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My boyfriend is friends with this girl, and they seem like theyve become closer lately...it all seems innocent, because theyre "friends", for example she went to a hockey game and bought him a souvenier, and he calls her, etc.. This only worries me because I have a hard time trusting him & before he was friends with this girl, he used to like her. She also used to like him. It doesn't bother me if he is friends with her; but more the part that he used to be interested in her, and she used to be interested in him, does bother me. I know i can't tell him who his friends should be, and i've confronted him about "does he still has a thing for her" or whatever, and hes denied it, and she has moved on as well (apparently) but ... like i said i just can't bring myself to trust him because apparently he told his best friend, **who told me**, that he still "kind of likes her". meanwhile hes dating me. ugh. it disgusts me... like i said i wouldnt care if hes giving her attention as friends, but i do care because he used to like her/she used to like him. and it all is perfectly innocent "friendly" stuff, but idk it just bothers me.. what should i do about the whole thing?
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My advice would be to trust him. My best friend is a guy, and we both used to have a 'thing' for each other. We never really acted on it, and both moved on. He apparently still has a 'thing' for me, but he still dates other girls.
But they never care, and neither do I. We both know that neither one of us would ever act on any non-platonic feelings towards each other, simply because we're so much happier just being friends.
Also, have a talk to her about it. Tell her that you feel intimidated (Even if you dont) and she'll probably understand.
If she doesn't, then she's a bitch and you should screw them all and start over with a guy who gives you his 100% percent attention.
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You can't have much of a relaitonship without trust, my dear. Its best to find someone you can trust and would will give you 100 percent what you deserve and want out of a relationship. And... if he is already lying to you about not liking her anymore, yet telling his friends otherwise, you deserve better. Best of luck, hunni. Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but... its the TRUTH!
<3 Heidi Marie
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I can understand what you mean, if I were in your place it would bother me too. Has he ever given you any reason not to trust him at all thus far? I also have a hard time in trusting people but then trust is a very hard thing to come by nowadays and by many itis taken for granted so it's no surprise that a lot of people do find it harder and harder to trust.
The only thing that you really can do is talk to him about it and explain your worries (whether you tell him what his friend said is at your discretion). He may well have denied him still liking her a little because of fear of what you might say or think on the other hand it may not even be true but the only one who can really tell you is your other half. Tell him how much it is bugging you and you really want him to be honest with you and just see how it goes from there.
If he is sincere to you and loves you then either way he will not stray from the path with you. The problem with relationships though is that there is no guarantees of how things will work out one way or the other. It's always a risk. I really hope that you manage to sort this out with him.
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if he still has a thing for her then i think you should just end it with him and find someone who will be 100% commitwed to you...its not fairof him to like some1 else too when you 2 are going out... yea it might be hard to break up with him but you might just end up getting more hurt in the end if you dont..hope i helped!
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