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ive had my period for three years now, and still it doesnt go in an order. i start like every 4 month or three, and when it comes, it comes! it hurts so bad that it makes me throwup because im crying so hard, and my mom just tells me im being dramatic but im not! whats wrong and how come it wont come like normal?

It's normal for a girl's period to be irregular for quite a few years. Yes, there will be pain, but yours sounds a little extreme. Ask your mom about going to the gynocologist to get this sorted out.

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my best friend is lissa. her mom and my mom are good friends too. well, lately i've been making some new friends. i sort of had to, because i made cheerleading and i want to get to know the other girls, who i didnt really know before. but i still hang out with lissa all the time, so its not like i've dumped her for my new friends or anything. anyways, whenever i do something with my new friends, the next day lissa's mom calls my mom and tells her all this bad stuff about my new friends. like that she heard they're really mean, or that they did something bad, or that they're really stuck up, etc. well, i think some of it could be kind of true, but some of it is just stupid gossip. she's always been a big gossiper. but i'm wondering why lissa's mom is doing this. do you think it's because she's really worried about me hanging out with people she thinks are bad? or is it cuz she's afraid i'll make new friends and leave lissa behind? (i wont do that tho).

Chances ara she's afarid you're going to leave Lissa behind. Though you know you won't, she doesn't know that. Make a real effort to hang out with Lissa to show her mom that you aren't going to leave her behind. Nevertheless, remember her mother cannot control your life. If you like your new friends don't stop being friends with them.

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There's a song that rarely comes on the radio, I'm guessing it's like years old. It goes like this:
"As we go on, we remember, all the times that, we had together."
And it would be a great song to play at a graduation, I'm pretty sure they do.
Tried google, didn't come up with anything.
---Many thanks.

"Graduation" by Vitamin C.

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okay i just turned 13 and i fingure myself 3 or 5 times a day it dosnt affect my social life but friends also havnt got their peroids and i have im just wondering like am i weird or different. like i cant come up with the word but i want to know if im to young?



p.s. thank you ans sorry its sorda long..=)

No, you're fine. Plenty of girls do it. Your friends may too. As long as it doesn't affect your social life than you're fine.

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I'm leaving for the beach Friday, and will arrive and the beach Saturday evening. I'm excited, but there's a downer- I just started my period. Normally they last about five days, so I'd only be on it until Sunday, which isn't too bad. (But I haven't ever used tampons.) Are there anything I can do to make my period end quicker, preferably before or on Saturday? I've tried Google, but nothing really helped.

There's no way to make it go quicker. There are ways to delay it, such as excersising a lot, but since you're already on it, it's too late.

However, tampons really aren't that bad. There's a first time for everything, so I suggest you try one. There are directions on the box about how to put it in, and if you have any questions ask your mom or a female who you trust. Change them every 4-6 hours so you won't get TSS.

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hi, i have just turned 14 and my period hasnt arrived yet i used to masturbate with pens and dirty objects will this affect it and my friends all have started theirs and talk about when it is and how they have to wear this many pads and stuff i don't want anyone to know my period hasnt started im really scared and upset please help me thank you so much. Will i ever start it?
xxx

Yes, your period will start.

Masturbation, with or without diry objects, will not affect when your period comes. The time a girl starts getting her period varies from girl to girl. Some start as early as 9 and some as late as 16. And you don't have to tell your friends you haven't gotten it. Though honestly, they'll be jealous. Period are not fun.

On a side note, I do not recommend masturbating with pens. It doesn't sound safe.

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i did an answer.. ive been bi sexual now for like 9 months .. i dated a girl for 7 months and now im with a new one.. but is this just a phase or not.. hoe do i know.. does anyone know.. can anyone help.. please.. thanks!!!

It could be. When people are going through puberty sometimes they are prompted to experiment with the same gender. Give it a few years and then you'll know if you are a bisexual or if you'll grow out of it.

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I have a friend and we used 2 go out. He now has a new gf but keeps asking me to go to te movies with him. Would it b wrong to go 2 the movies with him? would it b better 2 ask his gf first?

Yes, it would be fine to go to the movies with him. You're just friends. As long as you don't do anything, it's fine.

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13/f
people are always saying that at our age, we can't really be in love, or that we're too young to know what love is. like when a couple starts going out, and they put "i love matt" and "i love alyssa" on their myspace, a lot of people say its stupid. ok maybe its not like "true love", the kind where you marry someone... but if you really, really like someone a lot, isnt that sort of a type of love? and what if youve been with someone for a really long time, even though youre only 13? me and my bf have been together for almost 2 years and i think what we have is a lot more than just "liking each other a lot." we've been through a lot together, and we've had problems, but we've always worked them out. we're like best friends and cant stand to be apart. if thats not love, then what is? and if its not, then how old do you have to be to really be in love?

Love doesn't come at a certain age.
The reason why people always say "you're too young to be in love!" is because most relationships at your age consist of holding hands while walking around in the hallway. That's not love. Furthermore, a lot of people your age are a bit too immature to be in love.
Basically, if you aren't immature, you're the only one who can know when you're in love. When you feel it, you'll know it.

