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Why Am I So Scared?
Ok so I have a best friend for 10 yrs. We met when we were 12. Opposite sex of course. Ever since the first day, he has wanted to be just more than friends. But I didnt want a relationship at the time and I was the sweet innocent girl who loved bad ass jerks all through school. So anyways, we have been best friends for 10 yrs. We have both dated other people and done the whole serious relationships, but none of them worked out. I moved a state away when my parents moved to be closer to them. Its been 4 yrs since my friend and I have seen each other but we talk all the time. Through all this time, he has been in love with me and has always hoped that I would feel the same way. He is almost done with college and wants to start a career and looking for Mrs. Right. And really wants me to give him a shot.
I have always loved him. I just never could be with him back in school because we were best friends and I didnt want it to change. Even after we graduated and went separate ways, I always knew in the back of my head that some way, we would end up together. But every time I think I can even try to go on a date with him, I chicken out. I just get so scared and I dont know why. When I look back on my life, one of the best things that have come out of it so far has been having him in my life. According to him, we have not been friends for 10 yrs. but been married for 10 yrs. We have so many things in common, we have the same outlook on life and relationships, I know that he is the perfect guy for me. So why do I keep chickening out? Why am I so scared? He is coming to visit me this week and I am excited and petrified. Even though we talk all the time through phone calls, email, instant messaging, web cam, etc. I just get so many knots in my stomach and just get so nervous. I need some advice.
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you love him! :]
you have always known weather you relized it or not that he is your mr. right
atleast give it a chance
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The knots in your stomach are telling you you are in love! Those jitters are normal! Perhaps you are scared because you are so in love you are afraid to take a chance and lose him. It's safe now because you keep it on the edge so you don't get dissapointed. You have been in a comfort zone so to speak, in order to make ourselves do anything good we have to move out of that comfort zone. If you don't try to move on to a romantic relationship you will never know, and may just regret it the rest of your life. Make the decision to take a chance and you will feel much better.
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You have answered so many questions within yourself already that you know what's up and so does he girl!
1. You love each other
2. You have already developed a friendship which has lasted for years not just suddenly
3. You know that he is the one for you and he seems great for the fact that he has set goals for himself and is aspiring to meet them.
4. You both have already had relationships that didn't work out - the real reason is because you two weren't with each other and no one else could compare to the other.
It's perfectly normal to be scared or feel anxiety - you haven't seen him in over 4 years! I think that all you have to do is be yourself and he be himself. You all are going to be fine! I am firm believer that it takes friendship first before a relationship can be implemented. A friendship is a relationship already; therefore you have already been in a relationship with one another and now you both are considering going to the next level.
It's great because you both are already on the same page with one another, it isn't as if one of you are coming into this blinded, not knowing the other's expectation, or feelings for the other. Have fun this weekend and be ready to feel a sense of relief from the bad relationships that didn't work out, the stress from moving and not seeing each other for 4 years, and the fact that he is going to be something in life. Good Luck, take it easy, relax and go get something cute to wear and think about fixing up your hair girl!@ Focus on the positive only because everything else would be less than civilized. "smile"
You aren't a chicken, you are a young lady, now claim it and do you!!!! be like Nike, and just do it!
hit me up on the email if you still wanna talk about it or feel the same way. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
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