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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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the other day, my boyfriend came over and we were sitting on the couch. then we started kissing. he slipped his tounge into my mouth and i did the same. (we were kissing for like 10-15 seconds) is that considered just french kissing or making out?

French kissing and making out are the same thing.

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im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything?

Wow! Your 15 and all you've done is kiss! Good for you girl! That's a good thing, most 15 year old girls these days are fuckin horny sluts. Your a good girl you should be proud. But yeah, if your gonna let your boy friend finger you, it won't pop your cherry, and it shouldn't hurt, honestly you might not even like it, I know a lot of girls that don't, I know I don't. Only thing is once you let your bf fool around with your stuff down there, it will probably make him wanna have sex even more but if your strong enough to handle the situation if it starts to get out of hand then everything should be fine. And no this does not make you a slut, but just be sure you let your bf know that what yal do together privately is no one elses business. Because if he tells someone it will get around and you know how people are, they are so ready to gossip and label a good girl as a slut. Well good luck!

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ok i love my boyfriend and everything but whenever well be on the phone and hell have to eat or something,..hell say ill call you back in like 20 minutes...and hell be like i love you so much ill talk to you in 20mins babe i love you...but then hell acll me back in like TWO HOURS!! i talked to hmi about it earlier tonite and hes like well stuff comes up i either have to leave w/ my parents or have to do chores or something and then hes doing it again right now!!....hes not getting the hint!!! what can i do??

Honestly, you shouldn't be sweating the situation. He probably just has things that get in his way from calling you right back. Atleast be happy that he calls, shit some girls bfs don't even call. Plus its good to have some space anyway. You guys don't need to be talking on the phone every second, soon enough you will have nothing to talk about and that's how young couples get bored with eachother and end up splitting.

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Ok thre is this guy that i like but he is 18 know and i am 15. And i just found out that his girlfriend is prenget and i like him really bad. but i have know him for since i was little cause he and my uncle were good friends. We use to party together but that was the old days. And i don't know if i should tell him bow i fell. But i hope some one can help me. Michy

1st off he is illegal. 2nd he has a girl pregnant. If I were I would forget about him, there's just too much drama and baggage. And trust me baby mama drama is no picnic. This is definitely not the right time to get involved with him.

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well, one day i looked in the mirror and saw my reflection and i thought i loooked like a whale! I wanted to fucken disappear..im so self conscious. and i all of a sudden started eating then throwing it up, i mean today i ate popcorn then went to wash my hands and i saw myself..and i just hated it so i threw up in the toilet like i made myself throw up! and i dont know whats wrong with me..does that mean i have an eating disorder?

p.s ive tried it before...

Yes it does. And you should go get help, like counceling, for it soon, before it gets worst. Anorexia-balimia can become very addictive and take dangerous tolls on your body, so its best that you confront this problem now while you still have some control.

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First off..I am gay. I just moved to this city about 6 months ago. about a month ago..I met a girl and she is everything that i've been looking for. we talk all the time, and really hit it off..like really. (We met at a party were she was drunk and we kissed..big time kissed) But the thing is..shes not gay (i think otherwise) But her boyfriend is the one that introduced me to a lot of people that i know around here. a few days ago she told me that she couldn't be around me because she "was going to make certain that nothing happened between us". But if shes not gay like she says why is she concerned that something is going to happen. Thats the part that makes me think that she doesn't know what she wants. Ever since I met her..i've been trying to understand her. Is she gay or bi, and just worried about what people might think or was that simply a drunken kiss? any thoughts?

Well we can definitely cancel out that she is a lesbian because if she was then she wouldn't have a boyfriend. I think she is bi curious, and since she was drunk she took the time to let loose and experiment. The fact that she suddenly cut you off makes me think she kinda liked what happened between the two of you but is ignoring it because she is worried of what people think. If I were you I'd ask her what that whole kiss that night was all about, if she says it was nothing or a mistake, then just leave at that. Don't waste your time on someone who wants to play mind games.

