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Hi, im 14 and i need a job to help pay for my horse. does anyone kno where a 14 yr old would be accepted in New York. even if its not a job, i need a way to make money

thankyou

here is what i do and i'm 15.

babysit
dog watch (when neighbors go on vacation)
mow lawns
house watch (seriously, i do this when my neighbors are away and i just get the mail & paper & any packages that come)

you could also try working at ice cream places, ritas, or a camp.

good luck :]
but i say that your best bet is babysitting. i babysit two littles girls who are 3 & 5, and i get about $8 an hour. it really pays good :]

My boobs are really sensitive and hurt.
I used to SI on them, but they were totally desensitized, and now they're hypersensitive...
how do I reverse this?

are you on or before your period? because mine get like that when i have my period or right before i'm going to get mine.

My thighs are HUGE! I'm a size 0 at abercrombie & fitch/ hollister in pants and jeans, but i really wanna get smaller thighs.

how can i do so?

i agree with the other girls. but if you are a size 0 in hollister & abercrombie, then you're thighs can't be that HUGE. if they really were "huge" then they wouldn't fit into those sizes.

but i'm a size 00 and i have nice thighs (thats what people tell me), but i've been dancing for 7 years.

so take up some dance classes (i do jazz & tap), and that can help your thighs.

hi i'm 14 want my breasts to grow im a size 34A oh and for all the guys is that big? how do i make them bigger without padded or water bras or implants thanks (haven't started my period)

your 14! a 34A is completely normal!
when i was 14 i was a 34A, and now i'm 15 (almost 16) and i'm a 34B. and my boobs are big compared to most of the girls my age.

so your fine. they will grow, i promise.

I have just started shaving my legs, and i was wondering, do you have to shave the whole leg, or what? Its kind of embarrasing so...yeah. Thanx!

well when i first started shaving my legs, my mom told me to only shave up to my knee. so i did for a little while. but then i thought it was kind of stupid to only shave up to the knee, so i shaved my whole leg.

in my opinion you should shave your whole leg, because it looks better.

when i straighten my hair (on a daily basis), after a long day it flips and waves at the bottom because i tuck my hair behind my ears pretty often. but my birthday is coming up and i can ask for a chi straightener. i was wondering if they really are worth the money and would prevent my hair from "unstraightening" during the day? also, any recommendations as to which one i should get (in the chi line) would be helpful. (:

i have the chi 2" turbo straightener and i LOVE it. it straightens my hair so fast and leaves it really soft and smooth. but i know what you mean by your hair "unstraightening" during the day. the chi definitely prevents this a little. if the day isn't very humid then my hair will stay straight all day and not unstraighten. but if it is humid outside then my hair will still unstraighten.

but with a chi my hair doesn't unstraighten as much as it did with my old conair straightener.

so buy the chi, and also buy a hair product thats made to resist humidity.

soo there is this kid that i like and he knows it and he had told me first that he liked me. and well in person you can tell there is a connection and when were online he doesnt really even talk and when he does its one word answers, nothing to keep the conversation going and its veryy frustrating. and then since its summer i dont really see him that much and when i want to call him people are like no you have to play hard to get but i am horrible at that and well i just dont know what to do since i really want to hang out with him. and like i have talked to him about hanging out except i never really get an answer on when we will hang out. any help would be greatt =]

ok i'm pretty sure that you're the same person who asked me the other question. but i'll add on to my other answer just a little.

instead of just saying "we should hang out soon!" get an exact time and place. so that way you could be like "did you want to hang out with me and some friends at the movies at 7:30?" or something like that. this way you will get a definite answer and will be more likely to actually hang out.

So there is this guy that i like. and he told me that he likes me. and when were in person its like i can tell theirs something there..yah know? and then if he signs on the computer and i IM him he like barely even talks. and he will just randomly stop talking. and since its summer i dont see him as much as i would in school and i want to hang out with him but idk if i should call him or like alot of people say play "hard to get" well im horrible at that. and then people are like invite him since hes shy and like wont call you. so then i always ask my best guy friend who is like a brother to me to talk to the guy i like and now hes like annoyed of me from asking him. soo, im so stuck right now and have no clue what to do.

keep talking to him online. even though he doesn't talk much, you're still talking to him. most guys are like that, they don't talk a lot online and they will like randomly stop talking.

you could try calling him to hang out with you and a bunch of friends. or get one of your other friends to invite him along with you guys one day.

also you can see if he has texted and try texting him to keep in touch. that way he might not feel as nervous to ask you to hang out with him

good luck!

do you think itd be slutty for a 15 year old to take a belly dancing class at a gym? what would you think of it?

no i don't think its slutty at all. actually i'd love to take a belly dancing class and i'm 15. but if i were you i'd get a friend to do it with me :]

ok i need help. i have no idea which class to choose. i thought about pilates because its to tone your body, which is what i want. but i also want to lose weight. oh yeah and im 15 years old, do you think theyd let me in a class? i just think ill feel wierd with like a bunch of 30 year olds

pilates are always a good exercise to do :] but if you are afraid of being the only teenager in the class you could either ask one of your friends to sign up with you or you would ask before you sign up if any other teenagers signed up for that class yet.

