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want to be shown off
Latley I've been so obsessed with - and depressed because of - looks. And I finally figured out my reason for feeling so bad. A guy. Pathetic, yes I know. I want this guy to be so proud of me that he wants to walk around the mall with me under his arm so he can show me off and people can envy him. I want to be his main pride. I want him to feel so lucky I'm his. So I've been killing myself dieting and searching for the perfect look. Now I have 2 questions..
1) How do I prevent this from happening EVERYTIME i like someone? I would like to be able to have a crush without hating myself..you know?
2) What makes a guy proud to show you off? Is it all about the nice ass and skinny body? Or is it looong curly beautiful hair that gets other guys attention?
I know he thinks I'm pretty (atleats I think so, otherwise he wouldnt even bother talking to me right?) so its just a matter of making him feel like he's got something others want - ME!!!
How do I do this?
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Babe, what you need is more SELF-CONFIDENCE. Or self-esteem. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and point out the things that you like about yourself. And don't say there's NOTHING, because there's always something. We're all unique and have flaws, that's what we have to accept. Sure, there are some shallow guys out there who want to show off their "FIIIINE" girlfriend. But those are the bastards you wanna avoid, period. If your guy is into you for YOU.. then he already knows he's lucky to have you, wether he admits it to you or not. You have to overcome being uncomfortable and wanting to find the "perfect look." Because facts say, THERE IS NO PERFECT. There will never BE "perfect." But there is YOUR perfect. Perfection in YOUR eyes. You have to have the courage to look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I am perfect in my eyes."
And when you're with boyfriend or crush, confidence is key. Anyone who's outspoken and isn't afraid to talk, without overdoing it and being a chatterbox of course, can make a person much more attractive. Of course, there's nothing wrong with shy girls as well, lol. Just don't be afraid to be YOURSELF. Around anyone. Not just your crush.
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your problem could be that you put your hopes up WAY too high when you like a guy,if he as much as talks to you or compliments,you take it the other way as in*omg he likes me* compliments and him talkin to you dont always means he likes you.Stop daydreamin tooooo far and too much,im not sayin dont,im sayin dont let it get far to the point where its all you think about,make sure he likes you first if you want to daydream 24/7.You want him to brag about you,but you cant make him,he has to like you man,you gotta find that out first.Its great that your dieting and trying to lose weight to get his attention BUT your also doing this for YOURself not just for him,so if things dont work out between you two,dont stop dieting!!well that answeres your first qquestion of how to have a crush without becoming obsessed,lay down on the daydreams and love songs.Question 2,if he brags about you he should brag about how he loves you or how you have a bright personality THAT is you know he has pride in you,if he brags about you as in *damn my chicks got a hot ass* and stuff bout your body then he could possibley think your a slut so dont expose too much skin.Every guy has his own personal opinion in what kinda girl they think looks nice,but all guys have the same opinion in what sluts look like so take care.
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-- You can't go out with a guy until you feel comfortable in your own skin.
Honestly, I like girls that are a little thick. I don't date girls or anything, but I can still think they're attractive, right? Haha. Okay, so I like the girls that have a little on them, I don't like the skinny look-like-they're-anorexic-but-aren't girls. That just grosses me out. If you want to make other guys jealous of your guy, you have to act amazing, looks are just a plus. Seriously, once a guy gets to know you, he really won't care how you look, if he's into your personality... And if he is, then screw him, you don't need that. He's obviously shallow and doesn't care. Okay, a shallow guy liking you sounds good until you start liking them, and thinking that they just might like you for your personality... Anyways, once this guy gets to know you and sees that you're a little insecure about this, he might not want to deal with it... That's just how guys are. When people say that confidence is the sexiest thing about a woman, they're not kidding. And, by the way, there's a fine line between confidence and cockiness. ;] Hahaa. I hope my rambling was of some help.
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this happens to me too.
its ok its NORMAL. i freak out and then i have to tell myself to CALM DOWN.
just focus on the good things and work on the not so good things to make them great.
for example i thought my legs were fat and then i would run a mile and to me they would look 100% percent better after like 6 minutes of running.
lol. chances are you dont even have a problem with your looks. if he thinks that your good enought then you are. and people in the mall you see walking alone will automatically be jealous because you have someone and they dont. so there! ha.
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Don't change yourself for a guy. You are beatiful just the way you are. We all look different because conformity is so boring.
I give this piece of advice to so many people and I'm going to give it to you: sit in front of a mirror with a piece of paper and a pen. Write down everything you like about yourself, mentally and physically. Everyday or just when you need a boost read over this piece of paper. You will learn to love the skin you're in.
Most guys I know just like to show off their girlfriends because she's there's. And what attracts them to these girls is personality. Yes, there are some guys who are shallow and focus on looks, but the majority of people are not like this.
Just be yourself and don't try to change. If this guy likes you, he probably doesn't want to change. Be who you are.
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