometimes, you just have to do things to get what you want.

Good Luck :]

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So at camp this past week this guy was like asking all these girls to be his gf and to give him blow jobs and stuff, and he kept on saying that he wanted to be alone w/ me, and whenever we were he'd be like "oo i think ur so hot let's get freaky!" then i'd be like "ok let's do it!" adn he'd be like "haha ur stupid." like he would get my hopes up and then just yank away the opportunity. What kind of a mental problem does this sound like to you? (meaning him)

it made me feel even worse about myself. I'm crying as i write this. I can't seem to get over this, it's like i'm taking it personally like he didn't want me just because of my appearance or w/e even though he already said i was hot.


:(

help.



Hi :]

First of all, I don't think you should be crying over some boy. Sometimes, boys are just completely stupid & don't think about what they say. I'm sure you're gorgeous, & there's nothing wrong with your appearence...it's just boys will boys.

No boy that would think of saying something like that to you is worth your time anyway :]

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how can you make a guy your friends with benefits with,
see you as more than that,
getting him to like you?

tthanksatonn!



Hello :]

Obviously, if you're friend with benefits with this guy, he has to see as SOMETHING more than a friend. I would start paying more attention to him, and showing him that I care, so maybe he would start to come around. You have to give boys time :]

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ALright so i like this guy, and he knows, but him and this girl like eachother, but really this girl only likes him because she likes the attention he gives her. Anyways i pretty much know for a fact that once he finds out she doesnt like him he will like me. Hes pretty much hurt me already in this situation. So i just want to get over him. he texts me a lot anyways and is always like lets talk naughty. and lately ive been just making up excuses why i cant talk. I dont want to flat out let him know i dont like him anymore, i want to do it in a "revenge" kind of way. Like acting like i havve no interest in him and such. Any other suggestions?



I don't really understand if you want to hurt this guy, or just make him feel stupid. But I hope this helps :]


If you don't like, totally hate this 'other girl', and she's hurt him, a good way to get back at him would be to become (or just act like it) friends with the girl, & make him jealous.


Mean, but it would work :]

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I been hanging out with this girl for many months now. We had are up and downs and where okay. Well, she was told by her best-friend, who told her i was no good and all the bad shit and she stop talking to me for about a month and half(ended in june). Then, we went out starting back this month, after which all the feelings we had for each other came up when we didn't. I got emotionally after we hanged out and told her I had feelings stronger for her than friends, but before i can say anything, she tells me the same thing first! So, i am cool but now she likes doesn't talk on the phone much after that. But she hungs me and gigles and gets goofy when I am around and she tells my mom stuff and i be listening on the other phone, like she likes me and her heart is fine where it is with us and all that. Can someone give me some good help! I desparate, please can we chat on yahoo messenger or something. I need some answers.

thanks

First of all, this girl sounds like she really likes you, and I don't think you have anything to worry about :] Every relationship that's important has ups & downs. I had the same problem after I started dating one of my good friends. Basically, I just talked to him about how I felt, how it was weird and everything, and things got better. He started calling me more & asking me to hangout, instead of things being awkward.


Hope that helped & Good luck :]

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how can i know when someone is in love with me? am 21 year and i live in guadeloupe



So, there's a lot of ways to tell if somebody is in love with you. If they take the time to do special things for you, like send you a text message or email during the day, or just call you to say hello or something, I would say there's a good chance they're in love with you. Also, when you're talking to each other and they're making eye-contact instead of looking around, it also probably means you're really special to them. Basically, if they do sweet little things like that, you know there has to be something there :]

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