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i dont no what to do. my best friend/the guy i love. that "loves" me back. is moving to bosten(i live in ny) and i go to him "are you ever gonna come back to me"? nd he said no. then i asked him if he would forget me and he said yea. then i asked when ur like 23 nd out of collage are you gonna come back to me, nd he said no i will forget you. i dont no what to do im so sad. i cryed alot about it cuz i really really really love him. and now hes moving in 2 weeks. im crying right now. im gonna miss him alot, nd he is going to forget me. someone please tell me what to do. i need help
I RATE HIGH.
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Love works stangely. My girlfriend is going to college in two months, and she loves me, and she says that she is going to let go. And I was like "and after everything you are just going to forget me." And she was the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life. I think that he is just afraid as my girlfriend is. Show him how much your love means to him, and he will see. IF not, then you may have to let go. For you sake and his. Remeber though "Distance makes the heart grow fonder."
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Am I going about this in the right way? I am 19 and my ex is 18. We were together for almost 3 years and this is what happened:
Ok. I know that I have not wrote in here in a little while, but my heart has not been in the right place to do so. Two days ago (actually less than 48 hours) I found out something about my boyfriend that changed my life forever. I found out that he has been cheating on me for the past four months of our relationship with a girl named Allyson who lives in California and who is 17. They have never met, but I found out that they have been talking on the phone for 4-10 hours a day and sometimes all night long and this has been happening since January. This was the hardest news that I had ever had to hear. Even worse than hearing about 9/11 when it happened, in my opinion. I love Cory with all of my heart and I would have given him everything. I will forever love him and he always said the same. He told me that he loved me and only me. But, now he says that he no longer loves me and that he loves her more than anything he has ever known (including me). He even says that he no longer loves me. How can this be? Does love die this quickly? To know that everything that I ever though was special between us like our future plans, him saying that he loved me more than anything, and all of his promises to never leave me or hurt me in any way has all been said to her now. To me, this makes his words meaningless and therefore our relationship meaningless. I never thought that I could be as hurt as I am now. Yesterday, I went to class and when I got to the steps of the doorway I sat down to talk to my mom and I ended up not attending class and I just sat there and cried my heart out. If he ever loved me, how can this be what he wants and yet not have it bother him. Does this make him a bad person? I will never love someone as pure and as deep as I loved him. The entire world that I knew is now taken from me. So, you ask, what now? Well, currently, they are no longer going to be together and neither are he and I. Allyson and I have been talking and we both decided that this is what is best for him. He don't deserve either one of us and neither one of us is willing to take the blame for this. I Refuse! He blames me, but how can he? Did I do this? Did I ever cheat? Was I deceitful and dishonest? NO! I was never that disrespectful to him to be anything of these things and yet he did this to me. That makes it his fault and not mine or Allyson. Just to clerify, she did know of me, but she was told that he left me four months ago. How is this supposed to make me feel? It is like a slap in the face! I mean nothing to him anymore at all and this all came crashing down on me within a short time. I woke up one morning and didn't even know of Allyson and by 5pm that afternoon, she had entered into MY perfect world and taken it from me. How does someone get over something like this? Right now, she and I have both decided to just walk away. He was even going to lie to me (and did) and say that he was seeing a friend in California named Mike this summer and he was really going to see her. HE WASN'T GOING TO TELL ME! This is the worst part of it all. It is the worst because I realize that everything that I ever loved about him (his morals, his pure heart, his lving words) were all meaningless and untrue if he had the heart to do this. My perfect world is now destroyed and my world came crashing down on me (almost literally). I am so hurt that I am sure that you cannot fully understand this and there are a lot more specifics to it, but it is hard ot talk about. This is the hardest thing that I have ever had to go through. I gave him a decision today (same as Allyson's decision) that was the hardest thing I have ever had to decide to do and then follow up on. She and I have decided to let go. We are walking away from him and let letting him be. I think this is for the best. Well, I think that I have said pretty much all I can. This is why I have not posted in the past few days and I am sorry. I hope you understand. My heart is shaddered into a million and one pieces. Have a great day everyone! I am trying to do the same. I am feeling better now that I have had time to myself to cry and to get to the point of letting go. I think I can only become a stronger person after this and I intend to be. I am now going home for the rest of the summer which means that I am not doing my seocnd summer session. I am not in the state of mind to do so. If you ever want to talk, IM me. I am always here, forever crushed and forever hurt and forever in love with the same person that now stands for everything that I hate in life: lying. Hope you understand!
