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my friend
im 13 female and hes 15 male
me and my friend have known each other since forever and i havent talked to him in a while and then he called me a couple weeks ago and i went to his house yesterday and we talked for a long time.. well he called me at like 11:48 last night and we were talking and he was like you should come over to my house Saturday night and sleep over and stuff and then he was like what would we do adn then i was like idk and hes already experienced in that department and im not and well he wants to have sex with me and may i remind you hes 15 and im only 13 and i just dont know what to do because i dont want to have sex with him but then if i do i kno it will ruin our friendship and i dont want that to happen and if i dont i dont know what he will do because he might not talk to me ever again but i know you will say then hes not worth your friendship but i seriously do love him and i liked him ever since i was in 1st grade bc we hung out all the time and i just dont know... and if you dont want me to then what do i say to him to make him understand! please help me
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You shouldn't be having sex at thirteen. You're not married. And, inevitably, unless you stay with this guy, constantly swaying to meet his sensual and sexual wants and craves, your friendship will be completely destroyed.
"and hes already experienced in that department and im not and well he wants to have sex with me" - You could get HIV, AIDs, an STD, or a BABY! You're thirteen, if you get HIV or AIDs, you'll never be able to have sex again because you'd give it to your partner. If you get an STD, you can't have sex with anyone else because you'd give it to them. If you have a baby, do you really think you're ready to take on such a task!? Even if he does wear a condom, they often break. You'll be emotionally distraught. Don't do it. Options:
- Invite a friend over that night, and tell him that you have a friend over. (sorry, too bad.)
- Just say NO!
- Get "sick" (fake it!)
Please, don't do this. You'll regret it. If you're lucky, you wont come out with an STD, baby, HIV or AIDs, but the chances are a bit high, don't you think?
-FunnyCide
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tell him no if you dont want to. he should understand. if he doesnt, he's not a friend and he doesnt love you. <3
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Wow thats sounds pretty messed up.. um deff dont have sex yea you might love him but like you said you might end up ruining your friendship and then you might also regret it.. and not having sex with him could also ruin your friendship too but you need to talk to him about this.. like tell him your two years younger not experienced and deff not ready yet.. tell him you think your to young and if you have sex with somebody you love then you want to be with them... trust me youd be more comfortable wouldnt feel easy either.. just tell him you dont exactly think that would be a good idea because you guys are such close firneds and if you ever did have sex with him youd want a relationship more then friends after you say that then most likely hell just be like okay because mainly that is what he wants to use you for.. he dont want to have sex with you because he cares and loves you he wants to have sex wiht you like for any reason guys want to have sex *just to have it* guys dont always have feelings for people when they have sex and dont get as attached as girls.. so deff talk to him about this whole thing.. much luv dez x0x0 ♥
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I am 13/f and my bf is a 15/f and we havent dont anything like that i dont think the sleep over is a good idea... you shouldnt do anything you dont wnat to expesaly unprotected! You have to talk to him if hes a good friend he will understand.
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You should never ever do anything you do not want to do or feel uncomfortable doing. He is older and it may not seem that much (only 2 years difference) but the maturity level and experience level is way different. Tell him you like him a lot but don't feel comfortable sleeping over and well you know...If he is a true friend then he will understand you are not ready and do not feel comfortable. And if he makes a big deal about it and gets mad ect. then you know he was never a true friend. Let me just say that guys are great but also pigs and in my opinion sex is sex and making love is with someone you love completly(in marriage).
~Hope I was of Help~
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if you dont wanna--then dont,its hard to talk to people about this. 13 is yung for it anyway...i would say just be friends for now,close friends but trustful ones
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Hey,
I'm a mai eof 15, who is in a non sexual relation ship. If that is all he wants, then he is not a true friend. IF someone demands something, they are not in it to be your friend. Just tell him how you feel about it, and if he doesn't respect what you believe, then he is a poor friend. YOu only have one life, live it well.
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Isn't for any one of us to tell you not to hun, but sounds to me like you really don't want to either. If you think there is a chance that you will do something that you are going to regret, the best suggestion that I could offer is tell him that you do not want that right now, and bow out gracefully. I wouldn't go over there and stay either, that way you aren't feeling vulnerable to do something that you feel isn't in your best interest.
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