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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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Okay so ever since 4th grade I've had thin/thinning hair. I'm in 8th going on 9th, and I really wanna do something about it. I've tried putting mango in my hair before I wash it, olive oil, Nioxin shampoo systems getting it trimmed every 6 weeks. Nothing works. My hair takes soo long to grow. I want it to grow fast. So badly. I want to have big thick hair. It's embarrassing. I don't want to start my highschool years as people thinking my hair sucks. Lately this year, my scalp is kind of itchy quite a few times in one day. And I kind of have these little scabs, tiny scabs, that I always pick out of my scalp. And I was outside taking a tan today and when I came back inside my scalp was red all afternoon. I'm so scared that I have seborrheic dermatitis. I read that it's chronic. I don't want it for the rest of my life. I want the scabs to go away. I don't want an itchy scalp. I want my hair to be thick, not thin. For the growing thing, my mom wants me to take Biotin vitamins to make it grow longer and faster.
So basically:
-How can I get my hair to be healthier, longer, and grow normally?
-What do I do to make my hair thick?
-Do you think I have seborrheic dermatitis? Can I get rid of it forever?
I'm seeing a really good specialist in September but I need to do something this summer so I don't look weird in highschool.
H E L P ! ! !
That's great that you are seeing a specialist, I would recommend that. I know of people that have used Shapley's M-T-G with good results. That's entirely up to you if you try it or not though.
They have made this stuff for horses for years, and now are making a product for humans.
I can tell you that I have had excellent results on horses, dogs and cats with this product. Really fast skin healing and hair growth.
Hi, I am 21 and I am 6 months pregnant with my second child, my first born she is turning one this month. The baby I am pregnant with now is a boy and he was un-planned. I have recently been having the feelings of sharp pains in my stomach some what like contractions, but they aren't consistent. I have not gone to the doctor because I am on vacation, but Im wondering if I should so see one or not.? Has anyone else had these? Also my baby bump is a lot smaller than with my last child, I dont look 6 months but more like 4. Why is this? Could there be something wrong with my baby? Also I wondered if stress could be putting a strain on my pregnancy because I just divorced both of my kids daddy in May, now we are going through a custody battle with the oldest, he knows Im pregnant but insists that it is not his because he thinks I cheated on him which I never did.....Could the stress of everything Im going through now be stressing my body out to go through early labor?Sorry Its long Im just a little concerned.
Every pregnancy is different so the amount you are showing may also be different. Obviously if you know you are having a boy you've had an ultrasound. Did the doctor voice any concerns? If he didn't I wouldn't be too concerned about your size.
Although if you haven't gained weight like you should because you are not eating right due to stress, then this is something you can improve on and can discuss at your next regular appointment.
Some women never feel Braxton hicks contractions, but most who have had one or more babies do. Usually they become noticable at around the stage that you are now. Since you haven't been informed by the doctor if this is normal or not. I would say you should go, perhaps even to the emergency room if your regular doctor or a clinic is not available. If it's normal pains it will ease your mind and help bring down your worry and stress level. If it's not something normal, this way you will feel better knowing you are doing everything possible to take good care of your unborn baby.
In addition to mental stress, it can be quite a physical stress to have pregnancies so close together.
By the way sounds as if your ex is not a very nice person. Guys often say "It's not mine" just to relieve their guilt for not taking responsibility. I guarentee you are not the first and won't be the last in regards to that situation. How terrible of him!
Well since I moved to riverside me and my bestfriend don't see eachother alot! And it's a weird freindship now. And she's always pressuring me about when can she come out. And my mom keeps telling me she doesn't know. Is our freindship worth keeping??
Assuming you two still enjoy talking on the phone or computer..whatever, I'd say the friendship is worth keeping and putting effort into. You'll both develop a sort of new life without each other so it will feel weird for a while, but get together when you can and stay in touch.
When your older or even in college, maybe you can make it a point to live closer to each other.
Okay so I need advice on how to gain someones trust back.