Am I wrong to feel this way? Does this make me pathetic to be left for someone online? Am I doing something wrong? Am I right to feel this way? I am really confused. Thanks so much! (link)
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Okay, you have to read all of this to understand the advice.I one hundrend thousand percent understand how you feel. My girlfriend is returning to college,and I am heading to another college, but withing the same area. We have been dating for about three years as well, and everything was perfect for her and I, then all of a sudden one night, she turned to me and said: "i dont think I love you anymore" Out of the blue, and I have never once second guessed my feelings for her. I then found out other things such as that she wasn't sure how she felt about an ex, some things that she did with one of her ex's, that I would never do. I am a moral person, and she claimed to be now, (I just never payed any attention to the now part) She just completely changed, or was changing and left me out of the loop. I was, and am heartbroken. I had a hard child life (drunk mom, work aholic father, all that jazz) and she was the only person in my life who could look into my eyes and tell me that they loved me and I loved them back. You just have to know that there is a greater good in all of this, that in the end, something is good going to happen. That is why I am here, so I can help people and they can help me. You just need to have faith in life itself, nto the people in it. Life is the the thing that we live for, not ot breath in and out, but to live happily and joyously is what we are here for. Tell him how he has hurt you, let him know your heartbreak, let him know how you see him now ("as the person that now stands for everything that I hate in life: lying") Let him know, then see what happens, and you must see through. Please send me an email, we should talk, try to help each other by understanding each other.
Kukkiwon16@aol.com
PS- trust me I am here to help
m/18 Jacksonville FL
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okay-- the guy i like knows i like him and he keeps tellin me hes thinkin about me and he told me he could see me as a potential girlfriend... so how long do you think it would take for him to fainnaly ask me out?? ive already been waiting like 3 weeks (and im just a lil bit curious!!) thanks!! (link)
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Well, if he says that he sees you as a "potential girlfriend" you need to know how you feel. and if you feel that way about someone, never hold back.. Shout it to the world, and let him know how you truly feel. And if he keeps procrastinating then he may not be worth if for making you wait a while. But, I promise that if you tell him how you feel after you know, you will get a result one way or another.
m/ 16 Jacksonville FL
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ok.... well i have been going out w/ this boy for about 4 months now and i really love him alott!!!! so i am 14 and goin into high school and yaa. so and latley my boyfriend has wanted to go to 3rd base w/ my (down muh pants) i no he is ready and i trust him but i dont now if im still to young or if i should jus do it or wait mann i am so confused ill rate 5 (link)
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You should search your heart, and only do something if you are comfortable with him. If you both know that you are going to be with one another for a long time, just becareful and take the proper percautions, and you will have nothing to worry about. Just think about it,and let him know how you feel, and then go for it, if both of you are ready.
m/16 Jacksonville, FL
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k my best friend in whole wide world ditched me the other week for a guy. now the guy was her old best friends ex bf since only 3 days. its so not her. its just not our kinda friendship.she was catching a ride with hime and we had plans. i saw the car and started to run twards it cuz i thought they were waiting for me but then i saw her "try" and hide herself and drive away. i havnt talked to her in 2 weeks. and her theory is that scince i ignored her , she should ignore me. but i dont think thats fair. i no that its a stupid fight but it was really the fact that she hid and appologized 2 weeks too late. i really love her and miss her soo much. she is now going out with this "guy" and i dont no if i should be happy for her and still hang out with her and her "bf" even though i really dont like hime for not stopping wen she supposedly asked hime to"stop" or should i just say hi in the halls when hes around? (link)
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K is your best friend. You should embrace her as how you two have been friends before. Do not worry about her boyfriend. Allow her to explain to him that you two have been good friends before that her and that guy began dating. And if her bf is jealous, and makes her pick between him and you, tell her that he is not right for doing that, and that you would always be there for her no matter what; no matter who she dated, no matter what argument you two are on, no matter anything at all, just tell K that youa re going to be there for her, and tell her that you do love and miss her. And she will see, she will see.
Jacksonville FL, 16/m
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is it safe to preform oral sex om a woman with genital herbes? (link)
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absolutely not, you could get herpes all over your mouth, then whoever you kiss, will get it and so on, I'd keep all of you away from a woman with genital herpies, just the touch will spread it.
jacksonvill fl, m/16
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im 15/f & i have been dating this guy for about 5months now...whoopie 5 months i kno it doesnt sound long..but we talked for the longest before dating...we've had sex a couple of times & stuff...i love him so much..well at least i feel like i do & i know we arent going to break up & i know im guna be with him forever...but no one believes that i "love" him..how can i prove them wrong?!
sincerly,
Love Struck In La. (link)
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you must be completely honest with him. That is all you have to do, be honets, and kiss him in a passionate non sexual way, and tell him how you truly deeply feel.
Jacksonville FL, m/16
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well me and my boyfriend are so happy together well he lives with his grandparents and his grandma doesn*t like me at all even though I never did anything to her well my boyfriend recently got a job and he works from 4:45 until 1:00 in the morning and his grandparents won*t let him call me when he gets home well I call him during the day cause he is home but his grandma only lets us talk for about 20 minutes so we never get to talk or see each other which is bad for a relationship but I love my boyfriend so much he makes me happy and everything but I don*t want a boyfriend that I never get to spend time with or get to talk to and it is summer right now so should I break up with him? or should I stay with him? I don*t wanna be lonely but if I have to I will plz help me I rate high! thanxs so much
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if you are truly in love with him, and he truly loves you, it will all work out, jsut follow your heart, as corney as that sounds.
