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Im 14f and have known I was bi or gay all my life, and im comfortable with it.my best friend...ive had a crush on her for years.she knows I do, but it hurts sometimes, I really like her shes straight.im cool with our friendship.its amazing, but how can I stop you know...likeing her in that way so muxh? Cant get over it. (link)
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Hey, I'm bi too! I've been in your situation many times -- and I also had a crush on my straight best friend before but eventually got over it. Isn't it hard when you have a crush on a girl, but you can't be with her because she's straight?
I can tell that your friendship is important to you. That's one of the main reasons why you want to get over this crush. You want to be able to have a regular friendship where you feel the same way about each other, and you don't want things to be awkward between you two. I'm going to tell you what I do to get over my crushes on straight girls. These might be helpful for you, too.
First of all, it helps to spend time with other people and try new activities. Have fun hanging out and going places with your other friends -- it'll help take your mind off that one friend whom you have a crush on. Just make sure you do things that don't remind you of her, and pick things that both interest you and distract you from your best friend.
Make sure you also have boundaries. It's okay to hang out with her every once in a while, but try to reduce the amount of time spent hanging out with her. Putting space between you and your best friend will help you get over it.
It sometimes helps me to look around for a new love interest. But don't find someone who closely resembles your best friend, because you'll only compare the new person to your best friend. Look for someone who is rather different. If you look around, you'll also be able to find other girls who like girls.
Lastly, remember that love comes in many different forms. Maybe she doesn't like you the way you like her, but it doesn't mean she cares about you any less. A while later from now, you won't have a crush on her, but you will still love her. She will still be your best friend, and you will still be hers. You will look back and realize that your friendship is worth the effort it took to get over this crush.
Who knows, you might meet another very special girl -- this time, one who likes girls just like you do.
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Poem #1
“Untitled”-Sabryn Alstatt
Beautiful you
Beautimous and true
Being great; being kind
You are one to find
Being proud of yourself; no one else can tell you different
Stay you and you’ll make it through
I see nothing but brains and smarts
Although you are one brilliant piece of art
You will be one along with few that have helped you fly
Going through life not ever knowing why
You are strong; you are bright
You have nothing to fright
Take a stride; take pride
You’re one in a million; compared to others it’s one in a billion
Stay strong you have won the battle
Sit back and watch the rest rattle
Shining bright; like a star
You believed in yourself; so you went very far
Poem #2
“Untitled”- Sabryn Alstatt
So great and settle
You can now rest
For your journey was too great
Or your timing too late
You fought like a stallion
But the chances of winning were one in a billion
You may have lost but that’s okay
Because you saw it a different way
You couldn’t win; but at least you tried
But you couldn’t just sit around and hide
That’s life; you live then die
Ending your life not knowing why
You are now dead; alone and cold
But you were the one that was brave and bold
The fight has ended can’t you tell
If the bell had ended with a ting-tong bell
They carry your corpse along in a coffin
They may be sad but that didn’t mean stoppin’
Although you lost the battle; you won
No matter the fight; you were their last one
To survive so long in so little time; with each minsicule second just ticking by.
Poem #3
“Trust”-Sabryn Alstatt
Believe in me; believe in you
We will surely make it through
With the help of you and the help of me
We will then both see
The love, the faith, the trust
But it all starts with us
You are my smile; gleaming eye
Taking a breath to just get a sigh
Standing soldiers; yes we are
Because we saw past all the scars
The way you enlighten me; leaves me breathless to thee
The scars, the cuts, the tears that roll
Are soon to be all under control
I love you; you love me
All the pain has willowed away
What that lays in your purse; we are finally free of this curse
Poem #4
“The Choice”-Sabryn Alstatt
Choices are to be made; Choices as sour as lemonade
Flavors change; Flavors sour; Flavors change every hour
The final hour has come to an end; Choices that come to such a bend
The time has come to make a choice
The choice I pick is not about boys
But more of how I go live; Live into the rules of five
The rules start with confident; Then go to independent
The third goes to trust; which is an absolute must
The fourth is loyalty; which means no cruelty
The fifth belongs to honest; If you choose to be the best; you choose to be honest
The choice has been made, yes it is
To be a confident, loyal, whiz
The whiz I am The whiz you are; You will never be too far
For your dreams to come true; you must look up to the blue
The sky, that has all the clouds; Until the thunder alouds
The night will come; the stars will shine
Then your life will be in line
Wish upon a shooting star; you will surely go far
Your dream has come true yes, it’s true; But it’s all because you believed in you.
