Ok so last year my ex broke up with me. While we were together he lied,cheated, the whole 9. Every since we broke up which was a year ago he tells me he is so sorry for what he did, that he loves me, he misses me, and all kinds of other stuff. I know he has had a few girlfriends since then, and currently has one that on his myspace page he calls her his wife. So why won't he stop the games?? And what can I do to get him to stop??
Ok, I know that you asked tihs question a while ago, but when I read it, it instantly triggered something in me. I HAVE BEEN THERE! Just recently even. I loved a guy for nearly 7 years and dated him off and on. The longest we went without breaking up is like 4 years of the 7, but still. I loved him all the same. He would do this ALL THE TIME. He would have a girlfriend and still be telling me that he loves me and all of that crap. So, I can DEF. relate.
Anywho, the answer here is for you to make a choice. Thats what I had to do anyhow. You either go back to him and continue to love him or... you let him go. Love is sometimes a choice and sometimes a feeling and sometimes it is better to just make the decision to let someone go and stop loving them. Its hard, but it works. I had finally had enough. Ya know? Basically, what I did was tell him to either get engaged to me, or leave me alone and he chose to finally stop leading me on. Maybe you could do something similar? Perhaps?
The key here is to make him realize that you are serious about not letting yourself get hurt again. Tell him that you want either a real commitment or nothing at all. The choice is yours. Just be careful and dont jump in it with both feet. Old habits die hard and... well... cheating becomes a habit and a part of someone'e nature after a while. So, be careful. Make sure he isnt just wanting you back because he knows you will always be there. My ex admitted that to me finally, to be honest, that he did it becuase he knew I would be there and now he knows that I wont. Either way, hun, this is a hard situation and I would love to get into more details with you about this. Just be careful and think this through. Dont set yourself up to get hurt over and over, like I did. If you wanna talk, just IM me or write me on here. *Smiles*.
P.S. Its always fun to tell the other girlfriend when the guy is trying to get with you. Lol. You kinda owe it to them. Or at least, I would want to know. So... think about it. *Smiles*. The reactions to that always bring out the truth! Trust me on this one. Haha.
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I'm 18, have had 2 serious boyfriends (1 is my current) and have had sex only with these 2 guys. The things is, I enjoy sex very much. I initiate it everytime with my boyfriend, and afterwards it makes ME feel easy and not a challenge. I can't help getting horny and I've been called a 'nympho' numerous times. How can I fix this? I don't want to give it up easily!
Hun, there really is no way to "fix" this problem. You said yourself, you cant help getting horny. But, what you might want to do is stop being the one to initiate all the time. Its cool to flirt and maybe hint that you might be in the mood to "fool around", but I think you would feel better if your boyfriend played a more active role, so... make him work for it. You also might want to try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel about this (if just making him initiate isnt enough). Ya know?
And, about you being called a nympho. Well, having a good sexual appetite is normal and healthy. There is no reason to be ashamed about it. Just, like I said, try to make your boyfriend be more "agressive" about it and make him initiate it more often and then it wont see like your always the one wanting it. Truth is, he prolly wants it just as often as you allow him to get it, he just... knows that you will initiate it so he would rather let you do all the work. That way, he isnt forcing you to do anything and he knows you want it. Get what im saying? I think this will work itself out, hun. Best of luck! Im here if you need anything!
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the thing is that i have feeling for her. and when i told her that she said she was fine with it but not sure what gender she likes, but she doesnt feel the same way. but when she is a close person to ME (i dont see her do that to others but only me.) yes she is a close person but why will she do that to me? and scerw up my mind? she did that close sitting before i told her how i felt. we still hang out and tease each other like sisters. but i cant stop thinking of her being to me. she leans on me most of the time. so its hard to tell does she like me or is she a close touchy friend?
my guy friend does the closness to me too and he is Bi, i ask him why he was close lto me that day when he viist me. he said old feelings came back to him. because he used to have a crush on me. so when i think about that. i realized that jon was leaning and holding me like what Mandy did to me. so this is confusing.......