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im a freshman n lately ive been talking to one of my friends brothers thats a junior at my school. my friend has told his brother that he wasnt allowed to talk to me cause i was his friend...and yeah. so im between 2 great guys here n i don kno what to do. so my friends brother invited me over to teach me how to play the drums n to jus chill...but what would my friend think? i wanna have them both as friends but will that ever work out? (i'll rate)

Seems to me like they both have a thing for you. You could just keep chilling with the both of them until they realize that they just have to deal with the fact that you want both of them as friends. But, if you are planning to get serious with one of them and be more than friends, that might not be a good idea cuz it will start a lot of drama between brothers, unless of course you and the brother you like will be able to deal with the drama. But yeah, those are your options, good luck! :)

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Ok, i have this friend, well, she's kind of my friend, but not really. she likes me, but i dont like her. she's really annoying, and kinda mean and rude to ppl, even adults, and it gets on my nerves. For example, my sister had a friend over when i had her over, but my friend wanted to watch a movie that nobody else wanted to watch, and she wouldn't let us watch anything else, she literaly too kthe movie away from me and put it in, makin my sister and her friend leave the room. Isn't that kinda rude? What should i do about it?

Oh this is an easy one... Don't be her friend anymore! Who cares if you seem mean or rude, she's fuckin disrespectful anyway.

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My cat came to my house as a stray she is was declawed... i put her with my kitten he isnt neuterd she is getting fatter how can i tell she is pregnant?

Sometimes you can tell if her nipples are all big and poking out but you should take her to the vet just to make sure.

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i have the habit of bitting my nails. =( i dont want to bit them...but i cant stop! i would do anything to stop bitting them!!! i dont want to bit them anymore and everytime i try to stop i just can't stop myself from bitting them! PLEASE...if you have any ideas on how to stop, please tell me!!!

Wear a rubber band around your wrist and everytime you catch yourself biting snap it. Also tell your friends when they catch you biting to snap it. you'll stop biting once you're tired of being snapped. There are also nail polishes that taste awful and are supposed to stop you from biting but I think the rubber band method is better plus its free lol. Also, don't bother spending your money on getting your nails done because if you really wanna bite you will bite that accrylic stuff off just to get to your nail, trust me cuz that's what I used to do.

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I think i'm going to my boyfriends house tomorrow to "hang out". What should we do? Cuz we'll probably be bored like usual. Thanks!!!

Read the bible that always FUN :)

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this one girl I like is playing hard to get, what
should I do?

Throw yourself at her. Just grab her and kiss her, make yourself unable for her to resist. Or play hard to get back. Girls love it when a guy is trying so hard to get at them, but if you suddenly stop it will annoy her and then she will be the one trying to get your attention.

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ok i am best friends with a really popular girl but it seems like everytime we hang out she wants to invite guys along. It can never be just us hanging out as a girls night. I think that maybe shes just using me. What should i do?

Don't go assuming things just yet. The next time you hang out and she wants to chill with guys, just be like "hey why don't we just chill and forget about the guys for a night. Lets have a girls night out" you'll know what she's all about by the way she reacts. If she agrees then cool. But if she acts like its a big deal that there will be no guys just be like well then your gonna have to chill with someone else cuz I don't wanna chill with any guys.

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I like this one girl and we use to go out. but she broke up with me. And I'm still in love with
her.what should I do?

Tell her you miss her and you're still in love with her. Ask for another chance. Hopefully she will say yes. But if she doesn't, don't keep asking, just move on. Find someone who wants your love and will appreciate it. I know it won't be easy at 1st. Moving on never is, but you will be so proud of yourself once you are. Good luck! And happy new year!

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I cant ever find the right guy for me. Most guys get mad becuase i always turn them down and they think i do it to make myself look to good for them. I just want to be with someone that i can tlak to and someone i find attractive someone who can make me laugh and someone who i can have a good time with. I cant seem to find anyone out there.

Well how old are you? You seem young. Don't feel bad or let any guy make you feel down because you have standards. The things you want in a guy are good things and like I said, you're young you've got plenty of time to find a guy who meets what you want, so don't worry. Happy new year! And good luck!

