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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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I am a student, living on my own in a student house. I've got a washing machine that I can use freely (there is no issues sharing it with the four other people living here) but I can't seem to get into a routine or a productive way of taking care of my laundry. Let me elaborate: I generally leave the laundry baskets overflowing until I run out of clothes or underwear. I know that's pathetic, but I just can't seem to get into a cycle of doing my laundry regularly. The issue is that the machine fits 3kgs of laundry which is almost nothing, meaning that it fits about half of a laundry basket if even that.(standard size.. think Ikea's Antonius laundry basket)

Ideally, I'd put things in the wash as soon as I have a machineful, but it rarely happens. Do any of you have any tips on how I could get into a better routine or perhaps motivate myself to put things in the wash as soon as I have a machineful, instead of neglecting it until I have a clothes crisis and then need to do near 6 loads in one go...

Make 2 days of the week your set laundry day. Say maybe Wednesday and Saturday. Make yourself get off your can and do laundry on those days.

My friend and her guy friend got in to a fight and now they hate each other. Well it's been at least 6 months since then and we had a dance. My friends was dancin wit her friends and another guy. She told me that she thinks that her ex guyfriend looked jealous when she was twerking on her guy friend (theres nothing between them he just walked behind her). She told me that she likes/loves him again and she doesn't know Wat to do. She wants him to be her friends again. I want to help her but I don't know how. I need an answer as soon as possible!?!??!????!??

Honestly, what can you do? Its something that has to be worked out between the two of them, and when it comes between him and her, you are a third wheel, I'm afraid. The best you can do is be there for her.

(20F)
ok, so theres this guy ive been flirty with for a week or so (shane)... he lives in a shared house with my friend and loads of other guys.
we chat on bbm and stuff, but thurs, it got more physical, and we ended up kissing, like, whenever we saw each other.. all day, and we would find each other...
but then thurs night, he bbm's me sayin we cant do anything again because hes back with his ex.and i just replied thats ok.
friday... i get to the house and one of the guys comes to find me and tells me that shane really wants to see me.
i didnt see him because i knew what it would lead to... more kissing. and i dont want to be getting involved if the gf is back on the scene...
now my head is just messed up. i cant stop thinking about him... and just aargh!!
i never fooled myself into thinking it would be more than fun... he isnt the type of guy that i could be with long term. i just dont know how to stop thinking about him! =(

If he wants to see you, then perhaps it didn't work out with the girlfriend? You should ask him. If he says they're together then steer clear.
If they aren't together, then, well... You're 20 years old, your adult life is still fresh and new. Why not get him out of your system? But always keep in mind that you know for fact that it will never be long term.

I love my boyfriend of almost a year a lot. But I know it's not mutual. I have to nag him to say I love you to me but he always reminds me he does when I do. He always says he just doesn't say it alot. But he ignores me when I say it to him sometimes. He never wants to talk on the phone when we are seperated by college. I love him but I always feel like a stalker &a burden. I talked to him about it a lot. He says he'll change and after a few days he's back to his old self. What should I do? I really really really love him.

Thanks In advance(:

Wait... He doesn't want to talk to you while away at college?? He should be the one feeling bad, here.
I mean, the whole not saying I love you part, that's no big deal. My husband seldom says it to me, but he shows it all the time. But why in the hell doesn't he want to talk to you while away at college?? I'd figure then would be the time y'all would be on the phone to one another the most...

Are you sure you're not wasting your time and your love on the wrong guy?

Me and my friend (call him Paul) always flirted last year but he had a gf. (i already feel terrible for doing that, dont say anything about it please) But they broke up and we started talking more but now he likes this other girl. In the process of them talking, we stopped. I miss talking to him like crazy. I really like him a lot but I dont want to ruin that girls chance with him. He is a great, wonderful, perfect guy and she is so nice and pretty. I am happy for both of them but I still like him. I dont know what to do. I have been staying out of it but i dont really want to anymore but I could never do that to the girl he likes. What should i do? i am so confused

Ok, so he flirted with you WHILE he had a girlfriend (He was probably bored with her, I'm guessing?). Then when they broke up, he started talking to you more (I'm sure probably making you feel like he might have been showing interest, perhaps?) And then this other girl comes along, so he drops contact with you like a lead balloon.