Yea, I know exactly how you feel here sweetie. See, I call myself straight but last summer I found that I had feelings for a close friend of mine who was a lesbian. It was weird for me because I had never liked a girl as more than a friend, before. She would always flirts with me too. It was so confusing that I finally just told her how I felt. Well, it turned out that she didnt feel the same, and once she realized that she had been sending me mixed signals, she stopped and it was clear that we were just friends. I still like her, but I respect that it isnt a mutual thing. However, your friend still does the flirting (or touchy stuff as you called it) even afer you asked her about it. She knows that she is sending you mixed signals, so... I would bet that she likes you as more than a frined, just isnt ready to admit it. Its hard for people who are struggling with thier sexual identities to admit that they might be "bi" or "lesbian/gay". I know it took me a while just to admit to liking a girl. But, I am straigh, I just figured out that I liked her personality so much and who she was as a perosn that I didnt care about her gender. It wasnt that I like girls, its that I like her! If that makes any sense! Anyway, point is, its can be hard. So, just be there for your friend and tell her that she is still confusing you. I am sure that she cares about you enough to at least not lead you on, so... make her away of how you are interpreting her actions, and she may quit or just admit to liking you. Either way, the key here is to be open with her and be there for her. Dont pressure her, but let her know that she cant keep giving you mixed signals. Ya know? I really hope it gets better for you. These issues are always difficult. I think we all struggle with it at some time or another. Good luck hun, and as always, im here if you need anything! *Smiles*
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You are sitting on the ground, as your friend is sitting besides you, they slowly gets close to you and then grabs your arm and holds your arm and hug it as they lay their head on your shoulder and cruls up to you.
but thay are the same sex (females).
Do close friends do that to each other?
or is the one who is the toucy person is trying to tell you that they like you?
Personally, hun. I do things like this all the time with my friends. Lol. I cuddle my closest friend when we she stays the night and we sleep in my bed. But, we are both straight. We just, are really close. So, no, I wouldnt find that weird at all. *Smiles*.
However, everyone is different. I would just talk to your friend about it , if it really makes you unconfortable. Just tell her that you are not trying to be rude, just you wondered if that meant something. Ya know?
Best of luck, sweetie! I think you will figure it out! The key here = Communication!
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there is a girl who likes me alot and yesterday we went with a group to an amusement park where i was just kind of messing around and hit her neck and she told me to kiss it and so i did kind of as ajoke but she said it gave her the chills and i dont really want to be involved in a relationship right now and i have told her this but i keep flirting with her and i dont want to hurt her, what to do?
Well, hun, its not really fair to lead her on and I think that you flirting with her is doing just that. I think that you should either:
A. Stop flirting with her so that you wont hurt you as bad by not wanting a relationship.
B. Give her a chance and try dating her. I know you said that you don't want to right now or whatever, but you obviously like her a little if your flirting with her, so... maybe you should give it a try.
Either way, dear, its just not fair to keep leading her on. I hope you understand. Best of luck, hun, and let me know if you need anything else, I always here!
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okay. just so youu know im not a virgin so i know thats not the answer. so everytime i have sex with my boyfriend.. after. i always bleed. like heavy. whats wrong with me?
You should go to the doctor ASAP! That is not normal at all, hun. It can be a sign of MANY things. Please Please Please get yourself checked out and make an appointment. Best of Luck!
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Hi, i am a 19 year old guy and just last night my girlfriend of 1 year and 3 months decided we needed to break up. she said that she had problems and just couldnt be in a relationship any more. she said that she does still love me and i belive her. the problem is that i dont think she has any problems and i wasnt to be with her more than anything in the world! How do i prove to her that we can make our relationship work and that we can be happy again. she said that she still wanted to be with me but didnt think she could be right now. what can i do?
First off, hun, I think it is important that you respect her and her wishes and give her what she wants. She has asked for time apart from you, and all you can do is make the best of it. However, if you do really love her and you think she does till truly want to be with you, then just tell her how you feel. Don't hold anything back! But, make sure not to make her feel pressured. Let her know that you respect her decision and that you are there for her in whatever she is going through right now. Chances are, she has a lot of emotional problems right now and just feels over whelmed. Just be a friend above everything but make sure she knows your true feelings. I think it will work itself out in the end. *Smiles*. Best of luck... Let me know if you need anything else, hun. Im always here.
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Ok, if I just have sex with another guy, but end up not enjoying it, am I still bisexual for having sex with another guy? Also, is having sex with another guy the only way to really know if I am bisexual or not? Thanks.
