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gossipy mom
my best friend is lissa. her mom and my mom are good friends too. well, lately i've been making some new friends. i sort of had to, because i made cheerleading and i want to get to know the other girls, who i didnt really know before. but i still hang out with lissa all the time, so its not like i've dumped her for my new friends or anything. anyways, whenever i do something with my new friends, the next day lissa's mom calls my mom and tells her all this bad stuff about my new friends. like that she heard they're really mean, or that they did something bad, or that they're really stuck up, etc. well, i think some of it could be kind of true, but some of it is just stupid gossip. she's always been a big gossiper. but i'm wondering why lissa's mom is doing this. do you think it's because she's really worried about me hanging out with people she thinks are bad? or is it cuz she's afraid i'll make new friends and leave lissa behind? (i wont do that tho).
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It's probably that she think's that you'll leave Lissa behind. Are you leaving her out of your new activites? Maybe Lissa feels that way, even if you aren't, and is telling her mother. Her mom probably wants to help her out, and is afraid of her daughter being hurt. Just talk to Lissa and ask her if it bothers her that you have new friends. Say that she'll always be your best friend and you'll never leave her behind, but it's alright if you both hang out with other people besides eachother. Tell her that your new friends really aren't all that bad and they're actually good people. Maybe if she feels a little bit better, she'll talk to her mom and her mom will hopefully stop. Also, tell your mom what you said, that it's all stupid gossip. Your new friends really aren't bad people.
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Chances ara she's afarid you're going to leave Lissa behind. Though you know you won't, she doesn't know that. Make a real effort to hang out with Lissa to show her mom that you aren't going to leave her behind. Nevertheless, remember her mother cannot control your life. If you like your new friends don't stop being friends with them.
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i think that lissa's mom is concerned that you will forget about lissa because of your new friends. she cant control who you are friends with, so she is taking every bit of gossip she can find about your new friends and passing it on, hoping that your mother will prevent you from being friends with them. tell your mother what you think, and let her know what you think is going on. dont give up your new friends, but make sure you dont leave your old one behind. good luck!
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