Honestly, he sounds like your basic jerk. What's to like?? Think about it. He treated you like you're expendable, and honey, you are not.

Hey im 14 and had a thing going on with this girl..we were probably going to date.basically she kissed another guy so i broke it off.a few days later im considering taking her back because she apologised and everyone makes mistakes..not sure what to do because i cant really trust her

You were probably going to date... So that means you weren't technically an item? If that's the case, then she did nothing wrong, technically.

I have a friend and we have been friends for a long time (like since we were in kindergarten). Well she is really nice and stuff but lately I feel like she's been talkin to my friends to much. First she started talkin to my other best friend and I was kwl wit it at first but then it got annoying. Then she stopped txting her so much and she exchanged numbers on instagram with my friend when I gave her a ShoutOut. Now she's talkin to on of my preschool guy friends that we had had a little misunderstanding with (lets just say I got dared to ask him out and he took it a "little" to seriously), and now she talking to him too. I told her that I didn't like how she does that but she never want to talk about our problems when ever we have one. I don't know what to do but I need to do something really soon.

Soooooo.... You want her to talk to only you? That's not quite fair, now is it? You have all these friends and she can't be friends with them too?
You need to really read what you wrote. Really listen to yourself. You sound pretty selfish, here.

Hi,I just found something out.
My ex-boyfriend,we just broke up two weeks ago,because he cheated on me.
He has a new girlfriend now though.
I'm a vegetarian,and have been for three years now,so he went vegetarian for me,but only when we together.
I broke up with him,and he avoids me,because people say he's afraid of having to confront me.
But today,I just found out that his new girlfriend is a vegetarian.
My friend's say he's doing that to get back at me.
DO you think he's trying to get back at me?Or is it just a coincidence?

Why should you let this even concern you? The skeezy jerk cheated on you, so what grounds does he have to get back at you for anything?
You just go on and hold your head high and be proud of yourself for getting that guy out of your life before he could hurt you more than he already did.
Stop wasting your precious thoughts on him and what he's doing. He's not that important at all.

Hi, I'm a teenage girl. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months. I really like him and I have so much I'd like to share with him but I'm really shy around him. I really want to loosen up and be myself around him and his friends. How can I stop being so shy around my him and his friends?

I hate to say it, but if you're still shy around him after 10 months, are you sure he's the right guy for you? I mean, most people would be pretty comfortable with one another by this time.

Hi there, my friend said you gave them good advice so I wondered if you could help me?

Basically, there is the guy I really like, we get on really well - I consider him to be my best friend - but I'm afraid to tell him how I really feel as I dont want to ruin our friendship. Yet, I feel he might like me back. But then again, he might just see me as a friend. I'm not sure what to do, should I risk it and tell him how I feel, or just leave it so I dont make things awkward?

Well, you have two options:

1. The safe route. Say nothing and know you are friends and that's ok.

2. The risky route. You don't want to look back years from now, wondering "What if?" so you go for it and take a chance. If he says yes, then that's ok. If he says no, then oh well, at least you took a chance. You guys can laugh it off to ease any awkwardness.

So, are you feeling up to taking a chance?

I got a new boyfriend but I'm not sure if my parents will approve. he is so nice but he has got tattoo's and piercings. my parents will judge him immediately and not let me be with him, even though he has got a steady job, he treats me amazingly and i love him loads. he is two years older than me and waited until i was 16 just so that it was a legal relationship too. i love him but what do i do if they won't let me see him again??!!

One thing you have to remember about their parents is that they love you, want what's best for you, and will protect you in any way. Sometimes to a fault. One day you'll have kids and totally see where they are coming from, believe me.

You know they're going to want to meet him, so there is no way around that. If they don't want to let you see him again, ask them do they not trust you?
Have they not raised you to have good judgement?
Aren't we all taught that one should NEVER judge a book by it's cover?
Would they approve of you having dinner dates with your parents at your home so they can get a chance to really get to know him and see that he is more than just an appearance?

Hi, I'm a teenage girl. My parents have let my boyfriend come over before but this time they won't and I'd really like to spend some quality time with my boyfriend. How can I convince my parents to let him come over?

What are their reasons for not letting him come over? It sucks, but you do have to respect their reasons.
The best way to try to convince them is to sit down and discuss it with them in a calm manner, where you listen to them and they listen to you. I was once a teenage girl- You can't flip out and start having a fit because the discussion isn't going your way, because then it will NEVER go your way.