Ok. I have had this problem. Sorta! Lol. This is just my opinion. There is no real ANSWER to this. The answer lies within yourself and how you truly feel. I would say that if you make out with a guy or have sex with a guy, then, yes it could help you to find out if you are truly bisexual or not. Ya know? It almost has to becuase you either are into guys or not and it would force you to find that out. However, even if you do enjoy it, I don't think that means you are bisexual AUTOMATICALLY! It just means you like THAT guy enough to have sex or make out with him. See, I have made out with quite a few girls and yes, I enjoyed it. However, I would never date a girl even though there is attraction there. So, that means im not truly Bisexual. See what im saying? Thats just how I feel about it and kissing girls helped me find that out. I can do things with girl, just could never commit to one. So, I encourage you to explore this option and then think about how it made you feel and how you truly feel about this issue all together. But, just kissing or even having sex with a guy isnt going to MEAN your gay or bisexual. Best of luck! *Smiles*.
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I'm 14/f and my friend is 14/f [Let's call her June] and my other friend is 15/f [Let's call her Jane].
So, June made a promise to me and Jane saying that she would not do drugs anymore. Well, just yesterday, June came to school high. She took 20 pills of some sort of drug and my other friend had to hold her up in order for her to stay standing up. It was really bad.
I really want to tell her parents or someone because I think she needs help with drug problems because this isn't the first time she's done it. I mean she took some pills last year DURING school. But Jane is really super good friends with June & so she's afraid that June is going to get expelled or suspended. I know that if Jane is a good friend, she'd want her friend to get help. But I can't convice her. I really want June to get help but I don't want Jane getting mad at me along with a few other people.
I'm accepting the fact that losing a friendship is better than to know that the friend is doing drugs and letting her ruin her life. But my other friends aren't and I'm kind of stuck...help? What should I do?
Ok hunni. This is a tough situation. In this case, I think that the best thing for you to do is to tell an adult that you trust and who "June" trust as well. They can point you in the right direction to get her help. Don't tell a shool however, becuase, she could get in trouble. You don't want that. You want to HELP her, not get her into trouble. Just tell a parent or an adult friend that you both trust that can handle this in teh best way possible. Also, talk to your friend about it and tell her your intentions of helping her and your concerns. It may be rough for a while, but, she will thank you in the end. Your doing the right thing. Best of luck to you, dear!
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This is WAY long and confusing so I apologize in advance. All this year i've had a "makeout buddy". We have the same friends, and we all hang out in a big group on the weekends, but sometimes when no one is around we kiss, and no one knows.. Anyway, 2 months ago we stopped and 1 month ago he kissed one of my best friends. (She sort of initiated it, she was flirting with him EXTREME at all times.) My best friend told me that they kissed and then I told her that I had kissed him too. She started crying and saying that she shouldn't have done it and then we agreed that we'd both been played and that neither of us would ever kiss him again. The reason I was upset with her wasn't really that they kissed, but the fact that she had suspected that me and the guy had had something going on, but she had always flirted with him anyway. Anyway, the other day he stayed at my house after a few friends had been over and we kissed, then he asked if I wanted to go upstairs (because my mom was downstairs) and I told him i couldn't and we couldn't kiss. I confessed that I knew what happened between him and my friend, and we talked for hours about it. I told him that what we did was never wrong, but it came wrong when he did that with my best friend. He agreed, and we talked forever, and it turns out my best friend didn't tell me the whole truth about what happened between them. Then we made-out and dry-humped and stuff and I feel really guilty. Am I betraying my friend, because I really feel like I can trust my guy friend more, i know that he's a whore and all, but i'm young and it's all just casual kissing (i've never taken any article of clothing off nor do i plan to.)
Ok, first off. It sounds to me that if your friend didn't tell you the entire truth, then you are justified in thinking that you can trust the guy friend more than her, anyhow. However, there is no easy solution here. To be honest, I dont think you or your friend need to be "friends with benefits" with this guy. If you both cut off ties with him, in that manner, then you could all just be friends and it would be less complicated. Ya know? Thats prolly the only solution I can really think of. I wish you the best of luck though. Sorry your having a hard time. Lemme know if you need anything! *Smiles*
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My ex-boyfriend from about 6 months ago and I have finally started to be friendly towards one another. It's nice. He basically refused to talk to me before because I didn't want to get back together with him when we broke it off, even though it was mutual. The talking started about 2 months ago. Today, through one of his better friends, I learned that he is still "madly in love with me." Now I don't know what to do with our relationship. I'm starting to think that he only started talking to me again because he believes he has a chance, which he doesn't. I'd never get back together with him. I don't want to lead him on. Should i confront him with it? Ignore it? Any advice is appreciated.