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Yes, I think this is good, well-written poetry.
Just keep in mind that this is an advice site, not an opinion site or a poetry site. (This topic is mentioned on the FAQ page.) If you want to share your poetry with others and get people's opinions, it would be best to go to a poetry or writing website. Try going to www.wattpad.com or you can search for other poetry websites on Google.
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8th grade- female
So there's this new guy at my school and he's reaally cute. I was talking to him today at recess (he's only in a few of my short, minor classes, so we dont talk at all ) and we were just exchanging the usual, He likes boarding, I told him it was really cool, my friend mentioned I do gymnastics and he was really impressed by it and he asked me questions and told me he has a trampoline at his house - he also said he gets staight B's and I laughed and said me too ,,and basically we really hit it off, and all my friends say we'd be cute-- ?? but the girl who introduced us -my bff, in his class- is really pretty and I'm insecure that he may like her instead of me.. basically my question is- How do I leave a cute and good impression on him? We're hanging out tomarrow at lunch , so please answer soon! thank you- so sorry for spelling/grammar my device is almost dead and I do not have time to go over- thanks!! (link)
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Hi! I'm another eighth grader. I agree with Lauragracey1 that kindness and personality is much more important than appearance.
I just want to give you a few more tips on leaving a good impression on a guy:
- Smile and be confident. When you're talking with him, keep showing that you're interested in who he is, and he'll think you're a fun person to be with.
- Understand what this guy likes to see in a girl. I can tell that he's probably interested in your personality, so you're good with that.
- Don't be afraid to flirt a little. Who knows, he might flirt back!
- Be there for him. If you think he's not having a good day, ask if he's all right. Show him that you care about him and that he can trust you.
- Always remember to be yourself, because you are a special and unique person.
Here are a few other things that guys sometimes look for in a girl:
- loyalty and trustworthiness
- generosity
- a good sense of humor
- intelligence
- patience
- a unique personality
I hope I was able to help! By the way, don't worry too much about your best friend. Maybe she's pretty, but this guy clearly thinks you're unique and is impressed by your personality. Just remember to keep up what you're doing and maybe try some of the tips I suggested.
Good luck! You're a great person, and I think it will go well.
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I need some examples of sexting so i can text my bf (link)
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Adviceman49 is right. Before you sext your boyfriend, here are a few things to consider:
- Why do you want to sext your boyfriend? Is it because you actually want to, or because he pressured you into it? Sixty percent of people who sexted their boyfriends say they were pressured to do so. If this is true for you, then don't do it. Dating is about having fun, not doing something you don't really want to do to please the other person.
- Are you sure that your boyfriend would be the only one who saw the images? A study showed that about one in five sext recipients forwarded the picture to someone else, and 55 percent of them forwarded it to multiple people. Who knows where it would end up? Do you want people other than your boyfriend to see that personal photo? A girl once sexted at my friend's school, and it wasn't long before almost every kid at her school knew what she looked like without her shirt. Oh, and she got suspended because a teacher ended up seeing it, too.
- Another study showed that teens who sexted are four times more likely than other kids to consider suicide. I'm sure you can figure out why that happens.
I hope you will not sext your boyfriend. It's degrading behavior, and you never know who will see it. Just think about the consequences and don't do it.
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What to when your mom calls you a hore and stupied and you buy a gift for her and she throws it in your face and threatens to beat you with fishing pole (link)
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Here are a few examples of emotional abuse:
- yelling and swearing at you
- threatening you harshly
- putting you down and making you feel like a failure
- making you feel unloved or unimportant
From your question, I can tell that you have at least been sworn at and threatened, which I think qualifies as emotional abuse. And your mom has thrown objects in your face, which is never okay.
