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Am I choosing a guy over my friend?
This is WAY long and confusing so I apologize in advance. All this year i've had a "makeout buddy". We have the same friends, and we all hang out in a big group on the weekends, but sometimes when no one is around we kiss, and no one knows.. Anyway, 2 months ago we stopped and 1 month ago he kissed one of my best friends. (She sort of initiated it, she was flirting with him EXTREME at all times.) My best friend told me that they kissed and then I told her that I had kissed him too. She started crying and saying that she shouldn't have done it and then we agreed that we'd both been played and that neither of us would ever kiss him again. The reason I was upset with her wasn't really that they kissed, but the fact that she had suspected that me and the guy had had something going on, but she had always flirted with him anyway. Anyway, the other day he stayed at my house after a few friends had been over and we kissed, then he asked if I wanted to go upstairs (because my mom was downstairs) and I told him i couldn't and we couldn't kiss. I confessed that I knew what happened between him and my friend, and we talked for hours about it. I told him that what we did was never wrong, but it came wrong when he did that with my best friend. He agreed, and we talked forever, and it turns out my best friend didn't tell me the whole truth about what happened between them. Then we made-out and dry-humped and stuff and I feel really guilty. Am I betraying my friend, because I really feel like I can trust my guy friend more, i know that he's a whore and all, but i'm young and it's all just casual kissing (i've never taken any article of clothing off nor do i plan to.)
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ok personally, you are not betraying your friend. she should know how it feels to like somebody. and even though she didnt know until after, she still did it. but if you have feelings for someone then thats not anyones fault. she was wrong for lying to you. even if it was just a little fib, its bullshit(sorry for the language.) guys dont always have a lot of respect for girls but if you can trust them more than you can trust your closest friend then thats alright. just dont trust talking to her anymore. iv had PLENTY of this kind of thing happen to me. =]
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Ok, first off. It sounds to me that if your friend didn't tell you the entire truth, then you are justified in thinking that you can trust the guy friend more than her, anyhow. However, there is no easy solution here. To be honest, I dont think you or your friend need to be "friends with benefits" with this guy. If you both cut off ties with him, in that manner, then you could all just be friends and it would be less complicated. Ya know? Thats prolly the only solution I can really think of. I wish you the best of luck though. Sorry your having a hard time. Lemme know if you need anything! *Smiles*
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