Me and my guy friend [were not dating] had sex like 2 days ago.
&& we were supposed to just keep it to ourselfs but I was extremely excited so I told my best friend about it and well she told her boyfriend who is friends with him and her boyfriend told him..
He confronted me in txt.
he said he wasnt mad just dissapointed.
He also said that he doesnt know if he should trust me.
Also that it will take time to gain that trust but it could happen.
that im a great girl but i have to learn to keep good things to myself.
that i fucked up but he still loves me.
Yeah i just sumed it up because there were like 20 txts but yeah.. what do you think?
Sorry my writing is all over the place. I just dont know what to do.
I want to be trusted again and soon.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'd say that females who are friends often share intimate details with each other. That's pretty normal. So what is the reason he wanted you to keep this quiet?
I think just tell him that you learned a lesson as to what you can and cannot tell your friend and it won't happen again. But also try to make him feel good about it. "Hey it was so good the information just slipped out" "If it were bad do you think I'd tell?"
I'd say that if he really loves you, this will pass by quickly. I am sure he already trusts you.
Have been to a doctor and was given eye drops and was told to use warm wash clothe several times a day. Have done now for 4 days swelling has gone down but no stye has appeared. Do I need to go back to the doctor?
Hi, is it your eyelid that is swollen? I guess I wasn't clear on that. Maybe you are not going to get a stye (in case that's what the doctor said) My son used to get a condition called Blepharitis, and his eyelid would swell and hurt but no stye would be present. He used a q-tip with baby shampoo to cleanse his eyelashes and then applied triple antibiotic ointment to just the base of the lashes, was careful not to get it in the eye. That's what worked for him, but of course you should follow the advice of your DR. If what he/she told you is not working, you could always see someone else such as an opthamologist.
http://www.webmd.com/eye-health/blepharitis
i've been really depressed for the past 4 years and i'm literally crying right now. i'm 16/female. i have no siblings, and really old 'step' parents like in the 60s, and they have alot of trouble relating to me, and i don't really like them. i have like a few friends and only one i hang out with like once/twice a month... that's it. please don't tell me to invite them over more, i try. so i live like in the middle of nowhere...not literally but it feels like that. and, there's nothing to do at home. i can't do anything i want to do in these conditions like write songs and read or w.e. i just watch tv, go to chatting rooms on the internet and eat alot of junk food. i feel so lonely and seluded, i've been trying to get a job but noones hiring me. every summer i feel like this and wish to move, but the other times it didnt work out. im still waiting for an answer right now. but i'm thinking about killing myself. i feel so hopeless. nobody knows i feel like this, i just put on a 'happy face', people don't like depressed people or loosers, so i fake it. i have no life and i just want to die and give up. i don't know what i'm asking just... please help, ifeel really bad right now. and i'm driven crazy doing the same everyday sitting in a room all alone.
The last person to answer gave some excellent advice! I do certainly agree with the book "The Secret" and attracting everything negative by the way you are thinking.
If you seriously feel like killing yourself though, you have to tell an adult that is around you and/or call a suicide hotline.
I have been where you are at one point in my life. It's sad and lonely there, I agree. What helped me through it all and gave me confidence is horses. Is there anyway you could take some riding lessons somewhere? Or volunteer to help at a local stable? If horse interaction isn't feesible volunteer somewhere else, a daycare, nursing home, animal shelter. Especially non-profit organizations. This will also look good on a resume or application when you pursue a job later on. I am guessing you will meet new people and discover a purpose to your life which will keep you going.
I have this uncle, who had a divorce. Then he met this girl. He is 63. This girl is 23. I have no problem with age differences. But this has gone to far. That is somewhat 40 years. That is nasty. I understand 20, or less, but 40, come on. He defentily does not look 60. He broke up with her for a 22 year. Myt uncle disguests me. My whole familly has no problem. I want him to be happy, but that happy, is to me just plain wrong. He also is verrrrrrrrry rich. These girls seem to like his money.He doesn't notice or get hurt. I am tired of seeing a young woman, that is only 2,3, or 4 years older then my sister who's 20. They could be my isters. That so nasty. I need peoples opinion on young + old = love/like relationaships.
