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Cutting/Self Harm
Hi.. Well this might be not a question you would hear everyday.. I dont think my other question posted.. But anyway.. I have cut/Self Harm for a year now.. I really want to stop.. Its just hurting my family and friends too much.. :( can i get some tips to stop? Please dont judge.
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Hi! I know this question was posted a while ago, but I just want to say that I feel the same way. I have cut for about a year as well, and I want to stop because it's hurting the people I love.
When you feel like you want to cut, you can try one of these tips instead:
- Take a shower (it sometimes helps to make the temperature either really hot or cold -- just make sure there are no razors in the shower).
- Go running or do another kind of exercise -- exercise can be an effective way to relieve stress. The pain in your legs from running might also give you a sense of relief.
- Call a friend. They can help make you feel better, or you can talk about something different to get your mind off if it.
- Write poetry about how you feel.
- Try meditation or yoga exercises -- it's great for helping you calm down.
- Make some fake blood or just get some red paint and drip it on your wrist -- this helps if the sight of blood is important to you.
- Take a tall glass of water and drip red food coloring in it.
- Snap a rubber band on your wrist -- it leaves marks that look like scars, but they go away over night.
- Find a good book or something fun that will help distract you. Try a puzzle that will challenge you and make you think about something other than how you feel.
- This one has helped me the most: Draw a butterfly on the place where you want to cut and name it after someone you care about. Let the butterfly fade naturally. If you cut before the butterfly fades, it dies. But if you don't, you set the butterfly free.
- Lastly, just remember that your friends and family care about you and don't want you to hurt yourself. Remember that I also don't want you to hurt yourself. I can see that you are an amazing person, and you deserve to be loved. Go talk to a family member or someone else who cares. Thank them for loving you.
I hope these tips help! Some might work better for you than others, and you can be creative and think of other things you can do when you feel the urge to cut. Remember, even though it might seem hard to stop now, you will be able to stop. I believe in you.
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Go on to google and type in "butterfly project"
I had plenty of classmates who cut and I had no idea what they were going through. But they managed to stay strong and quit their cutting. The people around you love you okay? You are beautiful and you are loved. If I knew you, I would give you a big hug and physically help you.
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This isnt heard a lot, unfortuanatly some self harmers dont want to stop.I know how you feel.Try googleing the butterfly project, it helped my friend stop.Avoid all sharps and triggers.Either throw away razors, knifes, what ever you use, or put them in a very hard place for you to get to, or give them to someone trusted to lock them up.Tell someone, you cant do this alone even though its hard to tell someone.Tips for even asking on here.This is going to dound suuuuuuuuuuper weird, but take off the sleeves bracelets bandages or whatever.Seeing them is hard at first, let it heal.Even one less cut a day or week is an improvment.Try writing inspirational phrases wherever you cut.It takes time.Talk to someone trusted anytime you feel the urge, hopefully not someone not pro self harm.Try snapping a loose rubberband on your arm when you want to cut.Invest in a red ink pen and draw in the cuts while using the rubber band or queezing ice colored red.Im always here inbox me whenever.Stay strong! Dont hurt the baby you used to be.The scars do fade, IT GETS BETTER!! -julia
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I would never judge someone asking for help. People cut for a variety of reasons. The major cause of cutting is for stress release. In these instances the person who is cutting has so much stress upon them they cut to feel something even pain.
This stress has caused depression. Depression of itself cause more pain. Pain causes depression it is a vicious circle. To bring and end to this we have to first find the cause of the stress itself. Usually this stress is caused by some type of physical or mental trauma that we have buried so deep we have trouble remembering or we just try to block it out. Just what that trauma may be is a list so long it would be impossible to list them. It could be the death of someone close or it could be you were molested as a child and your subconscious is trying to bring it out or anything in between.
I'm not a doctor or a psychiatrist so I really can't say. I can offer you a substitute for the cutting which should work for a while and I will. Most importantly you need professional intervention. This would be in the way of a Board Certified Psychiatrist to properly diagnose what type of depression you may be suffering from and offer any medication that will help you.
You are not crazy, most depression falls under clinical depression which is a hormone imbalance and more of a medical rather than a mental problem. The reason for seeing a Board Certified Psychiatrist is these hormones are secreted into the brain as part of going through puberty and the diagnoses is usually "Teenage Depression." A Board Certified Psychiatrist is better capable by training to diagnose and
medicate if need be then your family doctor."
You will also be asked to see a psychologist for talk therapy. The purpose here is to give you someone to speak with that will help you get to the root cause of the depression. The therapist is someone you can trust to tell your deepest secrets to as they go no further than the therapists office as you have complete confidentiality. Whatever you say does not get back to your parent your anyone else.
Until you see the doctors try this instead od cutting. Find a big thick rubber band and let it hang loosely from around your wrist. When you feel like cutting snap the rubber band against your wrist. You should get the same feeling of relief as you do from cutting. Best of all you do not have to run and hide to do this as you can do this anywhere the need arises.
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Has your family tried counseling yet with you? Perhaps you can't afford one. If thats the case and it's up to you, it'll be hard but there is a chance you can get better. Stress and depression are usually at the bottom of it as far as culprits that get you to that point of needing to cut.
As you already know, it's only a temporary diversion. Everything I will share with you is going to sound like something that can't help but when people are depressed, the amount of neurotransmitters needed in our brain to keep us happy and feeling joy go down very low, so low that our brain can't function as normal and so we become depressed because the levels of serotonin and other neuro transmitters are almost non existant. What is odd is that our bodies are able to naturally create what we daily need to get levels up. But heres where it gets strange...the things that bring up those levels are the following: Lots of long hugs, singing, listening to the kind of music that makes your heart feel light like a balloon about to float out of your chest, dancing and other movement, running, skipping, lots of laughter so a good comedy, anything that you find funny, indulge in it. Meditating is supposed to help too but thats harder for me when I am stressed. Journaling is recommended also but the others I mentioned work for me and all my daughters. It's hard to see an affect at first but eventually it will begin to have its affect. Now, if I feel stressed about something...I will put one of my mood lifting songs on repeat and listen a couple times and I already feel better. ONe that works for me is Clocks by Coldplay..its not words but the melody that helps. I never get depressed ever anymore. Its because I take care of stress that moment I feel it. If your family feels helpless, have them give you sincere hugs, it goes a long way towards helping. Ask your besties to help and give hugs too. Or you make the first move, give someone a hug cus you cant give one without getting one in return. >There may be natural herbal preparations that help. Check out your local health food place and ask the people there what they have that helps the moods when depressed. Its worth a try too. but what i listed does help. If after some times theres no improvement, you may definitely need medication. But not all people need it. Only one daughter needed it with depression after giving birth. Good luck dear
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