Jacksonville FL, m/16
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ok theres this guy that i might never see again but i think i love him and im pretty sure he likes/loves me too butim still not 100% sure that he does... but what should i do? the last time i will see him is thursday... should i tell him or wait and see what he does? (link)
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If you love someone truly and deeply you will shout it to the world, tell him how you feel, and let him see your true heart.
Jacksonvill FL, m/16
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k theres this guy, of course, that i really have liked since the 7 th grade...he has a bad reputation of being a "ladies man" and has been with alot of different girls...he has also liked me for a very long time, but for sum reason, we have never touched each other in a sexual way. he has a girl friend, but i dont have a boyfriend. his girlfriend isnt really my friend, but i know her, and i might feel guilty if anything were to happen. he always tells me he likes me and he really has changed, and everyone has seen it.but is it alright to like hime or am i just another notch on his stick? (link)
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be really careful with this one. He has a girlfriend, so do not do anything physical so there isn't a stir of gossip. Just when you two are alone (not in a bedroom, or on a date) but during the day,or a phone call, tell him how you feel, and let me know what his reaction is, and then we can go from there.
Jacksonville FL, m/16
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There's this guy named *Jason*. For months now he's been staring at me. Sometimes I see him blushing when I look at him or stand near him. Recently, my teacher was talking to him after class. The whole class basically was listening as they talked about relationships. All of a sudden he looked at me and said "Rachel dumped me." That was his ex gf but I didn't know they had broken up. I just get the vibe that he likes me. I sent him an email at the beginning of the weekend saying I liked his haircut. He sent an email back saying "Who is this"? I'm soo afraid to tell him because it might be awkward at school. There's only 3 1/2 days of school left though. Should I tell him I wrote it or what? (link)
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yes tell him, dont be afraid,its school, and if you hang out this summe great, if not maybe or maybe not you'll see him next year. Don't make it look like that you are going after him though, escpecially if he just got out of a relationship, the last think needed in school (if you are high school especially) the last thing you need is drama.
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ok to set the pic i am 13/f and he is 16/m. ok so on to my problem: this kid, lets call him john. well anyways i really like john, but he doesnt like mein that way. he used to be my bros bff, but now we pretty close. wheni was younger i used to like him, and he liked me, but we were too young. well anyways the thing is, i asked him is he liked me nad he was like no,i like this other girl in my grade and i am gonna ask her out. i said oh ok. they just broke up today, and idk if i shopuld tell him how i feel. like i dont want our friendship to change but i really want tolet him know. please help i need to know what to do. also should i ask him how he sees me, i havent seen him in like a month but we always talk on im. so please help
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confused about *him* (link)
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you must be one hundered percent honest with him. If he does not see you in the way you see him, you cannot force him to feel that way, and must accept that what you have is what you have. If you are honest he will see, at least if he is truly worth it, he will see.
Jacksonville FL, age 16
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what does it mean to pop your cherry? (link)
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it means to lose your virginity. Obviously to sex, but could be used as a term for anything you are to do for the first time.
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Okay.. none of my friends were help on this. See if any of you are!
I've been with this guy for almost 2 months. He's in LOVE with me and totally obsessed. I hate clingy guys and I'm sick of him. He calls like .. 5 times a day.. AT LEAST .. and is Always wanting to hang out. I barely have time for my girls with him around!
I need a way to break up with him so he won't be too upset, and he will still be friends with me. I still like him, and i've already told him he's too obsessive, but it didn't help any! I need a way to let him down gently!
!mucho amor! (link)
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You should tell him again and again, and if he does not listen to you, then be careful, because guys are not smart. I know I am one, but I am fortunate enough to know how stupid some guys are. Don't be afraid to be brutally honest, if he refuses to listen, threaten to ignore him, and if he is persistent, officially break up with him, and go have fun with your friends. You must know that it is his fault your relationship did not work out, it is his, and make sure he knows that. Kukkiwon16@aol.com
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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do (link)
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you said no, and he continued, you were rapped who only wnats you for something that you didn't want to do.
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im 13 female and hes 15 male
me and my friend have known each other since forever and i havent talked to him in a while and then he called me a couple weeks ago and i went to his house yesterday and we talked for a long time.. well he called me at like 11:48 last night and we were talking and he was like you should come over to my house Saturday night and sleep over and stuff and then he was like what would we do adn then i was like idk and hes already experienced in that department and im not and well he wants to have sex with me and may i remind you hes 15 and im only 13 and i just dont know what to do because i dont want to have sex with him but then if i do i kno it will ruin our friendship and i dont want that to happen and if i dont i dont know what he will do because he might not talk to me ever again but i know you will say then hes not worth your friendship but i seriously do love him and i liked him ever since i was in 1st grade bc we hung out all the time and i just dont know... and if you dont want me to then what do i say to him to make him understand! please help me
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Hey,
I'm a mai eof 15, who is in a non sexual relation ship. If that is all he wants, then he is not a true friend. IF someone demands something, they are not in it to be your friend. Just tell him how you feel about it, and if he doesn't respect what you believe, then he is a poor friend. YOu only have one life, live it well.
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