My opinion is that relationships with this much of an age gap won't last very long, because there is no way they could have that much in common. One bonus is the young women he dates are not minors (thank goodness).
I understand that if you are close to your uncle you have a hard time ignoring this, but yes as the other posters said, there's really nothing you can do. But it's okay to voice your opinion on it. Everyone is entitled to that much.
I have a sister who is in college. In a close state. She is really into fashion. So is my mom. When she comes home, my mom actes like I am a piece of poop! They have something in common, shopping. So I am forced to go to these 'shopping' trips. I do not like to go shopping, unless I am with my bestfriend. I hate baithing suit shopping everything else. It tires me out soooo easily. If I do not go I will be criticized by my sis. I used to look foward to her homecoming. She sucks out ALL the attention. She makes me treated like crap. And when I try to say something in deffense, I will for a fact be yelled at. No one understands. I tryed to tell my mom when my sister went back to college but she still yelled. My mom acts very takky when around my sis. What should I do for my sisters next homecoming?
I don't like shopping either, so I can certainly relate to your situation.
Tell them you are going to allow them quality Mom-Daughter time without you because you don't like to shop and they do, but offer to do something else with your sis such as a movie, out to dinner etc. Maybe by offering an alternative way to spend time together will get your Mom to see that you are really trying to get along and compromise. In fact if you could set up something before your sister comes home that would be best, so that way your intentions are clear.
what can i do to make both of my infected pierced ears heal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! i am like afriad that i will have to go through surgery or something. the earing is embeded in my ear and i ca't take it out! help!!!
Of course your best bet would just to see the doc because the swelling may be due to an infection that should be treated with oral antibiotics.
But if you insist on not going to the doc, this is what I would try if it were me.
Clean the area with cotton swabs dipped in hydrogen peroxide to remove any old drainage which will make it sort of sticky. Then apply a cold compress for about 20 minutes, after that use an antibiotic ointment (if you are not allergic to antibiotics of course) I'd try this 3-4 times in a 24 hr period is all & try to remove the earing that is embedded, because actually it may have to be surgically removed later if you don't get it out now.
Once you can remove the earing and if you want to keep pierced ears, try surgical steel/nickle free french wires to keep the holes open, you can turn them several times a day and most likely won't get embedded.
ok this one's not too important. but i'm just curious about something i found odd, and i figured i'd get some other opinions about it ...
ok so at school i became really good friends with this guy named matt. we had classes together and just became really close this past semester. and that made me really happy because he's an awesome person. that, and because i had been absolutley in love with him. i had the biggest crush on him you could imagine, i hadn't felt that way about anyone since my ex, so this was pretty exciting for me. alas, we ended up just being friends after all and he got himself a girlfriend. oddly enough, i wasn't even upset. i was just happy i had him in my life as a friend. plus, i knew his girlfriend (i was friends with her too - though not as close) and she's a sweetheart. around the time of his graduation, his girlfriend threw him a surprise party, and i was one of the few invited. during the party she kept telling me how happy she was that i was there, and that she knew that matt was really happy too. when matt graduated, he vowed that we'd keep in touch over the summer. we haven't really, which is kinda sad but i'm not about to bend over backwards to get in contact with him. he's a busy guy and he's in a serious relationship so i'm not going to bother him.
ok now for the weird part: recentley i found his girlfriend on myspace. (and it was ordinary enough. someone i had added on facebook had a link to their myspace and out of pure boredom i was looking at it and noticed that she was in this person's top 8. so i added her, only because i knew her and we were friends so i figured it'd be nice to keep in touch and what not.
