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addicted to sex
I'm 18, have had 2 serious boyfriends (1 is my current) and have had sex only with these 2 guys. The things is, I enjoy sex very much. I initiate it everytime with my boyfriend, and afterwards it makes ME feel easy and not a challenge. I can't help getting horny and I've been called a 'nympho' numerous times. How can I fix this? I don't want to give it up easily!
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So the problem here is that you have little self-control, not that you like sex a lot. Part of the excitement between a couple is the build-up beforehand, the emotional and psychological chemistry, the challenge, the game, the chase etc. A clever woman or man knows that the easiest things are hardly ever the most rewarding. In a relationship in particular, the individual needs to be tending not to one's own needs, but their partner's needs. This is what makes a great lover...not how much or how fast you take, but how much and how long you GIVE. Does your partner enjoy it as much as you? Afterwards you should both feel better and never worse for the experience. My advice is to mature in your sexual awareness and take the time and effort to become the lover you have yet to be, one who is not only passionate, but playful. You will not only gain the ability to entice your man to seduce you, but you will see that better things come to those who wait.
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Hun, there really is no way to "fix" this problem. You said yourself, you cant help getting horny. But, what you might want to do is stop being the one to initiate all the time. Its cool to flirt and maybe hint that you might be in the mood to "fool around", but I think you would feel better if your boyfriend played a more active role, so... make him work for it. You also might want to try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel about this (if just making him initiate isnt enough). Ya know?
And, about you being called a nympho. Well, having a good sexual appetite is normal and healthy. There is no reason to be ashamed about it. Just, like I said, try to make your boyfriend be more "agressive" about it and make him initiate it more often and then it wont see like your always the one wanting it. Truth is, he prolly wants it just as often as you allow him to get it, he just... knows that you will initiate it so he would rather let you do all the work. That way, he isnt forcing you to do anything and he knows you want it. Get what im saying? I think this will work itself out, hun. Best of luck! Im here if you need anything!
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Well, if you're 18 (and not 20 like your profile says), you're of age. There's nothing wrong with you wanting and initiating sex. I'm sure the 'nympho' comment was either a joke or a comment by a jealous person.
I'll tell you, I would love to have a robust sex drive. Men REALLY enjoy a woman who loves sex. At least the ones I know find it irresistable. The only ones who might not are the ones who are so immature they find it a threat to their masculinity when a woman takes the lead.
So long as it's not making you sleep with inappropriate men and lots of them, do risky behaviors like hooking up with men you met over the internet without meeting in a public place, etc., it's fine. If you get chaffed, lay off for a while. Otherwise, you're normal, young, and vital. Just be a sensual, sexual being and enjoy it! I'm jealous.
Sabine
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If you weren't enjoying sex at all you would have a problem. This however, is normal, natural, healthy and perfect fine. You're supposed to enjoy sex and get pleasure from it. As far as initiating it that's fine too.
You just have a high sex-drive here and that's all. There's no need to give up sex or feel embarassed or guilty that you enjoy it that much. You aren't having sex with random people to take care of your urges so you are okay.
It may help to get it under control if you resorted to masturbation more often. This will decrease your sexual urges and constant desire to have sex with your partner.
It's a great way to take care of those urges, tension, desires etc. without having sex with someone else. If you start self-pleasuring as an alternative when you get thoughts about sex you'll find yourself needing it less with your partner.
As far as being called a "nympho" you certainly aren't one. Just laugh that off. No need to give up on sex but you'll be able to want and have it less if you handle sexual tension differently.
You're fine though and a normal adult female. like i said, if you hated sex rather than enjoyed it you would have a problem but this really isn't one because you have a way of dealing with it.
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