Hunni, all that I know to say to you is that honesty is the best policy. Just tell him exactly how you feel and WHY you feel the way you do. Also, be sure to tell him that you want to be friends with him, but nothing more. Ya know? Make that clearn and hopefully he can take the hint and you can start to be friends without him wanting or expecting more. If he still continues, then... is he really much of a friend? Ya know? I would think that if you were friends then he would respect what you want and your happiness. So... just be honest and take it from there. *Smiles*. Best of luck hun!
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Alright. A few nights ago my boyfriend finally ummm did 2nd base to me.. and so now I'm wondering if he expects it back. I mean I guess I'm fine with it. But do you think he expects me to do it back to him like right away?
Thanks!
Well, there is no way to know for sure if your boyfriend expects it back from you. I would say that if he didnt ask for it back then you can safely assume he is ok with you not returning the favor. However, I would just talk to him about it. Tell him your concerns. If he is any type of decent boyfriend, he will be understanding and consider your feelings. But, don't worry. You don't ever have to do anything you don't want to. *Smiles*. Just talk to him. It will be ok. Best of luck, hun!
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Hi i'm 16 years old female and me and my boyfriend have had sex before, but afterwards like a few hours I started getting a stomach ache and I slept for a while then ate some food and then later I threw up. I just wanted to know if that sometimes is normal??
Hmmm... I would have to know more in order to say if this is normal or not. It could just be nausea from not eating well and engaging in sex. Sex is exercise and doing any type of exercise on an empty somache isn't good and can cause this. I am pretty sure you have nothing to worry about, though. As long as you feel normal now. It should be ok. However, if your still worried or think you might be pregnant, see a doctor ASAP! Hope I helped... *Smiles*
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ok i have these two best friends, molly and tabitha. there the best friends i could ever have and i would hate to loose them, but sometimes they just walk away from me or something. i dont know why, but they never wait for me to go to lunch, ( we hve the same class before lunch) and they just expect me to come running after them, and they always say " oochemo, come on!!! ( thats my nickname), and they will just be hanging out with me and run off together, and then when ever i go off and just leave them alone, thinking they want alone time, they always ask if im mad at them!! and i do get mad at them cuz they always leave me, and i am really getting mad. ive talked to them about it and they still do it. what should i do? im really sorry that this is really long. i just need really good advice.
Ok. First off, hun, I think you might want to re-think your friendship with these two girls. I mean, are they really "the best friends you could ever have". I have no doubt they want your friendship, but... I think you could find closer friends who wont ditch you at the drop of a dime. My advice would be to communicate your concerns with them. Tell them how you feel about their actions and what it makes you feel. Communication is KEY! Ya know?
Then, if it don't get better, I think you could find a closer and better set of friends.
Hope this makes sense. Im sorry you feel this way. Hope it gets better! *Smiles*
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I really like this guy, and I talk to him a lot. He sometimes can act weird over the computer. For example, he sometimes IMs me first, but sometimes he doesn't. When we talk, he can sometimes be a bit mean, like the other day, I said, "Yeah I just had to get a shot at the doctor's." And he said, "Do I really care?" He says things like that a lot, but I think that just may be his sense of humor.
Then, in the same conversation, he will write, "
Personally, I think you might be reading too much into this. Guy don't show thier true feelings a lot of the time. It's hard for them unless you force it out of them. This is what I think is happened when your trying to sign out and leave the computer or whatever. Your forcing him to show that he wants you around. So.. he does. Ya get what I mean?
I am having this same issue with my boyfriend. He tells me he is in love with me yet, sometimes he will just type "love ya" instead of "I love you" or.. completely not say it at all. But, what you have to realize is that guys will be guys and it's not worth harping on the little things. I did that in my last relationship and destroyed it. To be quite honest.
So.. now... to my adive. I think you should relax and not worry about it so much. But, stop allowing him to give you mized signals. Put him in situations where he has to tell you how he feels.
What do I mean by this? Well...
I decided not to tell my boyfriend that I love him, unless he says it to me, for a while. I want him to get how important it is to me to know that and that I want him to show it better.
You could do something similar that applies to your situation better. Lol.
But, honestly... don't read too much into it. I am sure he cares about you and like you a lot. Guys are just weird at times. Its just how they are. They don't show too much emotion. Lol.
Best of luck, babe. Hope I helped!
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I'm 13/f and i have a bf. i really want to go on a date with him, and my parents wont let me!!