so she added me. and she left me a comment on one of my pictures and the usual stuff. then i left her a comment just asking how she's been and how's her summer, etc. instead of commenting me back she sent me a message with her response. which was kinda strange, but no big deal. then the next day i noticed that she deleted *almost* everything off her page (i.e. her layout, interests, about me and stuff, basically everything about herself) and changed her name. then, the part that got me the most, she deleted my comment. only mine.
now i might be thinking too much about it, but it just seems weird to me. at first i thought deleting everything off her page was strange, but then deleting my comment? that just didn't make sense. what do you guys think could be the problem? should i not have added her? do you think it maybe has something to do with matt?
any input would be appreciated, because i honestly have no effin clue.
note: some important factors to also know:
-she did not know that i had ever liked matt, nor did i tell anyone for it to get around to her in anyway.
-he never acted strange around me, and esp. not when she was there, which was often.
-we're in college, not high school (i don't know, for some reason that might matter, lol).
ok, that is all :)
I do agree that it was strange. Did you leave a picture with your comment? Maybe she thought it took up too much room or didn't fit her layout well. Or another possiblity is someone hacked into her account because password stealing is common on there.
What I would do is send another comment, one without a picture and just see what happens, or you could send a message and just ask if everything is okay with her account because you noticed the layout is different and your comment was gone.
Since you don't have a clue as to why it happened or what she was thinking, try not to read too much into it without knowing more.
If she responds in a negative manner or not at all. I'm guessing it may have something to do with "Matt" just maybe he revealed to her different intentions other than friendship about you and that has her concerned. Not because of anything you did--but because of something he did.
My husband and I purchased a cabin in the mountains four years ago. Along with that, we purchased two ATVs (four-wheelers) to ride the thousands of acres of mountain trails adjacent to our cabin property.
We love to have our children and grandchildren visit and have an open door policy where they're concerned.
Recently, my married daughter asked me, in front of her husband, if we would be willing to let them use the cabin for use with her husband's family. We told her we would have to think about it. We discussed it briefly with them and never gave them an answer.
My husband and I had already talked about this situation because we knew it would come up. I had expressed to my daughter shortly after we purchased the cabin that this was a "family only" cabin and was not open to in-laws. My daughter told me at that time that she understood. I feel like she was put up to asking me by her husband.
My husband and I feel strongly that we don't want my daughter's in-laws, or any other in-laws for that matter, accessing our cabin. Our cabin is as personal as our home, and I wouldn't lend out the use of my home to just anyone.
Also, I'm worried about the liability issue concerning the use of our four-wheelers and also who would be responsible if they damaged them.
I also feel like if we open up the cabin to this set of in-laws, our other children would assume that they would be entitled to bring their in-laws and friends to the cabin, which rightfully so they should.
Am I being too possessive of "my cabin"? I don't want to alienate my son-in-law, but, again, I don't feel I have any obligation to provide his family with a weekend retreat. I'm afraid if we allow it "just this once" that it will become expected that they can use it any time.
Please advise. Thanks
No, I do not feel you are being too possessive of your cabin. And you are correct by thinking that from a liability issue they would not be covered, not only via damage to the 4 wheelers, but injury to themselves or other property.
As long as they are guests while you are present, they should be covered (but check with your insurance company to be sure).
This is probably the approach you would want to take with your son-in-law. Hopefully he will understand.
Also most likely you want the cabin to be available when you want to use it and not have to deal with others staying there, their schedules and so on. In addition it's not for lease or timeshare, it's for personal use.
I think if you give an inch--they make take a mile, so you will have to stand your ground in a firm but fair manner. Offer to help them find local accomdations if they want to drop by for a visit perhaps.
ever since i got my braces off (three years ago) my jaw kinda pops sometimes.
that mostly stopped for a while, but recently i've been expieriencing a LOT of soreness on the left side; it feels like a bruise and i can't open my mouth all the way.
it's not my teeth, i suspected it might be a cavity but i got checked and it turns out i don't have any.
any way i can make the pain stop?
what might have caused this?
thanks!