I recommend that you tell someone -- a friend, teacher, school counselor, or other trusted person. When you're talking to someone about this, be honest and open about what you're going through.
Is there anything you can do to prevent your mom from doing this? Try to find out some of the things that cause your mom to swear at you and threaten you.
When your mom is treating you harshly, try to avoid commenting back or letting out your feelings. She is looking for a reaction from you, and if she gets that, she will probably abuse you more. Wait until you are in a place where she can't see or hear you.
When your mom is in a good mood, you could try calmly telling her how you feel. But don't do this if you think it will make her abuse you more.
If you don't feel safe in your house, you should stay with a trusted friend or relative. Calling the police is another option.
Remember, your mom's behavior is not your fault, and you shouldn't have to go through this. I know you will find help and things will get better. You deserve to feel happy, safe, and loved. Don't let your mom stop you from living the good life you deserve.
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Basically a teacher left my school at the end of the year and I was very upset because I was really close to him. It'd taken me a while but I'd finally come round to the idea of him not being there - although I still miss him a lot.
Anyway, then I went into school yesterday for exam results and he was there (he'd driven 7 hours from his new house). I kind of knew he'd be there and I'd been looking forward to seeing him but it still surprised me to actually see him again. I didn't speak to him an awful lot (not like we normally do anyway) then said goodbye and left.
This event has left me really upset and I'm missing him even more now - When he left at the end of the year I'd said a nice goodbye and ended things well but yesterday really messed things up and it was awkward. Also, I guess now I know that I really won't ever see him again... and a wave of realisation has hit me - he's out of my life now.
I don't know what to do to in order to feel better. :( (link)
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It's hard when that happens, isn't it? The same thing happened to me at the end of the school year. I was really close to one of my teachers -- and I even had a little bit of a crush on her -- but then my school had to close. When we said goodbye, it was a little awkward, so I know what that feels like, too.
It hurts to care deeply about someone and not be able to see them again -- trust me, I've been there over and over again. But when you find yourself thinking about this teacher, try distracting yourself with a puzzle or something. If you keep yourself busy with other things, you might find that it's easier to move on.
Remember, there will be other amazing teachers in your life, and you will be able to find someone else to think about. Find something you enjoy doing or someone else you like to hang out with, and the feeling will pass.
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Hi.. Well this might be not a question you would hear everyday.. I dont think my other question posted.. But anyway.. I have cut/Self Harm for a year now.. I really want to stop.. Its just hurting my family and friends too much.. :( can i get some tips to stop? Please dont judge. (link)
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Hi! I know this question was posted a while ago, but I just want to say that I feel the same way. I have cut for about a year as well, and I want to stop because it's hurting the people I love.
When you feel like you want to cut, you can try one of these tips instead:
- Take a shower (it sometimes helps to make the temperature either really hot or cold -- just make sure there are no razors in the shower).
- Go running or do another kind of exercise -- exercise can be an effective way to relieve stress. The pain in your legs from running might also give you a sense of relief.
- Call a friend. They can help make you feel better, or you can talk about something different to get your mind off if it.
- Write poetry about how you feel.
- Try meditation or yoga exercises -- it's great for helping you calm down.
- Make some fake blood or just get some red paint and drip it on your wrist -- this helps if the sight of blood is important to you.
- Take a tall glass of water and drip red food coloring in it.
- Snap a rubber band on your wrist -- it leaves marks that look like scars, but they go away over night.
- Find a good book or something fun that will help distract you. Try a puzzle that will challenge you and make you think about something other than how you feel.
- This one has helped me the most: Draw a butterfly on the place where you want to cut and name it after someone you care about. Let the butterfly fade naturally. If you cut before the butterfly fades, it dies. But if you don't, you set the butterfly free.
- Lastly, just remember that your friends and family care about you and don't want you to hurt yourself. Remember that I also don't want you to hurt yourself. I can see that you are an amazing person, and you deserve to be loved. Go talk to a family member or someone else who cares. Thank them for loving you.
I hope these tips help! Some might work better for you than others, and you can be creative and think of other things you can do when you feel the urge to cut. Remember, even though it might seem hard to stop now, you will be able to stop. I believe in you.
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