The only way i can go on a date with my bf is if my parents come too. That would be soooo embarrasing!! I dont get it, like i do everything i'm told- i have good grades, keep my room clean, have good friends, etc. and i have tried telling them that stuff but they said that doesn't matter because i'm just not old enough. We tried to double date with my best friend this weekend, but we couldn't. :( I feel really bad because he wants to go places besides skewl with me, but i cant!! Does anyone have suggestions on how to get them to let me go?
There is a reason that parents don't let 13 year old girls ou ton dates, but... try talking to your parents. Ask them what you can do to show them that you are mature enough to date and that you can handle it. Maybe they will reconsider.
Honestly, babe, I see thier point though. Really, noone is mature enough until like 17 or 18 (in my opinion) to hold a mature relationship and really be "committed" to someone else. I did the same thing when I was 13. I thought I wanted to have a bf and commit myself. Haha. There is still so much more to learn about life at that age, however. Hell, I am 21 and feel like I just now can give a relationship what it truly deserves. I never thought that before. I wasn't mature enough before. There are plenty more things to do at 13 than date guys. Haha.
However, like I said, try talking to your parents. Thats really all you can do. And, show them you can be responsible.
Personally, however, your still young. Live life. Have fun! Hang out with friends. Don't waste it trying to date guys. Your time will come when your ready. Save yourself the heartach as long as you can. Lol.
Best of luck, hun. Hope you understand my advice! Loves!
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I was walking to class, and my cousin went up to me and asks me a question. "Dose your friend Sara have a boyfriend?" I told her "no why?" "Cause I saw her with some guy and they were hugging" so me and my cousin Lily were talking about it till the bell rang and I head to class. My friend Becky is in my class and I ask her "Sara has a boyfriend?" she said "yeah why? Didn’t she tell you?" I told her no. 2 days later, i got a chance to talk to her, (but sha all ready broken up with him because he was annoying her and she never did like him.)
So after school when I was walking home, Sara walked with me because we both live near the school. I ask her "why didn’t you tell me you had a boy friend?" she replied "what!? Oh I thought Becky will tell you" she said in an annoying tone. "Well isn’t supposed to be you saying you do have a bf?" then she got all defensive "I forgot to tell you okay sorry!" I told her to clam down.
Why was she so defensive? Was she embarrassed that I might make fun of her?(because i would'nt)or what was her deal?
She prolly defensive because she never liked the guy to begin with so.. she didn't figure it was imporant and she prolly don't want you bringing it up. Your kinda making a bigger deal about it than you should. Good luck, babe. It will all be fine. She left him after 2 days, so.. just let it go. I would. It don't really matter anymore. *Smiles*. Best Of Luck!
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My boyfriend is friends with this girl, and they seem like theyve become closer lately...it all seems innocent, because theyre "friends", for example she went to a hockey game and bought him a souvenier, and he calls her, etc.. This only worries me because I have a hard time trusting him & before he was friends with this girl, he used to like her. She also used to like him. It doesn't bother me if he is friends with her; but more the part that he used to be interested in her, and she used to be interested in him, does bother me. I know i can't tell him who his friends should be, and i've confronted him about "does he still has a thing for her" or whatever, and hes denied it, and she has moved on as well (apparently) but ... like i said i just can't bring myself to trust him because apparently he told his best friend, **who told me**, that he still "kind of likes her". meanwhile hes dating me. ugh. it disgusts me... like i said i wouldnt care if hes giving her attention as friends, but i do care because he used to like her/she used to like him. and it all is perfectly innocent "friendly" stuff, but idk it just bothers me.. what should i do about the whole thing?
You can't have much of a relaitonship without trust, my dear. Its best to find someone you can trust and would will give you 100 percent what you deserve and want out of a relationship. And... if he is already lying to you about not liking her anymore, yet telling his friends otherwise, you deserve better. Best of luck, hunni. Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but... its the TRUTH!
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my boyfriend is a REALLY bad kisser. i mean i'v kissed people who were bad before, but my boyfriend is really bad.Like he shoves his tounge down my throat literally. i mean im not going to dump him over this. i juss want to be able to kiss him. How do i fix this? thank you for any help.
I think the most subtle way to do this would be to tell him you want to experiment with different ways of french kissing. Then, just simply show him how you want to be kissed but make it seem like your experimenting, not TEACHING. You don't want to insult him. *Smiles*.
This works.... I have done it. Lol.
Best of luck...
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i have never given head before and my boyfriend wants it. what im asking is, how do i give him head he will love. and im pretty sure he hasnt had it before.
Lol. I don't mean to sound goofy, but... to be honest, if he has never had it before, he is going to LOVE it anyhow. Hahhaa....
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