It could be that your teeth are not in perfect alignment with each other. In otherwords your bite may be off. While this seems minor, it can cause major pain and soreness. I've had it happen to me, so I know. It may just be a tiny amount and the orthodonist didn't notice. If this is the case it would be very simple to fix. Once my bite was corrected the pain was gone in less than 24 hours, but I tell you, my entire face hurt before it was BAD.
Okay, I have this friend and she's driving me nuts. Well actually, first I should probably tell you she's an Internet friend of mine. But we're really close, we've known each other for years and we've talked on the phone and such. (And I love her like a friend I know IRL.)
Well anyway, back to the problem. She found this online guy who she's decided to start 'going out' with. She's *TOTALLY* serious about him and completely infatuated. The thing is that he's 17 and she's 14. Not only that, but he is SO creepy. He calls me a bitch a lot, even when I haven't done anything. Like once I was talking to him on YIM and I stopped for a second because something else caught my attention, and he was REALLY mad, he cussed me out and everything for 'ignoring him'.
I've tried to tell my friend that she's being stupid and everything, but she won't listen and tells me I'm the one being stupid instead. So basically she's chosen him, some creepy-ass guy she met over her friend who she's known a lot longer.
What do I do? They're even talking about meeting in real life! I'm scared for her!! EVERYTHING could go wrong... I mean, I've heard the stories of girls getting like raped and murdered by guys they meet online. Scares the crap out of me and I don't want that to happen to her at all. But no matter what I tell her she just yells at me!
I totally understand where you are coming from. There is a possiblity that this is not a 17 year old, and an even greater chance he wants to take advantage of your friend no matter his age. Of course she won't listen to you if she is infatuated with him.
Sounds like you are in between a rock and a hard place.
Even if she is mad at you for potenitally saving her life, could you live with yourself if you did nothing and something bad happened? I guess what I would do is try to be nice about "him" no matter what he does or says to you, so she continues to share information and doesn't cut you off.
You may have to go to her parents about this...of course she will hate you, but if they don't care or don't do anything, at least it will take some of the guilt off of you if something bad does happen.
Other than that, I don't see where you are going to change or mind, or convince her not to meet him.
Yesterday my two dogs got in a big fight in the backyard when I wasn't home. one is pit-bull cross with rhodesian ridgeback, the other pit and border collie cross. The neighbor told me that they fought for 30 minutes and my dog, (the ridgeback) had the other by the neck for a long time. the border collie cross is very injured today, and the other has minor injuries. There was another time about 4 months ago when it went the other way around and the border collie tore a chunk of ear off my other dog. Normally, they get along great, sleep together, play, swim together. they are very nice to humans, and obedient. My ridgeback did snap at my son once however (now both dogs are only allowed in the house at night and when my son naps). i just don't know if this type of behavior is normal. Really, both dogs are really sweet, even if it does not seem that way from what I write. so my questions are: is this behavior normal? and should i keep them away from the cats even though so far they have been getting along with them? (minus a few growls from the ridgeback, although that one seems to like the cats the most)
Well, even love for our pets is blind. There's been plenty of cases where dog owners minimize behavior and then something serious happens. Aggression is aggression, and has the potential to be life threatening to other animals or humans.
Normal? perhaps in the dog world the attack of one dog to another is normal. But by human standards it is not acceptable. Obviously one dog perceived the other was a threat, either to his power position (one will be the pack leader) or to territory, food..etc. No percieved threat, nice dogs.
My neighbor kept an agressive dog, who had snapped at her own children and other pets, and eventually this dog tore the ear off one child, and seriously wounded my daughter on the face--now at 19 she is left with a disfiguring scar, and has been traumatized for life.
Isolate the dogs and it might make them more aggressive, but if you plan on keeping them, it sounds as if you must separate them when you are not supervising, and at all times keep the dogs away from children. Dogs do perceive kids as a threat--they move fast--talk loud and squeel with delight. Even if you take the dogs to the vet or a behavorist for evaluation, I would say that it will be difficult to trust them. Since you say they are "sweet" they sound unpredictable.