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My dad smokes. I try to make him stop by saying "please stop smoking dad" or "you should quit" or cough really loud when he lights up a cigarette. DAMN IT, I FUCKING HATE THE SMELL! He smokes when hes in the bathroom, i just hate it. When i cough and stuff around him he'll be like OH SHUT UP, YOU SHOULD BE USED TO IT ALREADY or YOUR OVERREACTING. and id be like, havent you ever heard of second hand smoke dad?? he doesn't care.. i mean hes a good dad but he needs to stop. i dont think he'd do that nicotene patch or gum thing. When i tell my mom about it, she'd be like, get used to it, or she'd do nothing about it. What should i do?

Its great that you care for your dad's health, and your own, even though he doesn't, but havnt you ever heard the expression "you can't teach an old dog new tricks". Adults are stubborn, its hard to get them to change their ways. If it really bothers you don't be around it, but make a point of it. Like wheb you walk out the room be like "maybe yous are used to it but I refuse to, so maybe I should just excuse myself" that will probably get him thinking, especially if he lights up very often. Hope I helped! Good luck!

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ok well im 13 and i like this guy but hes older, much older. We became friends cuz hes my friends older brother. we started to chill and talk everyday and got really close. then my mom didnt like that he was really old so she didnt want me to see him anymore. what should i do i really miss him??

If you really like him and he respects you then go see him anyone. Yeah it may piss your mom off but eventually she will see he's a nice guy and get over it. Just don't do anything stupid like get pregnant or get in any trouble with him, cuz then your mom will never accept him and you will never hear the end of it. Good luck!

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This is so embarrassing but i feel like my breath smells really bad all the time... i brush and use listerine twice a day and still cant get rid of it. Is there any good products out there or any suggestions on what to do? I don't think gum would help that much.
Thanks
*Erica*

Go to a dentist maybe its gingivitis or some type of infection.

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OK, look, yeah i probably shouldnt of said that, and yeah she cant spell but i figured heck she already got 10 good answers why not put a little humor into life.

Yeah well some oppinions should be kept to oneself. And by the way you responded to my question I can tell you obviously don't know how to talk to people. So what if she couldn't spell? Does that mean that someone who is uneducated or illiterate deserves harsh advice? Just because the girl can't spell doesn't mean she isn't entitled to the help she is asking for. And you obviously understood her bad spelling well enough to give her the responce you did, so I highly doubt it was that big of an issue. I think you just wanted to be funny, but what you said was not funny. It was negative. All you did was remind her of how sucky her life was, and she already knew that. You didn't have to remind her. Look I will admit I have given some sassy answers myself but only to stupid questions that weren't asking advice but stupidities. Put it to you this way, if someone is asking for help, then help. Don't critisize. Save your sassy comments for the retarded questions (like what is an orgy?) then its funny cuz those people don't deserve a good answer they are just being smart asses. Point blank, don't be hurtful to anyone who doesn't deserve it.

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well me and my parents got in the BIGGEST fight ever and i walked off and went to my boyfriends house...adn im 5months pregnat adn he said he would suport me and all that shit..well when i went there i didnt tell him and when i got there he was with a nother girl...i felt really bad...and i had no where to go so i went to my friends Marissas shes trying to help me out alot but i tinhk im putting alot of presure on her tho..and i fell bad adn i dont no what to do i dont want to tel lher that i feel liek tell her that...cause she might be liek yea you are and kick me out and i dont think i want to have this baby from that dude...so im tihnking about an abortion but if so then my firnd would get mad saying you made me go all throw that shit!!! i really dont no what to do and i havent heard from my parents for liek a month and i dont wnat to stay with her..what shall i do?
hel me!!
p.s im 17

Call your parents. If they won't look for you, you go to them. Look you are pregnant. Your babies dad is a jerk, and the last thing you need is to be feeling guilty that your putting pressure on your friend. You don't need all this stress its no good for the baby. Basically all you have is your parents. So what if you look like the smaller person. Go back home. You NEED your family right now. And as for your boy friend, there is no apologizing for being with another girl especially while you are pregnant. Imagine had you not caught him, then he would have came to see you like he never cheated, slept with you and wiped off that other hoes germs on you and your unborn child. Trifiling ass dude. Sue his ass for child support, that's the only place he needs to be in your life. Oh yeah, and I don't think its legal and I know its definitely not medically safe to get an abortion after 3 months. So yeah, go home, clear things up with your family. Keep the baby and kick that loser ass babydad to the curb but remember to clean out his pockets 1st. Good luck!

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