Hello, I 29 and I just got conceived but me and my husband is not at all prepared to have baby now. If I am going for abortion so can I have the baby after two years or so.

Of course you can! Abortions by no means make you incapable of carrying more children.

I am 13 and even I have no bf.I heard that a girl get pregnant if she intercourse.I never do sex.The tension that kills me is that I have an older brother,I am afraid that if he touch his semen and then he dries his hand and touch my pen and I touch my pen an touch my vagina,is there any chance of getting pregnant.I am very afraid.Plssss help me!!!

You can't get pregnant that way. You have to have sex for that to happen.

Okay, so me and my friends plus others fraught all last semester, and things have just been settled. I suggested a clique to ensure that we all get along and that our group is tighter and more united-we think there will be much less drama then. We're a group of four girls, and we have different styles. I need names like Flirtatologist or Glossy Posse or something like that. And please, don't tell me that cliques are overrated. I've seen Mean Girls and all the chic flicks, and really, that's what's going on at every school. Thanks!

One I came across when browsing the internet:
The Pretty Committee

13/F (Sorry this is long, but if you answer this then you'll save my life!)

Alright.. So for about 7 months, I've been feeling weird. I've looked up more about it, and it seems it's called "Depersonalization Disorder"... I really am not sure what to do now. My mom has known about it, but I just realized that she thought it went away 4 months ago - And I'VE BEEN FEELING THIS WAY SINCE JUNE 2012!

My symptoms:
I feel like I'm not all there. Like.. I'd be doring something, and once I think about this whole thing then this happens again.

I realized that I can't live my life like this anymore. I need help. I don't really want to see a doctor or get medication, but if I have to... What medication what I need and what not? Omg please help me. If you answer you will save my life!

The best person to go to is a therapist. They can diagnose your condition, then refer you to a doctor who specializes in mental disorders if you need medication.
I learned from experience that your regular family doctor doesn't know a lot about mental illness, so they can't properly diagnose and treat you. I have Bipolar 1 Disorder, and was misdiagnosed and given the incorrect medication for years.
Bottom line is, you NEED to go seek help.

I mildly hooked up with this guy I wasn't attracted to and felt kind of violated the next morning. He didn't do anything wrong. He was actually really, really nice and that's what pisses me off and I don't know why! He was also kind of a meek p***y, which was SUCH a turnoff. I know I sound arrogant but I can't help but feeling so pissed at him every time I think about it! I'm dumb for allowing the physical stuff to happen, it was my fault. He mildly pressured me to let him stay over and I let him. Maybe that's why I'm so pissed. Is this normal?

I don't know that its normal...
You admit it was your fault for allowing this to happen to begin with. How about being pissed at yourself instead of this really, really nice guy who doesn't deserve your anger?
If he was a turn off, you should have put on the breaks and sent his ass home at that point.
You're not dumb, but if you're going to be angry, be angry with the right person.

so i wash my teeth 2 times a day, morning before i go to school and evening before i go to bed. But every day i have i stinky breath, so i started to eat lots of gum and that works but i really dont want to go around every day eating gum. I dont know why this breath comes and stays, im asthmatic but i dont think that's the problem.

You might want to set an appointment to discuss this issue with your dentist. It could be something as simple as changing your toothpaste and mouthwash, it could be gum issues, or it could even be halitosis.

I wouldn't suggest doing the peroxide gargle... Talk to a professional who will be able to diagnose the problem and know best how to treat your symptoms.

If you have sex in a shower and a guy cums inside with the warm water on can i still get pregnant?

Any time you have sex without protection, you can get pregnant.

so ever since 2 years ago its been hard being in a serious relationship when i guys think your a slut or some fling.... everyones like you have to change the playing field. because i like to make jokes about sex. i like being one of the guys. and i don't have sex with just anybody but if i like you a lot then i do and it comes off as if im easy? and i end up waking up to one nights stands or guys who are like its cool we can be friends with benefits.. but then again before i have sex i try to tell them i want a real relationship..and they run :S .........what to do?

A real relationship won't start off with a sexual encounter. You need to actually be together to be a couple. If you go out and have sex with a guy one night, most likely he's going to take it as just sex.

So if you want a real relationship, leave sex out of it until your well established as a couple, and are completely comfortable with one another.

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