I am a male teacher in a mixed school.
I just finished my first year of teaching. I really like my school, the students are respectful, and so are the staff, but I'm having some problems.
Since I am the youngest teacher in the school, a lot of the girls I teach flirt with me.
They would do anything to get my attention.
Ok, I do feel flattered, but there's one girl in particular that is over the line.
I teach her four times a week, and she's 15. She sits in the front row, she is constantly flirting with me, she wears very low cut tops, and she always comes to find me because she has ''problems'' with her homework.
This is starting to worry me, I have a girlfriend, and I've told her about this, but it doesn't bother her.
What can I say to this girl. Whenever she talks to me, she tries to make physical contact, and I don't want to be fired from my job because of this.
Please give me some advice. I know school is over for the summer, but I found out the other day that I will teach her again next school year, and I don't want these things to haunt me.
Thank you in advance.
Hello,
If you ignore the girl, she could come up with some wild story to get even, such as blaming YOU, and making it appear as if you are sexually harrassing her. In fact that may be what she would tell her parents. So yes, it is a serious situation and deserves a solution.
If you haven't already, document her behavior and advances, and what you say back to her. Be sure to sign and date all documentation. Discuss the situation with your superiors and demand that a witness is present any time you must interact with her in a one on one situation. Speak with the school counselor yourself, and then refer her to the school counselor for inappapropiate behavior--and in writing either from you/and or the principle inform her parents.
This is a form of sexual harassment, and the school officials need to take it serious because you should not be made to feel uncomfortable, and in the end you will be the one to get hurt if this is not dealt with promptly and appropiatly.
I don't know if this situation has been posted before but I am not in the mood to use the search bar.
Anyway, to start it off I would like to thank those people taking the time to actually read this and those whom give advice to my problem.
My problem started four months ago, I met a girl (which will be named "Mika" for this explanation), in a GED class that I decided to take since Highschool was a total waste of time for me. We started to talk and we quickly became friends. We grew close as friends but I didn’t think of her other than a friend as time went on.
Mika was a lesbian who had a girlfriend (Whom we are going to call “Lily”). Lily is a nice girl that lives about two times zones away from my current residence. They had a of online relationship that grew more and more over the course of a year and a half.
About two months into friendship between Mika and I, Mika ran into some trouble with her mom (whom she was living with)). She ran the bill on her cell phone into epic proportions and at the time Mika thought that the only way to solve this problem was to run away from her mother. This decision was made without discussion with anyone (ie friends and family). So she went out and bought a ticket to fly over to Lily's to live with her.
As soon as I got word that she was going to run away, I quickly contacted her and began to start to help her out as much as I possibly could. She had about a week till her flight and had no place to stay. I got her a place to stay with a personal friend (Named Susej) of mine for the week.
With the problem of temporary place to stay settled, I focused on making her final days with me as fun as possible. Luckily for me there was a silent rave coming up and was perfect for her to forget about her troubles.
Well I took her to the rave and we started to have fun with a couple of friends that I have invited over. As the night went on I found her making out with one of my friends that I invited over. I found it kinda surprising since the friend she was making out with was male. Again let me remind you that Mika was suppose to be a lesbian. Well Mika spend the night with me and my friend dancing our troubles away without the provocation of sexual activities. Anyways the night came to an end so me and her crashed at Susej’s place.
Susej had plans with his family so he had to get out of town for a day. That was fine, so Mika stayed with me the entire day until Susej came back to town. We had a best friends slumber party including the epic pillowfight.
The night after, I was taking Mika back to Susje place for the night, we were on the train together and we were having a normal conversation as always. I don’t know what came over me but something clicked inside of my head that I loved this girl. So in the middle of the conversation I just stopped her randomly and just kissed her. To my surprise she kissed me back which went against all the moral stature of what a lesbian is.
