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How can I convince my parents to let my boyfriend come over?
Hi, I'm a teenage girl. My parents have let my boyfriend come over before but this time they won't and I'd really like to spend some quality time with my boyfriend. How can I convince my parents to let him come over?
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Answering as a parent there are a few reasons why we change directions on some things. In regards to your question the biggest reasons center on trust.
This trust issue is not always placed on you. I may have the highest trust in my daughter but my trust in her boyfriend may not be at the same level. It may be that someone had told me something to cause me to loose trust in him or my daughter. Something like say a friend has told me he overheard his daughter talking about what you two may have planned for this quality time together.
Also as a dad I remember what I was like as a teenage boy and what my main goal was with my girlfriends. So trust in him not to take advantage of you is something that he may not ever earn.
My advice is to speak to your parents and find out why the change has happened. If it is a trust issue then that is something whoever has lost their trust will have to earn back. Remember trust is something you earn it is not a given even as their child.
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What are their reasons for not letting him come over? It sucks, but you do have to respect their reasons.
The best way to try to convince them is to sit down and discuss it with them in a calm manner, where you listen to them and they listen to you. I was once a teenage girl- You can't flip out and start having a fit because the discussion isn't going your way, because then it will NEVER go your way.
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it all depends on how your parents are, i mean you can tell your parents good things about him. maybe asking them why they wont let you have him over sense teen couples invite their boyfriends or girlfriends over all the time and i don't see why they don't let you unless their worried about you being with him alone without your parents being there.if that's the case just earn their trust show them you can be with him without doing anything bad. i know because my parents were annoying to me too! if that doesn't help then just hangout with him somewhere else..
hope i helped (:
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