There is this guy at school and I really like him...our last dance is the 15 of june....and I was wondering because it its the last dance and everything....ShouldI ask him to the dance and risk him saying no...I mean my friend says he likes me and we don't lie to each other becasue she knows i could get hurt so she wouldn't lie to me...and a few other people have asked if we are going out because we flirt most of the time we are around each other...so the question is....should I just ask him or should I just ask him to dance one dance.......?....and another question...should I ask him in person or would a note be to corny....?....Thanks!

aww this is cute :]

what i think you should do is start off my asking him to the dance. don't just ask him to dance with you there, ask him to be your date to the dance. that way if he says yes, which i'm sure he will, you know that he is interested in you. and then after the dance you guys could hang out more and then you could ask him out.

and if he happens to say no, which i hope he doesn't, it will be much easier to take since he just turned you down as a date to a dance and not to be your boyfriend.

also i think you should definitely ask him in person. it is never a good idea to ask someone over a text, im, note, or even phone call. in person is always better because if you are too nervous to ask him in person then how will you actually date him? but if you are way too nervous to ask him in person then over the phone is the next best choice, just make sure that he is alone and not with his friends.

GOOD LUCK =]

I have bad acne...and I have tried ance free...and Proactiv doesn't sound too good becuase I am allergic to benzoyle perioxide....the main ingrediant in Proactiv...do you have any other clearing face cleaners that I could try....Thanks a bunch!

well since benzoyle peroxide is a proven acne fighting ingredient your situation is a bit harder.

you could try this system:
http://www.clearasilsystem.com/

which uses salylic acid, another acne fighting ingredient. just DO NOT use the quickstart treatment cream since that is the only product in that system that contains benzoyle peroxide.

if that doesn't work your best bet would probably be going to a dermetologists and getting something prescribed to you that doesn't contain benzoyle peroxide or just buying a good toner and a treatment lotion containing salylic acid. like these:

http://www.seabreezeclean.com/index_content.html

or

http://www.seabreezeclean.com/index_content.html

and

http://www.cleanandclear.com/productDetail.do?productid=33&productpos=0

me and my friend have contests.
to see who can find the coolest songs.
and lately we've been finding sexual songs funny.

like.
war in your bedroom- change of pace
do you think-rediscover

does anyone know any other good ones?
like. non rap or country.

here are two that i thought of

"wow i can get sexual too" - by Say Anything
"Boom boom boom boom" - by Vengaboys

well i have acne and its not TERRIBLE but i do have it and i have scars and VERY oily skin. would proactiv really clear my skin and keep it clear? honest answers are appreciated i'd just like alot of input. thank you!

after reading the other answers, i think i can help you.

i have oily skin and used to ALWAYS have like a million breakouts. and i tried like every acne treatment out there. so i was considering getting proactiv. but then one day i went to CVS and saw this stuff called Acne Free that was suppose to be bette than Proactiv, so i bought it. I used it for like 2 months. At first it worked and cleared up most of my acne, but then it just stopped working for me and my acne got worse.

so now i used Proactiv and it is much better. I still get breakouts, but they are really small ones that aren't very noticable. no my skin is not completely clear, but its a lot better than it was before. so if you are will to pay for proactiv, I recommend trying it. you will see results quickly, and it will definitely clear up some of your breakouts.

good luck!

I forget what the flavors were.. but their colors are YELLOW, ORANGE, PINK, OR RED. pick any one of those 4 colors. please dont say something else like "green" because that wont help me at all.. its for this project i have to do in school. thanks for helping! ♥

red first
pink second
orange third
yellow last
=]

14 M: if im talking to a girl on the phone or on AIM(but aim is lame for asking out) what is the best way to actually ask a girl to be your GF...like and example of words ""

well the simplest way is just saying "do you want to go out with me?"

but don't do this over the phone or AIM. do this in person. you can start off by saying how you really like her and was wondering if she wanted to go out with you.

what is the number one way you can tell if a girl likes you(besides hearing it from her friends because they can lie) like visual, body action, stuff like that. question would probobly be better answered by the ladies: what do you do to come on to a guy and show him you like him without saying it. this way i can look for those signs in her. 14 M btw

for me i smile a lot. like i will always make sure to smile and say hi when i see him in the hall.

a lot of girls will also laugh a lot at all your jokes, and they will make sure they sit near you.

so just look for these signs: eye contact, smile, laughter, and if you find them near you a lot.

good luck :]

My cosuin is almost 12 years old and she's very small for her age. She's only 4'8 and she's very very skinny. (The small height runs in the family) Last weekend, I saw her at a cookout and she told me that she'd hadn't eaten in almost a week! I'm worried about her because she won't tell her mother and father and she's already really small and I'm worried that she might have a problem if she doesn't eat! Should I tell her parents or let them find out?

Shannon

you should tell her parents. but just tell them what she told them and say that you're really worried about her. tell them not to tell your cousin that you told them. just tell her parents to watch her eating habits.

okay im 14 and im about 5' 2'' and 97 lbs. these guys at school keep calling me anorexic and i want to take it as a compliment but its getting annoying because they always shove food at my table at lunch. i usually dont eat at lunch because im not hungry. (we have lunch early and i eat breakfast) what can i do to make them stop?

thx!

one. don't try to take it as a compliment. its not

why don't you try eating a smaller breakfast that way you have room to eat something for lunch. even if its small, you're still eating and it will probalby get them to shut up.

try eating a small bowl of cereal for breakfast, and for lunch pack a yogurt & fruit & a snack.

good luck :]

how do i go about admitting to a boy that i actually like him when i've turned him down about fifty times? he's a tenacious kid and he hasn't given up and i think that's why i like him. but i just CAN'T imagine actually admitting to him OR my friends that i'm actually interested in him. help. :(

well you should probably go about it slow, so he doesn't think your kidding when you actually admit that you do like him. ask him to hang out with you and a bunch of your friends. this will make him feel included, and while your together talk to him a lot. then you will have an excuse to talk to him more other times. try some subtle flirting as well. then after a little while you can be like i know i turned you down those other times, but now that i really got to know you, i really like you. or something like that lol

good luck :]

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