I told her how I felt about her and the kisses that she gave back to me mirrored what I have been feeling for her. She didn’t say anything back but I know something was there, she left me on the train with tears starting to flow down her cheeks. I never saw her again after that.
Anyways after that I started to keep in contact with Lily, just to make sure that Mika was still alive and kicking. It was a uneasy relationship between be and her. I hated her for having Mika so close to her.
One day Mika gave me a surprise phone call. Of course I was happy to hear from her and to know that she was alright. I don’t know how we got to that point of the conversation but we started talking about that train ride. She began to tell me her feelings that she had for me and just began to regret leaving me to live with Lily.
The joy that went through me during that conversation was undescribable. I wanted her to come back to me so I could love her but honestly I wanted to make sure that it was Mika wanted. I told her to sleep on it and tell if she still feels the same the next day. Sadly for me it didn’t go the way I wanted and she stayed with Lily for a while.
I would occasionally talk to Mika afterwards but our conversations were usually focused on how amazing Lily which were painful to hear knowing how I felt about Mika. I would usually go and wrestle my friends after talking to Mika just to get rid of the extra aggression that felt toward the entire situation. That went on for a month or so until three weeks ago.
It was in the middle of the night when I was woken up by a phone call. I picked up the phone only to have Lily’s hysterical screams ring and echo inside of my brain. Earlier that week I royally pissed her off when I told her about what happened between Mika and I in the train ride so we weren’t on speaking terms anymore. Apparently, Mika was pregnant! Obviously that wasn’t my fault since I never even had the chance to even go that far with Mika but Lily thought otherwise.
After a brief conversation and the explanation on the events that happen when she was with me our emotions soon linked and were echoing each other perfectly. Rage, betrayal, sadness, the need to bash Mika’s face into a wall. It was amazing how Lily and I came together for a common cause.
We started to talk more often and more openly about everything and how much we loved Mika. I learned from Lily that the way she met Lily was similar to my own situation. They started out as friends and then they turned to lovers.
The more I talked to Lily the more I felt unsure if I even deserved Mika for my own. They had so much more than I did. I also started to develop feelings for Lily the more time I spent talking to her.
I mean there were times that she was crying over on how Mika betrayed her trust and her love and I was the one there to comfort her reminding her that I was in the same boat with her going through the same feelings that she was. I would cheer her up to the point were I could feel her smile through the phone. She would do the same for me also as the days passed on.
I grew unsure whether or not I should even fight Lily for Mika’s affection. Also grew unsure of my own feelings toward Lily. I grew to love Lily to the point were I would do anything to make her happy. I have already told Lily of my feelings toward her already but I am in the dark on how she feels about me.
I am uncertain on who I should love anymore, both of them won a place in my heart. I know its naive of me to think that I could get out of this without getting hurt or without hurting someone else. Is there a way where all three of us can be happy?
I just want to know what exactly is the right thing to do here.
I will give this a shot at answering, but please know that your situation is unique and my advice might not feel right, but I always answer from my heart. So here goes.
I believe who you should love, is neither one of these women. They have openly admitted their preference for the same sex, and for now that's enough information to tell you that you can never be more than friends. Even then, the friendship triangle sounds as if it will be confusing and heartbreaking, and in the end your kindness and willingness to help someone who doesn't have their act together will get you burned.
In any new relationship one needs to start out on the right path. Pain, heartache, running away, cheating--is not a solid foundation for love. Yes, someone will get used and hurt 9 times out of 10.
If you lower your expectations of the situation to a casual friendship level, you may possibly protect your feelings. But it sounds as if you are going to have a hard time doing this, but it's what I believe would work best. Take time out for yourself, and discover what you truly want in a relationship before you involve someone else.
Hey, Im 15 years old and ive been riding horses for about 8 years now. I have owned my horse for three years, and I was being ridden western. He is a 16hh appendix quarter horse. But i retrained him to do english hunter, and he forgets all of his neck reigning. He wasn't really good at it in the first place, but I want to show english and western, but I need to retrain him well to neck reign. Any suggestions on doing so? Thanks.