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ok this guy thats not really my bf but kind of is lol found out that this weekend is my bday. and usually i wouldnt care but i know he likes me and so he says hes going to get me something. i usually dont tell guys about my bday cause then theres the whole akward thankyou thing and were not even going out so like what do i say?
i know he'll get me something cause hes just like that but i have such horrible people skills and i like getting presents but uuhhgg. anyone know where im voming from? help kthanks!

Thanks.
That's all you really need to say. Be greatful that he thought of you on your birthday.

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a few questions

who all is playing?
are they good?
and is the concert good/worth the money?
and how much are tickets?


even if you can only answer one, it will be appreciated (:

thanks

Warped is worth the money.
Ticketmaster says that the tickets are $28. They usually are around there.
you can find a list of bands playing at www.warpedtour.com
And the majority of the bands are really good.

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I'm a guy, 16, and just need some advice on how exactly to flirt with girls. Like how do I flirt with this girl i like, without sounding annoying doing it and having her like it too? Thanks.

First off, don't try being sexual to begin with. Being pushy about sex is a major turn-off.

Compliments. Who doesn't love compliments? Make sure they're sincere. And don't overdo it or it'll seem like you're faking it. Nevertheless, one or two really thought out ones like "Your eyes look beautiful in this light" or "You have the most amazing smile I've ever been lucky enough to see" will do the trick.

Make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but let her know you care about what she's talking about. Look at her, nervously look away, then look back. That sends the message. Both genders use this technique.

Play with her hair a little bit. Yeah, it sounds lame, but it works. It'll make her smile.

The most helpful tips I can give you are be yourself and don't be so nervous. Girls are regular people just like you. Furthermore, genuine people are the best so never try to be something you're not.

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what is w.e? saw it on a question.

Stands for whatever. I don't advise using it on this site because it is chatspeak. None of the moderators really apperciate chatspeak.

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What the heck is "Vans Warped Tour"
Who will be performing?

Thanks.

Vans Warped Tour is something that was created to show us there really is a God. A bunch of bands come together and go on a tour every summer, sponsered by Vans shoes.

http://warpedtour.com/warpedtour/index.asp
Look here for more info.

http://warpedtour.com/warpedtour/bands.asp
Info about the bands playing.

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i have no love life and i like this guy...but i dont know who to get him to notice me! even if he doesnt notice me...i wish SOMEONE would!

Darling, you forgot to ask a question. That's like forgetting to wear pants.

Anyway, I'm going to assume you want a way for guys to notice you.

Confidence. Walk with your head held high. Now, I'm not saying be cocky and full of yourself. But if a guy sees that you are proud of who you are, he will take notice.

Other than that, go up to him and talk to him. He won't notice you if you never say anything. Strike up a conversation. And be yourself =]. Everyone likes genuine people.

http://www.flirtzone.com/tips.htm
Look here for some tips for flirting.

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When did you make your acount??

November 20, 2004. I stopped for about a year, but now I'm back again.

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if you played spin the bottle at a party while your bf/gf was somewhere else and you kissed/made out with someone of the opposite gender in the game, would it be considered cheating on your bf/gf?

Yes. It doesn't matter that it was during spin the bottle. No one can make you kiss someone else. You need to tell him or her. Yes, they'll be angry, but if they find out from someone else it will be even worse.

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would it be bad for me to try ecstasy just once to see what it felt like? how about pot?

Yes. You can get addicted after just one time. You think "Oh that won't happen to me!" But that's what half the people in rehab thought too.

They cause brain damage. You are 4x as likely to have a heart attack in a 4-12 hour period after doing drugs.

http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/heal/a/aa990818_2.htm
http://www.brainsource.com/brain_on_drugs.htm
http://www.drugsline.org/site/pages/outreach_effects.php
Look at these sites from more reasons to not do drugs. Do not become another teen statistic.

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Latley I've been so obsessed with - and depressed because of - looks. And I finally figured out my reason for feeling so bad. A guy. Pathetic, yes I know. I want this guy to be so proud of me that he wants to walk around the mall with me under his arm so he can show me off and people can envy him. I want to be his main pride. I want him to feel so lucky I'm his. So I've been killing myself dieting and searching for the perfect look. Now I have 2 questions..

1) How do I prevent this from happening EVERYTIME i like someone? I would like to be able to have a crush without hating myself..you know?

2) What makes a guy proud to show you off? Is it all about the nice ass and skinny body? Or is it looong curly beautiful hair that gets other guys attention?

I know he thinks I'm pretty (atleats I think so, otherwise he wouldnt even bother talking to me right?) so its just a matter of making him feel like he's got something others want - ME!!!

How do I do this?

Don't change yourself for a guy. You are beatiful just the way you are. We all look different because conformity is so boring.

I give this piece of advice to so many people and I'm going to give it to you: sit in front of a mirror with a piece of paper and a pen. Write down everything you like about yourself, mentally and physically. Everyday or just when you need a boost read over this piece of paper. You will learn to love the skin you're in.

Most guys I know just like to show off their girlfriends because she's there's. And what attracts them to these girls is personality. Yes, there are some guys who are shallow and focus on looks, but the majority of people are not like this.

Just be yourself and don't try to change. If this guy likes you, he probably doesn't want to change. Be who you are.

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what happened to all the cool movies? now there are just lame ones to watch

As russianspy said, copyright issues are the most likely reason. This makes me quite sad, I used to watch Borat on it all the time =[.

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