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Breaking up with boyfriend
Okay.. none of my friends were help on this. See if any of you are!
I've been with this guy for almost 2 months. He's in LOVE with me and totally obsessed. I hate clingy guys and I'm sick of him. He calls like .. 5 times a day.. AT LEAST .. and is Always wanting to hang out. I barely have time for my girls with him around!
I need a way to break up with him so he won't be too upset, and he will still be friends with me. I still like him, and i've already told him he's too obsessive, but it didn't help any! I need a way to let him down gently!
!mucho amor!
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just tell him that you want to get to know him a little bit better and you really need to spend more time wit your gurlz. he will understand.
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no sense in being nice. like we say at my skewl chump him out(kick him to the curb hard honey,b/c next thing you know you wont have any friends except for him and if he's doing this to you he's really not a friend!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well you could say that your having alot of trouble at home and are too stressed out and your really dont thnk this is a good time for a BF.
Or say Like Im sorry You are very clingy and i need my sapce so i need to let you go and find some one that wants to be around lot as you would them.
GLBecka
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here's what I think ,tell him to slow down and you don't think it's working .hope he takes it well
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Here's the feedback: "Good advice, but your makin me feel bad! I'm only 14!"
... SO I say this: When you are 19, you will feel differently about this. I'd bet you money on that. ;-) No reason to feel bad. It sounds like he is really interested in a serious relationship and you are kinda playing him until you get tired of him. (Which you have.)
Best to just tell him outright: "Dude, I am not ready for this. I thought it would work, but you want more out of this relationship than I do. I just want a good time with no emotional commitment."
That should clear it right up for him.
DangerNerd.
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Hello there,
What is really interesting about this:
Most women feel that the men in their lives don't even notice them unless they want sex. These same women would love to have the problem you have.
Usually it is men who complain about women who will not leave them in peace long enough to shoot pool with the boys. :-)
Ok, it is entirely possible that he really doesn't understand EXACTLY what it is that he does to annoy you.
I know, I know, it seems obvious to you, and you can't possibly understand why he doesn't "get it," but it is true.
I suggest you write a letter in the kindest, non-bitchy, tone possible listing exactly what he does that bothers you. If there is any love in you for him, then also list exactly what he would have to do to stay with you.
If he can't do those things, he'll know he has to go. If you spell it out for him like this and he still will not leave, call the police and tell them you are being stalked.
With all that said and done, I would ask you a favor:
When the day comes that all of your "girls" have gone on to do other things and no longer talk to you, think back on the guy you dumped because he loved you "too much" and wanted to spend too much time with you. See how you feel about this in five years. ;-)
DangerNerd.
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too clingy and obsessive guys are such a turnoff. i can totally understand why you'd want to break up with him. basically, tell him IN PERSON that you just want a break from guys, that your friends miss you and you need to hang out with them. tell him that you'll still be friends and invite him to hang out with you and your friends, but not too much. also, even if this isn't the truth, tell him that you might go out with him again later on, just so he won't be too sad when you dump him. or you can warn him ahead of time, since you still like him, that if he doesn't stop being so clingy and obsessive, you're going to have to dump him. that should get him to stop, since he obviously cares about you a lot *which explains the clingyness of him*. you can try both or whatever, i hope i helped!! good luck!! :)
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He'll be hurt no matter what so you just need to get it over with. I think you should tell him you just want to remain friends. Tell him you enjoyed the relationship better that way. If you tell him you want to break up because he's to clingy he will just give you the "I'll change" routine and I don't think you want to give it more time.
I think you will be able to remain friends, but keep in mind it probably won't happen until he gets over you and all that. It may not happen right away. :)
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either way- it sounds to me, like this guy is in fact, superobsessed. there is no way to let him down gently. no matter what you say or do, this guy is GOING to be hugely affected by it. just try and be nice, watever you do. try and reverse the roles. speak to him like you would want to be spoken to, yourself. hope i helped.
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You should tell him again and again, and if he does not listen to you, then be careful, because guys are not smart. I know I am one, but I am fortunate enough to know how stupid some guys are. Don't be afraid to be brutally honest, if he refuses to listen, threaten to ignore him, and if he is persistent, officially break up with him, and go have fun with your friends. You must know that it is his fault your relationship did not work out, it is his, and make sure he knows that. Kukkiwon16@aol.com
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