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being me makes me a slut
so ever since 2 years ago its been hard being in a serious relationship when i guys think your a slut or some fling.... everyones like you have to change the playing field. because i like to make jokes about sex. i like being one of the guys. and i don't have sex with just anybody but if i like you a lot then i do and it comes off as if im easy? and i end up waking up to one nights stands or guys who are like its cool we can be friends with benefits.. but then again before i have sex i try to tell them i want a real relationship..and they run :S .........what to do?
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A real relationship won't start off with a sexual encounter. You need to actually be together to be a couple. If you go out and have sex with a guy one night, most likely he's going to take it as just sex.
So if you want a real relationship, leave sex out of it until your well established as a couple, and are completely comfortable with one another.
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Well, guys want sex. A lot of guys don't want a relationship. The way you find out if a guy wants a relationship is by not having sex with them. You might like them but if they don't respect you they're only going to stick around for the sex.
If you sleep around a lot, even if you mean well, people will label you as a slut.
It's just, you are looking for love in all the wrong places.
When you really like a guy a lot, you don't have sex with them. You take things slow.
So if you are interested in a guy, just talk and become closer, don't have sex with them, just date and enjoy it. If he is still around by then, then he's probably a good guy and you have a better chance at a relationship.
Good luck!
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If you want people to start respecting you, then you have to stop having sex. I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but it's the truth.
If you tell a guy that you are looking for a relationship and he runs, then he's not the one.
If you tell a guy that you are looking for a relationship and he stays, then you tell him you want to take it slow. If he still hasn't run off, then you might have a decent guy on your hands.
When you're looking for a relationship, you need to look for someone who is going to respect everything about you and would never try to push you to do anything you don't want to do. And while your dating this person, NO SEX FOR A WHILE! Establish an emotional connection with that person before you jump to the physical connection.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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