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seluded and depressed.
i've been really depressed for the past 4 years and i'm literally crying right now. i'm 16/female. i have no siblings, and really old 'step' parents like in the 60s, and they have alot of trouble relating to me, and i don't really like them. i have like a few friends and only one i hang out with like once/twice a month... that's it. please don't tell me to invite them over more, i try. so i live like in the middle of nowhere...not literally but it feels like that. and, there's nothing to do at home. i can't do anything i want to do in these conditions like write songs and read or w.e. i just watch tv, go to chatting rooms on the internet and eat alot of junk food. i feel so lonely and seluded, i've been trying to get a job but noones hiring me. every summer i feel like this and wish to move, but the other times it didnt work out. im still waiting for an answer right now. but i'm thinking about killing myself. i feel so hopeless. nobody knows i feel like this, i just put on a 'happy face', people don't like depressed people or loosers, so i fake it. i have no life and i just want to die and give up. i don't know what i'm asking just... please help, ifeel really bad right now. and i'm driven crazy doing the same everyday sitting in a room all alone.
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The last person to answer gave some excellent advice! I do certainly agree with the book "The Secret" and attracting everything negative by the way you are thinking.
If you seriously feel like killing yourself though, you have to tell an adult that is around you and/or call a suicide hotline.
I have been where you are at one point in my life. It's sad and lonely there, I agree. What helped me through it all and gave me confidence is horses. Is there anyway you could take some riding lessons somewhere? Or volunteer to help at a local stable? If horse interaction isn't feesible volunteer somewhere else, a daycare, nursing home, animal shelter. Especially non-profit organizations. This will also look good on a resume or application when you pursue a job later on. I am guessing you will meet new people and discover a purpose to your life which will keep you going.
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let me tell you; you're not alone here.:].
even i have felt so alone and different from everyone; i felt like no matter what i did; i couldn't meet ANYONES standards.
but then i realized. why the hell would i want to actually try so hard to meet a standard?Someone else's judgement, some one else's classification they can just fit you in. So okay; obviously; you don't like yourself right now. actually; you probably don't even know who you are. But thats why, now, you can prove everyone wrong.
and the first thing i did was just completely let go of everything i had. people who don't care; thoughts of "i'm not good enough,i'll never be happy again"; or even crying because your so alone.
Get a new look. figure out the things you like.
Revamp your whole style;work out even if you want to.Smile at yourself(haha, corny,but it works =]).Set goals.
Forget about how people see you; and don't think they see you as any negative thought. they don't know you, so why worry what they think?
If you go in thinking the worst; its bound to happen. I really think you should read a book called "The Secret"; a book about how to find happiness by atracting it to you. Instead of thinking your a "loser", say "I have something to offer, I am here for a reason, and i don't care what people think of me." or even just say "I'm Happy, and greatful for everything i do have"
Think of it this way; Why do you feel hopeless?
you have so much to give. right now; you need some more confidence =]. Find a drive, such as writing songs. find anything that makes you feel good and embrase it.
You keep saying "i can't.,i don't"
if you keep thinking of these negative thoughts; you'll attract more negativity to you.
For example; the first day of school. if you think "what if they don't like me" it's a good chance they won't. because,
That leaves an open door to that one option. when theres so many other out comes than the one thats already in your mind.
but if you go in thinking "I'm going to make amazing friends; have fun; and be myself." and focus on that thought; it will happen. and hey, if it doesn't turn out that way, just say "Oh well!" because thats all you should think if something bad happens to you. move on, shake it off, and don't let it ruin your day.
look, i know i'm all over the place with this haha;but i just really am hoping you realize theres sooo much more out there, and being 16, your just at the beginning. Today, is a clean slate.
when you're home alone, SCREAM. at the top of you're lungs. let it all out. dance! do something you're not used to doing. Spark up a conversation or smile at anyone. It takes time. It may take awhile. but don't give up, just keep going. what i like to do is listen to really up lifting songs. sing to them, even if someones in the room.I mean, just go for it, what do you have to loose anyways?
well i know this was long! so i'm going to leave off here.. haha, woww! i really hope i at least gave you a little advice that was worth reading :]
and good luck, please don't give up<3
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