The advice on the link was good, but something else that helps is to use reins that have a rough surface that will touch against the horses neck.
For example you always want to give the lightest or smallest cue first and build that up, until they understand what is coming after the light cue and do it automatically--and you won't have to use the others. When you want to turn left, apply right leg pressure, lay the right rein over the horses neck (rough side touching him) if he doesn't respond, direct rein with your left rein. Remember to immediatly release the pressure when he does give..hence the reward. Since you are riding in two different disciplines, do you use a different bit and bridle for each one? This might help the horse understand what work he has to do for the day and change from one mode to the next.
Ok so I have a best friend for 10 yrs. We met when we were 12. Opposite sex of course. Ever since the first day, he has wanted to be just more than friends. But I didnt want a relationship at the time and I was the sweet innocent girl who loved bad ass jerks all through school. So anyways, we have been best friends for 10 yrs. We have both dated other people and done the whole serious relationships, but none of them worked out. I moved a state away when my parents moved to be closer to them. Its been 4 yrs since my friend and I have seen each other but we talk all the time. Through all this time, he has been in love with me and has always hoped that I would feel the same way. He is almost done with college and wants to start a career and looking for Mrs. Right. And really wants me to give him a shot.
I have always loved him. I just never could be with him back in school because we were best friends and I didnt want it to change. Even after we graduated and went separate ways, I always knew in the back of my head that some way, we would end up together. But every time I think I can even try to go on a date with him, I chicken out. I just get so scared and I dont know why. When I look back on my life, one of the best things that have come out of it so far has been having him in my life. According to him, we have not been friends for 10 yrs. but been married for 10 yrs. We have so many things in common, we have the same outlook on life and relationships, I know that he is the perfect guy for me. So why do I keep chickening out? Why am I so scared? He is coming to visit me this week and I am excited and petrified. Even though we talk all the time through phone calls, email, instant messaging, web cam, etc. I just get so many knots in my stomach and just get so nervous. I need some advice.
The knots in your stomach are telling you you are in love! Those jitters are normal! Perhaps you are scared because you are so in love you are afraid to take a chance and lose him. It's safe now because you keep it on the edge so you don't get dissapointed. You have been in a comfort zone so to speak, in order to make ourselves do anything good we have to move out of that comfort zone. If you don't try to move on to a romantic relationship you will never know, and may just regret it the rest of your life. Make the decision to take a chance and you will feel much better.
you know how people say that anger towards animals etc is the first sign of psychotic behaviour? i think i can see that in myself.
what do i do?what is the second sign?
It would help if you explained your version of "anger". Most people can get frustrated with their pets, but never actually harm them or have thoughts of harming them. However if you having thoughts of violence, then yes, you do need to get some help. Call a hotline, speak to a counselor, a pastor or any adult that you believe will help you. As far as the second sign, I am not sure anyone could tell you that for sure, because it's most likely different in different people. It is great that you recognize this and are willing to ask about it. Kudos to you!
hi i have this friend who is in my class(we are in grade 7) and for some reason all of the girls like him i don't know why cause he is a show off a big one and yet he still has nearly every girl in our grade falling for him. hes got a girlfriend and all but its just annoying how all of them like him and follow him around at lunch there is like 10 of the girls following him but it still seems like alot of girls to me. i just want to know why they all like him hes not that hot or nice and he can be a bit of a d#ck head sumtimes and i also want to know a way to stop my jealousy.
Some girls, especially young girls fall for the "bad boys". You know the saying "nice guys finish last"? That's not true at all though, and those bad boys..and girls trying to compete and figure out what makes him tick, will be very unhappy someday if they keep this up. So actually, while it looks appealing now, several years from now you are the one who is going to be ahead. The tables will turn and he will be the one jealous of you! You don't have to do anything, but be your self and it will happen!